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the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…
One month of Neville’s teachings and I finally feel at peace about money — I’ve been in this community for about a month now mostly reading, learning, and celebrating everyone’s wins. I have to say, it’s been a real game changer for me. I’ve always been someone who worried …
My wishes come true — I've no idea how this works but lately I've found that when I wish really really hard for something, it will come true. It works for really important things in my life, that I wish for with my whole…
UPDATE: My (32f) fiancé (28m) repeatedly does not clean the house — Hello lovely reddit. First relevant links. My first post I deleted (so you can peruse the comments if you are interested): [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/18yjl0g/my\_32f\_fianc%C3%…
I am ruining my life and I feel like i cant stop it — Hello everyone and let me say thank you for taking the time to read and/or respond. Our time is valuable and I want you to know thst I genuinely appreciate you giving your time to a stranger... This …
30F My 30M keeps commenting on what I eat with a magnifying glass. How do I go about telling him how this makes me feel? — My SO and I have been married for almost 5 months. He had made some weight based comments in the past that were extremely hurtful, we talked about it and he said he would stop. For context, I have aut…
Boyfriend insults me in fights — I (32f) have been with my boyfriend (36m) for just over a year. I’ve noticed lately that when I disagree with something and have an opinion that is opposite of him he gets upset. If he critiques me I …
I need help, my SO is very not stoic and it kills me. — Long story short, My [M33] SO [F30] is very... not stoic and after married with her, it amplifies and gets worse as time goes by. She always gets irritated by what others are saying and when someone …
[Update] Is there a good way for me (21F) to tell my partner (24M) that I’ve never enjoyed having sex with him? — Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/s/nd7fe72m8L First of all, I want to say thank you to everyone who commented and gave me advice. The past few years of my life have been p…
UPDATE: I (32m) found out my partner (32f) cheated on me while she was away on holiday. She doesn’t know that I know. How do I navigate this? — Here's some context from my previous post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/1s6r5cv/comment/od55fnc/?context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/1s6r5cv/…
I’m trying to be healthy through a deactivation.. — I have somehow managed to be in a relationship for about 9 months. My partner is an anxious attacher so it has been tough, and I have currently hit a huge deactivation state. Obviously my social media…
Thank you to this community. — After posting yesterday, I received a lot of support and feedback from kind redditors. I just wanted to say thank you. Every comment helped me reflect deeper and I have been able to let go of wanting …
I did it again. — I resigned from my job on the 16th of last month. A job I absolutely loved. I used to stay to stay up at night and dream about it and visualize it, overnights, no supervision, and good pay. Two weeks…
How to kindly reject a friend who has a crush on me? — I can tell my friend of many years has a crush on me, and I don’t feel the same way. I truly love him dearly and he’s not UNattractive, but I‘m just not attracted to him in that way. It makes me so ma…
Help — I’m 32. I lived in an abusive family until I was 25, when I got married and moved out of my parents’ house. Both of my parents physically abused me since I was about 4 years old. They sent me to a pr…
Extreme Selfishness and delusion — Since I’ve been dealing/ dealt with other narcissists in my life, I’ve started wondering whether this person might also have been a narcissist - which is why I’m posting this and asking for perspectiv…
I (19F) am having issues with my bfs (18M) mom. Am i thinking about it too much? — My boyfriend’s mother has grown a hatred of me before she met me. At the beginning of us knowing each other and talking, she was misinformed by another girl things that weren’t true at all, and she be…
Is this normal, or am I being dramatic? — I just want to hear others opinions, and if someone else has/had similar experiences, because I feel like I'm being overdramatic about this. All advice is welcome and I would really appreciate it. I a…
I know this comment is nearly 6 months old, but I just wanted to say THANK YOU so much for posting this, I feel like I’ve just found a master key to a huge door I’ve been trying to unlock for a while …
I know ppl are saying to just say thank you but… absolutely not. Don’t even reply. Not worth the effort or attention. Just block and move on.
For my DA ex-wife, it’s all about control. I started doing TikTok’s after a 7 month slow fade culminating in a discard. During my healing I decided I wanted to help others, got certified in IAT and …
Just writing to say thank you. I am working on the positive self talk I think
These threads have helped me so much. I just want to say thank you to this community for your kindness, wisdom and support. 🫶🏻💜
Reading all of these responses has honestly meant more to me than I expected. When I made the post I was just hoping to find a few people who understood what this feels like. Instead I’ve been hearing…
Just say thank you every time you notice you have lost your mind
34f here... I always offer to split because I just can't get over expecting someone to buy me dinner ... (it could get weird cause I'm anxious about not buying anything expensive. I'd say over the cou…
Well I have heard that you are the perfect woman for most of my exes! 🤣I’m 5’10”, fit, a brunette, and I too have been told that they prefer : blondes, pocket pets(apparently I’m too tall) Asians, an…
I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who responded. I read every single comment even though I could not reply to all of them. The number of thoughtful and supportive responses honestly surprised…
I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who responded. I read every single comment even though I could not reply to all of them. The number of thoughtful and supportive responses honestly surprised…
This post and the comments brought up so many ideas for me in regards to healing, recovery, society, relationships, past versus present, my future, the future in general, and so much more. It gave me …
When someone does something nice for them and they’ll say thank you and maybe pretend to be touched in the moment, but will be critical about it behind their back.
Never apologizing even for minor things like bumping on to people. I also see how they behave around wait staff or other service workers. If they do not even say thank you or are rude from the start, …
Money is energy. Picture an amount ALREADY in your checking account. Imagine it a lot daily. Say thank you to the Universe for bringing you that amount. Play it over and over at night when you go to s…
It’s a kind gesture that shows that you care. As a culture, it’s become “cringe,” to show that you care about getting to know someone you’re dating- which I think is stupid because what’s the point of…
Bill… I feel like I can call you that. This morning, I knew nothing of you. This evening, I feel a kind of cosmic closeness… and a deep appreciation for who you are, and a true gratitude for the wi…
"Say Thank you"
The fact that he didn’t even say thank you for the meal you cooked after you worked two jobs tells you everything you need to know about where his respect for you actually is
My husband always says thank you when he is fed. I also say thank you for my clean clothes in the wardrobe. Op, GTFO your partner isn't a partner. He is using and abusing.
He didn’t even say thank you for the meal you made after working 2 separate shifts and then belittles you over a cup of hot chocolate? 5 months married? What does he do to make you feel good? This …
his intentions are not good. he knows what he's doing. he does not say thank you, he jumps right into criticizing you after a long day. you deserve better & I'm not sure you'll be getting it from his …
There's clearly a double standard here if he can eat fast food and drink beer all he wants but you having a cup of hot chocolate that is probably like 100 calories is an issue? There is no way I would…
I’m so sorry you went through that too. This is so lovely of you to say thank you. I know, it’s such a mind f**k to realize all of it. It gets better with time which I am incredibly glad for. I hope t…
I stopped reading after the "I'm only allowed to say thank you for your input." Your boyfriend is emotionally abusive and it's only going to get worse over time.
Just want to say thank you so much for the quick replies! What I meant by the last sentence is, how do you figure out where you're doing wrong, even when you've been effortlessly consistent with foll…
I found i rarely get annoyed without reason. Usually there is a reason, it's just subconscious. Could be a few things going on, so context and some digging are important. For me, i think some people t…
Wow, I never anticipated so many replies and views (228k!). Just want to say thank you for all of the reassuring posts, as there’s far too many to reply to individually. However I am reading them all …
One thing I’ve realized is try to say thank you out loud for things. Thank you for this day, thank you for this job, for being able to cook, etc. You see many people never do this and well if you don’…
First I want to say Thank you for putting my feelings into words cause I took this as a sign. Im halfway round the world on a little tiny island and im going thru the exact same thing. I find myself o…
i’m not religious, i was raised in a leftist family, like my mother never forced me to do anything or to believe in anything, i think i turned out alright. i actually have no idea why my friend’s moth…
You've already answered multiple different questions ive had, so I just wanted to stop by to say thank you for putting in the time to do this. Several of your responses have really resonated with me a…
I would say I do more often than he does. If you meant if he'd say "You look good too" after I complimented him, no he doesn't. He'd just say thank you or that he appreciates the compliments. And idk…
G’day OP, just wanted to say thank you for sharing this. I’m 8 months post D day. Still think about it way too much. Still have my days where I just burst into tears. It’s really awesome when people s…
Absolutely. It feels like such a total abandonment of self, and it is! But please don’t be mean to yourself about it. It’s a coping mechanism you learned to keep yourself safe, and while it’s ultimate…
Say thank you for not wasting another year of your life.
say thank you and find someone better lol
I'm very sorry. I can understand you. I'm also AuDHD, completely excluded from the family system, which I eventually left because of further financial abuse. So I know how hard it really is to believe…
How about trying to say 1 nice thing about yourself to yourself every day. Then thank yourself for the compliment. The more you do it, it gets easier to say thank you to others when they do.
Feel the Love deeply With-IN you. As It Truly Is. Not was Not wishing. Is. Fall asleep in that feeling. Do this every night Every Morning say Thank you. Hold the Feeling of Joy in your soul. …
Came back to say thank you for the Brent Spirit suggestion
I escaped in my early 30s. Moved 3 hours away. I have been living in my own apt for almost 3 years now. I have no decor just the basics. Sometimes I wake up in the mornings and think I’m in that house…
If someone is immature and keeps arguing, just leave him and move on. For the record, my ex used to argue that I do not support her emotionally, I do not know how to handle her when she is angry or …
Friends, I’ve been reading your replies but didn’t wanna respond individually. Just know that every one of you have given me loads to consider and have shown me perspectives I’ve been blind to for som…
This may not help you as our situation wasn't as severe but me and my girlfriend made it a rule that we couldn't deflect a compliment, we have to at least say thank you.
Just like to say thank you for saying what you said. I see myself as a trauma sinker. Surviving is my only option it feels. I completely get everything you said. Milestones? I'm sure we can compa…
Your ex is a selfish asshole. You might think he's thinking of you, but really he's thinking of himself. He's probably in-between relationships and remembered that you might be an easily manipulated p…
This topic is so tiresome. Just be kind and considerate and don’t scorekeep the shit out of it. Come with a generous spirit and grateful attitude. Nobody *owes* you. Always be prepared to pay your o…
Just wanted to say thank you for this thread. It's a really interesting topic and it was nice to read people's perspective on it. I had dates that went in that direction and it's usually a huge turn o…
She shouldn’t be involved at all. This lady has no decorum. When you’re in a wedding party and they offer to buy your dress, you put both hands out and say thank you as you receive it. Wtf is wrong w…