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I'm buying books but not actually reading any of them. How do I actually enjoy sitting down and reading a piece of literature? — I want to be more well read. I love the thought of reading all classic books and authors that people talk about. Dostoyevsky, Joyce, Kafka, Melville just to name a few. Everyone rants and raves about …

Help me to recognise my attachment style please! — I (26F) am struggling with this a lot, since my patterns of romantic behavior don’t seem to fit neatly into any of the four categories (AA, FA, DA, SA). On the one hand, I clearly crave intimacy and…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

Feeling conflicted, I don't know if I don't love him and I am settling or if I love him and the "cons" are avoidant deactivation? — I 33F have ve been dating this guy 32M for 8 months. He's chased me for years and eventually recently I started to feel attraction back, he figured it out and kissed me. For some months I didn't feel…

Have your thoughts on shrooms been somewhat like this? — Yesterday I first tried shrooms. I did 15g fresh, which you can expect to be about 1.5g dry ± I've tried acid 2 times before, which were very amazing, intense and long experiences. They theached me a…

I hate my best friends boyfriend and I feel miserable — This is a small rant, but I just need to write it out to a bunch of strangers. Basically, my friend (21F) met her boyfriend (26M) a few months ago. They seemed to click almost instantly, which isn’t a…

Some Pointers after 12 Years of Meditation — Meditation is an invisible skill, which makes it especially prone to confusion and obfuscation. I wanted to jot down some pointers and opinions about meditation that have served me at one point or an…

Has anyone else been paralyzed by extreme avoidance to the point of near delusion? I mean at one point I wouldn’t even get up to brush my teeth I would just be on my phone all day distracting myself from reality — And the irony is the more I avoided reality the worse my life got so the more I needed to escape reality. Addiction 101. My phone provided pleasure and took away pain. As my life got worse from chroni…

Energy Exchange: How We Give, Take, and Protect Our Vital Force — Energy exchange is, essentially, communication. The energy a person generates is given outward. But, in accordance with the laws of conservation of energy, a person must receive energy from outside. …

Is this lucid dreaming or is it SP? — Put this in a few subs cause I’m starting to get curious about what’s going on with me. About six years ago, I experienced something unusual while lying in bed fully conscious but with my eyes closed…

Mom! There's a Flying Car Outside the Window + And Other DR Memories — https://preview.redd.it/qg8vkwaixvpg1.png?width=1024&format=png&auto=webp&s=ddddae1cd2fa8a918133c6c3655c21cd7e63afd6 https://preview.redd.it/am1xwmqjxvpg1.png?width=680&format=png&auto=webp&s=2814916…

Pulling the trigger but terrified, Male 48 — I'm a male, 48 years old. Married for 24 years to a woman two years older than me. I'm sure my story isn't unique, but here it is anyway. On the outside, we look like a great couple. We have a teena…

Something mentioned but not talked about, Serotonin. — What do we know about Serotonin? \-Its produced in the gut, \-Low levels often correlated to anxiety and depression \-Happy hormone, not to be mistaken with dopamine , the pleasure hormone where …

Thinking More and More About Just *How* Boring They Were — One of the things that really boggles my mind looking back on my childhood is just how little my parents ever entertained any ideas of direction or progress within their own lives. My father worked t…

Why keep on livng? — First of all, let me state that I do not have intent to take my life. I do have some ideation thought, but I'm doing therapy and I know will be fine. I just genuinely want to know, why keep on living?…

Is it possible to be too grounded? — Like, my whole life I lived in my head. Fantasizing, philosophizing, theorizing, imagining, visualizing. Feeling my body and my surroundings always was a struggle. But I was very mental. Thanks to t…

Am I out of touch or are they? — I'm going to a new psych... Because my old psych told me I couldn't stay with her forever... Whatever that is... We are going thru a pain psych workbook. But today I expressed that a sentence in th…

BF of 3.5 years broke it off. I'm so happy and free. — Sooo these last couple of days were a lot. I (29M) have been with my boyfriend (27M) for 3.5 years. If you asked me a week ago, I'd say our relationship had its ups and downs, but we were generally ha…

How to handle envy? — I am new to stoicism and maybe do not understand it completely so apologies in advance! Recently I cant help but been feeling jealous of another person who is dating a woman i liked. Initially I rea…

She turned sunlight into homework. I left her house years ago. My mind still hasn't. — The sun came out today. And the first thing I felt wasn't warmth. It was guilt. A full-body, immediate, almost chemical reaction: *you should be outside. You should be using this. You're wasting it.*…

I started to feel the pleasure in exercising — My school pushed us a lot on events like mountain climbing, swimming, etc. We have to be professional meanwhile studying. Bad things happen sometimes. I stopped exercising for years. I went to the gym…

Anxiety tips you might not have heard of — Hello, I've had crippling anxiety on and off for many years and I have developed coping tools that has helped me alot. This Mostly is for people who have GAD and panic disorders but can help for almo…

One day I’ll vanish & never speak to them again. — I’m so over being treated like shit, like an outsider, like everything’s my fault within my dysfunctional ass family. My mom sits around high as fuck off prescriptions all the time shit talking me &…

Got what I wanted !! Again !! — Hi everyone, **Context** So I made a post called “7 Seeds - 1 Harvest” and mentioned there would be upcoming posts since writing about each desire that came true would’ve made the post way too long.…

Does anyone feel comfort in limerence? — Unfortunately, I have noticed that it is a pain that comforts me. I feel as if the only way I can connect with my loving side is by feeling this pain. I know how much it harms me and how much it delay…

A year and I’m still stuck… — We knew each other for a year, dated and lived together for three. I wasn’t perfect but I didn’t pretend to be either. I was always told what I did wrong and it would also be told to other people. Yo…

Hello — About 23 years ago, at the ripe age of 12, I was an active member of the [astralsociety.org](http://astralsociety.org) forum. Unfortunately that doesn't exist anymore, and it appears that a lot of peo…

Trouble under the (lack there of) sheets. Me (30 F) and my bf (40 M) lack physical intimacy, how little is too little? — Me (30 F) and my boyfriend (40 M) and been together for 5 years. He has two of his own kids from a one night stand and another marriage. Sure the kids are sometimes a difficulty with having a sex life…

I need help with a sensitive conversation of the NSFW variety (late 20F) (mid 30M) — I (late 20F) need some advice on how to have a sensitive conversation with a man (mid 30M) that I've been seeing consistently for about 2 months. It's about sex, and I know that this is a "just talk t…

"When trust is lost, traumatized people feel that they belong more to the dead than to the living." — "The sense of safety in the world, or basic trust, is acquired in earliest life in the relationship with the first caretaker. Originating with life itself, this sense of trust sustains a person throug…

How to use traditional astrology — Hi everyone, I know this might sound like a strange question, but I’m confused about how to use traditional astrology when reading a natal chart. In modern astrology, each planet is connected to psyc…

Anyone gave up on establishing long term goals so you just live one day at a time? — The lack of pleasure, the avolition, the paranoia, the constant dealing with nightmares, everywhere feeling unsafe. The past is a fog, the future is uncertain, all I know is what I can do right now ex…

I feel guilty for almost having made the wrong call, and I’m afraid of sex now because of my own judgment — To skip to the end, I do not get cold sores. I obsessively tested over and over again. All but one doctor (the only one to think I did was a NP base on a visual look of a pimple I picked) confirmed I …

I can only experience pleasure during intimacy if it is violent — For the entire time I have had consensual sex, starting in my teens, the one constant is that I require it to be violent. The partners I’ve had normally are willing to do it because they want to hel…

i’m addicted to “gooning” — i don’t want to talk about this here in case ranting about nsfw topics isn’t allowed so feel free to remove the post if it isn’t, i just wanted to get help is all i’m addicted to “gooning..” (anyone …

I f21 had sex with my friend m21 who is gay. What could this mean? — Hi, I'm 21f, bi, but more sexualy attracted to men. I've always questioned my sexuality about whether I was under the asexual umbrella since I've never found much pleasure in the act of sex with all t…

Emotional incest: What are your symptoms as an adult — Hey guys, I can’t let this topic go because I can’t find a real answer anywhere, but I know 100% that I was a victim of emotional incest by my BPD mother. I’m wondering if it’s possible to develop t…

20 years and want out — Ive been married to my wife for 20 years, and we have 2 grown up kids, 20 and 28, both of whom live in different countries now for study and work. My wife and I run a family business, so we have spent…

Very confused about my first experience — Hello everyone, Im new here and tdy was my first time attempting to do astral projection I woke up after like 5-6 hours of sleep and started my attempt I layed down there and started imagining mys…

Want to break up. How? 21F&20F — Hi everyone! As the title says, I (F21) want to break up with my current girlfriend (F20) but unsure. 1.5 years together. She is the type of person to never bring up issues. When we have problems, i…

I, 26F am in a loving, commited relationship of 5 years with partner (25M), have additional strong feelings for another man (27M) — This dilemma requires years of backstory which I will concisely summarize to the best of my abilities. I (26F) am in a long term relationship with my partner (25M).We met while we were in undergrad (d…

My boyfriend (21M) and I (21F) never engage in foreplay (handjob/fingering/head) What can I do? — Okay, so.. my boyfriend (21M) and I (21F) have been together for over a year and a half now. He was my first for pretty much everything, and has sort of taught me all I know about sex and intimacy. Ou…

28F and 28M sex drive incompatibility, feeling stuck? — This may be rambling and I’m sorry for that. Also sorry for formatting, I’m on my phone. I 28F and my boyfriend 28M, have been stuck in a rut. A month ago I told him that we are incompatible with …

I (26F) THINK MY BOYFRIEND (34M) ISN'T ATTRACTED TO ME ANYMORE — Hi everyone, it's my first post on reddit, and english is not my first language so sorry if i am doing something wrong. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years. We met online and ge…

My(30f) boyfriend(36m) chases his pleasure and I'm left in the dust. — I (30F) have been with my bf (36m) for going on 13 years now. I feel like I need to preface this by staying that I've always had a rather difficult time getting there even when I try by myself (though…

; — I consulted 7 therapists in the last 3 years, and 6 of them diagnosed me with chronic severe depression, only one said it might be grief, but I did not talk to her honestly about my suicidal thoughts.…

Mom is Bound and Determined to Make My Entire Vacation Miserable — Especially my last day. That's fine. My realtor is working for me. But just in the first hour of this morning since I woke up at 7:30 a.m.: I need several minutes to wake up. She can't give me that.…

I feel overwhelmed and lost and I think being the only and eldest daughter plays a role — I am 25 years old and the eldest and only daughter with four younger brothers. After spending the last few days with my family, I feel completely unimportant, like I don’t matter. Growing up, I was al…

How do I talk to my boyfriend about the one-sidedness of our sex life? — My(26f) boyfriend (30m) together 6 months, doesn't give me equal satisfaction in bed. To preface, we've been together about half a year, he's a great guy and we have a lot of fun together. Of course s…

Grief — I honestly just need to scream into the void a bit tonight because my friends/family seem a bit tired of hearing me go on and on about grieving the loss of my relationship, and honestly I'm pretty tir…

About point a, moonlight, oh, sweet, old memories, I actually hallucinated about 1 year, trying to act as if. No, it was not rough, it was hell, but I did it. And it kinda worked, but I don t recomme…

You will find the answer here - Moonlight Mailed Me ! : The No1 reason why people fail with their alpha programming. *Hi Everybody, I am one of moonlight's new cubs and his best for sure. I have a …

If it's an associate level role, then you should be fine. You have software experience, (and assuming everything you said above is accurate) you expressed a basic understanding of the technologies, a…

Pleasure. And I own Nyx Glitter Glue :)

I will say this tho this is why I choose not to date advodants if meeting your partner's needs gives you anxiety I dont think i’d be happy in that relationship. I take pleasure in meeting my partner's…

From what I heard, that's the types of relationships Avoidants like. There's no pressure for vulnerability or emotional closeness. It's also why they can be fine with sexual encounters but pull away f…

My pleasure! Once I repeated the above two steps over and over, I got used to it and I don't struggle with generating feelings.

Help me to recognise my attachment style please! I (26F) am struggling with this a lot, since my patterns of romantic behavior don’t seem to fit neatly into any of the four categories (AA, FA, DA, SA…

My two cents! 1. You say you’re in the state of “I could get up, but I do not want to.” This means you’re not fully relaxed or in the alpha state. If you’re really in alpha, you will struggle to even…

Hey, thanks for the reply. I'll do my best to answer as precisely as possible > 1. You say you’re in the state of “I could get up, but I do not want to.” This means you’re not fully relaxed or in th…

So I (38M)'ve just been dumped again by someone who picked up on my attachment anxiety, and I'm extremely frustrated because I'm pretty far along my healing journey, but not finished yet obviously, an…

Completely different circumstances of course but I’ve also become socially isolated because of choices I made. I’m also working on learning to enjoy things on my own but damn, it’s hard. We’re socia…

Something will happen first. Like a disagreement or a fight. I think he might be taking that much space because he's not in the mood to risk starting something else. I can't be sure 100% because we ne…

>my libido was high and I was always slept with him when we spent time together, sometimes multiple times. I guess it was how I felt most connected to him since the relationship never really progresse…

I've had an experience with FA about strong and brutal avoidance showing up after getting to intimacy while early dating and him and anti depressants. Like we used to see each other regularly for one…

Hi! I suffer from anxiety and recently had a strange dating encounter. And just trying to remind myself of the best way to deal with these types of situations going forward. Quickly, I went on a date …

I got married to a man whom I had met online and we had only met each other about 2 times in person before marriage due to it being a very long distance relationship ( between two countries ) I only …

Yeah, I would agree - for example, lying or implying that one wants a long-term relationship just to get sex is pretty shady behaviour, and not an indication of good mental health. I guess that's why …

Me too. Intimacy and Pleasure are most rewarding in the longterm.

Personally I think if you’re securely attached you won’t sleep around or have casual sex. There’s a level of self respect securely attached people have that they would think before giving their body t…

Hmm, you say there is a feeling of creepiness but no sign of dubious morals, but you also said he doesn't take no for an answer sometimes and keeps pressuring. That alone is enough to deter many peopl…

Take your time and get some lube in case you need it (one that says 'safe for use with condoms'). As for birth control, these are questions for your doctor. Generally if you've never taken BC they'll …

I’m a card person and I’ve yet to have the pleasure of being with someone who really appreciates the idea of snail mail or holding onto little love notes for a while, or at least something more than r…

I have had the experience of past partners melting when I was good with their pet (I always date cat people and cats fuckin love me), but my own cat is the most ornery, antisocial introvert who would …

I wish this were true in my area. It used to be for ENM and kink but I see many profiles of guys who clearly aren't in those communities but heard about the site and seem to think it's gonna be Doorda…

Amongst the negativity of this thread today: LD woman drove to me (2.5 hours) Wednesday. We had an incredible night. Went to yoga class together, made dinner, danced in the kitchen, watched some TV.…

There’s no point settling for bad sex in a casual situation. It’s not hard to find someone who wants casual and cares about your needs and pleasure. 

I don’t know, but I feel like too many folks are aiming for benefits with no relationship. So many people are not relationship motivated. Lots of pleasure seeking without meaningful connection. The…

You should never regret this. I've had the displeasure of hanging with couples where they did not reject them and it's painfully obvious that there's no passion. Could never be me! Also I know this i…

The 3HC aspect = Ease, skill, or pleasure … The 5HC aspect = INTELLECTUAL ability to recognise patterns … The 7HC aspect = INTUITIVE ability to recognise patterns … The 9HC = Ease x Ease, Skill x Skil…

i am turning 30 this year, i’m a taurus sun and a scorpio rising. i’ve always felt deeply connected to my ascendant sign and i think it has a lot to with being raised by a single mother who is a scorp…

I notice when I engage in pornography I always feel guilty afterwards. That alone says a lot. The more you give in to instant pleasure like that while ignoring your conscience - the more likely it s…

We all have different desires and beliefs tied to them. I don't believe there is any one correct way to experience sexual energy. I have made a connection to my higher self lately. It is at all times…

No, people were just a means to an end including my body for his pleasure so anything that didnt result in him orgasming was unnecessary

Pornography isn’t created equal to begin with. There is really awful, exploitative and violent porn. There is also porn where it’s completely self-empowering and pleasure centred. I think paying perfo…

I will not say it is harmless either, as I said, it may bring discomfort, and discomfort is a hell of a teacher. I haven't really been using porn lately, as I said, I am learning to live every fantasy…

bro same, my current gf doesn’t like and it pains me that i can’t just go down there and eat it up. like i just want to please my girl why can’t i have somebody to pleasureee

Yes, I very much agree. I appreciate your thoughtfulness on the subject. When people discuss this topic, it's often framed around whether consumption affects the consumer directly via a drain on thei…

A masochist is someone who gets pleasure from pain. After she cheated so many times and you stay, how else do you explain your behavior. Masochist is probably accurate, dude!

I completely agree with you, especially with how porn does link with darkness. You can be pro-pleasure without consuming porn.

I think you can use suppression sometimes for small things. But rely on it is impossible it leads to bad consequences and you will simply just blow up. In these cases when I’m on the edge I’m thinking…

Why aren’t you using condoms with these men? Not only for STDs, but pregnancy, regardless if you are on birth control. You are 28, stop being so irresponsible. Edit-since this is getting attention, …

Op do you do therapy? Have you been screened for adhd/autism? You have sad boy vibes, big time. You need to make a life that you would want to share with some one. It doesn't have to be money. It's h…

i don’t think it’s that simple. it’s a fundamental difference of pleasure that i can’t shake off. i want my partner to want that. i can’t force her. sure i can tell ask her what she wants, and vice …

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I’m not condoning the affair but I understand it; being affection-starved, you went into someone else’s arms. Having sex two times in eight years with your husband, I probably would have strayed, mayb…

I succeeded now basically retention, hard to believe, but like with everything it isn't cold turkey, goes over a decade upside and downs till you fully control it, one if you're busy like cresting som…

Active suppression is unlikely to be effective, as is strong desire for something not to arise; both are craving and aversion which are the underlying fuel of any sankharas. Long term abstention work…

I have Saturn in Libra conjunct Pluto (yeah the 1982 generation), and they are square to my Ascendant in Aquarius. And yet - Uranus is the Hidden Triumph card, placed close to my MC and sextile my A…

I think this is so common with men. They get really wrapped up in their own pleasure. I hope you find a man who will be patient and kind. I regret "pressuring" my partner to have sex with me out of de…