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OBE first time — I’ve been reading about astral projection and OBEs on Reddit for the last six months. I wasn’t sure if it was legit,but now I’m 100% sure it’s real. I had an OBE this morning at 8:00 AM. I was sleepi…

Trying to learn CSS. Now I'm lost and feeling overwhelmed. — I tried making a practice site, but navigating the style sheet feels like I'm lost inside a maze. Is it normal for the CSS page to reach 100+ lines? I'm not even halfway done and I've already forgott…

The Ability to Scale Predictably Is a Superpower (Here’s Why DTC Brands Can’t Skip Performance Marketing) — The ability to **scale predictably** is a superpower—especially for DTC brands. If you’ve worked with or inside a DTC company, you know the drill: * You launch, get some organic traction, and then… …

What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …

Changing or staying? Product Designer — Hello. I’ve barely been a junior product designer for a year before I was laid off and threatened by AI. Same telltale as everyone in design/IT industries. I’ve been unemployed for 2 months now, and …

Unsecured Capital Raise "i will not promote" — Hello, first-time poster looking for creative fundraising recommendations. I’m working to open a recreation + F&B "eatertainment" facility inside a large leased space. I anticipate traditional invest…

Why webapps didn’t become more popular after all? — Google had a dream where people turn on their computer and the only thing they are greeted with is the Chrome browser. People were sceptic at first but Google created a wonderful web platform called C…

Passive FTP into Kubernetes ? Sounds cursed. Works great. — “talk about forcing some ancient tech into some very new tech wow... surely there's a better way” said a VMware admin watching my counter FTP strategy😅 **Challenge accepted** I recently needed to r…

My experience winning a chargeback — Sharing my experience winning a chargeback recently. We specialize in gaming collectibles, and our store has been running online for 3ish years. We have had 2 chargebacks in that timeframe, and won bo…

How do you inspect what actually changed in container images? (My Git-based approach) — Hey everyone, When working with CI images or debugging build issues, I often need to understand *exactly* what changed in a container layer - not just which files were added or removed, but what was …

G4 connection -Shopify or GTM? — Just ran into some guidance that said that all google tags should be administered with the Google Tag Manger (GTM) and the Google analytics G4 should be disabled in the Google & YouTube app inside of …

Looking for a technical co-founder I will not promote — Hey all, I'm working on a B2B SaaS platform targeting a specific form of fraud that's draining revenue from e-commerce and logistics companies. It's a blind spot for many, but the financial impact is…

Has Anyone Used WhatsApp to Drive Growth in Early-Stage? (I will not promote) — I’ve seen early-stage Indian startups use WhatsApp as an insider channel not to close sales, but to run pilot ideas, form early user loops, and gather fast feedback. Feels like an underrated wedge for…

Are there any free themes or plugins that facilitate creating layouts and styles for custom post types? — I am trying to build a website that is very simple in terms of content and styling. The only catch is that it has a custom post type. I created the custom post type and fields using the free version o…

I’ve failed at startups, lived on the road, and I still believe I’m successful — I was 19 when I started my first startup. I led a team of 15 people, wanted to change the world. And I failed. At 21, back in 2016, I left home without any money, hoping that traveling would help me …

how do people get their product in stores? and how do they manufacture it from scratch? — I just saw a cnbc money video about a random guy that started selling plain old peanut butter and made million. crazy thing is I recognized the peanut butter brand and it just started showing up all…

ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD? — I wrote this short article about TDD vs BDD because I couldn't find a concise one. It contains code examples in every common dev language. Maybe it helps one of you :-) Here is the repo: https://githu…

Seeking self-closure — To give a brief overview. Had a multi year situationship with someone I had fallen for, a fearful avoidant. Much pulling and pushing until it ended by her pushing everything away. A year later she st…

Feeling bad after dates? — I asked my friends for some advice regarding how to attempt to move my attachment style in a more secure direction, and one of them said that for them, going out on dates really helped them, especiall…

I regressed so much this year — This year has been brutal since the beginning. Every single aspect of my life increased my anxiety. Multiple health issues in the family, some of them still ongoing and very serious, financial concern…

Physical Reaction — I will try to keep the backstory short. I had not known anxious attachment was a thing or that one of my coworkers had become one of only a couple people I really felt a deep connection to, until a f…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

how to deal with an avoidant's freeze response in hard times? — my partner is FA, I've known him for a long time. He has made a lot of effort and has changed for the better. He's the more secure one between the two of us honestly, and he's pretty good at fighting …

The most painful relationship/breakup I've ever had, cracked me open for healing. Plot Twist: The text message llm tool said I was an FA, I ignored it for 5 months before I figured it out. — For five months I was absolutely certain I was dismissive avoidant. Monthly attachment coaching—as a DA. Studied obsessively, could recite every AP/DA/FA trait. I even built this text analysis tool, a…

Master’s degree, big scholarship, and leaving a toxic situation — Background: I was keen to leave my toxic family situation for years but let’s just say it wasn’t happening. I got a good job in my hometown, I found someone I loved who was desperate to marry me, I …

The monster jar theory of FA or avoidant attachment. — So I was talking to a friend of mine and supporting her and my own feelings of shame and I was reiterating somethjng that isn’t anything new at all but hit on an analogy that really worked for both of…

8+ Months of LOB practice ( Update from my 1st post ) — Hi everyone, Some of you may remember me from my last post where I did an update of my situation at 4 months in, practicing LOB. After that post, I decided as was recommended to lower the progress g…

a song about longing for something that never was - disorganized attachment style edition (cathartic release) — Lyrics: I’m standing at a wishing well, One coin trembling in my hand, A promise pressed against my palm, A truth I barely understand. They told me I was unworthy, Long before I learned my name,…

i feel safe with being almost loved | disorganized attachment style anthem | i want love but i'm scared | (cathartic release) — Lyrics: Love, for me, is just a hallway, Soft light, shadows drifting slow. I see a silhouette approaching Then I turn before my heart can get too close. Sometimes I feel a brush of something ten…

A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…

Feeling conflicted, I don't know if I don't love him and I am settling or if I love him and the "cons" are avoidant deactivation? — I 33F have ve been dating this guy 32M for 8 months. He's chased me for years and eventually recently I started to feel attraction back, he figured it out and kissed me. For some months I didn't feel…

Letter to my ex — **7th February 2026** “You will find me, right?” That sentence is the last sentence. The one that always stays with me. Every single day I think about it, and I think that’s why I know what I have t…

I finally realized my fear of closeness is really a fear of being known — I've been working to understand myself better as a DA, in part with the help of Reddit. I now feel the last puzzle pieces fell into place and I finally have a coherent story of why I am the way I am. …

Girlfriend told me she was going to kill herself on my birthday. My attachment was almost healed or so i thought - all of that is in shambles now. — There were a lot of other red flags I have previously chosen to ignore, but this is what made me wake up. I suppose after hiding from people and feelings for so long, I felt like if I just broke it of…

Have your thoughts on shrooms been somewhat like this? — Yesterday I first tried shrooms. I did 15g fresh, which you can expect to be about 1.5g dry ± I've tried acid 2 times before, which were very amazing, intense and long experiences. They theached me a…

Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…

Will I ever not feel so lonely? (Seeking input from older folks on this platform) — I am nearly 47 years old and the emotional neglect I suffered as a kid and still suffer at the hands of my parents, still has such a profound impact on me. I know there are people of all ages in this …

I'm not a gnome, no seriously though — So the r/shrooms sub banned me for a short period of time because of my posts, even though they literally have a flair that says "Meme" it all started with a post about me slowly feeling like becomi…

People who love you, would not treat you this way — When being constantly invalidated and made to feel invisible, and where your opinion or needs don’t matter at all, obviously a part of us is going to start believing that. It can lead to a downward sp…

Coming to terms with possible childhood emotional neglect - curious how others turned out — As I’ve gotten older and started reflecting on my life, I’ve slowly worked backwards and realised that I might have experienced childhood emotional neglect (CEN). What’s funny is that it actually sta…

If You Get to the Center Time Stops; Sun as the Center — During yesterday morning's tarot card reading, I received the message, "if you get to the center of the wheel, time stops." My interpretation was that getting to the center means *perceiving* time as …

Recommend podcasts / videos about healthy male roles and positive masculinity — Early thirties male and I feel my brain needs some intel on being a better male role model. Emphasis on role model. Things I never learned or observed growing up. Can you recommend a podcast host or …

Has anyone else experienced something very feeling strange ever since the election of the current American President?? — Hello everyone. This might be an unusual post to make at this time. However, I am looking forward to see if anyone has experienced anything similar or exactly what I have experienced. Before earlier i…

Am I crazy? I feel like a stalker. — I (26F) don’t understand how my ex (31M) switched on me overnight, and I’m struggling to cope. We dated for almost a year. At first, he was obsessed with me. He talked constantly about our future mar…

How did you get into Stoicism and how long did it take you to live like one? — To those of you that are able to comment, I’d like to know how long did it take you to feel like you’re living the life of a Stoic (as much as you can in these times)? And by that I mean, on the insi…

I (28F) had an affair and don’t know what I’m doing. Please help. — I’ve been with my husband for 8 years, married for 2. He is genuinely the best person I know. Kind, safe, loyal. He’s my best friend. When I cry, he’s who I want holding me. When something funny happe…

I (28F) am tired of constantly having to ask or tell my partner (28F) how to love/care for me. Do I just move on? — I’ll start off by saying, I completely understand we have to communicate with others on the ways we want to be loved and cared for. This isn’t that anymore. My gf and I have been together for a littl…

DO NOT GIVE UP — DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!! I have so much to say. But ima try to keep it short ish. I just wanted to make a quick post about my journey. I’ve been “manifesting” for five years. I actually have not. Those f…

read this if you are confused — Yes I have shifted, here is the mindset that brought me to this point. If this does not resonate with you move on. For those who follow the Law of Assumption, non duality etc I intend this will make …

Does anyone else feel like this fixation on "trauma dumping" stinks of toxic positivity? — It literally feels like the onus is on people with really challenging life experiences, to hold that all inside and only talk about good things, for fear of burdening people who have objectively bette…

First Acid Trip (2 tabs) — This happened like a month ago and sorry if it comes off corny: At first, I was just lying in my bed, nervous. My roommate wasn’t back yet, and the walls slowly started to breathe and layer with col…

i managed to do astral projection after 2to 3 months , i usually go to the gym alot and sleep alot , i would use an alarm for my second sleep where i stay still and let my body go , i will breath in …

a) law of assumption, not law of belief. And where did you get the other descriptions from? I've been on Neville sub for a while, literally noone describes the law in those words or speak in a spiritu…

I had a really concerning dream just now and fear of my boyfriend didn't wake me up something bad was going to happen to me.. It started off in a house I've never seen before the kitchen was upstairs…

Yeah, this is not true and not really good advice. In fact, it’s mental bullshit that feeds the ego of a person. People are bitter and want their ex to feel bad and regretful because it makes them fee…

Cryptographer went into No Contact on ya after your question. And it's eating us up inside!

You are right. Saying they left because of our flaws isn’t completely right, they left too because of their flaws. The most important thing is to recognize our own flaws for the purpose of self-accept…

Yeah, it's fucking hard. I don't think I'll ever get closure because she's never been the sort of person to really make an effort to give that to me. I obviously can't be inside her head and speak for…

PLEASE READ IF YOUR LOOKING INTO ASTRAL PROJECTING. About 2 months ago I was looking extremely deep into astral projecting, once I seen what it was I was instantly drawn to it and thought it was inter…

Exactly, for example for someone who wants a partner, the more you program, the more you will feel it real for yourself, your confidence will jump. And if you are a dude seeing a hot girl staring at y…

Love these arguments. Point 1: There is a difference between hypnosis (true authentic feelings of experience of here and now of the desired outcome) and daydreaming. When you give your mind and your…

I cannot lucid dream on purpose yet, but if i dream specific dreams(Like me driving) I can realise that im dreaming. Then I say to my self, you re dreaming, great im now going to control this dream. T…

Love the question!! You don’t need a relationship to grow, that’s the beauty of it (you can but it will be slower, depending on what kind of partner you end up with) You could try to explore being mo…

I think your question is valid. You showed vulnerability by posting it here. I’m sorry so many adults in this sub choose to use their inside voice when responding. I think it would be different if we …

As a man who has been on both sides of the coin… bear with me cause this is a long read but it has relevance I promise.  I’ve been the anxious wreck begging and pleading. Saying stuff like “you don’t…

Yeah, you might want to learn more about the attachment styles before commenting. FA and Disorganized or Anxious Avoidant are the same. The mix up of names are ok bc it's literally how we are on the i…

K8s can manage containers inside a VM or as containers on the host OS. "Iron" and "bare metal" usually mean running k8s on the host OS on a cluster of physical servers.

Maybe set up a lab and start studying the stuff you don't know well. That's my best suggestion because it's what works for me. I spend a lot of time inside and outside of work hours studying, both han…

$300k, $600k, or 10m doesn't really matter. Each successful person finds some sort of opportunity and pursues it. Then they create a system that helps them pursue it because you can't do it by yours…

There’s a No Doubt song called Open the Gate that I recently realized must be about a DA too: “I see you from a distance From beyond the fence you’ve made Hiding all your feelings Behind your barrica…

Never said being anxious was better lol. And it's not about what happened to you or to what degree you suffered. The trauma isn't what someone did to you or some circumstance you experienced the tra…

The first question is, why does the drugs trigger you? What are you imagining or feeling when they talk about it. Logically, it's just part of their past. If it was something that could happen again o…

I can see why she didnt accept to seek therapy. In their mind its like we are exaggerating and everything is fine and anything having to do with psychology is actually bullshit (but obviously because …

Hey I just wanted to say thanks for sharing your story and Im so very sorry for what happened to you 💔 Know that your little angel is having fun somewhere without experiencing the harshness of this w…

>The no contact has been brutal. As if none of it meant anything. Especially when all you hear is so much “if they wanted to they would” and “they always come back” rhetoric. For me it was confusing a…

How do you know that the love you have to someone isn’t “free”. Is it any different then to simply differate between “i do love someone” or “i dontove that person” inside you? Just the expressing it i…

In case this isn't clear already, Go To Therapy! Yes it's hard to find a good one, yes you have to pay, yes it takes time.... But avoiding therapy and trying to do it all inside your own head on your …

Thanks qgain for such in-deep advices, I really appreciate that. No, I don't know for a fact that she's a DA, that's just my conclusion from reading different online resources (includong this sub). Th…

Well initially I thought that about this 6-7-ish mark we'll make it official. However closer to those timestamps she began to feel overwhelmed with each week (she's autistic, was finishing her bachelo…

My point is that it’s entirely dependent on the avoidant to be willing to do the work. If they’re not ready, it doesn’t matter how “safe” the other person is. The most secure, safe person will trigger…

Im an FA but with friends mostly DA. I think that she reached out when you were sick was a good sign and offered momentum that you didn’t recognise, you talked 10 days ago or so, maybe it feels like a…

Okay, this is long and it might sound harsh, but I relate to a lot of what you're going through and acted much in the same way as you did, and I've gone from anxiously attached within a friendship to …

That's probably the hardest thing, still keeping the love for the person due to all the goodness inside of them, but not needing them in your life and being able to do this from a distance. Especially…

Sorry to hear of this situation. I can only imagine how frustrating it was or still is to you. I can't speak on behalf of this person, but from my own recent experience, Im only now coming into expl…

Yes. I’m disorganized attachment, and I think I’m broken. I show affection one second. But then I get scared because I think I’m being too clingy. Sometimes I read posts here about how others have f…

The fact that she brought it up so early, to me, is a green flag. Those who have been repeatedly hurt by FAs would say it’s a green flag in a sea of red, but IMO to be able to openly have discussions …

Why would an avoidant push me away, but then orbit me for almost 2 years — even while committed to someone else? I feel ashamed for being stuck on this.. I (32F) had a short but intense connection wi…

She's already breaking up with herself, bro. If you want to spend your time waiting for her to pull the rug out from under you for some insecurity that's inside her head, by all means, continue. And…

Oh, we're talking about the sex part now? I thought we were talking just about leading the relationship in general 😁 In sex though, I don't think im motivated exactly by bounding them so they can't r…

I don't grieve after breakups. Like, at all. If not for my AA ex I would think Im a psychopath or something, because my love can be shouted dead with just a few words like that. It's like an unforgiva…

I've been on the other end of this.. the push and pull was exactly my ex-girlfriend.. thank you for explaining your side. It's like you're speaking for her. She will never admit any of that in the day…

This is an interesting question, and if I understood you correctly you are asking if my subconcious belief/faith has risen? Well I have to preface this reply with one nuance. I discovered manifestin…

Yes I've been analyzing what I could've been doing wrong for the past few days even before making this post. The way I approached it is we have 2 CM methods (PSP & Affirmations) & 1 SM method (SH). …

Same. It consumes me and is eating me alive from the inside. I can't take it anymore. I feel like my only option is to end things with my BF. It's not fair to either of us. 

No. No. No. It's not about you being "worthy enough." It's about people's preferences, their own emotional issues that makes them choose someone, and a host of other reasons. I learned through my Avoi…

It's likely to be a mixture of codependency, enmeshment and anxious attachment. The good news is there's lots of resources online, Sabrina Zohar and Heidi Priebe are very good on YouTube. The Codep…

That’s the thing are we certain that he was like that before she got married? If he is saying people are a reflection of us, of what we believe, and what we feel inside and what we attract then wouldn…

So I (38M)'ve just been dumped again by someone who picked up on my attachment anxiety, and I'm extremely frustrated because I'm pretty far along my healing journey, but not finished yet obviously, an…

It’s possible that this is a compatibility problem. But you are also personalizing his extroversion as if it has something to do with you. Like you are not good enough and that is why he gives other p…

Being a man has nothing to do with any of this. Subscribing to toxic masculinity ideals will only do more harm to you. Odds are you are experiencing limerence which is not uncommon with anxious atta…

If you are healing from a previous toxic relationship, I’m guessing that whatever happened triggered something that the past and that is what you are feeling. You need to take the time to soothe yours…