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I know what you mean, it happened to me too. Also, sometimes I'd dream of someone I hadn't seen in ages, and that day I'd meet them. It freaked me out a bit. My first unconscious manifestation stood o…
Being a parent exposed everything bad about running a small business — Before kids, I founded and ran a small food delivery business for 5 years. It was locally loved, I had a steady stream of orders, and from the outside, it looked like freedom. But then I had my first…
32 years of marriage, but I'm still unsettled by an affair from 2006. Is it too late to ask for the truth? — I’ve been married for 32 years now, but there is a something from 2006 that I’ve never been able to move past. Back then, my daughters were 11 and 10. We were leaving my parents' house after a weekend…
Seeking advice about my wife's actions — Seeking advice I’m posting here because I need honest input from people who understand limerence/crush dynamics, especially if you’ve experienced it while in a committed relationship or from the part…
Not sure if I'm supposed to answer these here? They have, and I tend to shut it down. Had a recent experience where someone I work with referred to me as her "friend"; minutes later I referred to her…
Oh, great question! Yes, I was often able to recognize that I was masking and self sacrificing to meet the expectations of my romantic partners, and that would cause me to start developing resentment…
When a guy approaches me, my knee jerk reaction is to say no or redirect/end the conversation before they can ask. I see people sometimes who I think if they ask me I’d be interested. But people who d…
Even three years later when I bring it up, she calmly allows me to ask all questions and responds calmly. She does say that it's exhausting that I keep bringing it up, but doesn't shut it down. I thin…
I posted the following response on this sub earlier this week: I broke up with this guy I’d been dating for a few months, when I was in my much younger/immature dating heyday. Nice guy but I wasn’t …
Has he done anything to disprove this other than saying it isn’t him? If this is legit not him, I’d be doing everything I could to track down who is doing this to my marriage and making moves to immed…
My mother has dementia and I have not had contact with her since 2022. So, I have basically grieved not having the mother I deserved while she is still alive. I live in another country and my home cou…
First sentence, second paragraph. She directly raises the discussion of what it would be like to go on the trip, which is a leading question if ever there was one. He has interpreted this as step one …
Therapists also aren’t supposed to fuck or sexualize clients. OP, even if you did genuinely want to be intimate with him, he is prohibited by his license. He knows that. Therapists deal with advances …
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It is up to you whether or not you report him. If you decide to, know that you have done nothing wrong in this situation. There is a big power dynamic at play…
Thanks for sharing!! Now I'm curious what the detailed response contained haha. I can see that re: perpetual foreigner syndrome. It def seems like Latinos and Black ppl are far more commonly in mains…
Unless something more happens, I think you should just keep it moving. She’s in the past. Who cares if they once had feelings (if they had). It was before the two of you got together, right? If th…
My ex is avoidant. He completely shut down every conversation related to me asking to be in his life more. It was a no go. He talked over me, dismissed me, interrupted me. The next day he asked me out…
I really do think, if she did try anything, he would shut it down. That's what I'm getting from all this. It's gonna be okay and you don't have to like her. You're not going to like everyone.
You say how much it upsets you that he keeps bringing it up, despite repeatedly telling him you are not interested. This is disrespectful and manipulative of him, because rather than respecting your o…
Agree it's a crush. She already set a boundary and shut it down. The feelings will pass