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Three years and he placed you last again. Smh. He relegated you to a booty call.😪 My ex tried that after a 4 year relationship. He started texting and calling, and I agreed to meet him for a game of …
Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…
Feeling conflicted, I don't know if I don't love him and I am settling or if I love him and the "cons" are avoidant deactivation? — I 33F have ve been dating this guy 32M for 8 months. He's chased me for years and eventually recently I started to feel attraction back, he figured it out and kissed me. For some months I didn't feel…
How to stop being a caretaker in a relationship — I didn't realise how much I was being a caretaker in a relationship and how it impacted my mental health. I feel really bad because I love and care about this person. He's grown up in a very abusive a…
How to date seriously when you are in a city you dislike — I have been in this city* for 7ish months and know that it is not for me. I was born here, moved away happily and due to unfortunate circumstances, I am back. I am also a woman who wants marriage and…
~1 year no contact check in. It gets better! — Here’s my experience of going from never being single as an adult to single and happy (spoiler alert! It was SO hard but probably the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done). Background context: I had …
Single and celibate for 7 years -- how can I show a man I'm into him? — Hi all, I'm 41F and have chosen to stay single now for 7 years. I went through a bad breakup, then the pandemic happened, then I got into 12 Step recovery (not for drugs or alcohol, for family issue s…
31F Marriage Timing Prediction — When will I get married? Or will stay single forever.
31M - Destined to stay single? — Never been in a relationship, apart from high school love. All the girls after highs school I’ve had some chemistry with or had interest in, never worked out. Family has been looking for arranged …
25F need guidance regarding career and marriage — I graduated last year and on the same day faced a nasty breakup. It was my first relationship and I am still grieving. Want to have a career in some other field not the field/subject I have studied. l…
Back to square one in an obsessive loop — Currently on day 11 of a 3 year breakup I am deciding to use this account as tracking, as venting, and maybe a place to seek advice from the few kind people that reply. I want to be completely ho…
Is it just me or I started to not find anyone attractive anymore — I was married for 15 years, have been single for 2 years. I finally met someone I consider dating for the first time but it didn’t work out. I see same guys over and over on the dating apps, they are …
Am I wrong for wanting to leave my parents house? — I need an unbiased and outsiders point of view. I've been working on creating a plan for independent living with an organization because I'm really beginning to reach my limit. I'm stressed all the t…
32F, estranged from family — Went no contact with whole family over disputes. Is there reconciliation in future? Although I feel more peaceful and happy now. Is marriage a good path for me? Or else will I do better if I stay sing…
Another relationship lost to codependency — This just happened last night, and I haven't even slept, so it's more of a venty ramble than anything but I just need to get it out. I started the work, went to CoDA for a while, started working the s…
Staying in My (41F) relationship with my BF (47M)? — I (41F) am dating my bf (47M) for almost 3 year. I have been divorced for 4 years with two kids (6 and 8) and have 50/50 custody with my ex. I didn't introduce my kids to my bf until we were 1 year in…
Just a simple note about improving myself (Why I have decided to stay single) — Why have I decided to stay single? (if anyone even cares) See what I know is that, there is something fundamentally wrong with the way I love. As in, I love too much. And no, I am not tryna act l…
How do I move on from a breakup where she lost romantic interest. — This will be a bit of a long one. I don’t know what to do. Over the past 2 years I (22M) been on a slow decent into depression and stopped being excited for life and doing things I enjoy. I didn’t ev…
Hi — This is the story of my single mom she's a South Indian currently 49 still working hard and even I'm helping her financially but thing is my mom and dad had been seperated from very very long time 10…
That’s selfish, and people with that mindset should stay single.
Appreciate your honesty, but PLEASE DO NOT DATE until you’ve worked on yourself in a consistent, demonstrable way and have learned to actually change what you desire. You will only cause unnecessary …
I feel you completely but that’s because the guy I was dating was genuinely not very good looking. We had so much in common, could talk for hours, but I genuinely couldn’t utter the words “you look go…
Hah, seriously wish I'd been able to keep this in mind when I met my now- and soon-to-be-ex-wife. All of these things of which I was on some level aware at the time, but damn if she didn't make a con…
This sub is the clubhouse for anxious people who stayed for years with an avoidant. Allow time to heal you, 6 months from now you won't recognize yourself. Your healing begins today. Congratulations f…
Guy I’ve been seeing asked me over and now I feel repulsed and don’t want to talk to him again. I don’t even dislike anything about him. This happens with every guy I romantically involve myself with …
This year I will stay single and not seek out attention from men.
also closed off a situationship and it was hard but im proud of myself...i don't know if i will stay single for six months but at least until i get my stuff together academically \^-\^
As a guy, I've heard this question a lot (maybe not from 80% of matches, but close to that, though never as a first question). And yes, I've been a person asking that question or using "what about you…
Cool. Don't accept any form of criticism and stay single until every box is checked. It took 20 years with no luck, I'm sure the next 40 will be different. I'm also going to probably die at 50 due …
Well … be more open to psosiblity… you won’t stay single . What do you have to lose??
Tbh, I think this guy is a walking red flag. Even if you only like a few people a year (same with me, it takes me a while to find someone I really like), it’s better to stay single in case someone bet…
29F I’ve been dating again for the last few months. For a little background, I had a bad relationship end when I was 25 and have been single since. Took that time to go to therapy and work through som…
29F I’ve been dating again for the last few months. For a little background, I had a bad relationship end when I was 25 and have been single since. Took that time to go to therapy and work through som…
Every time I post this, the sticky thread is locked a few minutes later, so commenting again 29F I’ve been dating again for the last few months. For a little background, I had a bad relationship end…
I think I understand. The loneliest times of my life come when I feel unseen by someone I really wish would see me. For me I think it comes from idealization where I would have an idea in my head of w…
As a guy who is 35, I can tell you for certain, no woman could make me settle. I have reached a point in my life where am I perfectly ready to stay single, and would never be with someone who doesn’…
34M here. I’ve learned incredible things this year. Number 1 - I’ll stay single until I’m able to 100% give myself to a woman, because SHE deserves it. In my teens and twenties, I was consumed by my…
Who cares if guys do this or not? It sounds like you're emotionally unfulfilled which is the only thing that really matters here. I very much worry about dating a man who just wants to be in a rela…
Exactly this, how are your married friends who know and care about you going to give you worse advice than strangers on the internet. Alot of people just want their problems to exist in an echo chamb…
How sad. To be honest I wouldn't rather stay single than be with someone who is indifferent to my problems.
Did you feel this way before you had kids? I work in tech as well, and know the travel and work life you speak of. But to be honest, that's a cop out. I always made time for her and the kids even when…
Thank you. I didn’t feel like this until after the kids, so more recently. I don’t even want him to stay single; I just want him to be happy ☹️
I divorced at 46, I’m almost 51 now, I’ve been saying no to men for the past almost 5 years because I wanted to be single and wanted my freedom. I was sort of hoping for invisibility/stealth mode but …
I would actually rather stay single than go back to my ex,at this point I’m considering to stop and let life happen
> I don’t even want him to stay single; I just want him to be happy ☹️ So I was your husband and I was told similar things by my now ex. The divorce crushed me and the idea of being with anyone el…
I think my inability to stay single is what has kept me single for so long. Like I get lonely and horny and end up in things with people who are totally wrong for me. I have never had a relationship t…
Under political orientation on your bio, just put liberal. You're going to attract some MAGA regardless. Because conservative men outnumber conservative women. So some conservative men are going to ha…
Men are so gullible. Chat GPT would condone any of your actions and make the most terrible things seem okay. Its tough being a single straight woman in her 20’s but this gives me yet another reason to…
I wanted to stay single forever. I felt fine in my apartment, by myself. Well, a few years later that changed. And here I am. Living with my boyfriend for 6 years now and we have 3 kids 😊 It took t…
This is how I feel, I sometimes think that I prefer not to date again. Maybe it’s the fear of being hurt again but also the shared intimacy, it was hard for me to believe I was being so open with him …
We broke up 3 weeks ago, we ended on good terms. I don’t have interest in dating for a while as well. Stay single and work on yourself !!
These replies are full of dreamers and I’m honestly shocked. Not a bad thing, but I’d rather stay single than go back to my ex.
It is! The highs and lows here are called intermittent reinforcement. That’s what makes gambling addictive. It’s also why it’s so hard to leave abusive relationships. The occasional highs really mess …
Hey! I’m 42. Had kids and then a hysterectomy super young. Been on HRT for years. Divorced last year. I felt this way too, but decided to make a change. I work long hours and have so many chores at ho…
You can’t change people - he’s showing you he’s a selfish AH who doesn’t care about you in any way. So accept it and go find someone who does. If you did manage to get him to change the changes would …
Your priorities and goals are way too different. I think it's best to split now and find someone with the same values or stay single. Dating is rough when they could agree with you at the start then l…
I Love that you are unable to understand that calling yourself a GOOD mother & have rights to the kids while being a cheater in the same sentence! I don't give two Fs what a judge or court or CPS says…
It's been great. I've decided to stay single. I've not had one single problem or issue.
I thought I liked him but I'm sure he's not interested in me anymore. Why did it happen again? He liked me months ago and now I don't think he does. It's my fault though. I didn't want to open up wit…
Spent over three years with someone who admitted to being a people pleaser and completely changed their personality. Said it was all my fault they had been behaving that way and found it funny that I…
Girls these days tend to get 2 R's mixed. Stay single. Get your money up.
reddit is so extreme because it believes in married people acting married? Dude. Stay single
This community is so interesting. I thought I gave a pretty measured response but I didn’t explain it well. I’m not saying she should stay with him. But this was a snippet and you have to consider th…
I was in 2 relationships. The first one was absolutely abusive and i was 15-18 at that time so sadly it wired my brain differently. My mistake was i should’ve gone to therapy after that relationship b…
I'm here to read the stories now because I don't think I'll really ever date again. Being a member of this sub helps me live vicariously through other people. It also reminds me of the hardships of da…
Your ex didn't buy your celibacy with the divorce. She actually has zero say in your dating life. You literally, legally, could have already moved in a literal crack hoe the very first day after the …
No, this happened all on its own due to constant rejection. I have a high libido, but honestly, even when this divorce goes through, I think I'll stay single a good while and just focus on getting my …
Cliché I know but start by loving yourself. Stay single for a bit.