detachment

beautifully penned mate! loved to read this. and yes the part where the external validation is "nil" for me prior to that confusion rooted within and post that is where it all uprooted, i guess this …

Question regarding the mind, marriage, and what's possible — Hi everyone, I'd really appreciate some help grappling with a few concepts after reading Dr. Murphy's books. I've read POTSM and excerpts from a few other books. How do we build the belief and knowi…

Detachment or deactivation? — Me (23M) and my ex (22F) broke up one month ago because she was feeling overwhelmed by some arguments we had due to changes in our lives (new place to live, new work). She's FA. I was secure for almos…

For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…

Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…

Does strong energy field scare people subconsciously, here is my experience — For the past few years I’ve been focusing a lot on my self-concept and doing inner work, working on my shadow, learning healthy emotional detachment, and grounding myself. I went through a difficult p…

I (28F) had an affair and don’t know what I’m doing. Please help. — I’ve been with my husband for 8 years, married for 2. He is genuinely the best person I know. Kind, safe, loyal. He’s my best friend. When I cry, he’s who I want holding me. When something funny happe…

You've Tried Manifesting Them Back Multiple Times - Here's Why It's Not Working — **"I've manifested my SP back multiple times but it never works. Now it just feels draining."** **You're not failing at manifestation.** **You're failing at creating coherent field states.** And th…

Do not break No contact — Don’t judge me. When you are in love you do stupid things. After long no contact. I did send a text if they like to meet up over the weekend. Why did I do that?! I saw them, they are active in socia…

SPICY Shifting Tarot Pull (collective message)? 𓆩༺✧༻𓆪 — Hey friends, I am a tarot reader (for myself and others) and I just did a tarot reading for myself in regards to some blockages I have to shifting to my DR specifically. I wanted to preface by saying …

The only thing you'll ever need to manifest ANYTHING. — *And it's so clearly is the internalisation of the idea — "being good with it and without it".* *I'd Like to quote Nero Knowledge here who perfectly describes what manifestation truly is, "Manifestat…

I finally figured out how to manifest — For context I’ve been manifesting for a really long time. I’ve taken this lifestyle up for over 5 years. But it used to be tough to know exactly what I’ll get and when I’ll get it in the past. I usual…

Finally detached! Flying, static vision, and a sudden "lust-induced" snapback. Advice needed! — Hey everyone! I’ve been actively practicing for a while now—listening to 6 Hz theta waves and binaural beats, focusing on breathwork, and consciously lowering my heart rate. This morning around 9:00 A…

My abduction story. — I was abducted from my balcony when I was 16 years old. It was October 2018, around 8:00 PM, when my mother called me downstairs for dinner. I left my phone on my study table and stepped out to get my…

The mechanics of EIYPO — Today it finally clicked after 6 months of travel in a new state and returning home to where the old state stayed. Everything was his, and nothing was mine, the detachment was amazing and it eventuall…

Neurodivergence(?) and meditation problems — Hi there, I hope you are doing well. Ive had a bit of an existential crisis about a month ago, a sudden spout of dread that has been trickling away bit my bit through each day, like how a wave di…

Letting go, detachment vs manifesting an ex — Hello everyone, I’m new to the concept of manifestation and I’m trying to understand it better. A few days ago, I went through a breakup with my boyfriend. Looking back, I feel like I may have manife…

M30, no direction, no future. Just surviving on autopilot. Have I wasted my entire life — I'm turning 31 soon and I have the feeling I'm throwing my life away without being able to change anything. I grew up in a dysfunctional family: a mother who was always absent, anxious, and dismissiv…

2g APE trip, complete reality shatter and spirit talking through me? — For context, this is my second “trip” with shrooms, though i’ve microdosed for quite a bit now. The first trip was a very manageable 1g of regular cubes, but this one was a whole different animal. Se…

breakup with someone who didn’t communicated issues — My ex (20M) and I (20F) broke up at the beginning of March after almost a year together, and I’m having a hard time moving on. It felt like a really special connection to me. He made me feel genuinel…

How I manifested my SP — Hello everyone. I’ve been into subliminals and manifestation for about 8 years now. I met my SP about 3 years ago and fell in love. We’ve been together for almost 2 years now and I’ll tell you how I m…

Life is my movie & I’m the Director. — I manifested 2 SPs at the same time in 24 hours. I decided to rewrite my story when I realized SP1 manifested me! All the intrusive thoughts that didn’t always feel like my own & unfavorable circumsta…

The "other" is just vibration & how to use non-resistance for stable contact and AP — The boundary between "self" and "other" often dissolves in the presence of pure vibration. In the realm of the experiencer, where phenomena challenge our linear narratives of order, the distinction be…

Success Story: "I make $55/hr" 2 week streak F20 — To preface, I've had the knack for manifesting money here and there for around 5 years now, and I'm still in the process of fully realising my power and being in total control (ie having it come more …

Read this if you're miserable and want your ex back. — # Your ex won't come back until you've COMPLETELY let go of them. ...and it's not gonna take 30 days of No Contact. I wish it was that simple. Let me explain how I've come to this conclusion while …

What Detachment Really Means… — I still see many people worried about detachment and not caring and how that affects manifestations. It’s not that you don’t care or don’t desire, it’s that it’s so engrained into you that you no lon…

I’m trying to be healthy through a deactivation.. — I have somehow managed to be in a relationship for about 9 months. My partner is an anxious attacher so it has been tough, and I have currently hit a huge deactivation state. Obviously my social media…

Detachment — I've recently been researching and learning about detachment. Initially, it sounded like a repulsive concept, but something in me has changed and I seem to understand just how important and healthy it…

Common pattern in manifestation — I have been on manifestation journey for quite a few years, if we include my healing journey it started from Covid and actual intentional changing outside world manifestation started around year or tw…

I have this question all the time, and would someone, PLEASE answer it?! Why my body isn't there whenever i astral project? And why I can see in the dark, although my room is pitch black darkness? — I didn't planned to astral project, just awake up to do something else entirely, because for some unknown reasons when I tried to astral project multiple times in the past 2 years, I usually end up…

How Neville goddard and LOA changed my life ( Long story ) — # Hello everyone, i wanted to share another success story i had with Neville goddard teachings , it just made me think and remember that sometimes you get your desired reality before you even know it!…

For those who suffer from breakup — Five months ago, my ex left me. I’ve had a lot of time to think since then, and I wanted to share a few things I learned. I think this applies to both men and women. The biggest lesson for me is this…

has anyone here ever been so disconnected from themselves that they couldn't identify the emotional flashbacks they were experiencing? — I haven't been diagnosed with cptsd and there is no way for me to get help right now. I know the labels aren't important but they are to me. I do cry sometimes mostly when I am pmsing but mostly stay …

How do you detach — I hear people talk alot about like detachment and how when you detach it all comes to you but like how and what are techniques to detach. I want everything so bad I kinda find it difficult. There have…

People Pleasers!!! — People who are in long term relationships, where one partner is secure or anxious and other is people pleaser/avoidant. The people pleaser would later on in the relationship start being unhappy with s…

instantly (unconsciously) manifested three things today — Manifested INSTANTLY completely unintentionally today for the first time, this is genuine proof we are always manifesting. its just our limiting beliefs holding us back. basically i was sitting in my…

Had a terrible breakup. Suffering mentally. Need advice. — I (28M) was in a relationship for 5 years with this girl (28F). We were doing long distance and planning to get married soon. Last year she met a very powerful politician via a mutual. (38M) Has a wif…

I manifested him back and now I don’t even want him? 😭 — I spent months doing the rituals, the journaling. I wanted him back so bad i thought him coming back would be the ultimate win. it was actually embarrassing. Well, the universe finally delivered. He r…

Nikola Tesla, Neville and YOUR DESIRE. — Trying to understand the law in depth is like trying to find where your creative thoughts are coming from. It only does more harm. So learn this post only to unlearn it. Don't over analyse. I am writi…

She blocked me because she's being too attached to me (M20 & F20) — soo..i had this 3 years relationship with a girl , everything is REALLY good and we are deeply connected to each other. So i js graduated high school last year, and this is the first time we experien…

Overthinking is the biggest obstacle to manifestation — Most people here keep repeating the same pattern: more affirmations, more techniques, more analysis. Then they wonder why nothing moves. Overthinking is not “being conscious.” It’s mechanical interfe…

How do I stay mad? — I’m 2 months out of an almost 2 year relationship. I was the dumpee. Right now I’m going between phases of anger and wanting them back. Like one day I’ll be angry at all the things they did and didn…

Just speaking my truth — I respect everyone’s perspectives on manifestation, but not every idea needs a new label. A lot of what’s being shared on social media are just the basics with different names. The most important thin…

I realize alot of people are afraid to die (figuratively). For us (at least me) its been the normal to live in the dark my whole life. — Having a experience like CPTSD happen to me, Ive got used to it. I never really knew what it was like to truly live my own life or have one. I just kinda lived disassociated and in my head for most my…

There is something so uniquely special about Dissociative drugs — There are some people who, when reading the title of this post, IMMEDIATELY understand what I'm talking about without me even going into detail. I'm not sure what the hell it is, but my god is it so w…

Something VERY strange happened to me while meditating and I have no idea where else to talk about this! — So, I had kind of a shit year, my Dad died, I just got dumped a few weeks ago, so I've been focusing on my therapy work, journalling, meditating, all that good stuff. Today during a very simple mindf…

Paradoxical Nature of The Law & Instant Change — Good afternoon. I want to share some experiences and see if we can narrow down two aspects of The Law. If you want to skip straight to the discussion points, go to paragraphs 4-to-5 and read on from t…

THE OYSTER IS NOT YOUR WORLD! (IT'S THIS SIMPLE) — LONGGG POST! DISCLAIMER: for any of ya'll havin a problem with "long posts" , "english", "structure", "accent" etc etc. i got 2 tips for ya 1. chat gpt (or any other ai platform) - command c+v (summ…

WHAT DO YOU WANT?! — OK IMMA ASK A QUESTION - **QUES-** how many of ya'll had worse "3D" after learning about manifestation? reading neville? reading secret? law of attraction? law of assumption? anything at all youtube?…

I hate having a physical body. (Possible tw: depersonalization, body dysmorphia, and/or negative self-image) — My entire life I've worn jeans, t-shirts, and a hoodie but lately I've been trying to expand my horizons as far as clothing and aesthetics goes. I'm an adult and can wear and present how I want (in th…

I don't even know. — this is gonna be pretty jumbled. sorry in advance i have family, that have such a detachment when it comes to sexual abuse. most of the women in my family have been abused. I was by my adopted sibli…

True. About 7 weeks almost NC. I can feel it leaving. Sure I still feel down sometimes. But I haven’t felt as deep anymore. I’m loving and picking myself first now. I can feel the detachment. It isn’t…

Absolutely! This stops the suppression of feelings we want to push down, as well as helping to accept the reality of a situation! If you can do it every time a thought comes up, it helps with the pro…

So like love bombing? Then detachment?

Same happened to me. I was only ever modelled detachment, avoidance and rug sweeping by my avoidant mother. One year no contact and I don’t even recognize myself - after inner work and emotional turmo…

By not chasing and instead matching their pace. Absolutely reply when they text you, and match the energy if you can. Ideally you’d want to be perceived as safe, so when they text you should be detach…

Detachment is actually key. Its so underrated. I manifested most things when i am not thinking about them.

In a DA, they can often maintain the feeling of detachment - feeling relieved that it's over. FA's will almost immediately enter a panic state.

Yeah that's because you were in a shitty relationship, I don't know enough about op to judge their relationship, but in a truly healthy relationship it doesn't matter if take some time to breath for a…

Aww sending hugs. Feels familiar. Felt so in my late twenties. Cried so hard. With time and looking back, and lots of unrelated therapy, I realized two things : everything happens for you ; and life i…

Hm, not really no. An FA will be able to feel the wall that is up with a DA and a DA probably won't be able to feel the wall that is up for the FA. So, the FA won't be able to 'feel' any love from a D…

Detachment is a good skill to learn

Thank you for sharing this. Reading your post felt like someone handed me the secret playbook to my own current nightmare. I am on the other side of this dynamic—the anxious partner desperately in lov…

Text of original post by u/BornEducation4428: I am quite curious to hear if there are those who are still in their own "wound care " (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of…

"*Quiet does not equal danger.*" Oh gosh. Yes. I understand this. This is how my partner now reminds me to be assured of space, and with myself. What also helps is, both of our quirky nature and humo…

(Tried to post this as a solo post, but couldn't due to not enough karma) *Does Thinking About Death Really Help Us Live Better?* In this post, I want to question the practice of Memento Mori, becau…

I am navigating a post-breakup friendship. I really thought long and hard about keeping this person in my life because yeah I know myself and the last thing I wanted was to spiral into an insecure dyn…

Detachment or Anxiously Slipping? I was in and on again off again relationship for long while. Neither of us had a lot of experience in relationships before the other, despite being in our late 20’s,…

For me, it depends. Sometimes it's just dissociating, so I'm not really "in my body) to feel anything. Very literally detached. In therapy, bringing up anything I've been wanting to avoid is all in …

Regardless of your attachment style, I recommend working on a healthy detachment from your mother.

With a partner who is very emotionally self aware and through this I’ve very recently discovered I am terribly avoidant. (I knew I was avoidant but not to this extent). The problem is my maladaptive …

I have more of a list of donts… Reject us only if you mean it, and never pretend in order test us. We’ll fail that test rather epically, and it will go off more like a defcon evacuation drill. Reject…

>Yeah it’s a difficult placement to understand. Pisces on one hand is dreamy, boundless, intuitive and emotional. Saturn is persistent, enforces boundaries, reliable but can also be pessimistic and bu…

So you’d say deactivation & detachment go hand in hand?

They’re interchangeable terms, deactivation is detachment. The brain deactivates the attachment towards the attached figure. And as for what triggers this, it is subjective. DAs have been conditione…

Ahh…I thought deactivation was kind of like a recalibration period, and that detachment was a little more permanent.

Your natal chart is more like a set of keys than a prison cell, so you absolutly have the power to consciously shift how your moon sign manifests through your daily habits. Instead of trying to "be" …

Detachment.....

Saturn in Aries is Saturn in fall, meaning the restriction is pushing against a sign that fundamentally resists being contained. That tension is exactly what makes these periods feel extreme rather th…

I think it is good Rahu placement, but this is also a bad Ketu placement. Rahu in 10th means Ketu in 4th house. This is what most astrologers say and has been true in my case. Ketu causes detachment w…

Absolutely the T-Square!! Jupiter would be powerful regardless as chart ruler, but It's striking that Jupiter is the apex, AND its right on the 1st house cusp. 1st house is all about how the self is…

Doesn’t seem like OP did, but I just did. Kinda love some of these. ————- If you want to move past the "vision board" clichés and into the fringe, you have to stop treating the universe like a ve…

that's law of detachment

You’re not “the problem” because the spark isn’t there right now, but I do think you may be looking at love as if it is only a feeling. Love is also a choice, a duty, and a set of actions you keep tak…

I don't think you've been given bad responses as those do touch on stoic philosophy correctly, but I think they all got sidetracked from what Seneca actually said. The first is about adversities and t…

The word "detach" is tricky because it implies the thoughts are stuck to you and you need to peel them off. Steven Hayes in ACT uses "cognitive defusion" instead, which is more about changing your rel…

let go of the idea of detachment. thoughts are still divine (an expression of the whole)

This explains why I manifest easily with detachment. Thanks for this

Yeah. It doesn’t work that way. You can pick an identity but that doesn’t mean everything will just fall into your lap. And sometimes that can make you go crazy. I think detachment or giving up is bes…

Again,. If you think giving up is the best, then why even take ur time lurking here. But what u describe as detachment , is never letting go of ur desire. Its letting go of the how. It doesn't always…

There are some indicators in your chart that you could have some internal adjusting to do, and in some cases you could be “the problem”. No judgment as we are all on earth to learn lessons, and most o…

That is fair, and yes, FWB has some ground rules that shouldn't be broken by both parties, 1 cardinal rule is no attachment, For me it wasn't the case they came with a hidden agenda, we were both sing…

I’m gonna be real it sounds like you’re super anxious about this and I think you just need to relax and let go. A huge part of manifestation is detachment after all

Yes. And also no. I know mainstream manifestation people like to say you have to “detach” but that’s not 100% the case. You are who you are and you’re wired the way you are for a reason. You ca…

Yes. And that’s not really detachment.

Your words and experience just unlocked something for me. When you wrote about the never-ending movement and "disappearance" of waves into the ocean, it unlocks the feeling of detachment to outcomes a…

Oh, I'm so glad you've directly experienced the connection between emotions, sensations, and thoughts! I'm moving toward that, but so far I only have intellectual clarity. My situation is similar to …

Your dream is still real, art, creativity the need for expression through an outlet exists. Meditation does help clear the mind, the anxiousness is cured through stability of being able to sit through…

Rahu and Ketu are seen as two ends of the same karmic axis, representing different directions of growth and detachment. When a Rahu-dominant person connects with a Ketu-dominant person, the relationsh…

I think there is a lot of truth in the idea of being good with it and without it. When you are less attached to the outcome, you stop overthinking and stressing about every detail. That usually puts y…

I agree. Personally I think detachment can help a lot but isn't necessary. It's similar to feeling the wish fulfilled, one of the core tenants of NG and LOA. Helpful, but not absolutely necessary