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I tell myself that what I want is already mine, but I don't have it yet cuz the timing isn't right. I think of it like ordering stuff from a warehouse. It takes time for them to process the order, and…

Manifesting New Skills and Knowledge with the Law of Belief– Is It Possible? — Hi everyone! I’m reaching out to this amazing community because I’m diving deep into the Law of Belief and want to explore how powerful it can truly be.🙏❤️ I keep wondering—can this law actually he…

Can Manifestation Really Help You Get Full Marks in an Exam If You Only Wrote Part of the Answer? — Hey everyone, I have a question that might sound a bit out there, but I’m curious to hear if anyone has had a similar experience. I recently took an exam where I only managed to write answers for ab…

Singe page website / landing page — I purchased a domain name through Cloudflare, and am hoping to set up a single page landing page/website I can use to generate traffic to (via ad campaigns, organic traffic, etc.) in order to collect …

The Ability to Scale Predictably Is a Superpower (Here’s Why DTC Brands Can’t Skip Performance Marketing) — The ability to **scale predictably** is a superpower—especially for DTC brands. If you’ve worked with or inside a DTC company, you know the drill: * You launch, get some organic traction, and then… …

Changing or staying? Product Designer — Hello. I’ve barely been a junior product designer for a year before I was laid off and threatened by AI. Same telltale as everyone in design/IT industries. I’ve been unemployed for 2 months now, and …

Free Search Phrase tool? — Hi, I built a blog and I am looking to optimize it and look for some new potential search phrases. Are there any really good tools that are free? Would love a one and done tool but if a couple of fr…

Home page visits but no clicks or sales — Hi all, I was hoping to grab some feedback from the pros here. New to Ecom and wondering whats going wrong. Getting a great CTR from my ads and heaps of visitors to the site, but most of them scroll…

Free shipping promo got 0.01% conversion. Where did we go wrong? — Hi everyone, hoping to get your thoughts. We ran a 3-day free shipping campaign from for our e-commerce store (mid- to high-end). • Page views: 10,000 • Instagram ad reach: 55,000 • Orders: 2 (onl…

What plugins do you use for speed optimization? — I’m still new to the technical side of SEO and have mainly used the LiteSpeed Cache plugin since my personal site is hosted on Hostinger with QUIC.cloud CDN. But now I’m hoping to take on technical SE…

Can’t Access My Shopify Store Created with Google Login – Stuck in Login Loop, No Password Option — Hey everyone, I’m having a frustrating issue and hoping someone here can help. I created my Shopify store using the “Continue with Google” option with my Gmail so I didn’t set a password because Goog…

Things to do with my non technical cofounder "i will not promote" — Hi all i will not promote So i have a startup / side business im working on, I bought a friend in as a cofounder as he's generally useful in going out making connections, someone to help with site …

Help troubleshoot with removing unwanted bundles feature — Hello, I'm setting up my first shopify store. I'm not sure how, but there's a bundle offer on every product in my store. I'm happy having a bundles option. However, the lowest is 2, and I want people …

Website Traffic Analytics Show No Activity Suddenly — Hello Guys. Hoping you can shed some light as to why we are facing a situation. When I click on Rank Math Analytics for the last 30 days it shows zero activity across the board. There is activity up…

Considering a move from big tech to a small company. Worth the risk? — I know this sub leans junior, but hoping to get some advice from senior folks. Especially people in Bay Area, NYC, or Seattle-type tech scenes. Tagging this as Job Search and not Senior Only because I…

Should I hide my plugins in WordPress for safety? And how? — Hey folks, I've been thinking about WordPress security lately and came across this question: **Should I hide the plugins I'm using on my WordPress site to improve safety?** I’m not talking about u…

Changing font of only one number or letter in paragraph — Hello, I’m fairly new to Wordpress but not entirely. I am barely familiar with coding, but hoping to become moreso. I am wanting to change the font of a single number in a paragraph sentence. Any adv…

Seeking WordPress Booking Plugin with Stripe Integration for Card Authorization Without Immediate Charge (no-show fee) — **TL;DR:** *Need a WordPress booking plugin that works with Stripe to: require credit card at booking, do €0 authorization, allow in-person payment, and charge 10% no-show fee later.* I'm currently…

Need some help with SplideJS Carousel -- auto height is not working — I've got a jsfiddle setup for review. [https://jsfiddle.net/agvwheqc/](https://jsfiddle.net/agvwheqc/) I'm really not good with code, but know enough to waste lots and lots of time trying to figure…

How to switch a domain and custom e-mail address purchased through Squarespace to Showit? — So I've had my website on Squarespace for 10+ years, but I finally completed the build of my whole new website on Showit (I'm a wedding photographer, for reference). I'm a little nervous to dig into t…

advise on how to promote a social feed app to specific communities (i will not promote) — hi Folks, Over the years, I have been toying with code and platforms etc. and recently I had sometime and with the help of copilot + and external help I have been able to create a very low cost, scale…

Finding Like Minded Business People — **TL/DR :**  Looking for people who are stuck with unsure with what business they want to pursue and end up learning a little bit about all of them; that want to partner up to stay focused with each …

What exactly are "Design Problems" and "Design Solutions" in UI/UX for Web and Mobile Apps? — I often hear terms like “design problems” and “design solutions” in YouTube videos, case studies, and articles about product design and UI/UX. While I do understand requirements and can design user fl…

I’ve failed at startups, lived on the road, and I still believe I’m successful — I was 19 when I started my first startup. I led a team of 15 people, wanted to change the world. And I failed. At 21, back in 2016, I left home without any money, hoping that traveling would help me …

Is this hero banner a snippet or custom coded? How can I do this? — I'm looking at brightsport's home page and I like the dynamic hero banner, hoping someone can tell me how I can do this same thing, whether it's a snippet, part of a theme, or if I'll need custom code…

7 x multiplier for profitability? — I’m reading a book called “ The complete book of product design, development, manufacturing & sales” by Steven Selikoff It says that you should be able to sell your physical product for seven times w…

How do startups choose between Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, and Clerk for auth & DB? What are your must-haves? (I will not promote) — I'm doing some research into how early-stage startups choose backend platforms, particularly when it comes to **authentication and databases**. I’ve seen a lot of teams go with **Supabase**, others sw…

In an avoidant-anxious friendship, how much space should I be giving before I reach out? — The last 2 posts on the sub are about friendship and that encouraged me to post here as well. This is my friend of 5 years. We’ve gone from talking almost everyday to me being given the silent treat…

Help me to recognise my attachment style please! — I (26F) am struggling with this a lot, since my patterns of romantic behavior don’t seem to fit neatly into any of the four categories (AA, FA, DA, SA). On the one hand, I clearly crave intimacy and…

I broke no contact — Well - after a month I broke no contact. I thought I was in a really good place for it, and I still believe that I am. But he did not answer and it hurt still. My message was a friendly check in, and …

Need advice: Is it possible to be anxious anxiously attached to a specific person? — Good evening everyone! I am 25 M Recently, things ended pretty badly with this woman I was close to with. She was aware I had feelings for her, and well would flirt back sometimes. I was and still am…

I want to believe in LOA so badly, is there any small experiment I can try to regain my faith? — Hey everyone, I’m writing this because I’m honestly at my wits’ end and I don’t know where else to ask. I *want* to believe in LOA and manifestation. I really do. I’m not a skeptic or a hater, I’ve…

Studying attachment theory — I’ve been studying attachment theory for a couple of months now, and I’ve only recently started to REALLY look into it. I started reading a book called Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for…

I did it!! I did the hard thing!!! Even though they were a good person, even though I knew they cared, our relationship was hurting me, despite my best attempts at healing myself. At the end of the day, an asymmetrical dynamic hurts. After 2 years of hoping and hurting, I chose myself. — I have been in anxious-avoidant dynamics before, but this was the first relationship where there were genuinely...*good* things about my the person I was seeing. They were emotionally intelligent, had…

For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…

contemplating root of avoidance — I have been considering why some of my relationships work while others make me disconnect. I think the root is a desire to feel deeply understood and seen. I recently had a connection with someone I…

FA breakup & prolonged limbo - does avoidance calcify over time or can it still reverse? — I’m hoping to hear from people who’ve been through something similar, FAs, or anyone who has opinions on this. I was in a 2 year relationship with someone I later realized is fearful avoidant (I didn…

feeling numb in dating but longing for intimacy — For the past few years, I've been mostly numb in dating. I don’t really feel anything romantic. I don’t feel sparks. I don’t feel excited about anyone or attached. I don’t miss people when I’m not wit…

a song about longing for something that never was - disorganized attachment style edition (cathartic release) — Lyrics: I’m standing at a wishing well, One coin trembling in my hand, A promise pressed against my palm, A truth I barely understand. They told me I was unworthy, Long before I learned my name,…

A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…

A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…

Women keep telling me I need to date younger and now my daughter has too. — I (39m) look young for my age and have been dating for the last 4 years. I have mostly dated women in their 30s and about half of them have told me to date someone younger after things didn’t work bet…

Feeling “off” after trust rupture — attachment system or intuition? — I have been dating my current partner for about a year now. Long post incoming. I’m posting because I’m noticing a significant avoidant shift in myself and I need perspective specifically on my own at…

DA’s - Do You Know When You’re Deactivating? — When you’re deactivating, do you know that’s what’s happening? If you were unaware of your attachment style or attachment theory, would you still have a sense of what’s going on? Had some intimacy …

Saw the same man I've been seeing as a kid — I'm sorry about the use of A.I but my drawing skills are bad and I don't know how to explain this but I've seen this man in my dreams ever since I was a child. I remember seeing shows like Tom and Jer…

Cannabis vs. Mushrooms [My Experience] — So I'll start off by saying I'm not very experienced and have multiple psychotic and/or disassociative disorders plus a medical card But I'm surprised at my take away when using the medical marijuana…

DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

54M – Going through a separation and just looking for people who understand — I’m a 54 year old guy currently going through a separation and I’m having a harder time with it than I expected. Some moments I feel okay, other moments it hits pretty hard. I’m not looking for anyth…

I was able to communicate with someone….. — I don’t know if this the correct sub… let me know I’ll explain my situation hoping some one can orient me : A few days ago, I had a weird dream/astral projection experience—I don’t even know how to …

Marriage is not going good. I was hoping that from venus md it will improve but don’t see any signs.

Thank you *so* much for this. I have been hoping to find a little corner of the Internet that focused specifically on this and I am thrilled to have stumbled upon this sub.

Also, I often can slip back into the dream if I wake up and continue on with it. It is so hard to explain. I am hoping that I am not alone /crazy lol. Just wondering if other people experience this. T…

I would remove it too because their silence may be exactly what the ex has been hoping for. It's a complete emotional setup.

I’m in that situation now. When asked if he wanted to continue seeing me, he said he wasn’t sure of me and he didn’t like feeling it this way and that we should probably stop seeing each other for now…

I tried looking at your chart but it didn’t pop up for some reason I felt like I connected to some of it was hoping to check it out but it gave a message sort of suggesting it had “expired”

Wow I’m so sorry you’re going through this! It’s nuts how common our stories are. I always felt like I was being dragged around by Eric and he could never just tell me “it’ll never work out” Just brea…

The best advice I could give is to envision this, if you are having a hard time holding on to this vision for hoping the future will lead you to back together and you will not let anything happen to p…

Thank you for this! I stumbled across this yesterday, and I'm hoping it'll be useful. There are things I'd want to know, like why I've been struggling to find a new job or why I'm introverted despit…

>The objective of LOB or LOA is to build lasting faith, not just temporary faith, over the long term to effect change subconsciously in the face of obstacles in life no matter what negatives are in th…

I've been in therapy for over a year for various reasons, and for me the first thing I needed to work on was my self image. Understanding and accepting myself, building confidence and a stronger sense…

ChatGPT has been my T lately haha, so I don't have attachment to it. And reddit and other communities are my support system I guess. I am a DA-leaning FA who has always felt a lot of self hatred and s…

Oh believe me, I spend a lot of time talking to them. They only answer rarely. My latest thing is to take each part and work to understand wehre it's coming from, what it's movtivations are, how it …

Fair play, I’m so happy for you. I’m also a sysadmin with decade of experience with Win, Mac and Linux, and have been helping out my company with devops stuff every opportunity I get (pipelines, ter…

There's a million different opportunities. Most are viable. At 18 you basically have no experience. There's nothing wrong with that, and even a few advantages. But you also don't know what you don't …

Someone’s gotta be on the other end. He might be pushing, and looks like he usually is, but you’re pulling every time you entertain him. Because most people wouldn’t keep letting him in again, which y…

Codependent fixer, I read this with wide eyes filled with hope, and got to this comment and remembered my FA/DA leaning ex partner ghosted me 3 months into our relationship. We cannot fix them no matt…

Some of these comments are saying silly (and heteronormative) things like "weird around children" or "checks out other women when they think you're not looking". Obvious reminder that being uncomforta…

I suppose I’m scared of therapy because I don’t want to take any medication for other issues and I don’t trust the therapist. They’re just a person too, they’d likely harbor judgment and opinions agai…

same!! my last week has been horrible too. here's to hoping it gets better for the both of us!

Keep that guard up. You losing interest is your healing, so make sure you don't undo it. She is not out of the woods yet - if work makes her so stressed out she is unable to communicate, I'd watch out…

This is called “hoovering”, it’s a known technique for toxic individuals.   They’re saying whatever they think will suck you back in to the scenario.  Note the expansive, emotive but oddly totally no…

“There’s something about you that’s comfortable” = “I went in hot pursuit of the person I actually desire and they rejected me so I’m back hoping you’ll still be available. After you accept this offer…

After being away for some time, the nervous system regulates and they make decisions from a calm safe space. And realize that they should (maybe) not have left the relationship, they were too rash, wh…

"The FA in me wanted to run wild and send a dramatic text, but I stopped myself. I reminded myself this was protest behavior." Wtf?! You had never even gone on a date with this woman but when she sho…

I think you know what you need to do but are still hoping he will change because what you two have is something special and he just needs time to become who you need him to be. You've been freed fro…

I know you’re right. I’ve done years of therapy. This relationship undid a lot of it. He was the best partner I ever had, so I was really hoping it was going to work. I was wrong.

I think there's definitely patterns to look out for. I tried to talk to him about this hoping it would give more clarity to the deactivation patterns that needed to change, but unfortunately when in d…

This subreddit exists to talk about attachment theory. It's a theory that was developed to try and understand our attachments in *relationships*, which develop from infancy. It's not synonymous with e…

I’m hoping I’m able to move on from this quickly and not dwell so that’s a great thing to remember to prioritize

I honestly think you're a more secure person that gets triggered by an avoidant unable to bring you the desires and love you need. There's nothing wrong with wanting to feel a strong intimate connec…

Help me to recognise my attachment style please! I (26F) am struggling with this a lot, since my patterns of romantic behavior don’t seem to fit neatly into any of the four categories (AA, FA, DA, SA…

Thanks for sharing your story. That’s a lot of work you’ve put in, I hope it starts to be fruitful for you in relationships. It sounds like it already is with the most important people - your kids. …

I guess I’ll find out. I’m anxiously attached and my boyfriend is an avoidant but he had zero knowledge of attachment styles prior, so he just feels bad rn for knowing a tangible reason for his action…

Yay. This is good news. Isn't it liberating to feel this way? How did you get to this stage? What kind of inner work did you do to heal from your anxiety? I'm really hoping to heal my anxious attachm…

There is no way to postpone the trip. It's for study abroad and I've already paid non-refundable tuition. I'm actually really excited to go and hoping that while still staying in contact with my suppo…

I am, Im not sure on their end. There seems to be flickers of romance but its too soon to truly know. But this is perhaps the struggle, I dont know what to make of their actions. Sometimes they reply …

Hi everyone! I'm a bit socially awkward, and making friends is (and always has been) difficult for me. I recently joined local group chat on Discord, and started privately chatting with a guy. We re…

I struggle keeping relationships for a full 2 years, people usually get fed up with me being so needy but I think the older I get and the more comfortable I am with myself and understand myself more t…

I found an engagement ring in his office and fucked everything up. I've been with my boyfriend for 2ish years now, he's definitely avoidant but secure leaning. Since the beginning, we have had the sa…

I've recently discovered attachment styles. Recognize myself as anxious immediately. The initial discovery felt freeing. Everything made sense all of a sudden I thought my avoidant wife would dive int…

I’m a year late but let’s be real, this is facts. The people bashing manifestation or New Thought teachings are just mad it didn’t work for them. They got half-baked info off TikTok or Abraham Hicks, …

Thank you, yeah I was hoping he would say he really wants to just take his time to get to know me but I definitely caught the vibe of he’s just exploring and getting some experience with me. Thank you…

Text of original post by u/Musician-Kind: Well - after a month I broke no contact. I thought I was in a really good place for it, and I still believe that I am. But he did not answer and it hurt still…

"Has anyone else ever been in this position and broken no contact?" Many times! There is no shame in breaking no contact. We're wired to maintain connection whatever the cost. Give yourself full comp…

I haven't broken no contact, but I've seen an ex about year later and she pretended not to see me, it stung so much that I felt like I was back at square zero. I was so shocked by it because we didnt…

He sounds like he is not emotionally available for a real relationship. What are you hoping to get out of this relationship?

This has been so helpful. I’m so happy and relieved to find this thread. While I hate that we’re all in the same boat, it really helps that I’m not alone and there’s a great support system here. I jus…

I would suggest really digging into what is underlying the need to meet in person and “find out who we truly are”. There is only so much you will learn about someone in the short amount of time you ca…

Someone recently told me my anxiety was probably going to make my secure partner avoidant 🫠 so that’s fun to worry about. I’m hoping he influences me instead 😅

What question do you have specifically. You are very focused on her. However, what is really at the root of this that is going on inside of you? Are you hoping to save her as a way to earn her love? D…