the lost child

Who else was "the lost child" in their dysfunctional family? — I just came to realize that was my role in our family. So hard, I check all the boxes: - fundamental loneliness growing up - escaping into books, - develop creativity as a mean to escape (love this …

This was my parents. Super Catholic and wanted 6 kids, but ended up having 4. The whole point was to look good to outsiders. - My mom ignored her only son, the lost child. - Was extremely cold and c…

The loyalty really makes it difficult, you doubt yourself. My therapist often repeats: your memory can play tricks on you but your feelings never lie. This really help for me to validate my experience…

Yup. I was the lost child for sure. Out of 7 siblings I was simply forgotten. No one checked up on me. No one asked if I needed anything. I had no identity except to be as quiet as possible to avoid f…

I am the youngest, and there's a bigger gap between me and my next older sibling than between him amd the oldest. I was always (and still am, in my 50s, lol) the "baby." Hell, yes I was the lost child…

I was this too, I only have one single memory of either parent standing up for me. One time I stood up for my brother to my parents, and my dad shoved me and I hit my head. I believed I didn't matter,…

That is me… l have almost no friends, haven’t dated for 10 years after a 20 year marriage to an npd who recreated my family of origin issues complete with (scapegoat,golden child who is a flying monke…

Dissociation can happen with both. **THE FLIGHT TYPE AND THE OBSESSIVE-COMPULSIVE DEFENSE** Extreme flight types are like machines with the switch stuck in the “on” position. ...They rush to ach…