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Initiatory Numinous Experience — I have been putting writing about this off for 11 years now. It was October of 2015; a lot of energetics were going on in and around me all at once. I don't know how to structure this entry/experience…

How are unemployed designers managing financially right now? — I was laid off two months ago and have been in the job search grind since - applying, interviewing, and trying to stay hopeful. But I’ve also been feeling pretty stressed and anxious, especially as ti…

Ever feel like you’re doing all the right things in business, but still wrestling with doubt, decision fatigue, or just low-level burnout? — You’ve got the strategy. You’ve read the books. You’re pushing forward... but something’s off. What I’ve noticed in myself (and in others I work with) is this: It’s not always about more knowle…

Self-soothe tips during ruptures? — I am the anxious partner, and my husband is the avoidant partner. He is also an addict, which has been traumatic in our relationship and in my trust in him. He is currently sober and working recovery.…

I had a breakthrough tonight! — Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another anxiously attached person. It didn't w…

How to fully be present in my dating break (build momentum at the start)? — You'd think taking a break would be straight forward, but I feel like it's more challenge for us anxious attachment/pure-O OCD types who struggle with rumination or feelings of inadequacy about their …

Global Policy Journal: “Don’t look up?“ – Why it is past time for serious holistic research into Unidentified Anomalous Phenomena — Karin Austin, Michael Bohlander and Kimberly S. Engels have contributed an excellent article to the Global Policy Journal. Two of these people I've met personally and they are experiencers who are doi…

How do anxious attachers know when they are truly ready to date again, rather than just trying to soothe anxiety or loneliness? — I was talking with a friend recently and we were comparing how hard it is to get an honest gauge on your own readiness to date again when you have anxious attachment tendencies. Everyone tells you to…

A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…

F**CKKKKKKKKK — I don’t really have anywhere to say this, so I’m just putting it here. I was with someone for a long time who I truly believed was my person. From the beginning, there was just something about her th…

How to unlearn? — Hello all, I have been practicing meditation and breathing exercises regularly for the past nine months and it has been having immense effects on my life.. I coupled this with yoga, shadow work and s…

Leo with both Moon and Ascendant in Cancer with a Taurus signature - why do i feel weird, stubborn and kinda emo? — A Leo but with mostly Earth/Water fixed influences ( Virgo, Capricorn, Cancer). Barely any Air elements and maybe thats why I suck at communicating and I feel kinda slow. Not much Fire either. Peopl…

Letting go of LUST — Dear fellow meditators, I have now been meditating for several months and have had tremendous success in letting go of a lot of insecurities I had.. This has helped in improving my social skills and …

The day has come! — For more than 50 years, the Monroe Institute has been quietly pioneering a systematic way to explore human consciousness — beyond meditation, beyond belief, and beyond theory. I’m excited to share tha…

My experience with NHI's, contact and navigating society. — # Hello! Where do i begin? Firstly, i want to give thanks to this space cultivated by Oak and the other Moderators, without this space, people such as us/me do not really have anywhere to go with a…

Understanding Infidelity — Last year, I (25M) broke up with my now ex girlfriend (26F). We were together for 3 years and were living together at the time, but I discovered that she was cheating on me with a coworker of hers for…

Unhealthy Living Conditions with Piano — Like many asian kids I was made to play an instrument. Specifically I was made to play the piano. I'm not that particularly gifted at it. I have hearing issues in my right ear (tinnitus). I didn't hav…

A green flag that matters more to me now than it did in my 20s — One thing I’ve started appreciating much more while dating now is emotional steadiness. Not perfection. Just someone who stays grounded when things aren’t ideal. In my 20s I probably paid more atten…

How to get over the fear of fully astral projecting — Just less than five minutes ago, I was trying to take a nap and felt myself drifting into sleep. Just as I was about to fall asleep, I realized the state I was in and my brain became fully conscious w…

What Toys or Fidget Tools Actually Help with Social Anxiety in Public? — For those who deal with social anxiety, have any of these actually helped you stay grounded or less overwhelmed in real-life situations? Which ones are discreet enough to use in public without drawing…

Trying to find the ""reset"" button when life feels like a treadmill — This month has really been more of a rollercoaster feeling for me, sometimes I feel like I’m just reacting to things instead of actually living. You know that feeling where your brain has twenty tabs …

I don’t know how it’s going to happen… but I feel like my life is about to change — I can’t explain this properly, but I feel like my life is about to change in a big way. I don’t have all the details. I don’t even know exactly where I’ll be living. But I keep getting this calm, gro…

Is it possible to be too grounded? — Like, my whole life I lived in my head. Fantasizing, philosophizing, theorizing, imagining, visualizing. Feeling my body and my surroundings always was a struggle. But I was very mental. Thanks to t…

She admits the lies and secrecy, but still denies anything physical — I’m posting because I feel like I’m losing my grip on what is real, and I need perspective from people who understand trickle truth, repeated minimizing, and what it feels like when someone admits jus…

Insane lucid dreams / astral projection experiences ✨🪐 — Hi all! I honestly just want to talk about how crazy lucid dreams are because when I say I go to different worlds and then wake up here most people just don’t understand and I feel like you all will. …

how to really manifest! you don’t need to “do” more. you need to live differently. — it’s not that deep!! i really want to help people with this and share what i know but it’s so so hard to put into words what im trying to say! it’s like it’s almost too simple to explain in words, so…

Something I wished I had heard about sooner when I struggled leaving my now nex that would've made me leave a lot earlier. — Why we stay is because of trauma bond and hope even though they play on that and say to you "if I am abusive why don't you leave", unhealed empaths stay because we delude themselves on what they could…

Complete beginner looking for practical ways to start sensing energy — Hey everyone! I’ve been getting more and more interested in the metaphysical side of things lately, but I’m really drawn to the direct, practical experience of energy work rather than all the complex …

Validated today that ending a friendship was a good thing — I am a formerly anxious leaning mostly secure person. I ended a 4-year friendship about 8 months ago with someone who is anxiously attached and also still my colleague, and I’ve been processing someth…

How do you hold space for, not necessarily judgment, but rather accountability and ultimately grace and growth for the dark side of codependency and insecure attachment styles — A recent poster who shared a story about his coworker got me really thinking about one of the standard FA rituals, and probably the cruelest FA rituals. We can be such experts on lulling people into…

Accidental awakening — Officially effed around and found out. Open to advice but I also feel an obligation to share that this is possible through the tapes because I never saw it coming and I'm currently struggling. I was …

what's a habit you implement to keep you creative? — one thing I recently started doing is keeping a commonplace notebook. I would use it to write down ideas which I actually come back to, vs if I note it in my phone it will inevitably suck me into othe…

Has anyone ever experienced where mushrooms and ketamine therapy made them a LESS spiritual and more grounded person? — I miss some of my spiritual side and things I used to be interested in. I was very creative, loved yoga, loved expressing myself through art..but within the last several years after microdosing & spra…

April 2026 Astrology: Key Dates, Weekly Forecast and Mundane Astrology World Events — April is one of the most active months we’ve seen. Not one planet is in retrograde. Aries fire and cardinal energy sets the stage for initiation, assertion and spontaneous energy. There is a bit of na…

I realized I couldn’t stay 10 seconds without checking my phone. — The other day I noticed something a bit uncomfortable. I had a free moment — nothing to do, nothing to watch — and I immediately reached for my phone. Almost automatically. So I tried something si…

Girlfriend asked for a 3 week breakup after a fight. I ended it when she asked for more time — I'm 43M, gf is 37F. I'm a doctor, she's a lawyer. I make good money, she's kind of just starting her career. I never skimp out on her... Fancy dinners, nice gifts etc etc. I was planning to give her a…

I’m doing 1g of golden teachers tonight and I’m pretty nervous any tips? — Looking for some advice/tips from experienced trippers. Tonight I’m planning on doing 1g of Golden Teachers. This isn’t my first time I’ve had a 3.5g Penis Envy trip for my first trip, and then a 2.5…

How do you actually stick to no contact? (building something to help) — I’m building an app to help people get through breakups, specifically to survive the hardest part: not breaking no contact The idea is pretty simple, but (I hope) powerful: 1. It tracks your emotion…

the veil dropped — So, I am in a new layer of integrating my dimi break through (3 months ago), and the experiences and lessons (hell) I had are revealing themselves to me in new ways, expansive ways, however there is e…

Anxiety tips you might not have heard of — Hello, I've had crippling anxiety on and off for many years and I have developed coping tools that has helped me alot. This Mostly is for people who have GAD and panic disorders but can help for almo…

Anyone else feel behind in their 30s and stuck in comparison? — Hi, I’ve been struggling a lot with comparison lately and wanted to see if anyone relates. I’m in my 30s, recently married, and both my husband and I are going through career changes. I keep noticing…

One Sentence Encheiridion (1-15) — I was rereading the Enchieridion and decided to try and summarize each passage in a single sentence. This was a fun activity, let me know if I should share more. 1. The only thing fully up to you are…

Experimenting with crystal grids and the energy shifts — I've been doing energy work for about two years now. I started with basic meditation, then moved to chakra work, and recently I’ve been exploring how crystals interact with energy fields. I’m still le…

Im tired — 23f Sometimes im angry that my overdose wasn't successful, having to realize I had to continue that day without anyone knowing what I tried. Going to school dealing with crap feeling horrible through…

Do I need a social life/ anchor prior to starting the tapes so I’m grounded? — So I want to start but I read a post recently which stated someone going through an accidental awakening and going through psychosis- and the main factor was because they were isolated. See I’m in tha…

A little help — I made a small app for when anxiety gets overwhelming I’ve struggled with feeling overstimulated and needing something simple to calm down in the moment, so I built something for it It’s not a repla…

Feeling extreme transference toward therapist. How do I handle this with my therapist while being the most respectful about boundaries? — I have been seeing my therapist for about three months now. I chose her randomly, but I feel like we have a good client–therapist connection. I’ve been able to talk to her about things I never thought…

Walking meditation. Am I just ego tripping? — So I went for a 2h walk today with headphones. And as I progressed I naturally became more mindfull. Thats when I decided to slow down so I could keep more awareness. This is something I do often, but…

HOLY SHIT I THINK I ACCIDENTALLY SHIFTED OR SOMETHING — I was interested on shifting a while ago but i didn't really know how shit work so i left it alone. Today, when i was trying to read something to make an essay i started to get sleepy and i thought i …

A case for "It will come" instead of "It is done." — In my manifestation journey, majority of my successful ones were done with the approach "It will come" instead of the "it is done" mindset that is stressed so much here. Neville writes that saying "i…

Hi I started with JM and I was convinced to switch to NG Then I was guided back to POSM I can say that some techniques of NG helped But most of all, POSM seems clearer than ever after my detour in…

Another green flag (on reddit in general honestly) is anyone willing to ask for info/context before giving their thoughts and anyone willing to provide more info/context when asked. Those are two thin…

Something might have come up in her life. And this is where attachment theory comes in. If you have doubts about her non-actions, ask yourself - Why are you thinking of her disinterest when she did…

I’m a dismissive avoidant in recovery Meaning,I have been working on myself since October’23 Read self help books,exercised,journaled, cried, listened to podcasts and been in therapy since January …

Yes. I’m a lot better than I used to be. I had a secure boyfriend, and he has grounded me so much. I actually think I’m like 50% changed since five years ago. Still a long ways to go. He’s on the si…

These push-pull dynamics can be really tough. There's actually a whole cycle that happens, and understanding how it works is probably the only surefire way to ultimately get grounded enough to ride th…

Every two weeks for nine months sounds more like a red flag to me. You need to protect yourself from these fallouts and give him a lot of space without asking questions or prodding. My partner is th…

Sorry to hear you’re struggling. You must be experiencing challenging circumstances. I’ve said this over and over again. Our parents can’t teach us these skills if they haven’t learned them themselv…

I hear you and I can see that your comment is grounded in past experiences. Fair enough. The only reason I chose to pursue this was because I had new found knowledge. This was the first time I've date…

Thanks. Even if Im anxious or fearful, I usually bring up pretty quickly what bothers me because I hate mis understanding and I also hate to think badly of my partner. This way I am vulnerable even in…

Im very proud of you for being so grounded! Dating as adults is nothing more or less than deciding whether your issues are compatible. Its a constant battle of making the conscious effort to get your…

You are more than welcome champ. My advice here is don't have a talk while she is deactivated as that is more than likely going to push her further away. Emotional deregulation is a behaviour caused…

i actually really like this. i think folks are quick to dismiss the perspective because they haven’t experienced someone genuinely working to understand them and meet them where they’re at. also becau…

Oh absolutely. He was mostly perfect in the beginning. I think the only thing keeping me grounded was I knew that the honeymoon stage would bring out the best of us and conflicts were what we needed t…

How did you communicate your feelings of being apprehensive? Did you make sure to reassure him that it wasn’t about him, but your nervous system reacting to being vulnerable? There’s a world of differ…

Text of original post by u/DaniT0n: Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another an…

This is exactly what happened in my marriage. We felt safe together and got married very quickly after meeting (a bit less than a year). I moved towards secure but his anxious attachment suffocated me…

This is actually such a huge win! You’re learning to catch yourself mid-anxious spiral and reframe the story you’re telling yourself. That’s not silly at all, that’s real growth. The fact that you wen…

Text of original post by u/wordsworthcrafting: You'd think taking a break would be straight forward, but I feel like it's more challenge for us anxious attachment/pure-O OCD types who struggle with ru…

First of all, I just want to say, I really feel your pain in this. Healing isn’t linear, and even when you’ve made so much progress, nights like this can hit hard. The fact that you’ve gone almost a y…

He was amazing, thoughtful, and genuine… until he vanished (I think?). Help me stay zen while I wait. --- So… I (35F) matched with this guy (43M) mid-July, and honestly, he’s been kind of wonderful.…

You’re right. First, I want to say the mods here can be toxic, rude, arrogant, and biased. Anyway, back to your question. Most people who believe in the LOA only learned it from The Secret or some mod…

Learn to self soothe. Stay grounded in yourself and don’t get caught up in potential of people you barely know. Stay busy with other aspects of life. Dating should not be the center of your world.

Getting the exciting feeling isn’t the issue. It’s what you do with it. Using it as a reason to attach yourself to someone you barely know is the problem. Ignoring red flags is the problem. So try dig…

i think it was as attempt to get the " daddy dont wants me" wound solved . i was physically attracted, never had proper social contact in my life and wasnt able to read between lines. he was always …

28M and I’ve dated a decent number of women over the last 10 years. I’ve noticed a pattern that always seems to repeat itself. When I meet someone I’m attracted to but not *that* into at first, I sta…

When I find myself caught in an anxious spiral, these are the things I've found that help me most: 1) Get moving - I pop in my earbuds, turn on a true crime podcast to engage my brain, put the leash …

Exactly! That was just a guy I was seeing recently for a couple of months. But my boyfriend of 4 years just previously was cheating the whole time (while I stepmothered his 2 children when I was only …

Your reaction (the anxious one at least) is likely related to your sense of self worth. And thinking that they will fill a void that you really should be filling on your own. You may also be putting t…

So what I’m understanding is that you want him to take control of the situation? You wanted him to make the decision of taking you to the hospital? You also mentioned your finances as a concern. O…

When I noticed this repeating pattern a year ago: I can’t relax getting to know someone, I get scared of messing up the tiniest things and I don’t really know what is *me* and what is *my trauma respo…

This sub is the clubhouse for anxious people who stayed for years with an avoidant. Allow time to heal you, 6 months from now you won't recognize yourself. Your healing begins today. Congratulations f…

I recommend two books/audiobooks (traumatized people sometimes have a hard time focusing on the page during spirals, these audiobooks are available for free on the Libby app that connects to your loca…

Separation/space/distance triggers feelings of loneliness and abandonment and even though you aren't breaking up, you may self sabotage to either reconnect to feel connected or to breakup first. Here'…

"*Quiet does not equal danger.*" Oh gosh. Yes. I understand this. This is how my partner now reminds me to be assured of space, and with myself. What also helps is, both of our quirky nature and humo…

(Tried to post this as a solo post, but couldn't due to not enough karma) *Does Thinking About Death Really Help Us Live Better?* In this post, I want to question the practice of Memento Mori, becau…

I’m going through a really painful situation with someone I love, and I’m hoping to hear from people who have been in a similar anxious–avoidant loop. My ex(?) and I were slowly reconnecting after a …

>Everyone tells you to focus on the healthy stuff. Get fit, see friends and family, keep up with therapy, get into your hobbies, give yourself time. I have been doing all of that, and so has my friend…

Hi everyone, I’m 25M (Middle Eastern, living in Turkey), in pilot training and under a lot of pressure to stay focused. Earlier this year I met a 30F Russian woman (“Y”) in a very unconventional way …

I would suggest doing more self soothing first. Also ask yourself if there are any ways in which you could be self abandoning. Long distance relationships are not easy and tend to carry much more comp…

I think you need to stay grounded in your thinking. It’s okay to feel excited about a new person. That is normal. But it’s also important to realize that you barely know this person. It will take a lo…

I think it would help to be aware of how you might be self abandoning here. Try to stay grounded in that you don’t truly know this person yet. You only know what you have told each other and it takes …

So recently, I was feeling pressured by my new friend to meet up. Not intentionally by them. When I gained the confidence later that night, I texted a long message to, i guess, set my boundaries. E…

Your partner should feel like home. They hug you and you immediately relax and feel safe. You feel attracted to them, but they’re communicative and consistent and show up for you. You don’t wonder ab…

Hi everyone. I’m posting here because I genuinely want outside perspective and grounded advice, not validation. Background I (male, 22) have known my partner (female, 19) for about 3.5 years. We are…

It is unfortunate that as we get older we do tend to grow apart from old friends. It is a normal part of life. It still sucks, but it helps to keep the perspective that all people (even secure ones) g…

I think you may be trying to control things that are many times uncontrollable. New relationship energy (NRE) is a thing. It’s normal to be excited by a new person. And inherently fantasizing is not a…

I don’t have anxious attachment style, so my input may not be helpful, but I DO experience limerance and can relate to what you’re saying. Here’s what helps me: Recently it dawned on me that for me a…

You are trying to rush the connection to ease your anxiety. Like if you connect quick enough they won’t leave you. The reality is that the beginning part of dating is about getting to know each other …

Date 3 tomorrow. I’m so excited. He made a lot of effort to plan a nice night for us - nice dinner, activity after, no set end time and backups to all of the plans. I don’t want to get ahead of myself…