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the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…
Why do so many websites of major companies suck? — I just went on [sephora.fr](http://sephora.fr) for the first time in years (I don't really shop there anymore, or I go in person). The website not only looks like it was designed 15 years ago and has …
Everything we know about shifting is probably false — So much of our communities take the knowledge we spread to be fact, when in reality shifting isn’t a science. At all. This has been said before but I NEED you guys to actually read and internalize thi…
Meditation Has Gotten Harder — Ever since I read the research on meditation a few months ago I’ve really put an emphasis in practicing every day. I typically aim for 10 minutes but have gone up to 20. I use silence and try to foc…
Does it get better?? :( — I’m so tired. I’ve struggled with anxiety for years I’m almost 20. It’s gotten to a point where it has taking over my life. I got diagnosed during the pandemic and then I didn’t do anything about it, …
What can I do when my (20F) husband (20M) is convinced I cheated on him because I’m pregnant again and refuses to listen to me. — Me (20F) and my husband (20M) both just turned 20. We have a baby boy who just turned 1 in January. We had been dating in high school for 2 years and I found out I was pregnant in May of our senior ye…
THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…
Manifested all four things using a list method (With Proof) — I have shared about my February list manifestation here, too. This is for between March 10-20. The interview offer was the most insane one because I hadn't gotten to hear from them for two weeks, and …
The best things I did to stop me ruminating and wishing my ex would come back (After wishing she would for more than a year) — Hello Everyone At the beginning of 2025 I went through the type of breakup I would not wish on my worst enemy, I wont bore you with the details but I struggled with this for over a year. Here are …
Such bad venus MD despite good placement, why? — Why has venus MD been the worst since 2020. Everything has just been going wrong, I am into astrology since a few years, and despite my studies, i cannot truly put my finger on why good placements b…
Broke up with her, need to talk about it — Well, as the title says, she broke up with me two days ago. At first, I didn’t really feel anything, but ever since then it’s been a complete emotional rollercoaster. About a month ago, I was going t…
I just realized how simple shifting is — I just realized that I don’t need to learn how to shift because I already know how to do it. I am doing it right now. I’m just not shifting to the reality I want. So really all I have to do is align m…
Purgatoryyyyyy — I have no interest to interact or get back at all I’m finally 20/20. It’s just that I’m not ready to visually see him move on yet. I’m glad there’s no harassment so far but I get a little comfort at t…
I (21M) recently broke up with my gf of 3 years lets call her Mori. We have been fighting for over a year at this point and it reached a tipping point in where she cheated. Anyway fast forward 2 months I have been planning to message someone I have a history with. Let's call her Mela. — I (21M) recently broke up with my gf of 3 years lets call her Mori. We have been fighting for over a year at this point and it reached a tipping point in where she cheated. Anyway fast forward 2 month…
I dont know if this was AP — I had some AP in 2020. One of them was super clear. I was flying in my bedroom and I knew it, everything was dark. I felt that I was floating. But other times It has not being that clear. There was o…
I dont know if this was AP — I had some AP in 2020. One of them was super clear. I was flying in my bedroom and I knew it, everything was dark. I felt that I was floating. But other times It has not being that clear. There was o…
How to deal with conditional support no glue no borax — I’ve been really frustrated with my parents after my college decisions and I’m not sure how to handle it. For context, I applied to a mix of UCs, publics, and some private schools (no Ivies). I was r…
I can't stop thinking about what I did to deserve this. I've been cheated on so many times in my life. What's wrong with me??? — (I changed some details and names for privacy reasons,) My ex-fiancé and I were together for just over three and a half years. We got together in 2020 when I was 19 and he was 20. I’m 25 now, a trans…
My husband threw my childhood trauma in my face during an argument. Something feels broken and I don’t know what to do. — I don’t even know where to start. I’ve never posted here before. I just need to hear from people who’ve been through something like this. Some context first. I (F27) grew up with a narcissistic abusi…
Two year relationship down the drain. — M28 and my gf25 emotionally cheated on me. And I’m considering giving her another chance. I found her texts on her phone when she handed it to me at a concert to use the restroom. This was her normal…
How do my brother and I tell our mother that our dad is cheating — Please, someone answer urgently. I don't want to get too into the backstory of me suspecting he was cheating, because it'll be a lot of text. But I've had a feeling for years, based on him constantly…
How do I move past this? — I (33F) have had an on/off situationship with “Mark” (39M) since 2020. We met at the gym, became close friends, then segued into hooking up. We had an immediate connection and the chemistry between us…
My (M20) Dad (M59) says Heterosexual Relationships are only about Sex, is that really the case? — Was talking with my dad Earlier today, he was trying to explain me stuff abt Dating Life and stuff since I'm now 20... However, he mentioned something very bizarre and out of character for him. He st…
Therapist keeps minimizing my situation? (CBT) — I need outside perspective because I genuinely don’t know if I’m being too sensitive or if this is actually not great. Whenever I talk about how overwhelmed I’ve been the past few years, especially wi…
RetroPK — # RetroPK Now, depending on your mileage this may or not may constitute as an experience. In 2025 in order to test for whether I had retroPK or not I endeavored to use a true rng to see how many time…
dealing with FOMO and feeling like you’re behind — I graduated high school in 2025 and I’m currently at home taking online classes. Because university isn’t financially an option for my family right now, I’m still living with my parents while my old f…
Found something while cleaning, I am shocked scripting works!( proof) — I used to be overweight when I was 20. I was also in a bad mental state. There was this youtuber who made content on law of attraction and spoke about this method called scripting. so I bought a book …
Not sure if I 22F want to be with 22m, his lack of self control turns me off. — Not sure if I 22F want to be with 22M anymore. His lack of self control is a turn off. What should I do? This isn’t the first time. He goes to gamble with his friends for fun. Mind you he’s strugglin…
Does doing seasonal jobs help you move out? — I got into a big argument with my dad last week and that’s the point where I had enough. He wants to keep saying “My house, my rules. Me and your mom can do whatever we want in this house. You can…
Getting help at 18 — TW: mentions of abuse(physical, emotional), self harm sorry if I overshare but Ive recently gotten help at 18, ive recently turned 18 and I havent even gotten my highschool diploma yet but i graduat…
you guys were right. first loves don’t last — hi guys yes i used chat gpt to write this, only because i had told it all my problems and it was to hard to put into words how i felt so i asked it to just make a prompt using everything i told it. …
I (18M) was broken up with by my GF (20F) and first love. How do i grow from this? — you guys were right. first loves don’t last yes i used chat gpt to write this, only because i had told it all my problems and it was to hard to put into words how i felt so i asked it to just make a …
How do I walk away from someone who loves me but not in love with me — Some context ; met this girl when I was 17/M , she was 16/F. The moment I saw her I knew I would marry her. Most beautiful women I ever seen. Grated we were young but still. We dated for two years whi…
Learning how to heal — FYI, this gets long but I guess I'm needing to vent or get second opinions from people who are in a similar boat. My mum is a narcissist and for as long as I can remember she's been putting myself and…
This is no way to live for me... She insane and she makes no sense at all. — As I said in comments here, my mother can't be trusted with anything. She always says, "We'll find a way! I promise!" What lies... Like, "If that's what you really want, we'll find a way to make it w…
My mother died in front of me ten years ago now. I'm 26. I'm losing my fucking mind. — The actual anniversary of her death is in a few weeks and I'm burning inside. I hate this fucking month and the one my sister died in, and this one starts with April Fool's, hers starts with my birthd…
I need anyone to tell me I exist. — Please hear me out. I have no one. I'm 20. My only friend is my boyfriend and he's pulling away because I'm "too sad all the time." I live with my parents (absent dad, morbidly obese (it’s relevant l…
I’m losing hope. — please just hear me out for a second. i’m not asking for anything big. i just… don’t want to feel like i don’t exist anymore. i’m 20 and i have no one. my boyfriend is basically my only friend and ev…
Me (32f) Feeling abandoned and trapped after husband (32m) attempted suicide and friends said they didn't want to be involved. How to I deal with all this with no support system? — Context section: Me (32F) and Husband (33M). We have been married 7 years, together 10, been friends since we were 19 and 20. We have 2 babies, 3 and 1 years old. I am the breadwinner for our family, …
How Do You Learn To Enjoy Being Single? — Brief backstory to start with. Married at 19, first kid at 20. 26 years and three more kids later my ex decides this isn’t the life she wants. We spend a year separated and figuring things out, but…
36F Twice Divorced Now? — Really trying not to get down in the dumps. I married my high school sweetheart when I was 20. Divorced at 26. Married my 2nd husband at 28. Now divorcing at 36. With therapy, I've acknowledged I hav…
After going through different types of hell, the dust has settled, sorta... and all I can feel is emptiness and longing. — in March I got emitted to a psych ward for attempted suicide. it was the worst 7 days of my life... but before I got to the part of wanting to end it, I was unemploymented and facing the possibility…
What NOT to do after a breakup — 1. Do not contact your ex for closure. 2. Do not look at your ex's photos, texts or love notes. 3. Do not keep painful reminders around you. 4. Do not idolize the relationship. 5. Do not have …
Lost and scared-child of covert and overt narcissistic parents. — I'm feeling very lost and idk how I'll survive. I moved to the UK in Sept 2022. I was doing my masters and studying for a few exams to be able to work in my field. Unfortunately I kept failing in the …
I feel like a divorce is going to happen. — First ever post, bear with me. 39 male, 2 kids. Its hard to put into words and feels embarrassing to type this out. But, I feel like a divorce is coming my way. We've spoken openly about things, feel…
Old Trauma Resurface - I Need To Talk To Someone — I had a secret relationship with a much older trainer from my college soccer team when I was about 20. For several years, seeing him almost every day, we developed a close bond before anything ever ha…
Sleeping only 4 hours a day since 2022, pls help when this will end — Hi all, I have had bad bad sleep problems since starting around 2020. I couldn't sleep at all. in 2022, it got worse and has been the same. I can't sleep at all and need someone to stay with me andman…
I (23M) was unfaithful and crossed boundaries in my first relationship with my ex (23M) and later with another partner (21M). Am I a freak? — I’m 23 (M, gay) and I’ve been struggling with a lot of guilt over how I acted in my first relationship. I’d really appreciate honest advice, especially from people who’ve been through something simila…
Am I (24F) Self-Sabotaging Our Relationship If I Recently Brought Up I Was Hurt My Boyfriend (44M) Flew 6 Hours to See His Ex (31F) 5 Months Ago — I’m seeking nuanced opinions. Do judge me. This is my first relationship. I am Southeast Asian. He happens to be way older, nomad, and liberal American. Maybe we have different ideas of relationships.…
Been in a relationship with my boyfriend (M20) and me (F18). We've been in a relationship for 3 years and recently celebrate our anniversary. He did not gave me anything, though we spent time together and I was the one leading it. How am I going to tell it nicely? — Im 19 F and my bf is M 20. We celebrated our anniversary 2 weeks ago. I did have fun because we bonded snd cooked simple foods. But I somehow felt that I'm the one doing all the planning and he's just…
Just to correct this statistic this guy is throwing around - the divorce rate in the US is 42%. First peak in divorces are first 5 years.. then another at 15 - 20. So, no, a majority of people don’t…
thank you so much for sharing your story, im very sorry you went through this. I feel you, im on the same boat. Exactly as you described. do you know what is the most difficult part? i can hate him …
Thanks, I've done a bit of searching but feeling super overwhelmed by so much info. I'll have another look for what I'm looking for specifically. It was my mother, I was 20. And I'm male.
Somebody pulled this on me many moons ago when I was about 20. I forgot my ring on his counter after washing my hands. He kept playing games when I tried coordinating to pick it up. So… I just showe…
Posting this list from a previous Logan Ury newsletter for ‘third object’ date ideas - ones where there’s another focus other than just the two of you: Get moving together 1. Go roller skating or ic…
Your own personal insight about feeling like you may have “done too much” turned on a lightbulb for me; it seems like trying to reason with her about all the things she engaged in with me is futile. …
I used to have this problem a few years ago when i was super introverted and had chronic anxiety at 20. But I did a lot of cool exercises/games that built up a skill where I could talk to most beaut…
In my opinion, "It's their money" is one of the most 21st century things ever said. People nowadays are often just like that, "It's their house, their money, you got nothing, be grateful that the pers…
The way to let go of the guilt is to understand that he might have given it to you. There is no way to know for sure. You took blame for something unnecessarily, because it’s is *possible* he had it…
You sound like my ex. Did you ever try working things out with her? Did you take responsibility for the things you did that hurt her, and then work on those patterns of behavior that were problematic?…
OP, I could have written your post. You’re not alone. I feel as though I’m either having an identity crisis or want a divorce and I can’t tell the difference between the two. I’m 34 and my wife is …
I totally get it.. I think what went into those 2 years made it feel like 20. We spent every waking minute together. Traveled the country, did everything together. From that to literally nothing jus…
I'll share a bit of my story, take from it what you will. I have a degree in political science. In 2015 I was living in Washington DC, reading from a minimum of five news sources a day. I knew polit…
You can probably see the signs but hindsight is 20/20. After I analyze things I saw all kinds of signs. But I also take responsibility for being a complete asshole at times. Unmedicated ADHD and depre…
In a lost from 4 years ago you claim you're 19...then 4 months ago you claim you're 21....now you claim you're 20...this is a karma farming account or a bot or both. Nice try
So far, sure. I honestly can’t think of something that would blow my mind. And I’m not saying that it’s not ever inconvenient. I’m saying that any inconvenience is worth it to me. (I don’t really kno…
Think about how much work goes into your favorite musical artists studio album. Then they sell it for $20. Asking $600 for something that’s already been made and released is clear money grab.
Ok no one should be jealous of a great relationship between a mom and child. Run if you see that. My kids didn’t want a blended family after my divorce. I had many men tell me I would be alone forever…
I’m in my 50s. My mom mentioned something she wanted 3d printed (my latest hobby). I told her $20. We’ve been missing an income since October, I’m trying to make some bill money. She says oh no, that…
Can somebody explain this to me? On bumble, I right swiped a profile. It's a man I know I've seen over the years on the app, did we ever match? Idk. But I have a message from him. Saying an animal (…
I’ll give you a different perspective. Like you, I am also American born to Chinese immigrants. However, I am a 58 yo Gen Xer with kids 18 & 20. Growing up I was the only Asian in every class. Confor…
I am partially in your boyfriend’s shoes. I was married to my first and only girlfriend for 23 years. We separated in 2020. The divorce was in 2022. To this day she is the only one I’ve ever been with…
I can’t imagine 20. That must’ve been awful. After 10 I barely recognized myself.
Girl you are 20. 20!!! Too damn young to be dealing with this bullshit and bullying. Divorce him, move back with your parents, his parents aren’t on your side no matter how much you think they are. Go…
Yes! This is very important for all the reasons he explained in the post based on personal experience. And believe him because I'm one of the few people you probably know who won the lottery. And wh…
You guys are only 20. Dating in high school and never dating anyone else rarely results in a long term healthy marriage. It's not impossible but you guys are only still together at this moment because…
Personally, I think you're focusing on the wrong thing. She's allowed to change her mind about cosmetic procedures. I mean, it's all fine and dandy to say, "I'd never even consider it!" when you're …
This is me. I feel as though I’m either having an identity crisis or want a divorce and I can’t tell the difference between the two. I’m 34 and my wife is 35. Two kids aged 7 and 5. We are high schoo…
Yes. To begin with. Couple of differences though. 1. My state had some of the strictest lockdown policies in not only the country, but the world. I live in Melbourne, Australia, the Victorian capital…
Because focusing on national level issues is pretty silly. Focus on things you have control over. If you aren't even volunteering locally, it's safe to say worrying about national level issues is perf…
Second date can be early for amazing, if it was a date from OLD. It takes me more time than that to feel comfortable enough for it to be amazing. There is also some truth to the fact that we (or at l…
1. Arising rising. 2. Aquarius 29. 3. 10 and 11. 4. Pluto Scorpio 24 and Taurus sun 20. 5.
Don't tell him about the boundary, OP. This commenter had it right in the first paragraph. If he's doing this, he's an asshole. Be the woman that gives him a consequence and perhaps convinces him not…
It’s definitely a red flag. To give him the benefit of the doubt he is only 20. He is still a man-child. But that means he doesn’t need to be stuck this way. I would recommend having that honest con…
Yes, mine does. It’s been the most jarring experience and I have, for the better part of a week, been wishing someone sat me down and explained that she wasn’t normal. I lost so much time. My entire…
I don't care if he's only 20. This is shit behaviour.
Ive paused for 26 years. It should have been important enough year 5 when I had issues in our relationship, or year 10, 15, 20. Its only a priority now to "pause" because it impacts her. When i…
To be fair, mine had a 6 months affair. When questionned on DDAY, she said they had sex a "few" times. When I finally hacked into the messages she didn't even bother to erase, I counted at least 20.
Hey - this resonated with me. Is there a way that we could message privately/unanimously? I’m not sure you can do that through this platform. My H was pulling similar stuff between 2014-2016. I didn’t…
When someone shows you who they are, listen. Being 30 years old, this is more than just a flaw. This is how he lives his life and he’s showing you what the rest of y’all’s life together is going to be…
Buy a lock and key set. It takes literally 5 minutes to install and you'll get the peace you want for about $20. Just remember to keep a spare hidden outside of your room 'cos you'll definitely forget…
Sorry this is really long. The first part of your story I read sounds just like my childhood. I do not have experience with as much physical abuse that you have experienced, but my mom and dad were ad…
Cut the contact with her to 0. Ask yourself is that the person you want to be a mother to your kids and would she do it again (we all know the answer). In a week you will feel better. I tried to forgi…
My nmother was fighting cancer. I had the very very bad corona in 2020. I wanted to sneeze in a letter to send her the virus so she would die faster.
you have been dating him since you were 19/20. now he is 27 and finding a 19 yr old to fuck. he will be 40 leering at teenagers in the street soon. not only if he manipulative, he is a creep.
Oh it happens in real life. First love, first bf, first live-in bf etc... stayed 3 years. Broke up. broke ties for 12 years zero contact. so now we're in our 30s late 30s, things are different right? …
I get it. From the outside it probably looks like the perfect setup for a second chance. Beautiful evening. Chemistry still there. She acknowledged her mistakes. Dancing in the rain. Kisses. Her sitt…
1. Yes, but deb one is little wrong, plus one can strengthen planet. Also there are different set of Rajyogas. Parashar ones you have to check Panchang and tithi too, that matters a lot, so Rajyogas w…
I have had severe anxiety since I was a kid with it Starting to make me sick by the time I was 20. It got to the point where I was nauseous 24/7 for 2 years and then on and off for another 2. I have…