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Hi, very interesting, maybe you actually shifted. Please also read this. Just for safety xx To answer your question directly: Yes, these experiences are classic red flags for carbon monoxide exposur…
I just proved that a crappy industry is literally pissing away money — I constantly preach about template fraud and those "pretty but useless" websites that don't deliver actual business results. This week, I decided to prove my point. I spotted a security product in th…
Why do so many retail & shopping sites hide the item details/description? — I’ve noticed this on a number of sites, and I’m fairly certain it hasn’t always been this way. "Hide" is probably a strong word, but basically retailers making the details/description of a product a c…
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Feedback Thread — Our weekly thread is the place to solicit feedback for your creations. Requests for critiques or feedback outside of this thread are against our community guidelines. Additionally, please be sure that…
Feedback Thread — Our weekly thread is the place to solicit feedback for your creations. Requests for critiques or feedback outside of this thread are against our community guidelines. Additionally, please be sure that…
How to actually contact support? Phone number is dead, Chatbot is...dead? — I'm trying to contact support on behalf of a fortune 500 company to regain access to some of our shops that because of turnover and neglect (thanks Covid) we've lost admin access to. Yes, we should h…
What to do with LLMs taking over? I'm LOST. — So we are in the era of AI and LLM, I got it. I've invested 20 years of my life into coding and information technology. (I've got a degree and such, I even have a personal blog with programming stuff…
Plugin for editor, designer bylines? — Hello. Does anyone know of a WordPress plugin that would let me add bylines for the designer and editor of a blog post (not just the author)? UPDATE #2: Ended up paying for PublishPress (suggesed by …
We live in a culture that glorifies self-sufficiency and punishes inter-dependence and needs. That impacts what we start labelling as anxious attachment, and how we are encouraged to heal. — Disclaimer - anxious attachment style is real, it creates distress in those who have it, and causes real strain to relationships. That being said, we cannot ignore that cultural norms have *always* di…
My (28f) boyfriend (37m) drinks to excess nearly every weekend, am I selfish for wanting it to stop? — Throwaway account. Please tell me if I am crazy for feeling this way. My boyfriend (37m) and I (28f) have what I consider to be a generally good relationship. We’ve had some issues in the past that we…
Has anyone else experienced something very feeling strange ever since the election of the current American President?? — Hello everyone. This might be an unusual post to make at this time. However, I am looking forward to see if anyone has experienced anything similar or exactly what I have experienced. Before earlier i…
I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath — Hi everyone, please I need help. I’m 35F and my husband is 36M. We’ve been married for 10 years and have two boys (7 and 5). I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. About three months ago my hus…
No I don’t want to be a medical doctor — I am 23 fucking years old, I do not want to be doctor. I NEVER wanted to be a fucking doctor. I am so sick of this. I feel like a failure. I applied to grad school for 2 years in a row and I haven’t g…
If you're reading this, you're gonna make it. — Hey, you. yeah YOU. I know what you're going through. Nobody is on this sub because they're having a good time of it. I know that, because 4 years ago I was in the exact same place. Any advice you rea…
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Shame on all the ‘parents’ who shamed and blamed their child because THEY didn’t want to feel like the useless, clueless, inadequate, emotion morons that they were!!!
Spring Cleaning and Change — Currently, the biggest benefit for me since the new year has been discarding items. I've gotten into a bad habit of stockpiling possessions in one room and eventually thinking I would take action on t…
Just feel so disappointed in myself all the time — I just can't help being so disappointed and sad about myself all the time. I constantly feel like I've been a disappointment, and that no matter what I do, I won't be able to escape that, and I'll end…
I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…
Decided to stop blaming things on my breakup, the world, and my mental health — Ever since my break up last year i’ve turned to alcohol, gambling, lots of random hookups with girls i would never make my wife. I’ve come to realize that she was one of the most important lessons in …
I (36M) am in tears in my own home while my parents play with my daughter. — My wife has gone away for a conference today (for the first time since we had a kid). I am alone with my parents in my own home and feel so unsafe with them. At any time, I fear an attack will come my…
I (21M) have survived two decades of severe physical, emotional, and financial abuse from my Indian parents. I'm finally exhausted and need to tell my story. I am not free yet. — # TL;DR: I'm a 20-year-old only child in India who has endured severe physical, verbal, emotional, and financial abuse from my parents since toddlerhood. They have beaten me, medically neglected me, …
Having a hard time learning from others/accepting authority — Have always thought of myself as a misfit that has to do everything to fit in, but I was never good at taking advice or really taking to heart what people much more knowledgeable than myself told me. …
Reality Shifting Truths — It is realising that what other people do, what methods people use, what routines people have, that is useless to you, that is THEIR journey. Advice from people who shift is amazing and very motivatin…
Anyone find their lawyer sort of useless — I'm paying 10 grand for this. They hardly ever contact me. They've been late with filing things. I thought I had finished submitting all my financial documentation and now they tell me, 2 months later…
My white assistant principal at school just called me a “chink” for standing up to racism today — I genuinely feel very upset right now. She told me that she doesn’t let racism happen in the school and tries to keep students of all backgrounds safe yet she calls me a chink and says I should be sma…
late night anxiety hits different and nothing is open, what do you do — My anxiety loves 2am. That's when the spirals start. Lying in bed, brain won't shut up, catastrophizing about everything. Problem: nothing is open at 2am. Therapist is asleep. Friends are asleep. Ap…
Accidental awakening — Officially effed around and found out. Open to advice but I also feel an obligation to share that this is possible through the tapes because I never saw it coming and I'm currently struggling. I was …
Stop Asian Hate's iconic victim Grandpa Vicha's murderer Antoine Watson is going to walk free now without punishment — [article 1](https://www.nbcbayarea.com/news/local/grandpa-vicha-sentencing-murder-case/4058429/) [article 2](https://www.cbsnews.com/sanfrancisco/news/granpa-vicha-killing-san-francisco-suspect-relea…
Bias between Son and daughter by mother — In some families, parents insist they treat all children equally and that discrimination isn’t allowed—but in subtle ways, sons are prioritized, decisions are made around them, and daughters’ needs ar…
I hate my mother's friends — I hate and resent them so much, it seems like my mother always seem to prioritize them more like as if we are some blood relationship when they tend to be super manipulative, immature and shady. Once …
If you're struggling with Meditation, this might be the push you need! — Apologies for the long-ish post, but I want to share this with everyone here, in case it helps them like it helped me. I used to think meditation was useless. I was a bit confused, a bit dismis…
Need to write out what I've been dealing with for 3 months now — I cannot believe how much has happened in such a short amount of time. I met this guy back in mid-December and we had both recently gotten out of relationships in which we were both burned. At first…
Life Happens — Recognize patterns of being controlling and possessive: You’re not allowed to visit family, or friends. Because they restrict you from going. They cling onto you and always accompanying you in everyth…
Is my therapist being too aggressive or just calling me out on my BS? — So I just had a session with a new therapist. I noticed that as I was describing the challenges I am facing, and what I tried and did not work to get out of my current situation (mostly depression b…
I ignored my self-critic for a full week and boy was it exhausting — A week ago I decided that since behavioural activation therapy, CBT, other therapies, and trying to find ways to be productive or find meaning with others or by myself, and even low pressure advice we…
NYC to Buenos Aires long distance heartbreak — For the past four years, I've been spending winters in BA. On my second year, I met a lovely woman there and had dated her--spending winters there and then she would visit me twice in the year. The wh…
I didn’t know what to say when my friend broke down — I have a very close friend, basically family, going through a divorce right now. Most of the time he sounds fine. He vents about his ex and says he’s relieved it’s almost over. You would think he is …
TheTinder curse — I (M50) have matched with a very intriguing (F41). She is amazing in all ways and she has made it clear that she is married but she says we are inevitably drawn together. couple of basic meets. casual…
A dream and interpretation — I apologize for the uselessness of this to anyone, but submit it from loneliness and hoping to help someone who may find context in this. I know it is personal, and will appear to many as utterly irre…
Y’all were right about manifesting… — Y’all were right about not caring about the 3d. Y’all were right about persisting. Y’all were right about the importance of self concept. After so long, I finally got my manifestation. When I menta…
Am I [26F] waiting for a future that will never come with my boyfriend [28M]? — My \[26F\] and my boyfriend \[28M\] have been together for 5 years. I feel that we are at a plateau in our relationship. I feel like we are in the roommate phase and that there isn't an inkling of eng…
Emotionally abusive parents — I'm going through a really rough patch right now, and I last thing I need is my AP constantly nagging and texting me that I'm horrible and i made a mistake. i have always been emotionally detached fr…
3 month lock in challenge? Done. Next 1? FREE WILL — Hi lovelies, Near the start of the year, I did a 3 month lock in challenge that is ending soon. My affirmation: Isn’t it wonderful. Some wins: \- visited Brazil for the first time & saw the para…
Is it normal to feel resentment towards my mother for asking me to get therapy? — I (F17) have been asking my mother to get me into therapy since I was 11, because of some issues I have been going through, both because of my parents and because of peers and personal issues. Each ti…
Paracetamol and Dream Retention — I always have trouble sleeping and I haven’t had vivid dreams in a very very long time. 3 weeks ago I got decently sick and the only medication I could get from my pharmacy (I study abroad so translat…
Does anyone else Scroll to escape anxiety, then Regret it later? — I've been catching myself doing this way too often. The second my anxiety starts building, even a little, I grab my phone without thinking. I'll just scroll anything. Reddit,reels, random stuff I don…
What are some crazy things you did to gain more freedom while living with your APs? — For the life of me I cannot remember the name of the post, but I came across a post on this subreddit on how the OP used to fight back (physically) with the parents and I think they stopped hitting th…
I hate my artistic talent and passion. And it’s all my mom’s fault. — Forgive me that this rant was made on a whim because I just discovered this subreddit today and I need a place to get it all out of my system. Long story short, my Vietnamese parents have always bee…
My toxic dad is dying but i still love him and i am sad — So. Basically my father got diagnosed with Stage IV cancer, all of a sudden my childhood nightmare come true. I was definitely expecting this to happen because i saw many symptoms during the years, a…
a) law of assumption, not law of belief. And where did you get the other descriptions from? I've been on Neville sub for a while, literally noone describes the law in those words or speak in a spiritu…
Wonderful information in the introduction. I would love to get some personal insight from people who are familiar with Astal Projection. I'll keep it as short as possible. I have recently discovered t…
When I said self hate, I meant those posts which very obviously points to OP not having a desire to be better. It refers to posts just venting and talking about how useless and worthless they are, how…
>Daydreaming is just like watching a movie, we just live in some place as an escape, but it doesn't change our self-concept nor the beliefs we hold about our 3D. Once we come out of daydreaming, ***th…
Not specifically with my T but I regularly shift between all 4 attachments depending on who I’m blending with. Lately I’m DA with most, holding them as some flavour if contempt or patronizing, or ge…
I think all these time‐tracking systems in IT are absolutely useless and only justify the work of those who implement them. No offense to efficient managers. If the company were like a factory produc…
I am a solo founder. Yes it is great for all those reasons. I, however, do understand the other side especially VCs. The goal of VCs is to invest in a company that just doesn't depend on 1 person. Usu…
Well, if you're into them, that's the first sign. It'll be tricky to differentiate between DA and secure for you because they'll both feel like they're moving at a reasonable pace at first, but a DA i…
And what's the issue with the linked thread? Person is expressing his desire to feel connection and not be thrown away as useless just because it didn't work out. It's venting, which is generally half…
I’m gay too. The problem with the message is it doesn’t address any specific problems. Unless your message addresses exactly what you did wrong (naming) and how you plan to fix it (repair) then the me…
Most people are going to say that you sound FA, but I disagree. I think that we are very quick to slap the FA label on people the second they don't neatly and concretely fit into a box. The primary r…
That's a lot. Getting a list with all the things someone doesn't like about you is already really hard to swallow, even harder when it's given by a person you loved and trusted very dearly. Not only d…
I think these are some really valid fears, I'm not sure why you're hearing so much from others about needing to advocate for yourself more when in serious pain. Your partner's freeze response doesn't …
Stop trying to control the spiral. When you spiral, that's anxiety; let it pass. Don't try to calm down or stop thinking about it because it will only frustrate you more to see that you can't stop thi…
It's not really specifically an anxious attachment issue. Sure, attachment styles can manifest in different ways, and yes, you can be preoccupied with your own feelings when your attachment issues are…
Edit: fixed typos Watching manipulative protest behavior fail will never not be funny lol. I simply stated how I felt and what I would like to change so I don't feel resentful. I specifically said I…
Your two examples are both involving coworkers. Do you have any friends or acquaintances, maybe people you interact with during a hobby or other activity? Even online? I ask because I am many years i…
I'm 18. I'm barely an adult and these feelings I don't see myself getting rid of. Yes of course I crave that love, because no one ever gave it to me. Everyone that was supposed to, and everyone that I…
Is this 1-3 likes a week or 1-3 matches a week? If it's the former, then that's essentially useless. If it's the latter, then that's great. Your goal should be to send likes to find matches. It Should…
Text of original post by u/pineconewashington: Disclaimer - anxious attachment style is real, it creates distress in those who have it, and causes real strain to relationships. That being said, we can…
I find that none of my friends (or family) have a remotely similar dating situation to me, which is why I rarely talk about dating with anyone. My 2 single friends haven't dated recently and everyon…
Very often (if not most often) when people insist on getting useless junk from their ex’s place like this it’s just an excuse to see them and/or stir shit up. I don’t blame OP’s ex for not entertainin…
Sounds about right. That advice is absolutely useless.
Hi, I need some support. It's all ended with the guy I was seeing. He basically just disappeared. Said he felt so mentally bad, couldn't go to work for two days, was so depressed. I had been trying …
I'm experiencing Sun square Uranus now. I've noticed myself questioning my job and relationship but I tend to do that regularly anyways. My life actually feels calm at the moment. I'm surprised Sun-…
They’re interchangeable terms, deactivation is detachment. The brain deactivates the attachment towards the attached figure. And as for what triggers this, it is subjective. DAs have been conditione…
Lots of venting (as I started writing this I just spiralled into journaling I guess) I am only venting as obviously I am doing things wrong. On Sunday, the guy I was / am seeing and I had a call for…
Useless answer: you just know More personal answer: I show love through care and considering the people I love as I move through my days. I know I'm in love with a partner, when I feel joy in thinkin…
I asked because it seems every time someone shares a new tip, all they list is small manifestations like a free coffee or a parking spot. Of course, it doesn't mean the tip is useless or doesn't make …
She did all the things. The virus and stress of labor made the precautions useless.
hahaha i did but it’s rly useless so i stopped alr lmao i went to get my tarot read from trusted readers instead
There is research that suggests that if you power through this moment, the relationship eventually is stronger for it. Do with that information what you will. --- > I am starting to hate myself. H…
It's literally starting again. I have to go through a contentious divorce, go into debt doing it, pack up, fix up my house that my useless husband didn't maintain since we built it 13 yrs ago, sell of…
Of course. They deliberately give you the most useless, unhelpful, or unappealing shit just to spite you. They study you just to see how they can torment you.
Damn girl his situationship with our favorite AI is the least of your problems. You said it yourself - he’s dumb because he failed his classes due to not doing homework and can’t be arsed to gather …
Good analysis, but my money is on OP being fake and full of 💩, unless she’s technology illiterate and her husband is a useless person or has a Humiliation fetish with a very mean and unprofessional m…
I can relate to this. I live in a more rural conservative area, and I’m definitely left leaning. I do enjoy the things like shooting and hunting and the outdoors, which is why I moved up here. Most of…
She called me 10 months ago to tell me she made a huge mistake with her AP. I didn't say much other than "I've gotta go". I don't need to have that convo because it's completely useless.
it started answering me random stuff. i ask him about poetry and he writes me about periodic table. ts is useless rn
Restraining order. He’s abusive to you. If he’s doing it on the parenting app then there will be a record. That’s what it’s there for. I’d say he’s had some sort of mental health breakdown so does h…
Tinder is useless for me, out of who knows how many swipes nothing came out (and I specifically go to "Long-Term" section). Meanwhile I got some matches on Bumble and Hinge. I don't understand the poi…
I didn't realize until I bottled up so much and got depression much later- completely non-functioning and non-productive. Like falling face down on the floor. There were warning signs since I got high…
Girl he doesn't love that new girl and he doesn't love you. Love is through actions not words. He tolerated you. He lusted after you. He used you for company, money, validation, sex , bed. He is usin…
I could have written this word for word. It was definitely triggering because I know exactly how you feel. The hard truth? It will never get better with her. Oh, and I mean NEVER. I could give a hundr…
Usually a few messages. I don’t see the purpose in talking on the app for a long period of time. I like iMessage and reacting to messages, I like sending memes and gifs, I actually get notifications a…
Friendly advice, get tested before being with anyone ever again and require they do the same. That is the only way to prevent issues in the future. What’s done is done. Continuing to feel bad is usel…
Fair point. That is the rub. How do we figure out who people are earlier. Sometimes people just changed. My ex and I ended up swapping bad partner characteristics over 33 years. I was absolutely usele…
1. I found out that a person I met online had a Minnesota solidarity image in her social media feeds. It sent a pretty clear message about where she was politically. 2. Social research shows that pol…
Both of your stories inspire me. Let me share. I used to be a very skeptical non-spiritual person. Raised catholic but i gave it up for lent one year haven't been back, no harm no foul, have respect …
I agree with this person here! I mean you guys aren’t together anymore what do you expect her to do. Lay in bed and pine around thinking about you? People have different ways of moving on but I don’t …