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Synchronicity and the Beginning or Continuity of Experience? — To begin, I have had quite a long winded set of experiences, that have seemed to have calmed down a bit over the last few weeks. They went on for several months beginning 3 months and 3 days before my…
For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…
Something mentioned but not talked about, Serotonin. — What do we know about Serotonin? \-Its produced in the gut, \-Low levels often correlated to anxiety and depression \-Happy hormone, not to be mistaken with dopamine , the pleasure hormone where …
I 20M broke up with my 21F girlfriend after she proposed to open up our relationship and now everyone is telling me to get back with her basically (Update) — Hello everyone excuse any grammatical errors or spelling im a little tipsy at the moment. I wanna start this with a trigger warning there is attempted suicide involved so if you can't take that stuff …
Why me ? — Here is my story: I did everything I was supposed to do as a child. I was obedient. I worked in my father’s business from grade 9. I saved every penny I could, never really having the freedom to be …
Bat Soup by Straight Fire Gang — Bat soup is a 2020 song released by straight fire gang, a Chinese rap trio. They grew up in China but all went to colleges in the U.S. this song released during covid, includes themes of anti-Asian ra…
Overcoming emotional trauma from abusive father, feeling scared — Hi! Posting for the first time here, hoping I'm doing it right. I wanted to talk about my family trauma and seek advice about building a life on my own because my mind is so afraid to ever go back int…
Moderate men matching with clearly liberal women? — I’m a (42f) Black woman in the Denver area (pretty liberal) and I am constantly amazed by how many men (especially white men) who self-identify as “moderate” on dating apps match with me. Even those …
I feel I have CPTSD from emotional abuse by my father, need advice — Hi! Posting for the first time here, hoping I'm doing it right. I wanted to talk about my family trauma and seek advice about building a life on my own because my mind is so afraid to ever go back int…
Stop asking why — Stop obsessing over the why: "Why are they doing this! Why me! Why don't they love me!" It was never about you. It was about them, their need for desirability, their need to be the center of your …
Male therapy — Why is it that therapy seems to be inherently sexist against men? I have read multiple guidelines, multiple posts on why men hate therapy. It all seems to point to that men are the problem. I am try…
Still in shock after multiple betrayals — My boyfriend (35) of 1 year the man I loved, who pursued me (31/F) relentlessly, who called me constantly, who made me feel safe and adored, had been cheating on me multiple times with multiple women.…
Still in shock after multiple betrayals — My boyfriend (35M) of 1 year, the man I loved, who pursued me (31F) relentlessly, who called me constantly, who made me feel safe and adored, had been cheating on me multiple times with multiple women…
it has been one full day of NC — We broke up on the 25th of march so about 3 weeks ago. she was hot and cold with me, i reached out after a week, she was sweet and missed me, then next day disappeared for two days then i msged and sh…
The average woman has a significantly easier time finding new relationships than the average man. It's not nice to admit it, but it's the clear and obvious explanation of why men who do the dumping of…
This is literally why me and my most recent guy ended. I felt like he clearly didn't want me because I was initiating everything, but turns out he was an avoidant lmao.
Speaking as someone (M30) who has similar behaviors. He might have so called avoidant attachment style. Suppose that he is avoidant then I can share some of my perspectives which might resonate. I h…
The speed datings in my town are similarly women dominated to the point of having to turn them away to keep the c to d ratio in check. Was always curious why men won’t attend, but here I am, also not …
Why meet up if they don’t match it? I’m always looking for the wit and banter. I don’t need them to carry it but please show interest and reciprocity. If they’re funny on top of that, I’m in. Everyone…
Its because your friend introduced doubt. She introduced conscious examination of the whole thing, the idea of it not being easy, the idea of being unable to do what you did, etc. You subconsciously b…
You are not your thoughts. Think of a scenario of what you have to do for the day. If you have a brief understanding of the tasks needed, you do it sort of on autopilot. But if you think about it con…
same after having my kid who is now 4, I don't know how my parents could hate us, or how my mother decided to project her husband's shit onto me so she could live with him. I look the most like his a…
Honestly, Trumpers take "No MAGA please" as a challenge. I have a theory that it's because they've been taught "women don't know what they want, that's why men should be in charge!" and similar BS. …
I’m not sure why men love announcing their type so much.
The thing that I can’t get through my little brain is the ‘why me’. I mean I know I was a means to achieve their goal, but what stood out about me? Was I identified as too weak to spot their antics?…
If I'm still single and meeting her wasn't unpleasant - yes, I would definitely try to meet her even if the connection faded away. My enthusiasm and the lengths I'm going to go into to meet will, of c…
I was just pondering this today. It’s part of the cognitive dissonance that’s preventing me from moving on–he was SUCH a good person. I married my WH because he was the kindest man I’d ever met. Gen…
Great, informative post Jeff! As an experiencer who has recalled memories that had previously been “taken” from me (occurred with the oversoul outside of time, removed from my 3D physical awareness) I…
All of this is why men shouldn't get upset about paying for the first date. Just being a woman is so much more costly.
Everyone should brush their tongue. Everyday. If you use an electric toothbrush then just keep a regular toothbrush just for tongue brushing. It only takes a few seconds and makes a huge difference fo…
Thank you, my cousin is great she told me this as kind of a hey heads up they might come looking for you rather then gossip, the rest was me asking her. I was like why me out of everyone? Now i know l…
I went back so many times. And accepted them many times. And everytime we got back together, it was worse than the last time. I have been raised by narcs. And fixing the problem has always been my ins…
I don't think you can analyze these separately from the rest of the stellium, especially with it being a separating aspect, Mars in it's detriment between them, and Mercury under the beams in an apply…
I wonder why, with the huge growth in mental health sufferers, particularly amongst the young, why meditation and yoga isn’t on the national curriculum (i’m in the UK)? I am somewhat cynical & like yo…
Maybe it was all her fault. Maybe he's telling a story in first person, which has the natural pitfall of being a bit self-biased. Maybe he's doing what dozens of women do here every day, yet I don't…
>Holy misogyny. Why do you assume it's drama dumps? Why even mention the bachelorette? Thheerrreeee we are - right on time as predicted; misogyny - the word of choice to shutdown a man's response. D…
Wow same with me, mine told me recently that the things I eat are weird, there’s been many times she doesn’t let me order what I want from the menu if I’m eating out with her, says my way of thinking …
Then be single. I'm not even being flip. I don't understand why men are in relationships when they clearly don't like talking to their partner, spending time with their partner, sometimes don't seem t…
People seriously underestimate how much psychological factors into sex and arousal. It's why men find a woman hot but then they're in a relationship and the sex has gone downhill. It's not because she…
Basically he needs to talk about it with his friends. But the only way he feels comfortable about it is joking. Either a him thing or a group thing. But rooted in patriarchy. This is why men need …
Well, it hasn't always been unicorns and rainbows out there, but to be completely honest, my experiences in the physical 3D world have been far more dangerous than anything I've ever encountered on th…
The biggest and hardest part of the abuse is the trauma and CPTSD that hits you! You're grieving for someone thsts not dead!! I'm now six months down the line and its just starting to get better...i…
My opinion is that men actually benefit more from marriage than women. They do better when supported by a woman. Women slow down to support them. People tend to value it on money only vs why men tradi…
This! And then they weaponize it against you. I lost my mom when I was just 9 years old. She was a scapegoat and heroin addict. I was raised by my sociopathic grandmother and her golden child psychopa…
“Why men great til they’ve gotta be great?”
I live in the US. I used to think I would want to get married again. This is not an attack on any particular person or men in general, but the idea of letting a man come into my space and live with me…
Of course I'm not sure, because none of us are sure. But that doesn't seem to stop you from posting your opinion as "fact", does it? I am just saying, I advise against posting content which is only g…
I'd say all that you mentioned + fasting sometimes and meditate more. Why meditate less, I wonder?
Yeah true..expect they just show up and tell me I always tried to understand how and why and who is that? Why me? But it’s close to stop this circle in my head and just accept that yep I have this thi…
Im genuinely asking when I say this. Why not you? Whats so bad about you that means you arent worthy of contact? And if you cant answer that then maybe stop asking why me. Because if you are being hon…
I'm reading some comments suggesting op should meet again his ex. And... Why? What's the point? It's over, finito. She's been dumped? OP made his point explicitly. So, why meeting again ? for spewing …
I’ve never married so most of my adult life is a story with some guy whose no longer in the picture. I still get to keep the memories, I still get to own the things I’ve done. I don’t bring them up th…
My family is the type where we pick on each other to show love. We are also very blunt sometimes. It's everyone we're close with, and nobody takes it personally. This is part of why me and him worked,…
Unless “she’s the one” and you actually made solid plans for a date than she owes you nothing , she’s probably got a long list of men in her messages , you didn’t have her it was just your turn . That…
Seek help from who i only have my dad no one gives a shit about me why else am i being blamed for all of this why isn't her mom angry with her for asking that stupid question why me
Ooof, that sucks. He should have asked. I truly don't understand why men get off on fantasizing about strangling women. That's a no for me.
Shit like this makes me wonder why mental health practitioners don't get psych evaluations as a standard to you know make sure they're not actually malicious people or anything. I've met some people s…
My emotionally volatile & physically abusive father just passed away. He traveled 5 out of 7 days of the week & was a nightmare to me growing up. As an adult, he (didn’t apologize, he was frequently w…
oh hun 😭 I just commented on your other post.. this is so sad. I wish I could give you a hug. this is not your fault, not really hers either. just a lot of big feelings. don't blame yourself. what…
Preach🫶🏼😂🤦🏽♀️🇨🇭🇨🇦🍁🩷🚩🚩🚩 Plz don’t make more kids,you have two babies already and please tell him that and show him this right here: have you done any or looked at behavioral or psycholo…
Historically, that's exactly what we were expected to do. It's a holdover from those times, when a man divorced his wife, left her and the kids in the house, and moved into some pitiful apartment, usu…
maybe that's why metaphors are the only way the mind can't fully know something it's in the middle of.
For the first two questions, I would say no simply because I don’t see myself as one who should or can intervene with it, best way to describe it is I see it more as being told one’s fate I wouldn’t…
Excellent post thanks. I’ve been trying to support stayers for this very reason. We all leave in one way or another. At first we leave our idealization and imaginings of our reality. That’s the…