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Have you any sort of more broad classification of the glyphs you are describing? I would like to see more and what have you understand so far. That brings me to another question that is if the provid…

How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …

Victim Blaming will not be tolerated — Hey all, Codependency can lead to a ton of behaviors and relationship styles that are less than healthy, but as we all strive to better ourselves and shed these old habits that no longer serve us, it…

FAQs about r/AnxietyHelp — Hi guys, One of the mods here suggested creating a FAQ page for our subreddit to help eliminate confusion. **Why was my post removed automatically?** It wasn't! It has been sent to our mod queue fo…

Does attachment style start to shift after cutting out toxic family members? — Recently, I removed a toxic family member from my life after years of emotional turbulence and manipulation. This person liked to gaslight me, hold past mistakes over my head, and blame me for everyth…

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

Marketing Digest: Google tests new AI mode outside Labs along with more features, ChatGPT introduces shopping features with personalized product recommendations, Google confirms search signals used to train Gemini AI — Hey guys! A new week means a fresh batch of marketing insights. Google’s keeping us on our toes as usual, and AI is busy finding new ways to take over the digital space. Let’s read: **SERP features /…

Organic growth and discovery tools - i will not promote — Hey community, I'm a founder of a few products (not posting links as i will not promote). My time for early traction goes in navigating reddit, twitter, articles, etc trying to get organic traction. …

Row Level Security Postgres/ Supabase — Currently building a web application with a node.js backend/api and react/spa front end. I'm using supabase/ postgres as my database. Currently I'm using the service key supabase provides in my backen…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…

Intellectual Intimacy VS Emotional Intimacy: Which form of Intimacy do you achieve in most of your relationships (familial, platonic, and romantic)? Share your attachment style & 1 example. Are you fulfilled & what/how would you seek to change? (terms defined in pictures). — Secure attachment (Disorganized in unhealed states). Intellectual Intimacy: career/life goals, social commentary, and hobbies. I'm unfulfilled & would like more emotional intimacy. I will communicate …

A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…

March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…

Pregnancy seems to have opened something up — I am recently pregnant, and have been doing gateway for about 15mo. When I found out I was expecting, I decided to pause on focus levels where I was exerting more energy or opening myself to other ene…

I (28F) cut off my in-laws after how they treated me before and during my wedding, but I get anxious when my husband (27M) still talks to them. How do I move on? — TL;DR: My mother-in-law and sisters-in-law insulted me, fat-shamed and color-shamed me before our wedding and caused major drama during the wedding itself. Now they act sweet in front of my husband. I…

AM silent treatment is HELL — For context- two days ago AM asked me (19F) and my sister (17F) why our cousin and our close friends are scared or intimidated by her. We started making fun of her for the things she used to do or say…

Cheated on after 10.5 years together, divorced at 11 years together. — Hi Everyone, This is half venting and half hoping for advice or people to listen. I'm at a low point right now so I thought reaching out to a community might be beneficial as opposed to holding it…

I (29F) have cancer and my estranged father (60M) is funding my treatment but forcing me to leave my boyfriend (24M) or marry him immediately. Do I have any way out? — Please be kind. I was unable to type so used audio to text converter and ai to fix the spelling mistakes. I m already in a terrible mental state so hope this sub can be a little gentle on me. Haven't …

It Was Always About You — I thought I would share an experience I had a while ago that really changed my understanding of Neville’s teachings and manifestation in general. **How it started** In 2022 I was very into occultism…

Stop wanting a relationship with neglectful parents. — All of us are so attuned to their emotions and how THEY feel. But I’m here to tell you that being low contact/no contact is okay. You aren’t withholding energy from them because you’re compassionless,…

The "Manosphere" — Last night my wife and I watched the new Netflix documentary on the Manosphere. It was entertaining and informative, but also quite sad. My first reaction, honestly, was that with the exception of th…

I think I want to get divorced. — I'm so tired of swallowing myself to make room for him. I'm exhausted by his casual homophobia, misogyny and racism. I hate that I cannot speak the way I want to because he doesn't "get analogies" or …

I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough! — I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough I just came back from a 4 week long vacation in Turks and Caicos in the Caribbean. This was the 10th year in a row I have don…

Trying not to get too ahead of myself with new partner — I need to clear my head a bit. About 8 weeks ago I (55F) cold approached a man (49) at a bar. He asked for my number and has been consistent and open with communication since. We are exclusive, see e…

Calling AM on her bluff, even if it means she becomes homeless — \*\*\*\*Warning this contains Abuse, this is not for everyone if you’re under 18 please do not continue reading this. I’ll try to make it brief. My AM was a single parent of 5 kids. That’s where he…

Carl Jung wasn't a psychologist. He was a shaman. — Carl Jung quietly wrote one of the most profound esoteric texts of all time, at least in my own personal opinion. Seven Sermons to the Dead was written in 1916, privately shared between a handful of J…

The Double Body Technique : A Great astral projection method. — # The Double Body Technique: What is The Double Body? **The double body** is a visualized form resembling yourself, created through imagination. This construct can be inhabited and used for astral pr…

The Astral Plane: its Nature, Structure, and the Unseen’s Map found in world religions — *Disclaimer: The views expressed here are my personal opinions, except where excerpts are quoted.* # Nature of the Astral Plane The Astral Plane is the wider dream world. It’s a constant place that …

Immense anger after being cheated on.. 8 year relationship. — 8 year relationship down the drain.. I met her when I was 23m.. She BEGGED ME to take her serious. I took road trips frequently for work during that time and she felt like I didn’t spend enough time w…

I think I’m a female narcissist and it’s ruining my relationship — I’m a 29 year old female and I think I’m a covert narcissist. It’s ruining my relationship with my partner, a 28 year old male. I constantly feel overly sensitive to criticism, have the “victim mental…

How do I stop my neck from continuously moving? — My neck always moves and tenses up when doing the tapes. So far I actually think I’ve been able to reach the focus states up to this point (up to focus 15 I’m starting wave 6, though no OBE’s). Howeve…

I'm exhausted of doing everything myself — This is more of a vent but I do actually have a question, so stay with me. I thought I'd have someone by now. I wasn't raised great at all (post for another time/sub) so I know that figured into my …

The deep scars of emotional neglect. — I am the 4th, and youngest child of an emotionally unstable, single mother. Growing up with her was hell. You never knew what you were going to get. One day she would be distant and completely unrespo…

I CAN'T CHUG — I can't chug water or drink it in decent amounts and I think something might be wrong with my throat?! Like I can only drink it by keeping it in my mouth and swallowing slowly :c It's really a pain, i…

26[M] and my 23[F] me and her just recently cut things off. — Things were going really good in the beginning, she was sweet and nice but I realized she was a very different and strange. Like maturity wise, she had so many issues she was very controlling when I’d…

How long before you went back to dating apps? — I'm curious how long people took to get back to dating. I am devastated and just want this pain to end but the idea of talking to someone else feels so fake and twisted. At the same time I don't want …

5 years of relationship gone; I'm 20 and just was dumped — me and him always had our issues of on and off. ive always stayed despite all the things he's done and i understadn that its my fault for allowing him to do the things he did. I just feel really sad b…

I'm fourteen and I've been in a really weird situation my entire life. I don't know what to do. — trigger warning for sensitive content such as abuse (only financial abuse is really explicitly stated), alcoholism, s icidality (in the past, censoring in case it gets the post removed or something)?…

when will i finally stop allowing him to hurt me even when we’re not in contact? — i’m tired.

Uncertainty gave me happiness again. — Feel like I've been waiting around the last few years, and I'm not even sure what I'm waiting for. I'm just hoping life will fall on my lap one day. But life is out there, and it's also waiting. T…

Huge Success. Actually shocking how EASY it is. (Guidance & Success) — # 3/29/26 First things first, I want to say that it all starts with you and the person that you believe you are. What you believe you are capable of achieving. I want you to remember that a belief is…

Feeling extreme transference toward therapist. How do I handle this with my therapist while being the most respectful about boundaries? — I have been seeing my therapist for about three months now. I chose her randomly, but I feel like we have a good client–therapist connection. I’ve been able to talk to her about things I never thought…

Disability discrimination at Goenka retreats — I recently attended a 10-day Vipassana course at Dhamma Dipa (UK). I’m neurodivergent (ADHD, Sensory Processing Disorder, awaiting autism assessment) and rely on earplugs as a medically necessary sens…

Channeled message - this is why you’re not shifting༄˖°.🍂.ೃ࿔*:･ — Hi sweet shifting peeps, this is a collective message for you. \~ I specifically asked the deck, the crystals and the sound cleansing that I did it to help me pick out the card that would be most rele…

The "other" is just vibration & how to use non-resistance for stable contact and AP — The boundary between "self" and "other" often dissolves in the presence of pure vibration. In the realm of the experiencer, where phenomena challenge our linear narratives of order, the distinction be…

Paracetamol and Dream Retention — I always have trouble sleeping and I haven’t had vivid dreams in a very very long time. 3 weeks ago I got decently sick and the only medication I could get from my pharmacy (I study abroad so translat…

Dmt +mdma tripreport — Hi so ive been experimenting with dmt last 4months or so and have found lots of positive sightings from it. Last week decided to take mdma with mushrooms (hippyflip) it was my first time so i took 0.8…

My complete astral projection system explained — Hey everyone! Before I share my system, I want to give a bit of context. I’ve been practicing astral projection for about 26 years now. A few years back, I wrote a book where I shared my experiences,…

My mother set me up and got policemen and EMR to aggressively restrain me and put me in the ambulance when I least expected — I am mortified. The whole scene was scandalous, never had I ever felt so humiliated. It happened last Friday when I was just about to take a shower before I continued packing my belongings to move o…

None of it *should* stop you from moving forward and healing, but for some people it still nevertheless does. I'm sorry, I know you said this more than half a year ago but I'm going through my situati…

At this point in your journey, I believe, you need two ingredients: grieving and not avoiding your emotions (somatic work, journaling, revisiting painful memories, allowing yourself to cry, etc) and s…

I think building discernement and self-trust will reduce the risk of "inevitably being discarded". Meaning, at some point in your healing journey, you'll learn to identify people who are good relation…

Beautifully put!! We Re complex beings and recognising the duality of emotions and allowing ourselves to feel them, really does set us free!

Oh yeah, totally. It’s like once you let yourself see the dysfunction, you can’t unsee it. And you can’t imagine falling for it ever again. Or even bothering to figure it out. I went through a simila…

thank you for being vulnerable. After the alarm fades, is there ever an awareness that the metal walls shredded someone on the way up? I understand and empathize with all of this, I just have a hard t…

> Question: Does Symfony block concurrent requests by design No. PHP applications run concurrently on each child process of the php-fpm interpreter, starting with a request and ending with it - unles…

I do data science for a 9 billion dollar a year US manufacturer. Zero AI. IT policy states accessing LLM's on company hardware is prohibited, and known sites are blocked from the organization's VPN. …

Sophia NLU (natural language understanding) Enging released, with full specs and online demo at: https://cicero.sh/sophia/ For anyone deploying conversational chat bots at all, and is alternativ…

I'm mainly a programmer but I tend to create full games that typically have shown past success on the platform. Then let the Roblox algorithm catch onto it allowing players to organically join it whic…

No. You are participating by allowing him back. If you’re secure you tell him this behavior isn’t something you care for and you wish him well, and stop talking to him. And you’ll mean it.

Alright unfortunately it’s impossible for me to determine whether she is actually losing interest or if she is having trouble regulating her own emotions, but what you need to do in both cases is let …

Yeah, it's learning to be honest and open up to the therapist and developing a safe, nurturing relationship with them (often the first one we've had) that does the trick. You gotta do that somehow to …

That's where I'm at. This pain was unbearable. Anyone who hasn't been through an avoidant discard will never understand the severity of the experience. Our mutual friend apologized to me for hooking …

This is your second tell that she is not secure and swing avoidant. Secured people have self-regulation techniques, are attuned to their bodies, and have habits for off-time to be with people or to c…

So the solution to "jumping to conclusion" is not "giving the benefit of a doubt": it's learning to investigate with kindness and with non-violence communication. From a neuroscience perspective, you …

> you don’t modulate an overacting amygdala by shutting off your cortex; it’s by allowing both Damn you might have just changed my life

The same ‘fight’ keeps getting picked as I’m trying to educate the world about how psychiatry is questionable medicine at best. The problem here is the world believes that it is real medicine, thus …

When I mention ‘AI’ I don’t necessarily mean that which exists in its current form, but rather a smart artificial intelligence that actually does know how to counter your thoughts and redirect them to…

The world is not as you are. The world is as you subconsciously believe it to be true. And those subconscious beliefs need to be manually built day by day by methods proven to work and it may take mon…

I'm really proud of your journey to healing. On an unrelated note, it always surprises me how FAs can just bring up such intense feelings in other people. Anyways, focusing on your healing journey, …

Allowing him to continue to act like that (which by taking him back is what you're doing, you're showing you accept that kind of behaviour) just makes it so that he never feels the need to change. Bre…

Check out Heidi Priebe on YouTube. She's a game changed. Have you asked yourself ' will allowing him to reach out if and when he chooses help my healing?' A month no contact is a heck of a lot of ti…

In other words you are putting others above yourself. You don’t listen to the inner voice that tries to protect you. You put yourself down. Think others are better than you. This is all self abandonme…

I’m also an FA, and I’ve been in therapy a while. I’m not an expert, just been trying to improve little by little and your post really resonated with me. I also feel like it’s hard to determine what i…

Security can sometimes feel boring after coming from a push-pull dynamic. It’s only a problem if you’re actively turned off to sex with your partner. Honeymoon phases *can* last six months to two …

Aww I am so sorry 😔 IMO, part of self regulation is allowing yourself to deeply grieve. Allowing your body to weep, your mind to spiral, your heart to hurt and accepting yourself in it. Of course y…

I’m starting to allow myself to feel what I feel without shame and allowing myself to make mistakes and learn.

Okay so yeah I can see why you’d want to try and understand where it’s coming from. It doesn’t sound all that abnormal from what ive experienced, and if he isn’t maintaining this negative perception b…

Yeah I guess that's an interesting perspective, thank you. I guess I can see how fear of rejection would show up. I do think part of him feels that the right person would just know and things would ju…

Okay I don't know if this is going to be controversial or something but here are my two cents: * *Yes*, building secure attachment means - allowing yourself to have preferences, and not engaging in r…

What the other user guessed is also what I was thinking. You said she didn't explain and you're not sure she knows. Have you flat out asked her to explain? Not allowing a partner to get support like …

I posted in last weeks thread about my LDR with my boyfriend (41M) No development has happened since I posted. The way hes acting distance with me and my inability to stop worrying about him and thi…

Brother, listen closely. What you’re facing isn’t weakness — it’s a battle you’ve been fighting for years, and the fact that you’re still here, still searching for healing, already proves your stre…

In a similar phase of “The Work” myself so here’s my two cents: I’m learned that when the overthinking becomes the driving force behind my emotions, motives, and actions, that’s when it’s obvious I’…

You've been analyzing him for the last four years, do you really think you'll find that one Reddit comment that explains everything and dispels your fears? You've asked an unanswerable question becaus…

I would say based on how OP handled literally every step of this including nervous system activation but allowing things to play out show the secure attachment style.

If a comment was true victim-blaming, why can't we trust that the community would downvote it heavily? If the comment remains active, we can reply to the victim-blamey comment and identify it as such.…

Currently in a relationship (F/32) & (F/25). I am anxious and my partner is anxious/avoidant. We are currently on a “break” and in couples therapy. We’ve only had 2 sessions and our therapist asked us…

All of the above. Whenever i feel triggered by something (The latest one is an approaching movein with a partner) it’s a lot easier for me to step back and look at it and think to myself, why do i fee…

[takes notes] I gave it a try today, giving him an update about my mental health (another can of worms really) over lunch, and allowing my eyes to get watery (and in public at that! at a bus termi…

Insecure attachment is something that usually takes root in childhood. And if they are FA they likely have some pretty severe trauma. None of that is a temporary state. It can easily take years and ye…

Even though I'm FA, as a person whose almost exclusively avoidant in friendships, I don't think this is true at all. My secure friendships all followed a pretty distinct trajectory of periods where I …

OMG thank you!!! I was SO proud of myself for allowing myself to just take the baby steps and it was really rewarding to know that I'm reading situations better and going out of my comfort zone. Thank…

It’s entirely reasonable to cry in front people you care about. What I like to do is ask my siblings (people who I’m closest to the most) if they have capacity to listen to me. When they do I let it o…

A boundary for yourself would be like accepting that this is a full on break up and it is over. And that you will not accept breadcrumbs. This could look like setting it up to no longer receive contac…

I hate to tell you this….and it’s not really something you want to hear right now. But your negative thoughts are connected to the fact that you are abandoning yourself by holding on to this relations…

You do not need to wish her a happy birthday. If you are no contact, stay no contact. Her actions likely have nothing to do with you at all. She actually sounds like she has a mental illness on top of…

I'm not sure if your person is FA or DA but I'll add my view as a healing fearful avoidant. If you have lighthearted things to share, the best way to share them is to just send them to the person. Giv…

Sending some telepathic hugs your way! That's a tough place to be. I've been learning being comfortable and understanding that I'll survive the discomfort are two independent concepts. That's helped m…