intentions

Do you set "intentions"? — People often recommend going in with intentions/purposes for what you'd like to explore. I usually don't have expectations, my usual intent is to not go so hard as to make it completely unenjoyable.…

Can Manifestation Really Help You Get Full Marks in an Exam If You Only Wrote Part of the Answer? — Hey everyone, I have a question that might sound a bit out there, but I’m curious to hear if anyone has had a similar experience. I recently took an exam where I only managed to write answers for ab…

FAQs about r/AnxietyHelp — Hi guys, One of the mods here suggested creating a FAQ page for our subreddit to help eliminate confusion. **Why was my post removed automatically?** It wasn't! It has been sent to our mod queue fo…

For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? — For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? I began therapy 4 months into our situationship because of how strong he came on,…

Weekly Newcomer Questions, Support, Vents & Victories — As the community continues to grow and attract people who are just figuring this all out, we've decided to change the weekly thread focus to be more open and encourage newcomer questions and support. …

Here's to an emotionally secure 2026! 🥳🎈🎉😎 (open thread) — Happy New Year everybody! Open thread to share your small or large intentions and steps for making 2026 a more emotionally secure year 😊 My commitment: I'm going to ask for help. I'm going to as…

A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…

How to Meditate (or at least one way to get started) — Intro: There are endless amount of intentions or, in other words, ways to focus your meditation practice. At the end of the day, your meditation practice is \*yours\*, so make it your own. This post …

Has anyone else experienced something very feeling strange ever since the election of the current American President?? — Hello everyone. This might be an unusual post to make at this time. However, I am looking forward to see if anyone has experienced anything similar or exactly what I have experienced. Before earlier i…

How do you ensure that you're doing things with intentions and not expectations ? — I'm struggling to manage expectations from my actions. Not necessarily expectations for third party validation, but for my own.

Please share your CE5 experiences! — Hi guys, I'd like to hear some of your experiences where you initiated contact and how long it took you before it worked and so on. I've had some weird experiences in life but none of them so direct …

Knowing the exact time when waking up - psychic or circadian? — Recently again I keep waking up at VERY different times every single day (anywhere from the range of 7am to 11am - UPDATE: actually 3-11am as covered later in the post) and as I'm laying there in tha…

My husband [M31] let slip in a compliment that he thinks his ex was prettier than me [F28] and I can't stop thinking about it. How do I let it go? — EDIT: I have made an update to this post for everyone, see here: [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/1rwh3g2/update\_my\_husband\_m31\_let\_slip\_in\_a\_compliment/](https://www.r…

Just had a major revelation when it comes to APing/Lucid dreaming — For a little context, I've always had to achieve a lucid dream and then push into an astral projection as a ways to astral project. In my life I've only AP'd about 30 times, and they've all been relat…

THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…

I want to send this text so bad — Hey. I know you probably don’t want to hear from me. I’m sorry for sending this text but I just need to. I haven’t been in the best head space for the last month. I feel like I won’t ever hear from yo…

How can I build a personal life that doesn’t depend on other people? — Hi Reddit!! I really need an outside perspective on my situation, because I feel like I’m completely lost in where I’m going and what I actually want from my life… Maybe people who have learned to man…

Permashifting with total amnesia: Does a Safe Word even work? — I am planning to do a permashift with total CR amnesia. I want to completely forget my current life and stay in my DR forever, but I’m struggling with the logic and safety of this. If I have no memory…

My (21F) girlfriend had a complete meltdown when I (23M) tried to use her phone — Last night my girlfriend of two years and I were just chilling after about 4 days of not seeing each other while I had a close friend visiting. Initially, I asked to use her iPad (which I bought for C…

I manifest through Frequency Training Daily! — Frequency is the composite of your Identity, Beliefs and Intentions. When you train these 3 things daily: Your subconscious beliefs change and then because your beliefs changed, you feel differen…

Hot take on Daniel Love — (quoting will NOT be accurate, only rough from my memory). I am not structuring this as a super hateful post, not SUPER hateful, and I wouldnt try to say hateful, so bare with me here. I dont like Da…

Does anyone know about destiny swapping, star stealing, stealing the glory of people? — One day last year, I was having some horrible traumatic thoughts about my close family member of mine mocking me and making me feel as if I was a failure. It got overwhelming and then I started to fee…

Ex came back with lustful intentions and its so humiliating — i really need some support pls. I was in my first relationship in 2024. He was my first love i was intensely attached to him and i was a mess when he left. he admitted that he never fell in love with…

Why does it feel like "kind people" suffer the most while "toxic people" thrive? — I’ve been reflecting on a very painful pattern lately and I wanted to hear your thoughts.​It seems like people who are genuinely kind, who mean no harm and just want to live in peace, are often the on…

no napping and no sleeping in rule — I don't know why, but growing up my step dad (filipino) would get upset if my siblings and I slept in during weekends or breaks from school. We were always expected to get up at 6 am, every morning, n…

Writing about my experience with Iboga medicine 🌱 — Earlier I made a post and someone commented that they didn't want to watch a video. Understood! Here is an account of what I saw during my time with ceremony number one with iboga. It was not what I i…

Was anyone else chronically misunderstood as a child? — I know that a lot of teenagers go through a phase when they feel misunderstood, but honestly, a lot of them are right. Between the ages of 14 and 17, my parents would treat me like I was the devil r…

I (29F) slept with new guy (34M) for the first time and felt he was rude to me. Was he? — Dating a new guy for a month, he was a gentleman and very kind towards me. He very recently just told me how much he liked me and that I’m “pretty but most of all I’m a kind person with a good heart, …

ive been meditating and spending lots of time in forest alone. i feel drained around most ppl. i feel dizzy, a bit heavy and not in this world after a date. is it normal? is this my problem or others? all i know is : i don't feel as peaceful around people as i am in forest. am i meant to be alone?? — ive been sensitive, super sensitive my whole life. i used to be affected by environment a lot. like metro makes me feel chaotic. forest makes me feel extremely peaceful. and bad-energy ppl gives me he…

am i meant to be alone? ive been meditating and spending time in forest alone where i feel so calm. but i feel drained around most ppl. i feel dizzy and a bit heavy after a date. is it normal? is this my problem or others? all i know is i don't feel as peaceful around people as i am in forest. — ive been sensitive, super sensitive my whole life. i used to be affected by environment a lot. like metro makes me feel chaotic. forest makes me feel extremely peaceful. and bad-energy ppl gives me he…

You Cannot Achieve Success by Slapping Positive Thoughts on Top of a Lifetime of Empty Expectations... — Here’s the truth most “experts” won’t tell you: Thinking positive, setting intentions, and believing the universe will deliver? **Not enough.** Manifestation only works when **you’re truly aligned**…

Do spending habits reflect real priorities more than intentions? — It seems like what people say they value and what their spending reflects can sometimes be very different. Curious how others view this—do financial patterns reveal more than intentions? \#manifesta…

Emotional Attachment issues — Me (20F) and this guy I was seeing (20M) ended things a few days ago after 3 weeks of talking. I honestly thought things were going great and he was a very nice guy. However, we didn’t go to the same …

Just trying to gain closure on my own... — This is something I wrote in my journal, trying to process emotions and gain closure. Lori, Since you would not give me the opportunity for closure, I'm going to do what I can to get it here. This…

I (29F) found out he (30M) had a girlfriend of 3+ years after dating for 4 months and he FAINTED TWICE — I met this guy through a mutual friend. He had his eye on me for a while via social media and asked my friend about me. My friend then showed me pics of him and I said he’s cute. He would do this thin…

Musical communication — One day, I needed to communicate my feelings to a girl I liked on Facebook. Since chatting was no longer an option, I decided to do it on my own page using songs and videos. After a few songs, I star…

Just broke up with partner because we were becoming codependent — Hello, I (26F) broke up with my girlfriend (25F) earlier this week. I’m really struggling because I did really care for her and we cared about each other, but ultimately, I could see our relationship …

What should I do? — Hi, I’m Courtney. I am currently seeking some guidance on the most effective way to approach multiple manifestations at once. My current focus is on securing immediate needs like food for tomorrow, a…

Letter to Self before Meeting her — Figured it helped a few on other subs so I would add here. I've also been told to warn it may be a trigger to some. Hey dumbass, I don’t really know how to start this without it feeling unreal, beca…

I don’t know what I’m doing with my life — just ended a 2 year relationship with someone 8k miles away and kinda started things with a doctor in the same healthcare practice I work for. We had our first date last night which mostly was spent …

As a man I failed, I guess I just wasn’t ready or understood what a “committed relationship” actually meant — I understand now I shouldn’t interact with people I used to be acquaintances with before the relationship I get into, people I once talked to in a none romantic intent. 8 months ago I (24M now 25) got…

dumped by bf — I’m (22F) processing three traumatic relationships. First, an 8-year friendship turned 1.5-year situationship left me feeling so so unlovable, ugly and rejected after he became distant and was breadcr…

HELP ME UNDERSTAND — Hi everyone, I've been reading a lot about the subject and i'm also in therapy since 3 months. I'm already non in the relationship with this woman but i sort of need to make clarity and hear other…

All these thoughts. What do you even do with them? — I didn’t realize how this was going to change so much for me. Internally. The not trusting of others. The constant questioning others intentions. The fear of being left behind. Fearing who and what yo…

The universe just gave me cash! — I have heard of this happening but this was a first for me. Today, I was in line at my bodega picking up a few items for dinner when a gentleman who was at the register turn to me and the older lady i…

On incubi and sexual possessions — It’s been five years since I first began sensing invisible entities around me. I underwent psychiatric treatment throughout all that time, and my life eventually stabilized. I finally got a good job a…

How to manifest that’s practical and simple. — You do not need to try to manifest. You are already doing it!! You are manifesting all of the time! The key difference is whether you are being intentionally with it. We create our results through o…

Weekly Newcomer Questions, Support, Vents & Victories — As the community continues to grow and attract people who are just figuring this all out, we've decided to change the weekly thread focus to be more open and encourage newcomer questions and support. …

insane ADHD hacks that have worked for me (original) — guys I’ve done it all!! I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 15 and noticed it in my inability to focus in classrooms but I could always get stuff done (medicated) at home. However, when I got to coll…

Why is healing from a discard taking longer than the relationship itself? It was only 2 months — I'm 3 months out from a discard with a suspected covert narcissist, but we only dated for 2 months. Is it normal for it to take longer to get over the discard than the time we dated? It feels kind of …

So my long story short.. yes I reached out after almost a year and not with any love or dating intentions. We started to reconnect and things started to happen for us again. We’ve been back to togethe…

I let my intentions be known. I tell the im dating with the intention of finding a GF. If I do not hear from them for a week or they dont text back for days I set the boundary that if this continues…

“Would you be ok if we slow our cadence down a bit? I like to have some time between our dates and texting interactions, so I can settle into my feelings and intentions.” Or something like that… If t…

I think your question is valid. You showed vulnerability by posting it here. I’m sorry so many adults in this sub choose to use their inside voice when responding. I think it would be different if we …

i can second this. my girlfriend is FA and doing well on recognizing it and NOT being so FA but there are times when she becomes disconnected and i feel like a friend to her. at times i don’t handle…

You will find the answer here - Moonlight Mailed Me ! : The No1 reason why people fail with their alpha programming. *Hi Everybody, I am one of moonlight's new cubs and his best for sure. I have a …

An entrepreneur is not just someone that’s wants to do their own thing eventually. Neither is the entrepreneurial spirit good intentions, a desire to break the chains, or a desire to own your own thin…

I like this idea. It seems to help both the anxious leaning and the avoidant just check in for the day rather than the avoidant expecting to have to check in continuously, or the anxious person waitin…

I have just learned about attachment Theory and believe my partner is avoidant( not sure if da or fa as still a bit confusing to me) I felt like my avoidant partner was putting me through test. At the…

Omg!1!! How dare u. I've been thru so much and now this. Is it really so bad to want to know why My DA hurt me so much despite me being literally an angel who is innocent as a newborn baby with inten…

That's so funny, I actually wrote "I envy that level of delulu" and changed it to confidence. >It's funny that you mention confidence because that's what this person said. That DAs don't have the con…

I’d rather just be honest with my intentions and build from there. Being fake with people doesn't work out well in the long run.

Dates are different though, because it’s normal to state your intentions on a first date. Op simply ran into her at a party, and that was the second time they had met. Even my DA bf and I spoke about…

I'm proud of you, don't get me wrong, but I don't think this is a secure person. If she was, she'd have been honest in her intentions the first time around, tried to actually date you later on, not al…

On our date I was getting the vibe she was nervous around me and our goals seemed to line up. Also not really threatened by the friend. It seemed like he has poor Soical skill I was more worried abou…

Yes, I myself was thinking about the last part that you said - I too tend see it as she needs it more like an "illusion of freedom" rather than she has some serious intentions

She sounds very immature and as they say you are the median of the people you surround yourself with I'd say upgrade to some more reliable people. You handled this very maturely. Calling someone heads…

Trust me I wish it was that simple. I have no intentions on hurting the girl I'm dating. We practice open and honest communication. If I pass the point of no return I'll tell her. Its also possible …

Congratulations! That is a lot of work you have put in and you’ve come so far! You should be very proud of yourself that your conscience and your ‘side of the street’ is clean, you had honest intenti…

This is so much like what I have been experiencing. He could say exactly what the problems were, exactly what he should be doing, started therapy, but there just wasn’t follow through ! And accounta…

Ugh so much this too. He always justified intentions and could never hold or truly understand the impact He could say the words “action matters. Impact is what matters in the end. I am going to show…

I don’t think you’re understanding my intentions here. I made this topic and did not mention psychiatry at all. Some other redditor decided to comb through my post history on other subs (which seems c…

I'm an FA and I agree with my friend here. You kind of can't. It would be a little codependent of you to try to navigate it for her. All you can do is be consistent in your behavior according to your …

Why would an avoidant push me away, but then orbit me for almost 2 years — even while committed to someone else? I feel ashamed for being stuck on this.. I (32F) had a short but intense connection wi…

Yes, a couple of times and I regretted them all deeply. The best thing I found is understanding where and how anxious attachment is wired into our brain from childhood experiences to maintaining conne…

I'm not exactly sure what my attachment style is, but in my last breakup, I definitely presented in a somewhat anxious way during that time. I'm at nearly 7 weeks of no contact. In the past, the longe…

I agree! I definitely should take some lessons, but i'm still angry i was even put in this position. I I feel like as soon as she told me, the light left my eyes for her. I asked for space at the tim…

For me it was essentially a ptsd flashback and they “were” the person hurting me if this was taking place. Like I was trying to control the damage that I believed (rationally or not) was coming. So a …

Wow I am sorry. I have felt similarly before and it is such a terrible thing to experience. There was a time, even, where I was paranoid that I was NPD (despite being, if anything, the complete opposi…

I would start pulling away because I feel unloved and unsure about their intentions (just because of small careless actions). They reassured for the first few times but as I keep finding reasons to fe…

It isn't an avoidant attachment system. It's how the anxious attachment system functions. This is how the avoidant attachment system functions: >The Type A pattern in adulthood refers to both dismis…

> I think this is an anxious trait so I want to know if this also happens to you? Why am I reacting like this? Is it justified or is it my insecurity talking? How do you communicate, instead of pullin…

You wanted to see him; he didn't make plans. You didn't like that. It's generally a given that if you're in any kind of relationship with someone, they want to make time for you because they equally s…

This is the answer. “Boring” = secure There’s nothing to guess or ruminate about. They show up for you, every time. Reassure you, make themselves physically and emotionally available. And that’s wha…

More often than not, my partner is understanding of my anxious attachment behaviour (i.e., When I act out on impulses and blow up the situations). But I still doubt his intentions because he is able t…

Maybe the old adage “actions speak louder than words” applies here. Often times, you may be sending words (texts) to illicit actions. But those, if they come at all, will only be your the effect of yo…

Hello everyone, I really need relationship advice because I’m getting lost in what is right and what is wrong. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now. We started our relationship…

Text of original post by u/TheOceanTheSun: Happy New Year everybody! Open thread to share your small or large intentions and steps for making 2026 a more emotionally secure year 😊 My commitment: I…

I’m a fearful avoidant and this guy doesn’t really sound avoidant, not sure what his intentions are. I’m a woman. I usually am in my perfect love bubble for about a month or so and at that point there…

I think her perspective on 'if they like you, you will know' is a bit of a reach. When someone attaches to another person is highly subjective. I don't agree with her perspective on anxious = fear of…

Sure, all this information is accessible to anyone that wants to read Dr. Crittenden's work on the Dynamic Maturational Model of Attachment. Type A attachment defined my the DMM: >The Type A pattern…

>Anxious attachment is defined by hyperactivation and pursuit of reciprocity, not avoidance of partners’ needs or intolerance of negative affect. Those patterns are more consistent with fearful-avoida…

Ugh that's so gross of them, I'm sorry you experienced that. It really is a twisted way to approach relationships, and we're not saying avoidant attachment is harmless or above reproach but anxious at…

Haha, is it bad to double down? XD Well, I guess there are many ways to see this, but I see the potential she has and no, im not loving her potential only, I love her in the present. Despite everythin…

You're reading a lot into his actions. It's not fair or kind to make assumptions about other people's intentions. If you feel confused or think there has been a miscommunication, you should ask them -…

You’re right, I set out with “just fun” intentions & here I am wanting more. I felt myself getting sucked in. Turns out it’s an intermittent reinforcement type loop that tricks your brain. I have a pl…

I feel you. I can get really fixated on reading into people's actions and trying to figure out if I'm being disrespected. But it's better to just sit back and gather information and ask curious questi…

Those people are delusional, you’re right. And even if you’re not, there’s significantly more at risk if you don’t listen to her, vs listening to her. You wouldn’t enjoy dating someone that feels the …

Touch how? I’ve totally touched people on the arm during a conversation before when I had no flirting intentions (I just got excited at what they said and it was like an exclamation point lol). To…

Speaking from my own perspective, I'm a believer in clear intentions. If you and I are dating and you want progress, we talk progress/consent. I personally think a lot of dudes like to talk the ideas …