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the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…
I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…
Some Pointers after 12 Years of Meditation — Meditation is an invisible skill, which makes it especially prone to confusion and obfuscation. I wanted to jot down some pointers and opinions about meditation that have served me at one point or an…
THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…
Why can't I astral project anymore? — I'm a 30-year-old woman, and I first astral projected when I was 17....I used to have lucid dreams naturally since childhood, but I didn't know anything about astral projection at the time. When I was…
My wife finally admitted an affair that happened 9 years ago — This is my first post on Reddit. My spouse and I are both 44, and have been married since 2014. We met and started dating when we were 26. In late 2016, her cousin, who was her best friend, was killed…
I am ruining my life and I feel like i cant stop it — Hello everyone and let me say thank you for taking the time to read and/or respond. Our time is valuable and I want you to know thst I genuinely appreciate you giving your time to a stranger... This …
"Men Can't Be Men Anymore" — A week ago, I [posted about the Louis Theroux documentary on the “Manosphere,”](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/1rtveyg/the_manosphere/) noting my surprise at the scale of the phenomenon, u…
How does one contend with their guilt and regret of past mistakes? — I am 17. Back when I was 15 I had some morbid curiosity and regretted it deeply. I’ve had lots of moments where I just can’t help but want to cry over what I did and what I saw that shook me. I am …
I’m a 3 x National Champion in my sport and struggling — Hi, Not quite sure where to post so I thought here would be best. Happy to post in any other places if I have the wrong place and open to recommendations :) I’m my country’s current National champ…
The best things I did to stop me ruminating and wishing my ex would come back (After wishing she would for more than a year) — Hello Everyone At the beginning of 2025 I went through the type of breakup I would not wish on my worst enemy, I wont bore you with the details but I struggled with this for over a year. Here are …
The real reason you want your ex back. — This is going to be short and brutal. Your ex broke up with you; this hurts. It came out of left field. You are using no contact to get them back? Don't. You need to use no contact to focus on yours…
Should i Be that hurt??? — I just needed somewhere to vent, not even sure who’s gonna see this or respond, or even look at this whole thing tbh lol I’m 24M, she’s 23F. We met on a dating app Jan 15, 2026, made it official Feb…
I broke up with my ex, but now I’m the one stuck and hurting — I have been with my ex for 7 years we were high-school sweet heart we started dating in 2017. we graduated high-school together nad college. we did everything together had got our first apartment. in…
Is This Coercion? — TW. I \[23F\] have been with my “husband” or BD \[26M\] since I was freshly 17. He was about a month away from being 21 at the time. Whenever I don’t feel like having sex, for however long that may…
WTF happened — Hello Reddit, I think I just need to get this off my chest. Because I don't get it. Today I shook my head while walking home, because I realised that I never actually took a chance in my life and I …
I think I just “received” something about Chris Bledsoe’s prediction, but I don’t have enough knowledge to better develop my reasoning about what I received. Is there any astrologer, chemist and alchemist here in this group? The question is something about regulus, halogen, tennessine and antimony. — This also seems to have to do with Archangel Michael. If you are a astrologer, chemist and alchemist, could you please tell us if you can visualize any possible physics or metaphysics connection betw…
“Kid Food” — My parents never prioritized the wellbeing of my little sister and myself over their desires, even when it came to nutrition. I was thinking today about how, when we were little, my household had des…
My mom reported my partner who is a medical professional of sexual misconduct — Trauma dump incoming lol. Trigger warning for sexual assault. My mom reported my partner who is a medical professional of sexual misconduct claiming I was her patient. Now that I have had some space…
The fact that someone as terrible and disgusting as me has been allowed to live this long is the world's worst joke. — **(This is a repost of a post I made a while ago, which I am reposting because I'm back in a slump again. There aren't any major changes other than the ending bit.)** 20M. This might be the longest p…
Lessons from a relationship with a narcissist — I posted this a year ago but deleted after my narc ex found this post. Posting again because this helped me find a better partner for myself, and can help others as well. 1. When a man says they don…
I have tried almost everything — PSA- I’m not good at reddit so please tell me if i did this wrong I am 21, and I have had major depression and chronic suicidal thoughts and ideations since i was ten years old. I have made several a…
Parents recorded Csam of me - don't know what to do — I'm not sure if this is too graphic but I feel that I need some validation because I keep questioning my reality and if it was really abuse. When I was 10, I was watching home videos with my parents …
trying to figure life out , pretty much confused — F17. Lately, I’ve run away from home for a few days , came back covered in bruises due to violent sex that didn't stop for two days , which led to several arguments with my family—especially with my d…
They’re aware of what they’re doing, but why? — A few months into my awakening of the neglect and I KNOW it’s my childhood self seeking answers as to why they’re like this. For the most part- they’re aware. A conscious grown adult who goes against…
NParent using other parent's absence for sympathy — The last time we saw our father was 10 years ago back in 2016. He's still alive, but he's working far away from us. Between my father and mother, my mother is the narcissistic one, and my father is th…
I (28m) want to leave my pregnant girlfriend (27f) after she gives birth — Hey all. I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years, she was a single mom with a 2 year old at the time. Things were good up until we moved in 9 months ago. She is now 6 months pregnant. When we move…
My Husband’s Cheating – — I just need to get this off my chest and maybe hear from people who’ve been through something similar. I’ve been married since 2017. We have 4 daughters together. In May 2023, out of curiosity m…
I’m 26M and I’ve been in a relationship with my fiancée (24F) since we were teenagers, and I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. — We met in high school when we were 16–17. At first we were just really close friends, even while we were in separate relationships. Around 18, we started liking each other and eventually got together.…
How do I break the loop? — Hi all, I know this isn't the place for actual medical help but I've been on the waiting list for support for 15 months and I'm at the end of my tether. background: U.K. based Male in my late 20's. I…
Thought it might help but it didn't — ima keep this short but after being ghosted for a month then dumped hard i decided to try dating again, and i regretted it. I met someone through a dating app and we instantly started talking & gaming…
I am a genuine disgusting, horrible piece of shit, and I don't know what to do about it. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD (I'm not officially diagnosed) and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years…
It's been 3 months and I'm still struggling, her name is a trigger, the little profile pic on her WhatsApp is a trigger, Music, TV series movies, we used to interact with is still a trigger. — She left me going on 3 months now. Which is okay, completely stand my that, you wanna be done? Be done. What my issue is, it took her literal hours to move on. Joined tinder and hinge, told me she k…
Are my manifestations aligning or and I being wishful/ or hopeful? — It’s me again lol!! Okay so I’ve been manifesting and focusing on my self growth and spirituality a lot. After my ex and I broke up I’ve been focusing on is getting back together because I know I ma…
What NOT to do after a breakup — 1. Do not contact your ex for closure. 2. Do not look at your ex's photos, texts or love notes. 3. Do not keep painful reminders around you. 4. Do not idolize the relationship. 5. Do not have …
Tired of my parents — Why the actual fuck was I out of every fucking person in the planet given a shitty ass family who makes me feel dumb for just asking a simple question. I’m genuinely just about to go grey rock on my p…
17, uncertain, confused, and feeling lonely — I'll start with this, i dont even know what my life will look like in a year from now. im about to graduate high school, and I have nothing planned. for my dream career, I'm waiting on a medical exam …
TW: CSA | I don't know if I was molested or not. — I experienced a lot of trauma as a child. From witnessing extreme physical and emotional abuse to experiencing emotional abuse, as well as getting groomed online from the ages of 12-17. Due to this, I…
I make my life worst — Im 17. I am dumb, no early childhood achievements, no achievements at all that are important, probably not any at all. Im a complete idiot, I can’t reason, analyze, follow instructions, common sense a…
A trip to get my eyes tested — A number of my teachers had suggested to my mother that I needed my eyes tested and probably needed glasses. So she takes me to an optometrist and I’m super excited, because while I do enjoy reading …
How can I handle the fact that I was a pervert online when I was younger? — Ever since I was 12 or 13, I've always had this problem with my sexuality and how I approached others. First with Telegram, then Discord, and (especially) Facebook, I began harassing various people, i…
I'm 17. What life advice would you give me? — I've realized my social life centers around gaming and motorsports because those are my main interests. Since I have a lot of time before college, I want to develop skills and habits. Your suggestions…
aio for moving across the country to break up with my gf — i was 24 years old at the time & her first WLW relationship (1.5 years). she had a drug addiction, and i had an alcohol reliance after my little sister died in my arms one night in 2017. She and i wou…
Torn about possible divorce after wife cheated on me. I'm petrified of hurting my boys. — Ok so my wife (f 46) and I (m 45) have been married for 10 years, together for 17. We had a happy marriage but over time we ran into some major obstacles. I began bringing stress from work home, letti…
I needed my emotionally immature mom for once and it went exactly how I thought it would — God forbid my (29f) mom ever does something for someone else. Everything needs to be about her as if she is a child. Last week, two things happened and I just need to vent. 1. My cat of 6,5 years was…
She Found Me. — Haven't spoken to my BPD mom in several years for many, many reasons. Too many to list here. We have a very dicey, abusive history that culminated in her throwing keys at me telling me she hated me a…
I (f28) had a panic attack that unlocked a lot of traumatic memories. — had a panic attack today that triggered a spiral I wasn't expecting. While I was getting ready for bed, these memories just started coming back things I haven’t been able to fully face. I remembered …
Dad ruined my college graduation. — This happened a while ago, but it recently resurfaced in my head and I wanted to get it out. I graduated college in 2017. It had been a tough road that went longer than I had hoped but I finally mad…
I’ve been alone my whole life — for as long as I can remember, I’ve always been so lonely in every way. Since I was a little kid. I’ve only had a few friends my whole life and I always felt like I had to thank them for “taking one f…
Is there a cause for varying dissociation day to day? — I’m wondering if there might be a reason why some days I’m more dissociative than others. could it be triggers? I honestly wouldn’t even know. I’ve struggled w dissociation since I was 15 but it becom…
Posting this list from a previous Logan Ury newsletter for ‘third object’ date ideas - ones where there’s another focus other than just the two of you: Get moving together 1. Go roller skating or ic…
Ah yeah, that makes sense! Being 17 is tough. I also went to college when I was 17. I didnt move out until I was 19 and couldn't take it anymore. Your hunch is probably right, if you feel like your m…
I have no idea about the readability of quality of translation of it, but the Penguin edition is only a selection and not the complete letters. If you want the full set (and you **should** get the fu…
Have you tried Perseus Academy "Zero Point: OBE For Those Who Can't" class? I've been adept at mental wandering for a long time but never got anywhere close to OBE until I started taking depth point …
I think 21 is your best pic. I'd do 21, then 6, 7, 10, 17.
First of all, you are only 17. Is this your first love? If yes, we tend to give more to our first love because we usually love unconditionally without reservation, without protecting our hearts, witho…
I’d say it’s emotional/neglect. What led to the CPS call is they have a work friend who’s in their 40s-50s who has a young Asian girlfriend in her early 20s. He was very touchy with me, and made inapp…
Thank you so very much for your kind words & wonderful wishes. Each passing month will be exponentially better. Like you, I had more intense waves of grief, anxiety & pain at month 14. They’ve les…
Love is all that matters at 17. By 30 and beyond there is so much more.
You've been dating since *you* were 17. 17!! I sincerely hope you have grown and changed in those 3 years, and maybe he has, too. But cut yourself some slack. People grow and change. No reason to stay…
My mom purposefully sabotaged me so I’d have to stay in her house and be a typical failure to launch adult (it didn’t work. I moved out at 17.) yet has expressly stated her retirement plan was to live…
I left 3 in my life. 1. I was maybe 17-18 years old, after a year and a half together I realized I didnt see my future with him and he was my first boyfriend so I didnt want to continue. My first bre…
Yep my nMom used to go feral, animalistic with whatever was in her hands at the moment. I have been attacked by heavy steel like rodd, cycle chain licks, shoes, thrown glassware at my head. Stripping …
Not native speaker here, so I might write little awkward. You're not doing anything wrong. That's first thing to understand. You're not failing at technique. Something else is blocking you, and it'…
>She swears that nothing like this ever happened before or after. Too bad that means absolutely nothing coming from her u/EK21917. It's also a shame that you call those 8 years of "good period", goo…
Your parents want you to be scared. I never said anything to anyone and my mom didn’t lose me until I was 17. I should have said anything but she scared me and I didn’t know I was being abused. It too…
Absolutely yes. My husband helped me realize a lot of things. He also was the only person that stood up to my ndad abuser. I dont think I was able to start healing until he (ndad) died in 2017. I no l…
We were married for 25 years. Our divorce was final in August 2016 and he was remarried by July 2017. Hey, the albatross is around her neck now. Have fun and enjoy your freedom.
so my story starts when i was 17. i went to a club alone, no friends, no знакомые. i’m pretty social so i quickly met some girls and we were hanging out together. after a while i left them and was ju…
I was yesterday at a convention with my niche fandom cosplay group again. The interesting bit that I want to talk about is how... even though it appears silly at my age, I guess I've come to realize m…
A quote was found to be attributed to Epictetus in Discourses 1.17 (Hard) ^(1.17. That logic is indispensable ()[^(Hard)](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Special:BookSources?isbn=978-0199595181)^) ^(…
My parents divorced when I was 17. I found out at 27 that my mom was his second wife. First one was in college and according to him ‘became an alcoholic immediately after marriage’ I’m not blaming …
For me this is a deal breaker. This is well beyond the age of accountability, maybe buy this if you are 16 or 17... MAYBE. The fact she was so casual about it but also hypocritical in the fact she wou…
August 2017. Correct, things are better since 2020-21
My kids are 30, 28 & now 17. My 2nd wife passed when the youngest was 13 … he was fairly independent … more than a 7 y/o. So, not the same … but just don’t give up. I was on the verge of not meetin…
I was in your shoes once. I ended up leaving home at 17. It permanently altered my trajectory in life. In the end, I came out ok but I really recommend having a strong path of education and financial …
I just realized. It’s not that you were freshly 18. You were still 17. A lot of states that is definitely still statutory r*pe.
I think 25- when I first moved back to my hometown after being far away since 17. I think seeing a lot of people with similar experiences as me through social media and also when I lived 10 minutes fr…
Yes. I was the eldest of five, and relied upon as babysitter, teacher, housekeeper, among other jobs from age 8 -17. My parents were preoccupied with their own problems and I was not allowed to have p…
To be fair, mine told me in their own way... It was always about keeping things quiet, so as much as I wanted to say something at school (or even if a Childline advert came on the TV) it would be mad…
My husband slept with my friend for 8 years so.....I had already cut her off before it came out though, because of how she was around my husband. It made me uncomfortable. After my husband told me…
I had reason to leave at 10 years, stayed for 17. My regret was not leaving sooner. It is incredibly disheartening and self-destructive to try to be with someone who doesn’t choose you back. It took 3…
A whole secret life while she was at work probably fucking her coworker for 20 years 25 years stashing away thousands of dollars literally hundreds of thousands of dollars to go by an $800,000 house i…
Im constantly told about how terrible of a child I was. I had undiagnosed ASD and would run and strip my clothes at 3/4 years old. No one has forgotten anything I did from prior to 5 years old. It is …
Just for completeness, here is a correspondence table of Lebell's section headers to parts of the Enchridion: 1. Know what you can control and what you can't (Ench 1) 2. Stick with your own business …
When I was 16 I found out a relative who died when I was 5, had left me $5,000 that I was to receive when I turned 17. My parents never told me this, despite them being the trustee. So when I turned…
Oh man! That’s the very reason I went NC with my mom. Let me set the stage: I’m a toddler and mom would dress me in clothes that had my tummy poking out. Mom would laugh at that picture of me all my …
Hahahaha!! I met my husband when I was 17. Now, 40 years & 3 kids later, that 17 yo is but a distant memory. However, he doesn’t care one bit. He loves me & finds me beautiful even though I now have a…
My parents did not do drugs. But they also did not invest anything into my adulthood and I am struggling and getting nowhere because of them. They even ruined my health on top of that. They paid for …
Older AM here with a throwaway. Want to share some pearls that helped me and others around me in life. Saw lots of failures as a younger person. I learned and used the below lessons to see success. I …
Hey man, first: you do not sound “wrong” or broken to me. You sound overwhelmed. A lot of people hit this wall when they first get deep into philosophy or religion. At first it feels like awakening, …
I’m really sorry you’re carrying this. What you wrote does not sound like laziness or weakness at all — it sounds like you’ve been overwhelmed for a while, and now your body and mind are both waving a…
For me it's that I would have no support if I end up being a single mother. My mother was a single mother and died of cancer when I was 17. Dad was already out of the picture - my mom escaped his abus…
She is saying that to create triangulation. She cant stand the fact you both have a great relationship. She is hoping you both stop talking to avoid her saying the same thing. Let me tell you this. M…
POI is basically early menopause and I went thru it at age 17.
I’m 38, and I was raised by boomers. I lost my door for all types of things that were not actually problems. I havent spoken to my mother since 2017. I hope your coworker knows the future she’s creati…
Well personally, Ive experienced constant stress since around 12 years old. I'm now 17. So basically my whole puberty. I believe the stress has caused me to become abnormally tall, around +5 inches t…
I tried to send you a dm but don't see the option on your profile. Could you explain exactly why you are mentioning element 117? I recently had an out-of-body experience having to do with receiving kn…
I relate to a lot of you, 42m, I don’t know if I’ve always been depressed because I don’t know anything else, drunk father, mom worked until she developed Chronic fatigue syndrome and that was after m…
Hello, thank you very much for your message. I’m glad to know that someone else is picking up things about these same things. I look forward to reading more about your report. I believe that the moder…