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Wife cheated after 7 years of long distance and 3 years of marriage — Met my now wife 10 years ago online. I live in Europe and she is from the US. We talk for a year and things start to get romantic. I visit her for the summer and we decide to start dating and go long …

The "and" theory... — I saw this a few days ago and started to implement it, I can't tell you how much it has allowed me to have more compassion for myself, create a clearer head and process my emotions. The and theory is…

The song “I love you, I’m sorry” by Gracie Abrams makes me think of the POV of a DA — I'm DA, and I just listened to this song. It feels like a DA talking about how they sabotaged a good relationship, and they regret it. This line particularly hits: "I like to slam doors closed, trust…

Does cold email still works in 2025 ? — Hi there, I'm a beginner to freelancing, and I make landing page designs, currently I haven't landed any clients yet, I've tried cold DM for a while but got no results, that's why I thought to start m…

The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…

Mostly healed, but I can’t stop walking on eggshells before I trust a new date (anxious-ambivalent) — Edit: I’m single but I’ve dated guys online. I’ve changed almost all of my symtoms from anxious-ambivalent to secure attachment. When I first start text someone romantically however, it’s all good un…

My Experience Being an Avoidant Woman — I 27(f) am a lesbian who has a fearful avoidant attachment style. I have almost no control over my attraction; I can be really into/attracted to and excited about someone but then something happens/th…

Deactivation or undisclosed breakup? — I'm a FA woman...in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant....all was good, until past Christmas holidays , his bday and all situations when they deactivated.. he was the one who planned being wit…

Married 5 months after 10 years together (M32 / F29) — she started talking to another guy right after the wedding. We’re now on a 30-day separation and I don’t know what to do. — I’m looking for honest advice from people who have either been through something like this or have perspective I might not be seeing right now. My wife (F29) and I (M32) have been together for about …

Block them. That's all I have to say. — So, in July last year I went through this HORRIBLE heartbreak. And when I say it was a really awful breakup, trust me, it was. Almost four years of a strong relationship ended in a 5-minute call. My e…

I miss you — I know I was the one who ended things, but it made me realize so much. I think we both just needed some time to breathe and calm down. Things could have been different, we just couldn't see it in that…

The Revision method works! Trust me, it does! — I have read a ton of books and watched numerous manifestation YouTube channels. Most of their teachings are based on Neville Goddard's teachings. And gotta say, that going back to read his words just …

Don’t know what jusr happened — So I just had a lucid dream and in the lucid dream I thought (for some reason) that I will astral project if I go to sleep in the lucid dream. So in the dream I went to my bed and let me tell you, th…

I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough! — I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough I just came back from a 4 week long vacation in Turks and Caicos in the Caribbean. This was the 10th year in a row I have don…

If your ex blindsided you, no contact probably will make them come back. — This is long- but I hope someone in NC with their ex in hopes they’ll return will read this because this is reality. I had an ex I loved so so much. We were together for 6 years, from when I was a t…

Okay, it is literally working now. — So, I am manifesting my sp. And I posted a post last week on this subreddit, on how suddenly my friend sent me my sp insta story and I took it as a sign and kept assuming. I have recently changed my s…

Signs you dated a narcissist — This goes for both girls and guys and I realized all this after breaking up with my ex. 1. They replace you immediately they cannot handle being alone, they need someone to uplift them. aka their …

“ he never harmed me” good to know my suffering meant so little to you — My ex husband left me for the mistress 6 years ago. It was hell. I am still to this day dealing with the trauma of having the person you trusted and loved so much just pull the rug from under your li…

The Astral Plane: its Nature, Structure, and the Unseen’s Map found in world religions — *Disclaimer: The views expressed here are my personal opinions, except where excerpts are quoted.* # Nature of the Astral Plane The Astral Plane is the wider dream world. It’s a constant place that …

Could use some compassion - I broke up with my ex of nearly two decades last fall. I was codependent on him for everything. — TW: a depressing and heavy post, self blame, neglect I left him last August after realizing we were holding each other back. I wanted to get married but he just… never proposed. At one point we did …

BF of 3.5 years broke it off. I'm so happy and free. — Sooo these last couple of days were a lot. I (29M) have been with my boyfriend (27M) for 3.5 years. If you asked me a week ago, I'd say our relationship had its ups and downs, but we were generally ha…

IT GETS BETTER! — Yall I just want to say it. Gets. Better. My ex broke up with me over the phone after a 3 year relationship, haven’t seen him since and hope to god I never have to cross his gross path again. I was …

Was my therapist blaming me for abuse? — My husband and I went to marriage counseling. I had an affair and afterwards he became very controlling and abusive. He had very strict terms for me to follow in order to remain married. He had my loc…

The real reason you want your ex back. — This is going to be short and brutal. Your ex broke up with you; this hurts. It came out of left field. You are using no contact to get them back? Don't. You need to use no contact to focus on yours…

I (f 22) tested positive for an std after years of being clean and consistent testing and my bf (m 24) of 2 years says it’s “impossible” it’s because of him despite not being tested for 5 years and now we’re not okay. — \*\*\*UPDATE\*\*\* After a long 3 days my results came back and they were all negative. I, of course, told my boyfriend and he was relived much like I was. He was supportive of me and he apologized …

17F, my parents read my private chats out loud and still don’t trust me 2 years later — I’m 17F, and something happened 2 years ago that my parents still haven’t let go of. Back when I was in 10th grade, I started talking to a guy online. It was just casual at first, and within a few da…

My fiancée just left me and I need help knowing where I went wrong… — My fiancée abruptly left me and then blocked me everywhere… I’m Allie (29F) and my ex fiancee is Kylie (32F). We were in a long distance relationship (she lives in France), but we would travel to see…

This method really works — For the past 2 weeks, I got on Ivy Norlund Tik Tok posts, and there was quote like gems, system fragments and all, and from then on, I started structure all I do to manifest and IS WORKING EVERYTIME. …

It’s finally over — I’m sitting at a closed bar at 10am with a beer in my hand both celebrating and grieving at the same time. I (26m) spent two years with a woman (24f) I thought was the love of my life. Everything abo…

Have you ever manifested a life you thought you could never have/thought you'd have to work very hard to get? (Please respond if so, I'm so emotional right now) — okay I am almost in tears, because I feel so lonely and behind (21) I feel so hopeless and sad because I truly am behind in life, not only that, I don't have the money to do the things I want to or ge…

Just need to get it out — i’ve never done this before so if this isn’t the purpose of this subject, I’m sorry. I am 20 years old and relatively speaking. I’d say I’m not in a bad position to be successful in both my personal l…

Why it's just 1 person but feel like 2 completely different people. — The person I think who she were: \- Care for other people \- Humble \- Loved by many people, chased by many men, but still chose me (who is nothing special, ugly, and broken inside before meetin…

I am fucked totally (17y Male) — Originally i wanted to post this on r/selfimprovement but couldn't due to having a New account. (read the full story to understand the whole issue please) TL;dr :- The person is struggling with sever…

my 32f boyfriend 30m has a bit of an extreme anime interest, and i’m not sure if it’s a deal breaker. — we have been together for 3 years and during the first year i could tell that he is really into anime.. like more than anyone i’ve ever known. it seemed a little extreme but i like some anime too so i…

Im going crazy. — We have been no contact for just over two weeks the last time we had no contact I only lasted 5 days and ended up sending him a million messages asking why he did it and basically just voice messages …

This start pissing me alot? Need second thoughts.. — I’ve never really dealt with depressed people or people with complicated attachment styles before. All my previous relationships were with women who had what you would call a secure attachment style. …

Husband of 35 years cheated 5 years ago - swept everything under the rug. But it still hurts. I don't have any proof, hire a PI? — 5 years ago, my husband cheated on me. He was away on a business trip with AP when I found out so he was able to delete every single piece of evidence. We essentially swept everything under the rug bu…

ended things because i got scared and now i'm wondering how to make it right — hey everyone, could really use some outside perspective on this mess i created so i ended things with my ex about a week ago and it's been absolutely brutal. the thing is, it wasn't because we did…

Read this if you're miserable and want your ex back. — # Your ex won't come back until you've COMPLETELY let go of them. ...and it's not gonna take 30 days of No Contact. I wish it was that simple. Let me explain how I've come to this conclusion while …

Fiance doesn't feel wanted/I am too friendly — TL;DR MY fiance thinks I'm too friendly and wants to feel more respected/desired sexually before showing me vulnerability. He is uncomfortable with me giving men so much attention ie talking too long,…

Don’t chase an avoidant ex for answers — Just don’t. Trust me it’s not worth it in the end. They know they are avoidant and they know their actions have caused you pain. They just don’t care. I fell down that rabbit hole of chasing answers f…

My Asian parents demanded I (19f) break up with my bf — So I went to the UK to get my undergraduate degree and in my second year I met the sweetest guy and started dating him. My mom had always been supportive of the idea of me dating, and so I looped her …

I need help learning to break awareness. — Greetings and salutations people. I need help with an issue I've been having while sleeping. So, I've long since learned that I have complete control over my dreams no matter what and remember dreams …

The pain of anticipating a divorce — How do you deal with the pain of knowing divorce is the only outcome of this marriage? Me and my husband have been married for 8 months. It was semi-arranged, but we both met and hung out multiple ti…

Update: I finally got the job!!!! 🧿☺️ — *It’s going to be a long post so sit tight hehe* Hello everyone I am sure some of you may remember my post from around 5/6 months ago complaining about how I felt defeated and wanted to manifest a j…

My mum believes these crazy health myths and it's really frustrating me. — Here are some examples of what she does everyday. Drk what to do \- After I shower it is of upmost importance that I blow dry my hair because she thinks it's unhealthy to leave my hair wet (yes I un…

How Neville goddard and LOA changed my life ( Long story ) — # Hello everyone, i wanted to share another success story i had with Neville goddard teachings , it just made me think and remember that sometimes you get your desired reality before you even know it!…

It can change in an instant if you let it. — January really humbled me. I started the new year in financial distress. I was dependent on my family, and they were going through it too. For the first time in my life, I experienced what it feels l…

The dude I dated last summer wants me to give him another chance again but I can’t fully trust him to be all in — Me and him are cordial and cool . He said he was cheated on by his other ex though and they broke up and got back together he was like “ I’m so done with her.” Then he said he didn’t know if he wanted…

My [27F] boyfriend [29M] goes through my phone regularly and says he trusts me but not "other people's intentions" -- how do I bring this up without it turning into me defending myself? — Been together two years. He's generally kind and things are mostly good, but there's a pattern that's been sitting wrong with me and I haven't been able to shake it. He regularly picks up my phone an…

Don’t Try focusing on controlling too much immediately or getting Carried away trying to do influence it strongly at first . Try just remaining calm by focusing on your environment and exploring as yo…

1. That is why it’s called maladaptive daydreaming. The person does so to escape their current reality. They are not making actual changes, thinking different thoughts, reconditioning the subconscious…

This is BS. This scream Micromanagent. Productivity is not about how many tickets you closed. If you want to be productivity try to automate (20/80 rule). If you find yourself doing the same sort o…

Don't worry man, just jump in. Most people in IT are figuring things out as they go! No one really knows exactly what they're doing.. trust me

It feels like a child is clinging to me and then getting angry with me if I try to have a life or any interests outside of them. It starts with needling comments from them, passive aggression, accusat…

I’m giving her the benefit of doubt because I’ve jump to conclusions in the past, and the guy was some socially awkward tech nerd. I was more concerned about her playing games than the possibility she…

Oh trust me, I learnt through the school of hard knocks by "giving the benefit of a doubt" when I was a Disorg leaning Anxious. As a Learnt Secured, I still do that occasionally. Some avoidants love …

Therapist here, look for a therapist that use a person-centered approach and is trauma informed. It’s not our job to push meds on you, it’s our job to reflect your experiences back to you so you gain …

Healing DA here, and my best advice: don’t wait on her at all. She’s losing interest due to ur availability and her lack thereof. You waiting only makes her lose respect and even more attraction. Not …

Okay, this is long and it might sound harsh, but I relate to a lot of what you're going through and acted much in the same way as you did, and I've gone from anxiously attached within a friendship to …

Trust me I wish it was that simple. I have no intentions on hurting the girl I'm dating. We practice open and honest communication. If I pass the point of no return I'll tell her. Its also possible …

Yes, I edited, and yes, my comment contains some judgement (besides mostly description and perception, ie. judgement-free language). Non-violent, 100% judgemental-free Rosenberg communication, to me…

YOU have work to do. You willingly spent years with someone you had to ask for hugs. Stop focusing on him and his issues. YOU have issues that you need to sort out in therapy as a matter of urgency…

You can take the lessons without keeping the man. I’ve done that 5x over and leveled my life up with each man. Trust me they benefited from being with me too, mostly in the arena of emotional awarenes…

Use video conversation exclusively for a while. Trust me, it helps. If he's too raw and unhealed though, it will continue to sabotage your progress. Make sure he's doing his part to heal too. He does…

Do not sleep with her before you have built the mental/emotional infrastructure & structure to consistency. I have screwed this up so many times it's embarrassing. If you truly want this to work for h…

I mean if you really want to check in , you can just have a short convo and end it clean , because at one point you were her everything and I bet she misses you even now but also wants to avoid you du…

You are doing it great. It’s like a muscle, first you are in the scene for short moment, and the more you do the more you are present and staying longer. On the feelings, we all are different people…

That’s how my last ex was it’s like he refused to understand my anxious attachment issues sometimes it felt like he didn’t even think something like that could exist. It makes matters worse when said …

Sigh im not sure yet because it feels too early and I've not talked about this to them yet. 2 months in, with everything that happened between us (they were forced to breakup with me because i couldn'…

>It’s also worth wondering WHY I want to even try to be friends in the first place. Must be an anxious thing Grief avoidance is common in both anxious and avoidant attachment systems. My advice, as …

I've been dating this woman for 3 months, fantastic, love her. The honeymoon period ended pretty abruptly when she suddenly "stopped feeling it". A couple days, therapy sessions, and some very long co…

Text of original post by u/VisibleAnteater1359: I’ve changed almost all of my symtoms from anxious-ambivalent to secure attachment. When I first start text someone romantically however, it’s all good …

I don't resist those thoughts. When you try not to think of an elephant, you're going to think of an elephant. Just let them come and go. Have some things you say to yourself when they do come, like "…

Yeah and I’m so torn. FA said he loves me and wants to have a future. I told him that I had a conversation with a guy who I kinda will be dating. It’s like I wanna be with FA guy but the on and off th…

The first thing that comes to mind for me is DBT skills, specifically opposite action in the context of understanding the DBT model of emotions. Opposite action is a skill where you say to yourself "…

What I've done after being discarded by an avoidant was literally change up my requirements for the sort of man I'm looking for. My ex had a brilliant mind, but also deep insecurities, anxiety, childh…

I used to feel like this too until I realized that there is more to life than having someone love me. My biggest fear was being alone in the world. News flash, I did end up alone in the world. And hon…

Knowing your attachment stance is the first step. The next is to start working towards healing it by working on your attachment wounds, your needs, your communication of boundaries, and then embodyi…

I am FA and I work really really hard to make my family happy. Trust me, we can put in the work. Glad to hear it's working out well for you so far.

Look up the "neuroscience of breakup". It's totally normal to ruminate during the first days/ weeks, as your brain si trying to make sense of what happens, in hope that udnerstanding can help you avoi…

Well, I’m really intrigued by attachment theory…and I’ve got a crush on an avoidant guy. Our connection has not been advancing beyond mostly text conversation and sort of “fantasy.” I get mixed signa…

Oh trust me - these are all thoughts I’m very familiar with, obviously they are a huge concern.

Trust me, I get it. I was married and vowed to never fall prey to a mans antics ever again. Andddd then I did, and glaringly so. I don't really know if you're looking for advice, but take men as the…

Trust me, I'm an easy going positive person. Only thing that really hasn't clicked well in my life is my dating life lol. Decent job, financially stable, house will be paid off next year. Friends,…

I (27M) met my fiance (22F) about 5 months ago through family. After speaking to her virtually for 2 months and then meeting her in person about 2 months ago, we got engaged. Now in the beginning of t…

I mean, you're once again saying that people who value time together don't "have their own life." I have never not had my own life while in a relationship. Trust me, secure people wish avoidants would…

Hi All! I need some advice. My post has not gained any traction anywhere else. I am here to understand what is happening because I feel clouded a little bit in my relationship. We are opposite attachm…

I understand everyone needs a bit of "me" time to reset and catch a breathe. Trust me, being neurodivergent myself, I totally understand the need for this... But NO ONE is too busy for seven straight…

Thats great tbh. I have started matching people's energies just like you. And im happy to have relationships fall apart because of that because its not a one-way street anymore. Best to not deplete ou…

trust me i know exactly how it feels… that one person seems to take away the entire purpose of life. it doesn’t matter how many friends and loved ones i have because they don’t seem to matter when i’m…

Yes!!! It was kinda of an I didn’t imagine you actually wanted to talk to me moment. 😂 like I could trust me own instinct. Nothing to even do with them.

Derpy can be cute! For me it’s the genuine happy! I’m not a fan of when men mean mug in their photos or the artificial smiles we do when people say “cheese!” Photos where you’re actually happy is wher…

Some people are very good at compartmentalizing. Being very sweet to you and giving you a gift on a Friday, doesn't mean he's also not looking forward to his date on Saturday. Especially if it's only …

No trust me you will be happier without him. It hurts now because you're still attached to him but it will fade and you will find peace without him.

Oh, so you're dating my ex? Break up with him before he does it. Trust me.

Thanks! That's an important perspective. I loved her deeply before I got into deactivation, and I really felt it, and I'm confident I will love her again when I'm fully out of deactivation. I'm not e…

Trust me, no one is going to care what you're doing at the gym, they're all too busy looking at their phones between sets

I would not pursue your FWB’s friend, especially since you met through your FWB. That’s pretty clearly offside and is going to cause a bunch of drama. Sleeping around is one thing, sleeping with one o…

Agreed. In the past three months I have developed a no tolerance policy for being corrected on things I know about. It shows me they think they’re superior or at the least do not know how to have a co…