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"You do not get it" Then explain how to get it. Because I don't have the ability to mind read, and the way you word things is unfamiliar to me and frankly, kinda hard to grasp. I apologize if you …

A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse.  We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon.  W…

In an avoidant-anxious friendship, how much space should I be giving before I reach out? — The last 2 posts on the sub are about friendship and that encouraged me to post here as well. This is my friend of 5 years. We’ve gone from talking almost everyday to me being given the silent treat…

Is this Deactivation? Seeking insights from FAs. Please help me understand this — We're together for 6 months, a lot of push/pull in the beginning, but by the 4th month everything was finally going fine between us. He even called me his girlfriend nd promised to heal and everything…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

READ THIS if you want to POST here — This is a new thread with the SAME GUIDELINES as the previous post which is now archived. THIS THREAD IS ONLY FOR APPROVAL TO POST. You don’t have to be an approved user to comment or lurk. ONLY som…

Unsent letter to a prior ex, in the midst of a current breakup. — I am in a crash course on my own nervous system while in the midst of a breakup with a dismissive avoidant man I've loved for almost five years. I'd known about the anxious-avoidant trap for some time…

Physically Reacting to Jealousy — My first post was about my deep attachment to a former friend who cut things off because she is now my employee. I'm actually making a lot of progress with that. Well my stress level is very manageabl…

Studying attachment theory — I’ve been studying attachment theory for a couple of months now, and I’ve only recently started to REALLY look into it. I started reading a book called Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for…

Are there any “they can do no wrong” placements? — Placements that make people the exception to the rule, gain favoritism, and special treatment for no reason. Do you think it’s strong Jupiter placements? :-)

My father is sabotaging my career and medical treatments through "smear campaigns" and monitoring. I feel like I'm living in a Truman Show nightmare. — ​I (25F) am an Indian doctor currently preparing for NEET PG, and I am living with a family led by a malignant narcissistic father. My mother and brother are complete enablers. I’m writing this becaus…

Alysa Liu on Eileen Gu “Y’all would have told her to go back to China. Now that they’re back in China, you’re mad.” — >What was it like to find yourself in the center of all this political discourse? >Ooh, am I? >I don’t know if you feel you are, but there is all of this discourse around you and Eileen Gu. China an…

Cannabis vs. Mushrooms [My Experience] — So I'll start off by saying I'm not very experienced and have multiple psychotic and/or disassociative disorders plus a medical card But I'm surprised at my take away when using the medical marijuana…

Does strong energy field scare people subconsciously, here is my experience — For the past few years I’ve been focusing a lot on my self-concept and doing inner work, working on my shadow, learning healthy emotional detachment, and grounding myself. I went through a difficult p…

AM silent treatment is HELL — For context- two days ago AM asked me (19F) and my sister (17F) why our cousin and our close friends are scared or intimidated by her. We started making fun of her for the things she used to do or say…

The phrase "you're so strong" is pissing me off. — ETA: TW tags and NSFW added. I apologise. Had a dysfunctional childhood, abusive stuff of all sorts, was struggling with major depression and being extremely suicidal in my teens, have been through a…

did you need mental health treatment because of the aftermath — A year ago today I was starting an intense outpatient therapy program because, with my already existing depression, I spiraled so bad after being cruelly discarded it became a mental health crisis for…

How to permanently stop feeling romantic love for anyone? — wasn’t sure I needed a TL;DR here, but I’ll put it anyway: how do I turn off my ability to feel love for anyone, ever? hi all, I (M,33) have not had a whole lot of luck with dating. I try to stay s…

How to get rid of cuckold thoughts — Embarrassing post, so throwaway account being used. I have OCD with very prominent intrusive thoughts. Recently, my girlfriend of over 3 years just cheated on me (snuck him into her room and had sex).…

I spent 8 years trying to “fix” my mental health and now I think the real problem is that I’ve been obsessively trying to fix myself — Hi everyone, I’m trying to explain something I’ve been struggling with and I’m wondering if anyone else has gone through something similar. For about 8 years, I’ve been deeply focused on “healing” m…

Why could I enforce boundaries in the first years of my relationship, but after 7–8 years I couldn’t do it anymore? — I have Codepedency. I am with my abuser for about 14 years (Now very low contact and hoping to completely sever contact once I completely heal and can let go off the unhealthy attachment.) We don't …

My partner’s 18-month cough is affecting our relationship but she refuses to discuss it — Edit: I’ve received a lot of sound medical advice on this post for now so thank you. Post nasal drip, asthma, vocal tics, allergies, acid reflux, cancer symptoms etc etc are all things we’ll keep an e…

Discharged after a 3 star Google review — Hi! I have autism so I sometimes have a hard time figuring out how I come across . But I was at a practice that provided both APRN services and therapy . I posted a three star Google review saying I …

Movie List: Chinese movies where the antagonist(s) are racist/imperialist White/Westerners and get their asses kicked — I thought I would make a list of some Chinese movies(mostly martial art action films) where the main antagonist is a racist and/or imperialist white. These movies are all fun and feel good, and while …

I Won’t Stop Sharing This — I’m sharing this because people deserve to know how broken the mental health system in Utah can be. I saw a therapist for two years. During that time she had me coming up to three times per week doin…

Parental mistreatment must be tolerated! — Y’all look at this. A couple of weeks ago, I ended a phone call after she said protesters deserved to be run over and killed. I had told her previously that I would NOT be getting into politics with h…

EMDR therapy fail — Today I was so excited to start EMDR. Before booking treatment, I told the therapist that I need help with sexual dysfunction resulting from child abuse and multiple SA’s as a young adult. She said 95…

I (29F) have cancer and my estranged father (60M) is funding my treatment but forcing me to leave my boyfriend (24M) or marry him immediately. Do I have any way out? — Please be kind. I was unable to type so used audio to text converter and ai to fix the spelling mistakes. I m already in a terrible mental state so hope this sub can be a little gentle on me. Haven't …

I (26F) told my boyfriend (26M) I sometimes miss the freedom of being single and he broke up with me on my birthday — I (26F) have been with my boyfriend (26M) for about 2.5 years. A couple nights ago we were lying down together and having a really open conversation about different things going on in our lives. The …

Found out my husband resents me a lot for my mental illness — Let me start off by admitting I did something wrong. I looked at his Reddit history after seeing his username on his computer. Yes, that was wrong of me. Basically, I found his post on depression\_pa…

Dealing with an avoidant’s silent treatment/deactivation/no contact — How does this actually work I am just learning so does it mean we just give them space entirely we check in 5 days like simple non pressure meme or message? Im genuinely fine with it in general but w…

How can I build a personal life that doesn’t depend on other people? — Hi Reddit!! I really need an outside perspective on my situation, because I feel like I’m completely lost in where I’m going and what I actually want from my life… Maybe people who have learned to man…

How do I tell her? — TDLR: I’ve been talking with this girl (24f) for about a month. I really like this girl. I’ve dated in the past but never really felt like this before. I don’t know how to explain it but we click. My…

Literally Crying Right Now — I have been going through so much and struggling to stay positive. This morning I decided fuck this..I have the power to change this. I’m shifting my mindset and I’m not going to feel stressed or depr…

30 Years in "Functional Freeze": How I mistook Survival for Personality — For three decades, I lived in a state of high-functioning freeze. I was the "perfect" and reliable son, but internally, I felt like a total fraud. I grew up with a mother who used the Silent Treatment…

Midlife dating plot twist I didn’t see coming… (I have breast cancer 🙄) — I was only just musing recently about how sexy midlife dating is.. His suspected sleep apnea, my post-three-big-babies body (haemorrhoids, saggy boobs!)… all the glamorous stuff. And now I’ve just b…

Should I continue attending therapy? — Trying to keep this as short as I can, I apologize. I hope it's coherent. Basically, I've been seeing therapists for years, but my mental health grows increasingly worse, to the point that I now firm…

My psychotherapist gave me an AI-generated workbook, and I’m unsure how to proceed. — I (28F) am no stranger to therapy. I’ve been receiving mental health treatment since youth and met many different professionals, some good, some not so much. I’ve been seeing my current therapist for …

dealing with weebs? lol — hi all, i hope everyone is doing well! i (22F) am a japanese-american who just got into a phd program and will be further studying the asian american diaspora. i love my community very very much and l…

Why does it take years to realize you’re traumatized? And why does "standard" therapy often miss the point? — I’ve been thinking a lot about the "lost decades." For 30 years, I thought I was just "the nice guy." I thought I was just "lazy," "unmotivated," or "heavy." I went through life thinking these were m…

27F, when will I have a child? — It has been 2 years since we got married and currently taking medicinal treatment for conception, would like to know why this delay? Will I be able to get pregnant within and have baby?

Partner (27F) wants to separate (26F) following her cancer diagnosis. — My girlfriend of almost two years was diagnosed with cancer last week and she texted me yesterday that because she "doesn't want to weigh (me) down" with her treatments ahead. She asked for space for …

What helps presidents stay alert? — Modern presidents have extremely demanding schedules. How do they maintain energy and focus throughout the day? Beyond routine and discipline, are there known medical supports or treatments (e.g., pre…

Are there any pro-escapism AP communities out there? — I've noticed that when the topic of voluntarily leaving this physical life, or remaining in the astral permanently is brought up on this sub, there are inevitably at least a few comments who seem to t…

Has anyone had to fix their moral compass because they weren't taught how to be a good human? — Please be kind, I don't know where else to go with these thoughts. I've been mulling them over for a long time now with nowhere to go and no one to talk to about it. I never learned from my parents …

I’m 31, but I just realized I’ve been emotionally 4 years old my entire life. — Hey everyone, I’m having a massive breakthrough and I need to put this into words. I finally understand why my life has felt like a performance for 30 years, and why I’m suddenly "falling apart" now …

I finally stopped begging my toxic Mom. Her "Extinction Burst" over my sister's wedding is insane. Has anyone else experienced this? — Hi everyone. I (M) and my two sisters have spent our entire lives tiptoeing around our emotionally immature, highly controlling mother. She uses guilt, silent treatments, and the "I'm a terrible mothe…

My dad was diagnosed with stage 4 duodenum cancer today. — I am 23. Dad is 53. Just 2 weeks back everything in our lives was so great. Just 2 weeks back, he had told me he plans to live another 50 years. Just 3 weeks back, My sister had said "Thank God for ho…

Therapist of 15 years ghosted me after switching companies. — I really don’t know how to truly feel atm. I just quite literally got this information so I’m just… baffled? I 25F, was seeing my therapist since I was like 11. She was genuinely one of the most bril…

Detained by ICE, he missed multiple cancer treatments. Now he’s in hospice.

Asian-Americans say they are still seen as foreign, study finds — Survey shows more than half face ‘perpetual foreigner’ bias, with higher stress levels and exclusion across daily life **Like many Asian-Americans**, US-born Tiffany Chin has faced her share of sligh…

Humans deserve no better treatment.

Thank you for posting to r/AnxietyHelp! Please note, any changes to treatment plans or anxiety management should be discussed with a professional before implementation. We are not medical professional…

Take time to actually get to know someone, go slow, keep things light at first, don't jump into a relationship. Instead think about true compatibility in things like communication, lifestyle, values, …

There are many factors to consider with regards to attachment styles, especially towards different people / situations a specific style might be more prominant. There is also a spectrum - mild, modera…

Thanks for sharing the reel. I really liked how it acknowledged the full range of the trauma spectrum. It was both enlightening and validating. I wonder if I should find a therapist who specializes i…

Worst thing I heard my FA say was their excuses for the silent treatment and stonewalling. "Can't you just enjoy the silence for once?!" Trying to make toxic behaviors a positive is a red flag for me …

I don't know your situation, but it reminded me of my own, so I'll share in case it might be relevant. (Also: I'm sorry you had to go through that-- that sounds horrible. There's no excuse for that ki…

I understand the hurt part you mentioned. Try to reframe it. He is behaving from his place of wounding. He will continue to project his woundedness on other partners until he heals his FA tendencies. …

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Ikr. So tough. "Idk why you always bring up the past" um, because we haven't resolved it? Stonewalling, silent treatment, dismissing.

Have you looked into how you express your own avoidant tendencies? The way you're rationalizing behavior that is proven to harm relationships and people (e.g. silent treatment and witholding resolutio…

Yeah, I think it hurts extra hard when you considered them a friend and knew what they were capable of acting like and just chose not to at a certain point. I’m aware that I was likely a “rebound” or …

I know. Happened to me too. Studying to be a psychologist. I read two damned treatment manuals when I was with her :)

I think it’s really only just anxiously attached people who do that. And it’s very annoying. If I have a problem with a person i will let them know. Silence is not a bad thing. Silence is neutral. I…

The normal stereotype is that non-secure men lean avoidant and non-secure women lean anxious. I would bet a lot of money that these days there are more avoidant women and the number is on the rise. T…

I had a DA friend who never called first and i asked him to do it from time to time. When we talked (me initiating) he was always nice, helpful and responsive but without me calling first he was only …

Wait so am I reading this correctly or did she leave your text on read and not talk to you after you “called her out on text”? I think texting her instead of reprimanding her in front of everyone was …

I’m sorry for the late reply. Yeah still been given the silent treatment. I didn’t say anything offensive afaik. I think the lines between friendship and coworker was blurred and that was the whole is…

Well, i can share, why not? It's not a big secret. My both parents really love me, but they both were extremely unstable during me growing up. With my mom it would go from obsessive love to silent tre…

Thank you for your perspective! It sounds close to truth for me but only with the partners that start getting gradually cold. I don't remember panicking like this with my AA ex🤔 About my parents - no…

I am working on these things the same as you are and I am 8 years older than you so I think it’s amazing you’re this aware at 26. Some things that have helped me in my journey: -keeping myself busy w…

>I came off way too intense, begging him to atleast give me a closure instead of the silent treatment, and I am ashamed to admit this but I tried to prove my worth and how I'm ready to accept everythi…

Hey, thanks for the response! I don't know if he was self aware or not, but he told me in our last conversation that he can't look past his work/life and that I deserve better. He also said that the …

Stop trying to find excuses for this immature behaviour. Instead ask yourself why you’re willing to put up with this abuse. Because the silent treatment is exactly that.

He wasn’t always mean. There were times where he was kind and showed interest in my day, what I’m doing, and whatever else. Other times when there was minor conflict or I sensed him just being rude, I…

Ok, I've been in therapy for the past two yrs, and I finally think I'm seeing the light on this "being happy with yourself" shit. If you're already aware that you're anxiously attached, maybe work o…

My partner is FA and I am a DA leaning earned secure. He definitely brought out some things in me that I had yet to address. We lived together for 1.5 years. Much of it was tumultuous. I moved out aft…

I think my boyfriend (33M) and I (30F) might break up and I can’t tell if it’s my fault. This might be a long story so I’m sorry in advance. My boyfriend and I usually text most of the day, every day…

In other words you are putting others above yourself. You don’t listen to the inner voice that tries to protect you. You put yourself down. Think others are better than you. This is all self abandonme…

After my Bipolar ex broke up with me, I can’t stop worrying about her. She broke up with me a month ago. Everything was seeming wonderful, and on top of the world. We were going to get married. I bou…

Friend is distancing and I’m not sure how to correctly deal with it. I very much believe I have an anxious attachment style and it’s very closely linked with my BPD and OCD. In the past year, I bec…

It’s kind of normal to go through this with a lot of mental health treatments. People finally understand themselves and others better, there’s new skills to implement, but the outcomes initially swin…

If the option is available, you could benefit from CBT, DBT, or ACT treatment. I did some CBT and DBT with a psychotherapist, which helped navigate my emotions and thought process during the early sta…

Very astute observation with IFS: It happens infrequently, but it can actually encourage psychosis and dissociative conditions due to think of oneself as a multiple rather than integrated whole, so it…

My relationship is still less than a year old and is long distance. I love my girlfriend very much and I know she loves me and she has put up with various of my problems and supported me and has been …

Text of original post by u/f1rstpancake: I am in a crash course on my own nervous system while in the midst of a breakup with a dismissive avoidant man I've loved for almost five years. I'd known abou…

genuine self-reflective question, what makes him so special to you that you would put up with this behaviour? there are so many other people out there that would treat you so much better. and ask yo…

Text of original post by u/upernikos: My first post was about my deep attachment to a former friend who cut things off because she is now my employee. I'm actually making a lot of progress with that. …

I have been in work situations where a lot of boundaries were crossed Indeed some people are really adept at being fruends in a work.setting Obviously this situation is bringing up flashbacks for …

I understand. I can relate to these feelings *a lot.* I understand not wanting to label someone you love as an abuser, I think it can prevent so many people from actually healing because… I mean I cou…

> I think this is an anxious trait so I want to know if this also happens to you? Why am I reacting like this? Is it justified or is it my insecurity talking? How do you communicate, instead of pullin…

The anxious behavior strategies are fairly more obvious. >C1 (Threateningly Angry): They use anger to coerce attached figures into proving care and comfort. >C2 (Disarmingly Desirous of Comfort): Co…

I err on the side that believing it is what makes it impossible. My mother was DA and now “earned secure” - she was only 17 shy of 18 when I was delivered into the world. She got diagnosed with DID w…

Finding best friends really is all about timing. All you can do is try to be as friendly, open, and warm then through some miracle you might find your best friend. I had a best friend of one yea…

I think AA and hyper-vigilance, they are all coming from the same place. AA is hyper-vigilance regarding abandonment. You don't want to be abandoned by your partner. One or both of your care givers li…

This is extremely relatable for me too. I'm actually just learning about attachment theory now at 36, and reading about all the thoughts and behaviours and feelings common to anxious attachment style …

Exposure therapy is going to be key for most people, in my opinion. I have OCD and I learned through treatment that for anyone with anxiety/OCD you have to learn how to tolerate discomfort. Now I don’…

I am honestly worried I won't find it. I've been in a lot of relationships at this point, and while things are getting better for me after making some changes to my approach, I do live with a history …

it wasn't a boundary if you interpreted her breaking it as a favourable outcome. Think of it this way: a boundary is an absolute NO. One of my boundaries is, for e.g., I won't date someone who humilia…

Yes, absolutely. I'm so much wiser and hotter than I was in my 20s. I find it easier to meet people and feel way more positive about meeting a partner than I used to. I'm better at socializing, I'm be…