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I think my comment was read very differently than intended. Thanks for the reply but I didn't say "I want an apology", I said if someone has never experienced someone apologizing to them (not necessar…
🛑STOP HIJACKING POSTS🛑 — 📣Saying it loudly for the people in the back. I know this post is going to have a “vibe” but being warm and fuzzy has never worked so I’m trying to be crystal clear and firm here: Recently there h…
This is what happens when your FA ex comes back — This is my personal experience for those who are curious. Of course everyone will be different but I thought it might help those who are waiting or wishing (APs I'm talking mostly to you) Firstly the…
How do you tell whether you need to push through the avoidance or if you just don’t like them as a partner — I feel silly asking this but I’m in my first serious long term relationship and I’m struggling so hard. I get very paranoid that it’s not meant to be because I feel so insanely avoidant. Like what if …
Rushing to know if I’m long term compatible with someone — The past two years I’ve done a lot of internal work on myself regarding my attachment and codependency issues. I feel that I lean more secure than ever. I recently started seeing someone, I’ve known t…
FA breakup & prolonged limbo - does avoidance calcify over time or can it still reverse? — I’m hoping to hear from people who’ve been through something similar, FAs, or anyone who has opinions on this. I was in a 2 year relationship with someone I later realized is fearful avoidant (I didn…
A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…
A little win, I hope — Every once in a while I tend to think myself into a spiral about my relationship. That I actually don't like my partner, that I'm stringing her along and will break her heart someday, that I'm just no…
No contact but want my stuff back — I put another thread on but basically he’s broken up with me and gone no contact. I initially reached out to find out what happened and if we could fix it (the next day), and a few days later asked fo…
Related advice from Alan Watts — In this short talk, I learned a lot. Mainly regarding one of my frustrations with trying to " achieve focus 12" he discusses how meditation is not meant to be goal driven. He relates it to music when …
33f. Divorcing, plenty of love, no infidelity, almost 20 years, just incompatible. — I’m heartbroken. Husband and I have been together for the best part of 20 years. Met when we were teens. Truly love one another, deeply. We’ve had a pretty dead bedroom for most of our time together. …
Should I reach out? — 6.5 months out from a 6 year relationship and engagement. I miss her like crazy still. I have grown and expanded in so many ways, but I still miss my best friend and want her to be a part of my life. …
Crazy experience “timeline hopper” — I’ve been lucid dreaming since I was about 12/13, and I’m now 23. I trained myself into it years ago and now I lucid dream every morning which sometimes can be annoying because it affects my sleep. I’…
things that have worked for me as a sensitive person — 1- mental diet is more important than anything else. I know people say this all the time, but what really made it click for me was realizing I can be gentle with it. I found that framing it as “old st…
I (36M) am in tears in my own home while my parents play with my daughter. — My wife has gone away for a conference today (for the first time since we had a kid). I am alone with my parents in my own home and feel so unsafe with them. At any time, I fear an attack will come my…
Im so scared of the future coming. The world looks so bleek — Im so scared of the future coming. The world looks so bleek. Im crying. I can't handle it. I feel like the world is gonna collapse before I even get a chance to finish my 20's. I had dreams and goals.…
Which planet and/or aspect should I focus on and work with to remedy my inability to form lasting intimate relationships and friendships? — As you can see I have a T-square between Mars, Venus and Saturn and I have Pluto on the Ascendant opposite Chiron. I'm 56, not married, no kids, I only had one boyfriend in my early twenties for about…
Writing about my experience with Iboga medicine 🌱 — Earlier I made a post and someone commented that they didn't want to watch a video. Understood! Here is an account of what I saw during my time with ceremony number one with iboga. It was not what I i…
Built a simple app to understand emotional patterns (no social features) — I noticed most advice focuses on fixing emotions quickly. But understanding patterns matters more. So I built Moodie: • track how you feel • notice patterns over time • no pressure to share •…
What Happened? — Just looking to gather perspective from someone else. I (M34) matched with someone (F36) on Hinge back in December. Got along really well and had two dates in January, which went really well. We kiss…
ive been meditating and spending lots of time in forest alone. i feel drained around most ppl. i feel dizzy, a bit heavy and not in this world after a date. is it normal? is this my problem or others? all i know is : i don't feel as peaceful around people as i am in forest. am i meant to be alone?? — ive been sensitive, super sensitive my whole life. i used to be affected by environment a lot. like metro makes me feel chaotic. forest makes me feel extremely peaceful. and bad-energy ppl gives me he…
am i meant to be alone? ive been meditating and spending time in forest alone where i feel so calm. but i feel drained around most ppl. i feel dizzy and a bit heavy after a date. is it normal? is this my problem or others? all i know is i don't feel as peaceful around people as i am in forest. — ive been sensitive, super sensitive my whole life. i used to be affected by environment a lot. like metro makes me feel chaotic. forest makes me feel extremely peaceful. and bad-energy ppl gives me he…
It has been two years since I broke up, and here we are, folks. — It's a strange day/event to commemorate, yet it's undeniably a significant one. I feel like it's important to pay a token of respect to the journey I took. So here we are. 1. Before diving deep into …
I (29F) am planning to walk away from my partner (29M) and I feel guilty for choosing to put myself first.. — We’ve been together for about nine years, married for less than one, we had a lot of issues over the years that I’ve tried over and over again to fix, with trying to talk through it, and even couples …
Should I give him another chance? — F26 M29 dated for a little less than 3 years. We have amazing chemistry that feels genuinely out of this world. We have the most fun together and he’s genuinely my best friend. We’re good together whe…
Disability *does* make manifestation harder, and I think that’s the point. — I’m sure this won’t be revelatory for a lot of people. I’m new to this stuff and more than open to being wrong, but… I was moderately disabled (not that that has any standardised meaning but whatever…
Reminder to not reach out — If you were dumped and left confused and hurt and angry this is a reminder to be strong and don’t give in to the urge to reach out. I was so angry and confused and blind sided and I really wanted to r…
Day 6 — 6 days since. Today was another pretty good day. Still think about her/us all the time. I try to listen to music as much as I can to drown out those thoughts but they still come in. If you are reading…
Depressed and lost ⚠️. I need help please. — Trigger ⚠️: Reddit has always been my escape place, especially subs like this. I'm always here. I know Astrology doesn't guarantee a real outcome but I'm losing hope now. I've always been depressed,…
The global awakening, the planetary shift in consciousness, I seek to find you — \*\*\*\*Note: the following is my own interpretation and opinion of my own existence and nothing else. I am not an oracle. I have many questions and few answers. \------------- In the beginning ther…
Read this if you're miserable and want your ex back. — # Your ex won't come back until you've COMPLETELY let go of them. ...and it's not gonna take 30 days of No Contact. I wish it was that simple. Let me explain how I've come to this conclusion while …
Overcorrections 2 Electric Boogaloo — This time I'm focusing on the way things are phrased in this subreddit's Read Me First. The problems I'm noticing can be either attributed to right understanding but wrong phrasing, or wrong understan…
What changes did you notice once you started taking actions ? — I’m learning nothing is wrong with me, all I’m doing is just avoiding actions and habit of extreme overthinking which has lead to fear, embrassment feeling to ask someone for help or seeking advice, a…
Was anyone else taught that families shouldn’t have conversations? — I was talking to my therapist about the way my family functioned as a child and she said something really interesting. Basically, she said that I’ve absorbed a lot of their messaging about myself with…
My boyfriend hasn’t had a job in months and I’m now the sole provider. That’s just part of it. — Chase (35M) and I(30F) have been dating for close to two years. For the first several months, we had a great sex life and honestly moved way too fast–I moved in with him after only dating for six mont…
Thank you to this community. — After posting yesterday, I received a lot of support and feedback from kind redditors. I just wanted to say thank you. Every comment helped me reflect deeper and I have been able to let go of wanting …
no contact but i think he’s the one — hi all! sorry this is long but i’ve been reading stories/advice on here for a while but i decided i wanted personal advice bc i cant stop thinking about my ex’s and i’s situation. we were 15/16 years …
Improving the Minds Eye — This is a very simple exercise. Grab some paper, stare at it and really commit it to memory. Don't panic if you can't—it's all meant to be improved upon over time. Close your eyes and visualize (to …
3 months later, I finally deleted his pics out of my phone — Granted I just hid the pics of us together. Deleting those felt too much like deleting my formative memories. Like prom pics? Graduation? Family events? Birthdays? He was there for all of them for 8 y…
How do I stop being an alien? — All my life, I have felt alien around other people. I am fairly certain of the reason why, as I have been diagnosed with autism for the majority of my lifespan. I have always watched movies where the…
Can’t shake the feeling we’re meant for each other — I’ve been no contact for 7 weeks after my avoidant ex left me. He told me he doesn’t feel anything anymore and blocked me everywhere. Even so, I have this really strong, persistent feeling that we so…
six months strong!! — six months since the break up and 3.5 months since I last tried to reach out to him. there have been some extremely rough and lonely nights where I have gotten so close to unblocking him and reaching …
29F 32M Fiancé and I got into life altering fight — My fiancé (32M) and I (29F) got into a massive, horrible fight last night. It started from something so small and unrelated, then blew up into something massive. Basically we fought and I felt blame…
Tip on how you can report your abuse when you have "easily triggered" parents which makes it difficult to tell secrets to parents? — How to tell someone about abuse safely if you have social anxiety If you have social anxiety, selective mutism, or just find talking about serious stuff terrifying, here’s a step-by-step way to tell …
[20M] I lost the only person who truly loved me because I went on "autopilot" — I’ve been with my girlfriend for almost three years. We’ve been together since high school; I met her when I was 15 or 16, and she was 17 or 18. At first, we were just friends, and I liked her a lot—…
How do I (20F) break it to my best friend (20M) that I'm seeing someone new after he recently confessed his feelings for me? — So about three months ago, my best friend told me that he has had feelings for me basically ever since we met. I used to have a little crush on him when we first met, but I don't have feelings for him…
I wish I was 'normal' [mentions of neglect] — Couldn't figure out how to add a spoiler tag, but trigger warning in the flair and title. Whenever I bring this up to other people, or in therapy, they always say the same thing. There is no 'normal'…
She wants to set something up this month… — My gf of 7 years left me last week. We were together since 15yrs old. She told me she needs to find who she is and that she needs space. She wants to be independent and be able to be her own person. S…
I’ve had a change in outlook recently, especially in terms of my self loathing and it’s weird. — So I’ve been thinking really heavily about my life recently and how much I hate myself, but more specifically my past experiences - especially at high school. One night my brain just started thinking…
I need advice F 19 M 20 — I 19-F have been with my bf 20-M for a little over a year now. Its mostly been great, he makes me feel safe, supported and loved. but he is a rlly introverted person and this is his first serious rel…
How can I save myself? — I’ve been in a deep, worsening depression for years. It’s accelerating—I’m deteriorating fast. I feel profoundly sad, lonely, and invisible. No one notices me, not even my parents most of the time. I’…
Please chime in with any feedback about this FAQ! Do you have a question you'd like to see addressed? Is there something you would change about one of the answers here, or a different perspective you'…
Anyone still posting on here? I drove my ex away with my insecure attachment style, looking back he kept putting in little effort and I felt as though I was trying very hard to change. I’m sure he wa…
No contact is NOT about getting the ex back! It’s about truly moving on, breaking free mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It’s about freeing yourself and truly letting go. It’s not meant to be a …
Sorry if this is not the applause you may have expected; but to me a translation of your title is "Turns out DAs are DAs, and we need to bend over backwards to "make it work" with them, and that's ext…
>Low effort comments like, “You sound just like my ex” are equally unhelpful and selfish. Why would anyone care about your ex who we don’t know?! ... >Look up what a rant and vent is. By definition i…
Just my two cents on some points here: Alpha is basically a state where you are so relaxed that when you imagine your scene you are completely immersed in it that you forget your body, its just full r…
>Just my two cents on some points here: Alpha is basically a state where you are so relaxed that when you imagine your scene you are completely immersed in it that you forget your body, its just full …
We are not meant to be all alone. But that doesn't mean we need romantic relationships. Loneliness often stems from a disconnect with community, family, friends etc. You could try volunteering somewhe…
I completely agree that we're not meant to be alone. I do still get a healthy amount of time spent with others. My friends do visit my town every now and then, and i still regularly spend time with th…
Well the same is true for you. The right person will come to you at the right place and the right time and get to be with you. Both you and her lost someone when the relationship ended and you both …
Made an Interactive App for Reading "Meditations" Like re-reading Marcus Aurelius' "Meditations" and find Gregory Hays’s translation good and accessible, but in my view Meditations was meant to b…
All of these comments feel like they came from me. That makes me feel better, but at the same makes me feel a bit hopeless. I hate the look on my partner’s face when he hears me say “I’m not sure what…
Text of original post by u/acidemise: The past two years I’ve done a lot of internal work on myself regarding my attachment and codependency issues. I feel that I lean more secure than ever. I recentl…
I think you touched on it when you mentioned we rationally know that's not true. Sometimes I toss stuff in the jar and just decide I'll pick it apart later. Some people I truly hate and they stay in t…
Is that meant to be internal family systems? I'm still learning and that's all I could find
hi everyone, sorry for the long post - myself (26F) and my partner (26M) of 6 years have broken up less than a week ago and i've never such acute visceral pain. i'm riddled with the worst physical anx…
I think that if this is happening when you start dating, your nervous system has been trained to think that romantic relationships keep you safe. So yes. This is very similar and this technique could …
I ultimately agree it was never meant to be, but it was otherwise a great weekend! She said that too, that it was unfortunate it ruined such a good weekend.
If it's been a year you can just let this go I truly believe that not every relationship is meant to be forever. As long as you learn something from it it's never a waste
I've been so hard on myself. I have such an amazing life and yet I think my life sucks bc I am 29m and still single and have been single my entire life but I am so tired of being so bitter and being s…
You say you do not want validation but your questions at the end show that is what you are hoping for. You are trying to interpret her behavior so you can set expectations for the outcome. In order to…
My boyfriend moved in this past week! I was super anxious over the weekend because he's a fellow procrastinator, though I was reminded that I don't do well with last minute big changes. I ended up tak…
If it means anything, I would happily date someone 5 or 6 years older. I have the opposite stance of not willing to date someone any younger than a year or two. Just seems like a huge difference in ge…
I grew up under almost the same conditioning. It took therapy for me to realize something unsettling: for years, I was missing entire chances to feel like myself. Somewhere along the way, I learned h…
If its meant to be the 2 weeks won't kill it. People are just too impatient and dopamine driven these days. I waited 2 weeks for a first date with guy I drunk kissed one night overthinking how it woul…
Happy Cake Day! You are describing the human condition. We are pack animals. We are not meant to be alone. It’s the worst - the feeling of being fundamentally unlovable. You are worthy of love.
I get what you mean but it feels very normal to me. Apps are a bit weird in that they create the presumption of romantic interest but that's not how the rest of the world works, right? You meet peopl…
Random telenovela shower thoughts: Over the past couple of weeks I have been catching up on my fave telenovela, La Reina del Flow. And what I have been noodling on is the male characters and how they…
Thank you! It also helps me to frame it as “we have to choose each other” not one being the chooser or worrying about being chosen, if that makes sense. It’ll be mutual if we feel good around each ot…
Thank you. I'm meant to be seeing him today though I'm unsure it's going to happen. If I do I will have the conversation and it'll be make or break.
I recognize this. I was dating a man a few weeks ago. At first it seemed we had a great connection, but as time passed, we had less and less to talk about. I somehow felt that we weren’t meant to be a…
This is awesome! Sounds meant to be!
After six weeks of dating a man I met on Hinge, we made it official and for the first time in my life I got to experience what they meant by the app meant to be deleted. 🥰🥰
So, a few first thoughts - none of this is meant to be accusatory or judgmental, but are my first reactions here, and I think kind of teasing out some unstated things could help. **First:** …
Yeah I've deffo been ghosted by someone I don't even know. I posted about meeting a woman in a singles event last night where we shared a love for the film Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind and for …
It really is meant to be!!!!
Aw this is so sweet and I am rooting for you! Hope you will also give yourself some grace and not put pressure on yourself - we all have flaws and make mistakes sometimes and if it’s meant to be then…
I know you’re right! Perhaps if the conflict resolves itself in the future, but for now it’s not meant to be.
Last update - he dropped it back and left it outside my house with a note that said sorry. So it’s all done. I am really upset and I think it’s now clear I had hoped this would be a door to a discussi…
What circumstances would keep two people who are meant to be together from being together?
"Hi" would have been enough in a mutual attraction situation? Don't beat yourself up over this one moment you werent prepared for. There will be others. She also didn't make a move. Maybe you dodged…
To be fair, if she really was interested she can certainly take her fate into her own hands too. I know some women prefer to subtly flirt rather than directly communicate interest, but it goes both wa…
So, I was in a serious relationship for a year and a half. For financial reasons, Ex took a job overseas and we broke up. Surprise - I was pregnant at 42! I had a healthy, uneventful pregnancy and I …
I had similar anxiety going into first and honestly even more second dates. For me - it was just the mental reminder and belief that I’m going for a meal or a coffee with the opportunity to get to lea…
this was meant to be another year of promiscuity (jk) but i started dating someone and we’ve fallen for each other pretty unexpectedly. our life goals differ so this relationship’s going to last 18 mo…
The only thing we have to watch out for now is war with Saturn and Neptune in Aries. Though tribes are meant to be good they indicate a flow of energy. So there is a flow of revolutionary energy with …
Okay - he was pursuing someone else who he liked more and it did not work out. So, he’s still available and now he’s interested. Internet dating is life in the fast lane. We are social animals and n…
honestly? sun sign compatibility is barely scratching the surface. i've seen plenty of 'incompatible' sun signs have amazing relationships because their moon signs or rising signs are a great match. a…
Well, the end I've been suspicious of for weeks has finally happen. After a great January, she pulled away like she did months early when we first tried dating. I'm not blind sided. I have been mental…
It's, uh, a joke. It's not meant to be taken seriously. I get that this particular one is played out but in general I personally do prefer this sort of stuff on a dating app profile to a dry info dum…