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Hi, very interesting, maybe you actually shifted. Please also read this. Just for safety xx To answer your question directly: Yes, these experiences are classic red flags for carbon monoxide exposur…
My arguments against manifestation — 1. **Maladaptive daydreaming proves that manifestation isn't real**; Manifestation doctrine teaches that what you focus on expands and manifests in your physical reality. Do not split hairs and try to…
Having trouble differentiating between anxious attachment / normal needs, feeling lost and alone — First Reddit post here! (It's a long one, I just really need a place to put it all down and get some support, so thank you). I (19F) got out of my first long term relationship about 3 months ago. It l…
Crazy experience “timeline hopper” — I’ve been lucid dreaming since I was about 12/13, and I’m now 23. I trained myself into it years ago and now I lucid dream every morning which sometimes can be annoying because it affects my sleep. I’…
Had my first tiny experience! — Hi fellow dimensional travellers :D. Just wanted to share a small personal win here for personal and mutual encouragement. I've been practicing the first Gateway tape for a week or three, n…
The deep scars of emotional neglect. — I am the 4th, and youngest child of an emotionally unstable, single mother. Growing up with her was hell. You never knew what you were going to get. One day she would be distant and completely unrespo…
It still hurts — It's been 4 months roughly since I broke things off. We technically only dated for a month but had a situationship thing going on for a bit before that. (My first and definitely not last blaring red f…
I ignored my self-critic for a full week and boy was it exhausting — A week ago I decided that since behavioural activation therapy, CBT, other therapies, and trying to find ways to be productive or find meaning with others or by myself, and even low pressure advice we…
Why do people think that traumatized people are either evil or victims? — Like I don't know, when someone's pretty mentally unstable and starts venting about their mental health problems, the first reaction everyone seems to have is that they're weird or that you should avo…
April 03, 2026 - Weekly FAQ and Beginner Q&A Thread | If you are new to Neville, please post your questions here! How do I manifest X? What does Y mean? — Feel free to ask any type of question on this thread. More importantly, feel free to answer questions that have been asked! Additionally, please refrain from posting multiple questions in the subredd…
My life is so small, always has been so small... Anyone else? — My life as a child was school and the four walls of my bedroom. My parents constantly sent me the message that the world outside was scary, that being inside with the family was the safest, most lovin…
Parents recorded Csam of me - don't know what to do — I'm not sure if this is too graphic but I feel that I need some validation because I keep questioning my reality and if it was really abuse. When I was 10, I was watching home videos with my parents …
Predator or Stupidity? — \* trigger warning \* \*for adults \* sensitive topic I feel conflicted about something...and I wonder what others think... I went on a date with someone. it was pre-disclosed we were looking for…
I was neglected as a kid and I feel like I don’t deserve to eat. — When I was in primary school my parents used to lock me in the bathroom for 1-2 days at a time with no food, and if I wanted water I had to use the dirty toothbrush cup to drink from the tap. This onl…
How can I do better — My Story — A Journal Entry Where It All Began I grew up in a joint family — grandparents, cousins, relatives all around. On the surface, there was warmth and togetherness. But my immediate family wa…
THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 2 — SELF-CONCEPT (roll those drums caz i got my tea and i got to PREACH) i can claim to be the GOD of self concept i swear on me i got it baby and i got it sooooooo goooood (please take what you will …
THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 2 — SELF-CONCEPT (roll those drums caz i got my tea and i got to PREACH) i can claim to be the GOD of self concept i swear on me i got it baby and i got it sooooooo goooood (please take what you will caz…
Help please — I need a reality check because this is starting to feel like psychological warfare. My ex (20F) broke up with me (21M) about 1.5 months ago after a 2-year relationship. We had plans for a future, liv…
(25F) Not sure if I can stay with bf (25M) — 25M Bf and 25F (me) been together 3 yrs, happy and healthy up to now. Thought I wanted Bf to propose but not sure of the future anymore. Bf cheated a few yrs back and I let it go because Bf swore they…
"Growing up emotionally neglected is like nearly dying of thirst just outside the fenced off fountain of a parent's kindness and interest." — The dichotomy of existing in a home where my mother said, "I love you," and even kisses and hugs before bed or on the way out the door while simultaneously never asking "how are you?" or have any curi…
Idk what to do. Pls help — ​ I’m 25 and feel deeply stuck in life. My biggest issues are shame, avoidance, overthinking, emotional overwhelm, fear judgment, and a long-term pattern of not really building a life because…
I'm stuck, dont know what to do. Pls help — I’m 25 and feel deeply stuck in life. My biggest issues are shame, avoidance, overthinking, emotional overwhelm, fear judgment, and a long-term pattern of not really building a life because deep down…
I'm stuck, dont know what to do. Extremely anxious.Pls help — ​ I’m 25 and feel deeply stuck in life. My biggest issues are shame, avoidance, overthinking, emotional overwhelm, fear judgment, and a long-term pattern of not really building a life because…
Hooked up with a friend—should I tell him he has room for improvement? — I [29F] hooked up with my good friend [38M] and it left a little bit of a bad taste in my mouth, not between us or for our friendship, but for the other women who have sexual encounters with him. Ba…
My (30M) spouse (32F) is pursuing a creative career and does not make money? — We have been together since college. When things are good, they are very good. We generally get along quite well and enjoy each other. After we completed our higher education, we moved across the coun…
I (22F) don't know if I should break up with my girlfriend (22F) because of her chronic illness — I've been with my girlfriend for a bit over a year (my first relationship, she's had a few before this), and she's always had physical health issues, but recently it's become more difficult for me to …
I’m beginning to realise that my mother may be a narcissist, and I’m having a lot of trouble getting my head around it all — Hi all, apologies in advance as this may be a bit rambling, but I’d really like some advice (and to be told I’m not crazy, I guess). I (m34) have been depressed and anxious all my life, throw in some …
April 10, 2026 - Weekly FAQ and Beginner Q&A Thread | If you are new to Neville, please post your questions here! How do I manifest X? What does Y mean? — Feel free to ask any type of question on this thread. More importantly, feel free to answer questions that have been asked! Additionally, please refrain from posting multiple questions in the subredd…
Were Anyone Else’s Parents protective over Good Things and not protective at all with actually Devastating Things? — they were super strict about hanging out with my friends, people I went to school with who they met and sometimes even met their parents too, but if I went on a trip or stayed out until midnight they’…
Sex search after divorce — Ladies, serious advice needed. I'm 57M, divorced over a year. My ex and I cut off all physical contact a year before we split. We were together 15 years and had a passionate and ongoing romance until …
Is this part of being neglected? — I’ve asked both my parents to stop only calling me with bad news and to be more considerate of my feelings, especially now that I’m trying to build my own family, I recently got married in December 20…
1. That is why it’s called maladaptive daydreaming. The person does so to escape their current reality. They are not making actual changes, thinking different thoughts, reconditioning the subconscious…
1. Mental thoughts don’t become physical reality. Beliefs do. Repetitive mental thoughts turn into beliefs. 2. People in your world reflect your beliefs. Perhaps upon meeting someone you had an origi…
Really its up to you if you want to live like that, because there's no guarantee he will change. There's no right answer. I made the decision to stay with my DA and now im emotionally exhausted becaus…
Also, I just re-read your comment - how do you starve your anxiety? Breathing techniques? Is that starving ? Or the other points you suggested, like the 8 hour window, that's starving?
Hi everyone! I'm a bit socially awkward, and making friends is (and always has been) difficult for me. I recently joined local group chat on Discord, and started privately chatting with a guy. We re…
I hear you. Loving someone and especially wanting to take care of them is very easy for me. I'm a problem solver and the main giving love language of mine is acts of service. I'm learning that when…
Thank you so much for sharing it. I am literally crying and feeling so torn. I know that it is not because he is a bad person or because he is not interested, he is just like that, I guess. It really…
This is so weird to me! Do people really just keep all of their thoughts to themselves and not send them to their best friends and/or boyfriends? 🤔 See how I couldn’t even keep this question unasked?…
No one will be perfect but you need to find someone who can give love in the way you need it. Not getting that is starving your emotional needs. I’ve been with someone like your partner and all it did…
Arguably the ultra-thin body had been around for decades before that. Famous Hollywood starlets like Judy garland and Marilyn Monroe were starving themselves and living off of cigarettes. I’ve seen ar…
It sounds like your husband represents safety, comfort, and a deep kind of love, but the lack of intimacy slowly created a void that you tried to live with for years. When someone else came along who …
Had a second date with a guy we had pre-established would be dinner. We meet at the predesignated spot...and walk over to a coffee shop and he gets us each a drink. I was starving (it was 6:30 on a we…
I know this is hard when you're stuck in the abuse like this but as others have said, there's sometimes you need to use passive aggression to beat the bullies here. #1 is to not show them its botherin…
I found the message that someone has experienced worse a common, repetitive reply with people in church. I mean how can I compare to the poor starving kids in Africa huh? Ironically enough, my grandp…
Oh gosh i fucking hate people like that. "What do you mean you're suffering with Chronic Depression and CPTSD!? you live in GODS COUNTRY, would you rather be a STARVING CHILD IN AFRICA!?" It's such a…
My mom refused to pay for my $7 sushi I bought while running a 3-hour massive grocery haul for her for her Christmas party. (I was starving as it was lunchtime) And then she constantly talks about us…
Those 2 factors are still luck because they involve being in the right place at the right time while having skills they need for that project/job. But they also chose me over many other qualified cand…
I’m nauseous. Pls stop. 😂😂 Trust me, I was in your same spot. I barely got through dinner, and that was by only looking at my plate. Barely ate and was starving prior. That whole date was pure tras…
You need an online de-tox friend. A long time ago, in a country, far far away, speaking a language I did not know, I relocated there. I immersed myself completely. I had no news. I missed 2 wars, …
the most common scenario is that the anxious will ask for more (affection, love, affirmation etc), and the avoidant being unable to provide it. The best anaology of this, the anxious person is starv…
Bro 30-40..? Dude I’d be 125 pounds at 5’10 scrawny and skinny It’s also just not healthy at all I’d be starving myself
I also think it’s a roadmap to adulthood, personhood, that they are starving for. They don’t know what to *do*.
The first time I made 6 figures was because the company I worked for KNEW how important goal setting and enjoying the journey was. I made a goal of $120K and surpassed it by $40K. I was in a 100% comm…
My dad passed out on a recliner after a hit while my mom was at work, apparently this was for about 10 hours. I was so young, I was still in diapers. I just remember starving and being in a dirty diap…
wow, this is so much my story too except i asked for a hall pass, then an open marriage… i was starving for affection… we lived like roommates for years! thank you for sharing
If a kind person and a toxic one are locked in a room starving, the kind one will share resources. The toxic one will smile, play along and take everything when they can. The toxic one survives. I …
You're right, and I think those of us who felt we were the "giver" contributing more to the relationship and going unappreciated get lost in our feelings of not being enough and fail to realize how mu…
You'll be fat as a house. Starving yourself won't get you any sympathy. You don't know anything about me The world doesn't revolve around you Doing .... for attention I'm going to kill myself be…
That was my mom's go to! And my grandmother!! And it could be about anyyyyythinggggggggg. I ask "hey mom, what's for dinner? Im starving after school and ballet!" And her response would be "oh so im a…
Take him to the DOCTOR and let them tell him. He's going to interpret all information through his own lens, at least a medical professional would have credentials it's hard to argue with. If nothing e…
yes i think it gave me an eating disorder. but in reality starving myself only made myself more vulnerable and it was still fetishized -which was soul crushing since for some strange reason i thought …
Honey, looking through your posts and other people commenting on it, you want us to hand you a magical solution that fixes him and your body and your health into what he wants. thats never going to h…
Well, yes. That's what's called a "precognition" in Stoic philosophy. The person who'd be ashamed of asking for money and the one who wouldn't both have the same precognition of shame, but they're bot…
You don't need to tell him how it makes you feel. He knows how it makes you feel, **that's why he's doing it**. He's trying to bully you in to starving yourself with constant passive aggressive commen…
Two news today.. 1. I have been offered a job. 2. The guy I was dating sent me a message (I have been missing him so much and I still care so much about him but I am so scared to get hurt) "Hi…
It's only been two months. You're fully in the thick of it. You're doing all the right things, but it's just going to take time, there's no way around that. You cannot expect yourself to rise like a p…
Absolutely, yes. It took me *years* to name what you’ve named here. Unfinished food meant *there’s starving children in Africa!* Outside meant *normal child would want to go raring outside to su…
You deserve better than this. What bothers me about this is the fact that people look like themselves whether they are fat or thin. I say this as someone who has been very thin and very fat. I look l…
In my experience with three separate love bombers is as follows and: Before I explain the stories, RUN. LOVE Bombing is, in my experience, a sign of Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Avoidant Perso…
As if physical abuse doesn't have emotional ramifications. What even is the point of trauma Olympics? Does the highest trauma jumper get a gold medal? Can it be traded for fame or healing or somethi…
I always assumed the way I was treated as a child was ok because others had it worse. Like even when I’d tell my mom how I was feeling and how I didn’t like the way she treated me sometimes, she would…
I did indeed read the full post. She says "ultra-low bodyfat percentage" which is a relative term and something ive heard before in a relationship I was in when I was probably 12%+ bodyfat. Her idea o…
Again, tons of assumptions. Your personal experience is not statistical proof of anything. Do people get insecure? Sure, all the time. Is that always the explanation for a situation like this? No. Cla…
Brother, I do not think your problem is that you want love too much. I think your mind has quietly made love the sun, so everything else has started orbiting around it. That happens to many people, e…
CBT is a fantastic tool for people who are ready for it. It’s not appropriate for people who are in a constant state of feeling physiologically unsafe. If your nervous system is going haywire, address…
FWIW, I’m also passionate about topics like these as well. I was like OPs bf for a semester back when I was in college. Part of why I poked at the health aspect. I lost about 25lbs and got down to (gu…
let's go ask starving children in sudan if they're just not thinking correctly, OP!
True that's what my mom's bf is doing frequently while he eats pork in casinos and gambles all of his salary.Doesnt even pay his debts and has trapped my mother in a vicious cycles.Hes starving us eve…
I'm not a practitioner but I think you understand it in a nutshell. The two parts that stood out to me were 1. Interupting your train of thought. Realizing you've just experienced something that makes…