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I messed up bad I texted the cliche awkward "how have you been" and she left me on read and then I instantly folded and said "sorry im hurting and I miss you rn I'd like to see you" Rip I was bash my…
Confused if my therapist is just not the right fit. Am I the problem?? Do I just need to work harder? — My diagnosis is Bipolar 2, heavy on the depression. I’ve been seeing a therapist for a few months now. A few things I’m confused about that I need advice on. 1) I feel like he doesn’t understand my …
I ran into someone who wronged me and almost lost my cool. How to handle this? — I am going to try to keep this brief. I had a hard time making friends as an adult. My best friend passed away in high school, and I know I romanticize a lot (as you will learn) but I swear I have ne…
Facebook Cheating Compulsion — Last month, I \[M36\] caught my wife\[F38\] planning an affair on Facebook messenger. She has lost a bunch of weight recently and was being more active. Hanging out with friends, planning trips, and g…
What does it mean when my ex asked me so many question on the first day we talked again? — Our relationship failed because there were faults on both parties involved. Therefore, I decided to write a letter to take accountability for my actions and tell him how he made me feel, then print it…
Should I break no contact with my ex? — Okay guys, here's what happened: I was in a relationship for two years and seven months. The relationship was already deteriorating due to problems and fights from both of us, clearly because of bad t…
Finally blocked him on insta — I (F30) blocked my ex (M28) on instagram today to protect myself. We broke up in december after a very intense, loving but short relationship. He suddenly left me, became overwhelmed, whatever. Said h…
Often feelings are going to be mismatched. So what? How you respond to their bid for connection is what matters. I would never turn down such a clear bid for connection from someone I care about. It c…
I’m not AP so your question made me think a lot. If people reach out to me I will sometimes say oh I miss you, how have you been? But reflecting on that now, I don’t think I’ve actively been missing t…
Personally I dont say I missed you too unless it was true, I would just organize a time to spend time together, start a meaningful conversation, and maybe say “sorry Ive been mia <3 how have you been?…
it's been 2 months, how have you been feeling?
No it's not a boundary at all for me and same for most avoidants I've known. It's only annoying if it's so much when I'm not answering that it's an overwhelming pile up. Or if it's a lot of "are you o…
How have you been?
wow, if you don’t mind how have you been doing regarding not dating for 6 years?
Yes it's using visualization as an achor to induce a wild. How have you been using that term?
Wow thank you so much for sharing, I'm really sorry you went through that as well. The part about you painting his house, cleaning it, helping with the rental, doing all the real life stuff while he …
Haha the part about thinking I had something more special and have insights was actually something I did too. I feel that my thoughts were so distorted and my mind was probably justifying my behaviour…
That very rarely happens if ever. Most exes don’t ’come back’ for a relationship. They just miss you in a fleeting moment and reach out to check in or simply text ‘how have you been’, ‘I miss you’ o…
42. What is fee see kal touch? Jokes aside, never been touched or held outside of the usual family how are you doing how have you been customary hugs. Craved it so long now I'm just dead inside an…
That’s kind of how I feel. Better to take a shot. Curious how you would approach it though, a “hey how have you been?” Text or just lay the card out saying “hey I’ve been thinking about you and would …
If you decide to do it, second text. Hey how have you been texts from guys in your past is basically a meme at this point
I feel this, so hard. I saw a woman for a few months last spring that ended up not working out for the long run, because we were ultimately looking for different things...but I haven't clicked sexuall…
How have you been together over a decade, and not talk about finances and the future? Like ever? Ive been with my now wife for a years, married one. We talk about finances on a weekly, sometimes daily…
Hello Exotic_Doubt22, Firstly, I'd like to extend a warm, virtual hug filled with empathy. Your courage in sharing your journey, along with your patience and resilience, shines brightly through your …
Oceans birthed our first forms of life. I think, in some ways, the world still identifies with its oceanic past. Its like glimpsing into another timeline where the planet is still ruled by its ocean d…
How are you doing now, do you still miss them, how have you been keeping yourself busy?
Glad to hear that. How have you been doing? Please share your success 😀
Oh no I’m so sorry that’s awful! How have you been coping??
Hello fredogrouch, Your post paints a vivid, poetic picture of the emotions you are experiencing. Your capacity to express your feelings so beautifully is truly commendable. And the way you perceive …
Hello ScratchSpirited6801, Thank you for sharing your story so openly and honestly. I must commend you for the courage and self-reflection you've shown by being able to recognize the role your insecu…
Hello Ok-Librarian-9277, Reflecting on your post, it's clear to perceive the strength in your resolve, and the resilience you've shown in not reaching out during your vulnerable moments is truly comm…
u/Impossible_Juice6155 Hi again mate, so how have you been doing these last few days? Were you able to stay No Contact with your ex? Is she respecting it?
Glad I’m not alone :,) how have you been since then? Did it get better? I’m really really hoping he and i can be friends after some time apart because i want to see him achieve his dreams and i love …
If he isn't acting as her therapist, they shouldn't be meeting in session. Since he has been her therapist recently (past 5 years per the Code of Ethics), he should have no relationship with her at al…
What kinds of therapist have you been going to? Were any doctoral level psychologists or were they all master's level therapists? How have you been lying to yourself? What are your expectation for t…
Not initially with the intent to get back together, it usually starts with a breadcrumb from them to see if I am “safe” to talk to. The first breadcrumb I reply back with a warm, short message, and I …
How have you been trying to shift ?? And what are the changes in your reality now ??
I appreciate you sharing that. That is a long history of feeling in danger. How have you been lately?