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I wrote a very extensive message to someone I had just met. We were in a situation where you bond quickly. I stupidly, after a few days of feeling "connected" to him, decided to type up my feelings an…
Thoughts on an image sharing tool with link permissions? (i will not promote) — **Looking for feedback: Tool for sharing images securely with permissioned domains (like DocSend, but mainly for images)** Hey r/startups, I’m working on validating an idea and would love your thoug…
Startup Valley Tech events (I will not promote) — New to SF and looking to get connected with other startup founders and angel investors. Came across a few Startup Valley events via Eventbrite. Are these worth paying for? Can we network or is it just…
Marketplace Connect changed 12000 Amazon inventory items to 0 ! Has this happened to anyone? I can't get help uploading a product list I downloaded. — What a nightmare! This experience has been devastating! The software is supposed to be safe... how on earth does it change all my inventory to 0 and no one is willing to help me fix it?? I have gone a…
A customers perspective of those horrible cart conversion emails — Usually a website does a poor job of informing me what shipping will be. I must add items to a cart and hit checkout and type in an address to see what shipping would be. However, this process results…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
New Tool For Creators? — *This isn’t a promotion or a sales post — I’m just looking for honest feedback on my idea* Hey everyone! I’m offering a first-of-its-kind privacy service for influencers and content creators. I creat…
Setup 1099-K Forms for Sellers on Stripe Connect? — Hello! I’ll try to make this short. I need to find an article/guide on how to generate 1099-K forms for sellers on my online marketplace. I have seen one or two guides on Stripe, BUT those documents…
Website Traffic Analytics Show No Activity Suddenly — Hello Guys. Hoping you can shed some light as to why we are facing a situation. When I click on Rank Math Analytics for the last 30 days it shows zero activity across the board. There is activity up…
To-do lists in text form don’t fit our way of thinking, they are slow and unproductive. To-Do Models is the way to go. — I’ve found Projects modeled visually instead of written in flat lists to be wayy more productive and successful. Traditional to-do lists are linear—one-dimensional. You follow a fixed path: top to bot…
Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…
Think I found a secure woman, and almost immediately self-sabotaged. — In my social club, there’s a woman who had consistently shown signs that she was into me. I was direct and asked her out. She said she was interested but couldn’t date for a few months because her j…
If I could just stop deactivating!! (FA) — Follow up from some of my previous posts. I’m deactivating again. I think? Or maybe lost feelings for my partner and I’m just lying to myself and not wanting to let go. The thought of that makes me cr…
A little positive reflection for anyone feeling they’re in the trenches right now. — I only learnt what attachment theory was during a breakup with my most recent ex 2 years ago. When he dumped me seemingly out of the blue because ‘I deserved better’, ‘he needed to be alone.’ Etc etc …
This is what happens when your FA ex comes back — This is my personal experience for those who are curious. Of course everyone will be different but I thought it might help those who are waiting or wishing (APs I'm talking mostly to you) Firstly the…
I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …
Help me understand-anxious now ex bf + part avoidant ex gf — My anxious ex and I met in ‘22. Online I was a full dismissive avoidant I began to work on myself in October’23. Since October ‘23,I have been a dismissive avoidant in recovery Recently,I have …
The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…
I regressed so much this year — This year has been brutal since the beginning. Every single aspect of my life increased my anxiety. Multiple health issues in the family, some of them still ongoing and very serious, financial concern…
How to fully be present in my dating break (build momentum at the start)? — You'd think taking a break would be straight forward, but I feel like it's more challenge for us anxious attachment/pure-O OCD types who struggle with rumination or feelings of inadequacy about their …
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
Does this have to do with my attachment style or is it normal? — I used to score as anxiously attached when I was in my last relationship. I feel like I still have some anxious tendencies in my relationship now but I also sometimes feel avoidant and for the most pa…
Need advice: Is it possible to be anxious anxiously attached to a specific person? — Good evening everyone! I am 25 M Recently, things ended pretty badly with this woman I was close to with. She was aware I had feelings for her, and well would flirt back sometimes. I was and still am…
The most painful relationship/breakup I've ever had, cracked me open for healing. Plot Twist: The text message llm tool said I was an FA, I ignored it for 5 months before I figured it out. — For five months I was absolutely certain I was dismissive avoidant. Monthly attachment coaching—as a DA. Studied obsessively, could recite every AP/DA/FA trait. I even built this text analysis tool, a…
How do you know what’s secure and what’s not in a partner? — So I am anxiously attached, I’ve done a ton of work and I think I present as fairly secure now (?) but when I’m triggered it’s a mess in my brain. My question for the anxiously attached and those who …
Today marks 6 months since we last saw and spoke to each other — As the person on the receiving end of testing behaviors, ghosting, and a discard, I would love to hear that my former flame is doing well or even an apology. We have known each other for almost…
Signs.. but am I interested now? — I stay in india and sp stays in canada and been struggling to get him back for a while and then slowly started losing interest.. turned towards myself.. on new-year eve I did some powerful affirmation…
A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…
A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…
A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…
Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…
Anyone have the experiance of anxious attatchment killing you as a person — I never see anyone talking about this and im wondering if its normal. Ever since i got in my relationship 2 years ago, i cant seem to find any passion within myself. The passion for my intrests and ho…
Healing practices — ​ I wanted to kick off a thread to share some daily healing practices that I do on and off. Please share yours as well. I'll share mine as a comment thread, starting with one here: # Nigh…
Women keep telling me I need to date younger and now my daughter has too. — I (39m) look young for my age and have been dating for the last 4 years. I have mostly dated women in their 30s and about half of them have told me to date someone younger after things didn’t work bet…
March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…
Jupiter in Aquarius and the impersonal nature of this placement — This is one placement I genuinely struggle to fully understand. Jupiter, as a principle, feels conceptually misaligned with Aquarius and its traits. The expansive, benefic, growth oriented nature of J…
My girlfriend [20F] has scrubbed all photos of me [21M] from her social media and her room. How do I handle her explanation? — My girlfriend and I have been getting into quite a few "back and forth" fights over the past month, and it feels like nothing is changing. Recently, she started removing photos of me from her Instagra…
How Self Acceptance Changed My Lucid Dreams/Dreams! 14 Years Of Lucid Dreaming — Ok, for over 30+years I didn't accept myself and just recently after tons of consoling did. It was a major breakthrough for me. My dreams completely changed. I been a lucid dreamer for 14 years! My dr…
Have your thoughts on shrooms been somewhat like this? — Yesterday I first tried shrooms. I did 15g fresh, which you can expect to be about 1.5g dry ± I've tried acid 2 times before, which were very amazing, intense and long experiences. They theached me a…
Will I ever not feel so lonely? (Seeking input from older folks on this platform) — I am nearly 47 years old and the emotional neglect I suffered as a kid and still suffer at the hands of my parents, still has such a profound impact on me. I know there are people of all ages in this …
Experiences With Cosmic Entities. — Hello everyone! This post will be a little bit different, as i wish to dive into odd encounters that i had with different beings, that surprisingly helped me out a *lot* - more than i could have possi…
I doubted and spiraled for weeks. It happened anyway. — I manifested something exactly as I had imagined it. The strange part is that before it happened, I spent weeks convinced I had ruined it. I was manifesting spending a specific holiday with someone. …
Unexpected emotional shift after Adventure - Five Messages. Has anyone experienced something similar? — Hi everyone, I wanted to share something that happened recently and see if anyone here has had a similar experience. For some context, I recently went through the end of a **10 year relationship**. …
I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath — Hi everyone, please I need help. I’m 35F and my husband is 36M. We’ve been married for 10 years and have two boys (7 and 5). I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. About three months ago my hus…
My (29F) brother (34M) asked me if he ‘still has a sister’ because I’m not excited enough about his baby. How do I fix this? — My (29F) brother (34M) and his girlfriend (31F) are expecting a baby in May. I’m happy for them because I know they really wanted a kid, but I don’t feel particularly excited about becoming an aunt. W…
My (26/M) Girlfriend (26/F) Of 6.5 Years Emotionally Cheated and I Don’t Know What To Do — My (26/M) girlfriend (26/F) and I met our first year of college and started dating shortly after. We went through Covid together, graduated together, and started living together about 2 years ago. We…
I miss him. — Logically I know my ex is a POS and clearly mentally ill but I’ve been missing him lately. Usually I’m pretty good at not obsessing over the “good times” but lately I can’t stop thinking about him and…
For Those Struggling With REBAL Build — [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mhyR\_YzKMe0&list=LL&index=104](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mhyR_YzKMe0&list=LL&index=104) Hey all! I wanted to share a meditation I use to form my REBAL. I thoug…
Every time I post on social media, I feel less and less like there’s space for me on the Internet. — I grew up on social media, beginning on Xanga and MySpace at 10 years old. Then, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, TikTok, as I grew up and entered adulthood. I’ve always over shared my life on the Inter…
No contact year 6 update: — Hello everyone! I’ve made some update posts in the past and figured I would make one for year 6 as that anniversary is coming up soon, and with context it will make sense why I still specifically reme…
You are honestly the smartest guy on this sub. This sub is sort of populated by people that still live off of ego and still have not connected with the Universe. They believe that we are only respons…
No, it is not. People talk a lot of nonsense. The only demons people get possessed by are by their own egotistical psychology or some other fantasy 👍 I'll also paste an answer I gave to someone a whi…
Thank you all. I am new here and hope to learn as much as i can Edit: I’d like to add how i ended up here. Just the other day i was in a state a where i nearly achieved what i believe could of been m…
Just a few questions here - I'm new to lucid dreaming. I garden quite a bit, so I can grow Artemisia douglasiana and a few other helpful herbs and make a poultice or something. I usually don't rem…
I guarantee you that dreaming and precognitive or prophetic abilities are connected. I knew how long it would take for Kurt Cobain to die and even that it would be specifically him when I was 7 and 1/…
Be mindful of what you put out bc you could be missing an opportunity to learn more about yourself and what you are connected to . I’ve found that even when dealing with personal demons or dark presen…
I tried looking at your chart but it didn’t pop up for some reason I felt like I connected to some of it was hoping to check it out but it gave a message sort of suggesting it had “expired”
Reddit has been very clear that commercial apps like Apollo, RIF, etc will not be whitelisted on accessibility grounds. Seems like you’re the one not telling the whole story > “We’ve connected with …
I'm a little new to this, but do any of the books above contain info on the chakra system? I'm looking for something that gives more than a introductory to them and explains how they are interconnecte…
I discovered that both statements work equally, it probably depends on how accustomed we are to the statement I think. Specifically how well we experience the meaning of the words we use. If we can us…
Thanks for all of the above. I can relate in that I may on occasion turn inward a bit when I’m super tapped out socially or like physically don’t have the reserves left, but I socially exhaust a lot l…
So pardon the length (I haven't told anyone yet) and thank you for reading. I might have a crush on a good friend ("Steve") who I've reconnected with after a few years of not hanging out. We didn't …
I cut some of mine off, for awhile, in order to set boundaries and emotionally detach and break the self-sacrificing anxious attachment enmeshment. I have since reconnected in a healthier boundaried …
We were always hanging out it just wasn’t in person. We kept in contact so much and stole little phone calls whenever we could. I actually think we spent more time connected than I did with any boyfri…
As a man who has been on both sides of the coin… bear with me cause this is a long read but it has relevance I promise. I’ve been the anxious wreck begging and pleading. Saying stuff like “you don’t…
i can second this. my girlfriend is FA and doing well on recognizing it and NOT being so FA but there are times when she becomes disconnected and i feel like a friend to her. at times i don’t handle…
I had something kinda similar happen recently, and I totally understand why you're hurt over it! I can't even imagine that situation, honestly. Mine was different (and still is) because we met online …
For me, it’s been about building a personal brand and a company brand as two distinct things. They’re obviously connected with shared values and vision, but they serve different purposes My personal …
My therapist pointed out actually that withdrawing emotionally while still feeling emotionally connected or retaining symbols of connection as a part of push and pull dynamics. It is not a manipulatio…
No you weren’t too harsh, I appreciated your words :) You mean you use over-analysing to protect yourself from being hurt and used? I think for me fixating so much on analysing the relationship it’s …
A big part of healing is facing the fact you don't trust anyone and leaning into it by trusting someone, such as a therapist. There are books you can read. The main thing is learning emotion regulati…
I’m in the same boat. The timeline was brief (about a month total) but very recent, and this man has lived in my head ever since. I’m proud to say (as an anxious) that I didn’t do any protest behavior…
1. It seems like the study you linked investigates a slightly different topic than what your post is about. The study is investigating the psychological relationship between attachment anxiety, attach…
As I’ve gotten older I’ve realised a lot of people don’t want to work on themselves or change . It’s just the way it is . I believe the underlying reason is working on emotional reactions stirs up to…
The first example is so hard. I feel like there’s no kind way to be like “I’m not interested in that [getting together]”. I don’t usually ignore people if they reach out, but I’ve definitely forgettin…
We’re not exclusive. I feel disconnected from my emotions, so I’m trying to flush out If really like her or if I’m being performative. I feel like I owe her that since I’m perusing her.
I understand, and it's fine. I'm doing the same in the first early stages of dating. Talking with several people and dating those I feel more connected & attracted to. However, when I focus on someone…
I read through the other posts..I know he’s avoidant because he told me he was raised to be disconnected from feelings/words to express, and his former BFF also told me once that it took a YEAR for my…
Did you notice that each time they came back the deactivation happened quicker each time? My experience From 1st kiss to deactivation around 2 months Went NC for 2 weeks She came back and we b…
You just described my BPD ex wife. FA, would ignore me instead of addressing concerns. Emotionally unstable. Wouldn’t talk about something until it was time for WW3. Blame shifted. Justified her actio…
FA's can really lean into DA and bail when true intimacy is on the table. Committing to a relationship can really freak them out. ***To an outside observer***, FAs look like they can discard just as e…
I am in the middle of a pretty un-fun cycle that is causing a ton of friction/pain/overwhelm in my current relationship, despite knowing for sure that we both love each other with such a great depth. …
Hello yall maybe I can find some support in here, I'll try to simplify as much as I can. So me and ex partner/best friend reconnected about 2 months ago and we both said we're gonna do our best. No la…
I am, Im not sure on their end. There seems to be flickers of romance but its too soon to truly know. But this is perhaps the struggle, I dont know what to make of their actions. Sometimes they reply …
The second to last paragraph here is so important. I didn't truly start healing until I realized that I was treating relationships like they were something I could react correctly to rather than corre…
Text of original post by u/TranslatedIntoArt: This year has been brutal since the beginning. Every single aspect of my life increased my anxiety. Multiple health issues in the family, some of them sti…
Fairly common and explains the reason behind anxious behavior strategies in your attachment system. As I’m sure many of you struggle with fully letting go of the past and probably struggle with emoti…
I need to vent and word-vomit my story, in this community, as I just found it and it might really help me. Can someone tell me what they think? My avoidant attachment gf broke up with me (anxious att…
So much time has gone by and they abandoned themselves by not addressing the matter and instead probably making narratives in their own head about the whole thing. They sound like they felt slighted b…
It sounds more like you two basically are experiencing an incompatibility in life styles. He doesn’t have to adhere to a schedule and you do. I would stop focusing on the whole how often he texts or w…
Living with a fearful avoidant for 30+ years... My personal experience: It looks like they want to connect, to be close emotionally. They want you to be close and available. They, however, find …
I think I'm dealing with the redirected anger atm. Recently reconnected with someone that asked to be left alone, took three months because there was no set time and I'm autistic so anything that wa…
How do I survive getting broken up with when I’m so much in love? Hi! My bf (25M) just sort of ended things with me (22F). For back ground we have lived together for about a year and a half but have…
For those of you in romantic relationships, especially living together. I have a few questions for yall: 📝 How often does your partner text/call you during the day when you’re apart? Did you notice…
Hi!! My apologies for commenting late in the game to your post. As an AuDHD myself, I can't confirm that moving slowly in a relationship is correlated to AuDHD. There are AuDHD / autistic people who a…
Therapy. Anything physical that gets you in touch with your body around people , for me it was social dancing. Consistent exercise. Good diet. Deeply connected friendships. Career that I’m proud of. …
Okay that context helps! 😊 I think it’s fair to remember that while you may talk about ahead of time what you would need him to do to drive home the fact that he is okay….it takes reminders and lots …
There are a whole ton of variables that would come into play on this. Co-regulation and healthy interdependence is part of a healthy relationship. There should be communication and healthy compromise …
The majority of a message (thought stream) sent to my significant other, after two days of receiving (what I believe to be) whimsical communication and apathetic tone, from someone I know loves me—am …
Listen, I get your “so what” I do. I’m not dumb, I know things are mismatched sometimes. But I guess you helped me clarify my question: do they want a disingenuous response? I have a friend that w…