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Orbs are souls/consciousness. A soul in its truest form resembles what we'd describe as an orb of light, however, its truly a ball of energy that radiates light. Every being in existence that is alive…

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Cannot stay attracted to dating app matches — I've never been in a relationship but I've been working on myself a lot and trying to put myself out there to find love. And I've just noticed a pattern of mine. But I just keep losing interest or ge…

My Keyword Research Workflow — Hi guys, I wanted to check with you if my keyword research workflow canbe improved. Here's how I've been doing: Finding general keywords: Google Trend: Look the best variation of a generic keyword…

Why you should always schedule your job interviews in the early morning. — I got reminded today of a very important tip when you're setting up interviews. \>> Do not set up job interviews at the end of the work day. In short, there have been studies done on judges that sho…

JSON-LD by llana Davis — I am newer to SEO and stumbled across this app via ChatGBT. My 7-day trial ends in the next two days and then we’ll be charged the $400 annual charge. Before we commit though, has anyone (or does an…

With the recent judgement on Apple will this finally stop Apple from stalling PWA progress in favor of protecting their App Store? — I’m guessing they’d want to focus on mobile web payments with Apple Pay (the bigger play here)? Or am I wrong?

One the biggest founder skill is knowing when to walk away - I will not promote — Yes it's hard to kill a project. Yes you might think "I need to keep going" to make it. And that's true in a way, you need to not quit. But iterating/pivoting is not quiting. It's showing agility an…

Do you feel bad working for gambling industries? — I’ve been working in the tech side of the gambling industry for a couple of years now—think online sports betting, virtual casinos, that kind of thing. The pay is good and the company treats employees…

Why ex-tech creators are bad fit for conferences? — I haven’t been to many design-related conferences throughout my career, but I decided to give a CoCreate Conference a shot. I won’t go into the event organization here – just the speakers. From what I…

FA trying to be more secure, need some insigh on relationship to have "fresh eyes" on it and not just my insecure one — Hi, So, I'm FA and my partner is secure. We're living together and are together for 9month now, it's going good and we're doing our best in the healthiest way to navigate the complicated stuff (I hav…

Afraid of the "how" — Hi to all. I have been studying the law and this sub since many years, then left, then (1-2 months ago) came back. I had my fair share of watching coaches, reading the content proposed here (and more)…

Weekly Feelings thread - Share what you're going through without feeling judged, this thread shall be a safe space for all of us to share (rules still apply). — In this thread, please share all that you've been struggling with. Find support and be witnessed in your struggless. You are encouraged to share the good, the bad and the ugly! Nothing is off limits a…

Weekly Feelings thread - Share what you're going through without feeling judged, this thread shall be a safe space for all of us to share (rules still apply). — In this thread, please share all that you've been struggling with. Find support and be witnessed in your struggless. You are encouraged to share the good, the bad and the ugly! Nothing is off limits a…

Weekly Feelings thread - Share what you're going through without feeling judged, this thread shall be a safe space for all of us to share (rules still apply). — In this thread, please share all that you've been struggling with. Find support and be witnessed in your struggless. You are encouraged to share the good, the bad and the ugly! Nothing is off limits a…

Weekly Feelings thread - Share what you're going through without feeling judged, this thread shall be a safe space for all of us to share (rules still apply). — In this thread, please share all that you've been struggling with. Find support and be witnessed in your struggless. You are encouraged to share the good, the bad and the ugly! Nothing is off limits a…

Weekly Feelings thread - Share what you're going through without feeling judged, this thread shall be a safe space for all of us to share (rules still apply). — In this thread, please share all that you've been struggling with. Find support and be witnessed in your struggless. You are encouraged to share the good, the bad and the ugly! Nothing is off limits a…

Weekly Feelings thread - Share what you're going through without feeling judged, this thread shall be a safe space for all of us to share (rules still apply). — In this thread, please share all that you've been struggling with. Find support and be witnessed in your struggless. You are encouraged to share the good, the bad and the ugly! Nothing is off limits a…

Successes - this really works — I'm very busy but just wanted to let you guys know, KEEP AT IT. I'll keep some of the information vague to prevent judgements (you never know with some people). The purpose of this is encourage more …

For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…

DA Downplaying friendship — I have a self-confessed avoidant friend (I am secure). We dated very briefly but ended it because he said he couldn’t do serious relationships and I didn’t want to continue something ambiguous, catch …

anxious attachment and shame — I have noticed in the times I am very aware of my anxious attachment in relationship to others, I feel a lot of shame around and make judgements about myself, how I am In relationships, or the experie…

I want love but can't push past knowing that I would be a burden in all of my relationships — Hi, I am a 26F and want to seek some advice from this subreddit because I truly do not know who else I can talk about this with, and writing has always been easier than talking out loud. Sidenote: I …

How can I become more consistent in my relationships? — I recently learnt I'm fearful avoidant and I've been in therapy for 3 years so I know how I stopped being inconsistent in many areas of my life I used to be – I learnt to be consistent with studying b…

How can I become more consistent in my relationships? — I recently learnt I'm fearful avoidant and I've been in therapy for 3 years so I know how I stopped being inconsistent in many areas of my life I used to be – I learnt to be consistent with studying b…

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Reflection on over friendly therapist? — Hi readers. This is something that has been on my mind for months and I don't know how to wrap my head around it. Some professional insight might be helpful. I left therapy a few months ago. I had …

How to unlearn? — Hello all, I have been practicing meditation and breathing exercises regularly for the past nine months and it has been having immense effects on my life.. I coupled this with yoga, shadow work and s…

Just learned about the Umbrella Manifestation Method, but not sure wither I can use it the way I am thinking of! — I just learned about the Umbrella Manifestation Method. Now according to this method you hold a broad assumption like "Everything always works out perfectly for me in every area of life" or "I am alwa…

Letting go of LUST — Dear fellow meditators, I have now been meditating for several months and have had tremendous success in letting go of a lot of insecurities I had.. This has helped in improving my social skills and …

My husband cheated and is now the meanest person I’ve ever met — I really just need to rant because I feel like I’m going to lose my mind. So my (30F) husband (38M) cheated on me 4 days after my 30th birthday. To go into more detail, he snuck out of our house while…

Every time I post on social media, I feel less and less like there’s space for me on the Internet. — I grew up on social media, beginning on Xanga and MySpace at 10 years old. Then, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, TikTok, as I grew up and entered adulthood. I’ve always over shared my life on the Inter…

My mom called my son’s birthday party “f***ing embarrassing” because she cares more about what people think than celebrating him — **UPDATE:** Thank you to everyone who commented and shared advice. A lot of people suggested going no contact with my mom to protect myself and my son. I understand why people said that, but I want …

Does anyone else feel they can tend to be unsympathetic to those who grew up without emotional neglect? — I feel this often. When I see online posts of someone with a familial problem (I judge as) banal. And pretty often in the PHP group I used to go to. It makes me feel awful and like I’m being unfair to…

Just finished reading Big Asian Energy and I'm hooked. What should I read next? — I'm not usually a fan of personal development type books, but it felt like this book was speaking to me directly. There were so many parts I could relate to, like dealing with both internal pressure t…

muslim girl trynna move out without family knowing — hi guys, i’m not gonna talk too much and ill try to make this as concise as possible. im 23 and i’ve been wanting to move out since my mom decided my big brother could become a father figure and tha…

UPDATE: My (32f) fiancé (28m) repeatedly does not clean the house — Hello lovely reddit. First relevant links. My first post I deleted (so you can peruse the comments if you are interested): [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/18yjl0g/my\_32f\_fianc%C3%…

Do not break No contact — Don’t judge me. When you are in love you do stupid things. After long no contact. I did send a text if they like to meet up over the weekend. Why did I do that?! I saw them, they are active in socia…

27F discouraged by low income 27M — Hear me out I know that sounds harsh. We are married with 2 kids and have been together since we were 18. We both work full time plus I have a successful side hustle. I just crunched the numbers and f…

First post here, don't normally do this but I need help. 27M — Gday all, firstly just want to say hi to all who come across this post, and also forgive me if my grammar is bad. I was never really good at it... What is mentioned in here could be quite triggering …

I will stop using ai. — So I have been using ai for like everything: homework, writing some notes and even coding for me, that's horrible for my brain and even my future. But am deciding to change - I will stop using it com…

My (19F) Boyfriend (18M) Called Me His Managers Name During Sex — UPDATE: wow I really did not expect this post the get the traction it did. thank you guys so much for the kindness you have shown and a lot of you guys gave some really good advice. the first thing I'…

Something from The Four Agreements finally clicked for me today — I was reading the second agreement from The Four Agreements this morning, “don’t take anything personally” and something landed in a way it never has before. I realized how many stories I tell myself…

My (M38) wife (F34) has been very quiet since a conversation we had of why I love her. Confused about her silence. — So I'm a little bit confused about this. A couple of days ago, my wife came to me asking the question that has been asked many times during our marriage. "Do you still love me? And why do you love me?…

After 30 years of being a people pleasing, peace-keeping, manipulative, caretaking, dysregulated, codependency "addict," I've finally reached a point where I have enough control to simply STOP. In a very short amount of time, my whole entire life has changed. It's nearly impossible to describe. — The first part of this post is just context, and you can skip it all by scrolling down to **The Proof** I'm not going to go into much detail, but just for context: I experienced some pretty major chi…

Fiancé 26 M shamed me 25F for my kink — My fiancé (28M) and I (25F) been together 4 years and have a 2 year old together. We’ve had a pretty health and active sex life from the start, we recently starting exploring more in the bedroom but…

Old therapist told me I was gay — Title kinda says it all. Shared w a therapist years ago some of my religious upbringing and how I came from a homophobic household. I mentioned how my marriage (w my wife) was, at times, challenging. …

How to deal with strong intrusive thoughts? — Hi everyone, I have a problem I'd like everyone's advice/insight on. I've had a very suppressed/repressed mind since childhood, which eventually precipitated in mental illness at the age of 33 (I'm 40…

The one trait that predicts narcissism more reliably than anything else — I spent years trying to figure out why some people drain everything around them while others don't. After a lot of research and painful personal experience, I found one principle that predicts it more…

I asked my T what she thinks about me, I wish I didn‘t — Today I told my therapist that I‘m not sure how other people perceive me and that I would be interested in her honest impression. She said that this is purely her subjective experience but that I som…

Anyone else get so frustrated because people always misunderstand you/come to incorrect conclusions about you? — I just feel like no matter how I am, what I say or how I communicate it people are always getting me so wrong?? It’s even harder when you are a person with what some people would call a pretty privil…

Oh God. Way to generalize people. This blanket statement and judgemental attitude shows that you have not even understood the principal basics of neither Nevilles nor Joseph's teachings. Really weird…

> Oh God. Way to generalize people. This blanket statement and judgemental attitude shows that you have not even understood the principal basics of neither Nevilles nor Joseph's teachings. Oh ? And w…

**!!!!! READ ME !!!!!** The purpose of this community is to explore human energy in all of its facets while stripping away the esoteric language, rituals and distractions that have accumulated over …

FA leaning more towards DA here, when I’m dating and we spend a lot of time together or talk/text a bunch I typically take time to myself after. It can be pretty overwhelming “dealing” w my partners i…

So pardon the length (I haven't told anyone yet) and thank you for reading. I might have a crush on a good friend ("Steve") who I've reconnected with after a few years of not hanging out. We didn't …

I think taking personal time can come from different motivations. Securely attached people love their own time too, especially if they’re more introverted and have hobbies that require undivided atten…

That depends on where you’re reading. I see plenty of attacks on AP. It’s not a contest. You’re reading here, and like you said, folks most likely to want to post about issues are AP. Head over to the…

Here's what I found helpful to figure out my own feelings. I look at three angles: 1. If they suddenly told you they were done and didn't tell you why, would it hurt you? If it wouldn't hurt at all, …

I'm a dismissive avoidant for sure. I've been in therapy for like a year I guess and my therapist is really the only person I have any sort of emotional connection with. It's honestly weird but it tot…

I understand. Glad you are working through those feelings. I hope I did not come off judgemental. I definitely don't think that your feelings are irrational (I might agree with the inappropriate part …

I don't know if the right word is hurt but when people underestimate you or holds a bias against you, misjudges you only because you are the type of person who is loud and doesn't spell everything out…

Well. You are participating in this dynamic still by a) continuing to see him even if you said you won’t put in the same energy. b) by later asking for more consistency. No judgement, but just that a …

In my experience with DAs it's hard to have empathy for the ones who make themselves victims in every situation; especially those who take everything as a criticism or judgement against themselves.

I love this. I’m autistic. I don’t have time to unpack how attachment styles play out for autistic folks but a nutshell version is - prettt much the same , just more extreme and indelible/harder to ch…

avoidants (especially those that are actively working towards healing and becoming secure) may come off as secure in the beginning of a courtship. until they are met with some triggers which will lead…

Thanks for your answer. I am somwhat between anxious preoccupied and Fearful Avoidant. For example I know I feel insecure when some friends I cherish wont answer at my text for long time, I will feel …

There's no reason anyone needs to know that you see a therapist. If you don't tell people, they won't know right? Depending on your health insurance, a session usually only costs a copy ($20-40) fo…

Mostly because the information isn't necessarily what the person needs or may even be harmful or untrue. From all accounts people say it "tells them exactly what they need" and doesn't challenge them,…

I say this with kindness because reading through your posts, you remind me of me from 5-6 years ago. I think your feeling of shame is clouding your judgement a bit here. It sounds like you were just i…

What I find obnoxious about it is how often it seems they want to be judged by standards that they would never accept judging others by. How many avoidants would accept "well, I didn't mean to make my…

I like going to Coda meetings. There are rules about not giving and solicited advice, unless someone asks for it. It is a safe place to share your feelings without judgement. You learn from other peop…

Okay, this is long and it might sound harsh, but I relate to a lot of what you're going through and acted much in the same way as you did, and I've gone from anxiously attached within a friendship to …

I'm still very new to this forum, but from I can see people here tend to explain the totality of events solely based on the attachment theory. While it does explain why someone with insecure attachmen…

Judge all you I don't care I'm trying my best.

Making a longer comment to OP in your reply because I want to dive deeper into this: >Not being into someone =/= avoidance. Youre correct in this, however avoidance does make it harder to judge if y…

Haha I'm gonna be Alot nicer to avodants now. Because y’all are really coming for me and I was just trying to be honest. I can't judge I guess I've done the same.

Thank you for this insight. 💛 You’ve since edited, so I will, too: Um.. I mean, yeah - I could see how this could’ve been making me ‘look/feel inferior’. But just as I don’t want to be judged for…

Yes, I edited, and yes, my comment contains some judgement (besides mostly description and perception, ie. judgement-free language). Non-violent, 100% judgemental-free Rosenberg communication, to me…

I don’t think you’re understanding my intentions here. I made this topic and did not mention psychiatry at all. Some other redditor decided to comb through my post history on other subs (which seems c…

Well if both parties are aware of attachment theory then I think they are less likely to judgemental of the different attachment styles. If not you can explain what an unhealthy attachment is and wha…

The last FA I dated shit tested me early on, dumping some not so flattering info about herself just to see how I would react. I'm not an FA but I've dated quite a few of them. Fear of abandonment is …

>There's a good chance she might have a kickback dismissive avoidant response when things get real and she has to "choose you". That'll start off a progression of fault-finding. You're not going to th…

It's hard to know what to say. Maybe just say to him that you're sorry there's been a misunderstanding, but you're trying and really want to try together because you want him in your life. Maybe als…

"The last FA I dated shit tested me early on, dumping some not so flattering info about herself just to see how I would react." • Mine has done it throughout all 4 years! I faltered a few times, yes…

It sounds like you're disowning and shunning your negative feelings. Since they don't seem logical, you're pushing them away. But they're not going to be logical. They're probably the result of repres…

Yeah that's because you were in a shitty relationship, I don't know enough about op to judge their relationship, but in a truly healthy relationship it doesn't matter if take some time to breath for a…

Yeah. I was used to my mom being not loving but when she got busy with other stuff or my cousins and was just indifferent to me, I think that really damaged me, I still remember how that felt, like yo…

How long have you been married? If you know he can be relaxed or at ease and his resting face is serious looking (which I imagine is the case for most people), why do you need additional reassurance? …

Okay that context helps! 😊 I think it’s fair to remember that while you may talk about ahead of time what you would need him to do to drive home the fact that he is okay….it takes reminders and lots …

when someone can *ignore* you, but you can’t even *breathe* without them - that’s not love, that’s nervous system hijack until therapy starts, treat your brain like a toddler with scissors. don’t rea…

A big one for me is self advocacy. I usually tend to blame myself for any negative situation, but I learned that I can call out when my needs aren't being met, when my feelings have been overlooked. I…

Slow down with people if you're moving fast. Hormones and infatuation cloud judgement and make it harder to make calls on incompatibility when they should be made. Secure people make these calls for g…

(DA hard pattern female here) From my perspective that issues is more down to what a human has learned up to this moment - or not. A lot men grew up with mothers/females that took care of health issu…

Yesss therapy - I started weekly in person therapy about 6 weeks ago, EMDR, IFS work... It's... kind of freaking hard, but I can see that it's helping me slowly start to build an internal sense of saf…

The whole point of a “disorder” is that the person with the behavior lacks the ability to reflect on that behavior. Everything you have described combined just sounds like low skill level and dysregul…

I dunno, I feel like you're making a lot of assumptions and untrue ones. Lots of people who have BPD and other disorders are very capable of reflecting, especially if they are doing active work on the…

What exactly were your expectations with it? What are you trying to judge?

I understand. I can relate to these feelings *a lot.* I understand not wanting to label someone you love as an abuser, I think it can prevent so many people from actually healing because… I mean I cou…

What’s actually happening (in plain language) Roughly, your system is doing this: 1. Distance = danger. When you don’t see him (or replies slow down), your body reads it as “I’m about to be abando…

ANXIOUS 24/7 Even though my fiance is mostly present, texts, and calls (once per day sometimes a bit late because he is at work) I am always anxious and I hate myself for that. If he gets one tick …