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1) Identify the "Upper Limit": Read "The Big Leap" by Gay Hendricks. It explains how we sabotage ourselves when things go too well because we feel we don’t deserve more happiness or success than our f…
I'm convinced that I've done something horrible to my nephew. (POCD) — I'm so sorry. I'm having an absolute panic attack right now. I've been ruminating about a lot of things, and this is specifically me ruminating about my nephew. I have POCD, at least, I certainly ho…
Us who were child victims — Do you absolutely melt when you see a parent go above and beyond to protect or avenge their child? I was not believed by my mother when I told her I was raped at 9 years old by a family "friend." When…
Had my first breakthrough tonight — Demo: 42 year old Caucasian male from the U.S. Living situation: alone Medical diagnosis: AuDHD? Avoidant Personalty Disorder, Depression Educational/Career: Two Associate's degrees and currently…
I did it.. — I blocked him. Everywhere. No doors left open. Because I can't take it anymore. I'm in love with someone who could not give the slightest shred of a fuck less about me. Somebody that destroyed me em…
F22 jealous of my partners (M21)friend — I’ve dated my boyfriend for over a year. About 3 months ago he reconnected with an old friend of his. I didn’t mind at first, until I started feeling insecure. I started feeling like he prioritized us…
my mom read my therapy notes out loud at dinner and now im the “problem child” again — i got home late from work and everyone was already eating, like full family dinner mode for no reason. my mom had that weird fake calm face she does when something’s coming. i sit down, barely even gr…
am i a monster — sorry, idk if this is even the right subreddit for this, and i’m super new to reddit to begin with, so i’m honestly just trying to get stuff off my chest. for context, i’m 16F, an only child with REAL…
M 38, f 35, fears of cheating and complicated sex — Tl;dr: I have severe OCD and can detach from sex easily. Sometimes all that helps is thinking about someone else and it’s eating me alive as I love my partner. Hi all. I’m sorry if this is too graphi…
Sexually abusive Ndad bringing up Lolita — Hi all, Never posted before, but the behavior of my Ndad has gotten so strange and creepy.. I’m sure you guys will get it and I want to let a bit of it out. My Ndad sexually harassed/abused me growi…
DAE feel triggered when seeing mothers being affectionate with babies? — Context, I was at the hospital and the hospital has its own tv channel, in which they show a variety of health, food, and exercise adds made especially for the institution. I was casually looking …
Threatened with homelessness over blueberries — I've been staying at a house with my partner. An elderly couple took us in. apparently I dropped some blue berries on their carpet. And this caused them to be enraged at me. they were yelling at me te…
18m UK I don’t know what to do — Today my dad began screaming at me at dinner time because I wasn’t wearing slippers. The slippers I have don’t fit me, so obviously I’m not going to wear them. Because of this he took away my dinner a…
do i break up with my boyfriend before or after the surprise 30th birthday party i’ve been planning for 3 months? (24F, 29M) — Edit: throwaway. i'll try to be as fair as possible because i genuinely don't know what to do and i don't want this to just be a vent. i also want to be honest that i don't know if i'm part of the pro…
My childhood hurts :( — TW/ lots of abuse I (26f)am the youngest child of a large family. My parents are immigrants and have struggled a lot. I am a first generation kid so that’s just like another layer. I was born into…
Weird lucid dream (newbie) — So recently i’ve been seeing A LOT of lucid dreaming videos and It says you get sleep paralysis to enter it or wtv so I never tried it. But I randomly had a lucid dream last night, it was insane I was…
Collapse Anxiety — I severed a pretty good relationship with somebody recently because they were a communist who believed that society should fall in order to help the proletairt gain an "Advantage" (despite the fact it…
I don't even know. — this is gonna be pretty jumbled. sorry in advance i have family, that have such a detachment when it comes to sexual abuse. most of the women in my family have been abused. I was by my adopted sibli…
Witnessed abuse when I was a kid (10years old) — Hi everyone 23m here. I just have to get this off my chest. This sht has been fking with me for the last couple years now some days it’s so hard. Back in 2013-2015 someone my ma abused my step brother…
I 19/F snooped his 20/M socials and found something that broke me. I don’t know what to do w this information. — me and my bf of a year have been through a lot. we used to have a lot of arguments. my therapist and friends (some his friends too) told me I was being abused. now the relationship is great and he’s a…
my (36 F) bf (48 M) has anger issues: do I leave? — My (36 F) boyfriend (48 M) of one year has anger issues, especially at times when he's dealing with a lot like now. I try to support him and have been a good loving partner to him but now I'm starting…
How do I (28M) - with an extremely clouded memory due to medication - tell my mom (40F) that I might be a father - without making her feel like I have been lying for years? — EDIT: WRONG AGE FOR MOM. MOM IS (F50) This is a throwaway because I'm panicked and paranoid. I'm a 28 year old physically disabled adult with extreme chronic pain, still living with my mom. When I wa…
I feel you. I just think it's immaturity and they're inconsiderate. People swear if they communicate with you, that you'll fall apart or act like some kind of monster. No, I'm an adult - you say "than…
He is a monster. I recently connected the dots, and I'm still in shock. I wish he'd just leave me alone.
She’s a monster. Go to the doctor and get checked. Never ever look back.
I always think of Hulk with such phrases. Extremely strong, can regenerate from anything, tough as nails, gets stuff done Every movie they try to beat him back to Banner by force and it never works …
Damn...I'm sorry OP. We could have dated the same monster. My ex behaved in a similar fashion. Still in therapy...
I'm sorry, you don't deserve *love* because you've gained weight?? If he had said only that he wasn't as attracted to you, it would still be a dick thing to say but at least it would be honest. Bu…
I'm so sorry that all this happened to you. Your mother sounds like a monster. Proud of you for moving away and protecting yourself from her later on in life. You couldn't do it earlier because y…
Racism is present a lot. So is abuse and discrimination. I think it has gotten a lot worse with Trump becoming president because he is racist, sexist, white supremacy supporting according to many new…
Run. He’s a monster.
The phrase "don't deserve love" is so cartoonishly, over the top cruel. If this isn't fake, your husband is a monster. Lots of men get pissy when their partners gain weight. Very few discuss it by ch…
No. I don’t regret it. It was the best decision for my mental health and I fully protected my child from ever knowing him or his stepmonster. My only small regret is not being able to tell him what …
Mine let his daughter raise rabbits to sell and when he got tired of taking care if them he DUMPED THEM IN A PARK. I own and operate a livestock rescue. 22 acres with over 100 animals, including rab…
His Facebook activity was basically the ruin of our relationship. Well besides the fact that he's a monster.
I FEEL THIS SO HARD!!! Just last night I was looking at a picture of us together from a couple weeks ago and like magic he was no longer the handsome man who I loved - he was this ugly, horrible mons…
My brother in Christ. I'm telling you. There is some shit you keep to your god damn self. If you go up to your girlfriend and tell her you miss how good your ex was to you. You are a monster. It doe…
I know how you feel. I was going through something very similar until very recently. Walking on egg shells and she was still flipping out. My exceptional patience was being rewarded with things gettin…
If you abort, he can hold it over your head and forever call you a cheater. He knows you will have zero proof then. If you admit to it to stop the fighting (don'tdo this please), even when the child i…
Prenatal depression is often not recognised but pregnancy hormones can be absolutely horrendous for some women. Please don’t jump to conclusions of psychosis unless you are a medical professional and …
equating regret to assault is extremely disrespectful to survivors of assault. it makes it that much harder for them to come forward, that much hard for people to believe them. as a survivor, who …
I just the music "feed us your girls" and you fit right in it but yours include your mother feeding you to the wolf. Not in the way the music intends but in another way. Still abusive. Still disrupti…
So stop? All you can do is ask for forgiveness. Some people are not terrible monsters some people actually enjoy love and want to love you. I did the same thing you’re going through right now at about…
I should have went instantly no contact but the way they broke up with me was brutal not only thag we talked about a 90 day break no contact no this or that but the whole time i livdd with them esp si…
Dump him like a hot potato. That he would make a "joke" out of something so intensely personal for his friends, makes him a monster. It says so much of his character, and somehow he's trying to make y…
Omg your husband is a monster. And he's not even sorry, just gets irritated when you get upset and thinks you're "overreacting" because you being upset is inconvenient. I would not stay with that man…
In my experience, they usually are setting up their new life, new friend group, new romances etc. with a whole new set of people who have no connection to you, or their old life. They only have one or…
How hateful he instantly became towards me. Before filing, I had hoped there might be a chance of us doing this amicably. Oh hell no! He turned into a monster. It's really sad after a decades of marri…
Take it from me. Thank goodness this anonymous. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years. He has done some fucked up shit to me. And I to him out of spite, rage, and resentment. I have …
Holy. I was blaming my father for the overt abuse but recently I’ve been late diagnosed with autism. I think he is as well. But my mother. I never seen shit, until I started saying no. Then I finally…
He said he **might** marry her - he's a monster.
Yeah, my dad likes to pretend he has the moral high ground. You still can care for people you do not agree with. He condemns the actions not the person… I need to let this go, it was 6 years ago and I…
I’m so, so sorry you had to cross paths with that monster. Amongst some other truly vile shit I had blocked out of my mind, your comment reminded me that he told me that he could have been a father, …
As hard as it is, sharing your SA experiences can truly show who a person is. Anyone I’ve told that has been a genuinely kind person, has always been horrified, sad and so angry for me. Anyone I’ve to…
OP, you were raped. This is a crime. A terrible crime. One that should lead to him being arrested and going to prison! Please don’t let him get away with this-he did this in your home in your own bed …
Who the hell does that? Sorry OP that it happened to you but she, for whatever reason, has just turned into a monster. And you should never take what monsters say to heart. Cut her out of your life …
Last night my boyfriend and I had our first real conflict. We’ve been dating for 5 months. The worst part of the conflict was, I hurt him and it was totally unintentional - but I see where I went wron…
it's impossible for two human beings with their own personalities, quirks, baggage, biases, etc not to hurt each other at some point. that's just life. what matters more is how we handle it. whether w…
“You’ll understand when you’re a parent.” Yes. I did. I understand how easy it is to love my child and NOT abuse them. I understand now completely that she was an absolute monster. It was after I beca…
You were once the new supply. They break up once they work out like you and I did that they are with a monster.
He and I were new to dating. Only a few months together. He said she was the biggest monster, etc. but the truth slowly trickled out that it was he that was the monster. There were lots of red flags…
I've been saying this for years. Here's the reality........only a few things will get a judges attention. Videos where both parties are clearly seen. Events witnessed by third parties. Parenting a…
I spent so long, so many decades convinced I was the problem. That my sisters were the problem. that the extended family was the problem. I watched my older sister be rejected and exiled. Grew up bel…
Calling suicide cowardly is completely counter-productive. I understand where it comes from. My paternal grandfather died by suicide, and that was almost certainly part of the childhood spiral that le…
Sorry to hear about your struggles. I can relate a lot and I’ve been through a very similar journey. For me what turned it around was to realise that even getting better and healing and psychoanalysi…
For those of us with broken, narcissistic parents that leveraged our young age, lack of understanding why they would be acting as such or the agency to stop them in these worst, most self indulgent ex…
I completely agree. I try to give context on the 'why' and provide a 'down the road' perspective. From being on both sides of that sewer line...err, fence....I cannot overstate how bad it is to stay…
What married woman goes to Thailand without her husband? This wasn’t a red flag for OP? Time to smarten up and make better life choices. Start with choosing to end your “marriage” to this monster.
So many of these answers make me never want to be in a relationship again as a man. I was married for many years and did as much as I could to please my wife in all of that time. I was the higher earn…
Little tots gonna little tot. It would be a mistake to focus solely on the child’s way of expressing distress rather than looking at the context in which that distress is expressed. For example, let…
"You must think I'm a monster." Heard that one so many times it's burned into my brain.
You said in another comment you’ve been together for less than a year? My guyyy, it is totally reasonable to not want to commit yet. The pressure and meanness is just a preview of what you’re in for…