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It's her way of decompressing and I recognized it right away, she's always super chatty but doesn't have many people to share the more serious things so I listen. It doesn't really bother me because p…

How Can I Manifest Someone I Don’t Even Know? — Hey everyone, I need some advice. I recently saw a really handsome guy at my university fest, but he was an outsider. We didn’t talk, didn’t exchange contacts, and I have no idea where he came from o…

Why is Amazon's website design so ugly? — I can't be the only one seeing it. The all white pages, strange font choices, horrendous product image compression, terrible layout, cluttered webpage in general. Even the text looks awful on the page…

Why do people in LOA communities ALWAYS go to Reddit for their problems when JM advised against that? — Hello everyone. I've been into JM's (and NG's) teaching for quite some time. I enjoy it thoroughly and dipped my toes into the subreddits, so hence why I'm here instead of the NG subreddit since I wo…

Client has disappeared from map pack for target keyword ("More Results" button missing, only top 3 displayed) — ISSUE: I have a high profile client, with a competitive brand, authoritative website & highly optimized GBP, of which they have dozens of real locations, including this one. I have been working with t…

Strange page name changes to en dashes from regular dashes. Bad for G4. — This is a bit of an odd question, but I noticed in google analytics that the page names have changed from a hyphen to a en dash (option + dash) – . The dashes are automatic where it puts the page name…

Anyone facing issue with Cloudflare recently of suddenly not honoring "Access-Control-Allow-Headers" set by origin? — Is anyone facing this recent issue lately where all the sudden, you're getting thrown Access-Control-Allow-Headers error across all proxied domains. Cloudflare proxy, out-of-the-blue, decided not to h…

Strange WordPress Login Activity – Need Help Understanding — I've set up a new website, and **I'm the only one who has the login credentials**. However, I'm seeing **many login attempts recorded**, and I'm not sure who is trying to log in or why. I had installe…

Strange issue with LiteSpeed — When I activate LiteSpeed, my menu at the top will be out of order, but only on some pages I select "About" and all is ok, but if I hit "Services", it goes out of order.. I deactivate it, and all is …

How to approach colleagues ‘improving’ my copy with unedited Chat GPT? — Hi all, I’m a new and junior member of a very small team, we are overstretched and have far too much on the go at any given time, which inevitably leads to shortcuts being taken. I’m no stranger t…

Why almost all of libraries are free? — Like in the title. I am geniunly baffled why most of libraries are free to use. Things like react, angular, react query, redux, zustand etc... they all probably took loads of time to develop and stil…

The song Wicked Game by Chris Isaak sounds like an AP singing about falling in love with a DA — A few weeks back I wrote about "I love You, I'm sorry" by Gracie Abrams sounding like the pov of a DA. Well, I was listening to Wicked Game by Chris Isaak today and it occurred to me that the lyrics …

I’ve failed at startups, lived on the road, and I still believe I’m successful — I was 19 when I started my first startup. I led a team of 15 people, wanted to change the world. And I failed. At 21, back in 2016, I left home without any money, hoping that traveling would help me …

Ever feel like you’re doing all the right things in business, but still wrestling with doubt, decision fatigue, or just low-level burnout? — You’ve got the strategy. You’ve read the books. You’re pushing forward... but something’s off. What I’ve noticed in myself (and in others I work with) is this: It’s not always about more knowle…

Strange Issue with WPBakery Page Builder in Editor — 3 Admins on same WP Site (site is up to date). Editing or Creating new Page -> 1 Admin sees WPBakery Page Builder Header etc. - the others don't. In Browser Dev Console nothing to see. Tried it via …

CKA? Or EKS project? — Here's a bit of context as to why I feel like I need to get out of dodge ASAP... IT Management: "We need **more automation**! Nobody should be using User Data scripts." Me: \*Writes several Ansible…

Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…

I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …

Why do I get upset when bad stuff happens to my partner and it doesn't even impact me? — I'm struggling to understand my pretty intense reactions to certain things. I don't know if attachment theory can help explain this part of my brain. For context: Me (38 F) and partner (44 M) have b…

What I'm realizing: I relate closest to others with deep trauma and that is a troublesome recipe. — TW: addiction, suicide, physical and emotional abuse, CSA. I have CPTSD, routine struggles with depression and anxiety and the corresponding executive dysfunction. I grew up with an alcoholic parent…

Global Policy Journal: “Don’t look up?“ – Why it is past time for serious holistic research into Unidentified Anomalous Phenomena — Karin Austin, Michael Bohlander and Kimberly S. Engels have contributed an excellent article to the Global Policy Journal. Two of these people I've met personally and they are experiencers who are doi…

Studying attachment theory — I’ve been studying attachment theory for a couple of months now, and I’ve only recently started to REALLY look into it. I started reading a book called Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for…

For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…

Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…

Did I make my Avoidance worse by pushing through it? — Hi all, I’ve been aware I have issues with commitment/avoidance my entire conscious life, but despite it I’ve always wanted to find love I didn’t meet my first boyfriend until I was 22, and it was l…

feeling numb in dating but longing for intimacy — For the past few years, I've been mostly numb in dating. I don’t really feel anything romantic. I don’t feel sparks. I don’t feel excited about anyone or attached. I don’t miss people when I’m not wit…

Letter to my ex — **7th February 2026** “You will find me, right?” That sentence is the last sentence. The one that always stays with me. Every single day I think about it, and I think that’s why I know what I have t…

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Getting over approach anxiety — A few days ago, I went to a local restaurant by myself to have supper. This cute woman with a pom pom on her toque was sitting in a booth across the way, with a couple guys that looked like they coul…

My father is sabotaging my career and medical treatments through "smear campaigns" and monitoring. I feel like I'm living in a Truman Show nightmare. — ​I (25F) am an Indian doctor currently preparing for NEET PG, and I am living with a family led by a malignant narcissistic father. My mother and brother are complete enablers. I’m writing this becaus…

Have your thoughts on shrooms been somewhat like this? — Yesterday I first tried shrooms. I did 15g fresh, which you can expect to be about 1.5g dry ± I've tried acid 2 times before, which were very amazing, intense and long experiences. They theached me a…

Experienced ego dissolution and timelessness while a friend spiraled into a bad trip believing we were communicating through “waves” — I wanted to share a recent experience because the contrast between my trip and my friend’s bad trip was extremely interesting, and I’m curious if others have seen similar dynamics in group trips. We …

Are these early signs of narcissism? — So I met this guy on Hinge a couple of weeks ago. We do know some random people in common. Here are the signs that I find strange: \- He’s absolutely grandiose - have a ton of projects, ideas, storie…

Has anyone noticed becoming extremely aware of people’s energy or reactions over time? — I’ve been smoking occasionally for about 4 years now, but around 3–4 months ago I started noticing something strange. I began feeling much more aware of people’s vibes, expressions, and body language.…

F**CKKKKKKKKK — I don’t really have anywhere to say this, so I’m just putting it here. I was with someone for a long time who I truly believed was my person. From the beginning, there was just something about her th…

DDay - 2/19/2026 - Online Emotional Affair Led to Full Blown Infidelity — I found out my wife was going on “solo” concert trips, but was also using them as a way to vacation with a guy she had been talking to online for years. Seventeen years together and seven years marri…

Lost my lucid dreaming ability the same day I told someone about it ,could metacognition explain this? — Hi everyone, I’m curious if anyone has experienced something similar. For about two years I practiced lucid dreaming very consistently. I used reality checks, dream journaling, and other methods, and …

Aliens during 1 month patterning — So I've been doing the tapes for about 3-4 weeks now and practicing f12 a lot and I have practiced the 1 month patterning a few times and it usually always goes perfectly fine but tonight for the firs…

Does strong energy field scare people subconsciously, here is my experience — For the past few years I’ve been focusing a lot on my self-concept and doing inner work, working on my shadow, learning healthy emotional detachment, and grounding myself. I went through a difficult p…

I recently found out my close friend slept with my girlfriend while we were together. I'm struggling with how to process it. — I’m a 22-year-old Japanese guy and I recently learned something that completely changed how I see a lot of people in my life. About a year and a half ago I was in a serious relationship. We lived tog…

Married 5 months after 10 years together (M32 / F29) — she started talking to another guy right after the wedding. We’re now on a 30-day separation and I don’t know what to do. — I’m looking for honest advice from people who have either been through something like this or have perspective I might not be seeing right now. My wife (F29) and I (M32) have been together for about …

Coming to terms with possible childhood emotional neglect - curious how others turned out — As I’ve gotten older and started reflecting on my life, I’ve slowly worked backwards and realised that I might have experienced childhood emotional neglect (CEN). What’s funny is that it actually sta…

I doubted and spiraled for weeks. It happened anyway. — I manifested something exactly as I had imagined it. The strange part is that before it happened, I spent weeks convinced I had ruined it. I was manifesting spending a specific holiday with someone. …

Has anyone else experienced something very feeling strange ever since the election of the current American President?? — Hello everyone. This might be an unusual post to make at this time. However, I am looking forward to see if anyone has experienced anything similar or exactly what I have experienced. Before earlier i…

From ‘soul mates’ to strangers — How does one even trust again. Learn to open up again. Let their wall down again. After 2 years, she’s gone. She was my girlfriend, my best friend, my partner, support system, ‘soul mate’. We had …

Being kind isn't just nice...it's smart...b/c we live in an environment made of each other. — Think of it like a fish swimming in an ocean made of other fish. Everything we do as we move through this world...for our little bit of time here...relies on other people helping us, often in ways we…

I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath — Hi everyone, please I need help. I’m 35F and my husband is 36M. We’ve been married for 10 years and have two boys (7 and 5). I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. About three months ago my hus…

I (F18) am jealous of my boyfriend (M18) for the gpt chat — I know it sounds strange, but I can’t do it anymore. At first my boyfriend started using chat for normal things, such as workout plans, food advice etc. at some point, he started sharing his appearanc…

Why Manifesting From Desire Creates Anxiety — I had a realization while trying to manifest a new job. I noticed that every time I get a notification or an email, I feel a wave of anxiety. Which is strange, because I’ve already done the “work.” I…

The phrase "you're so strong" is pissing me off. — ETA: TW tags and NSFW added. I apologise. Had a dysfunctional childhood, abusive stuff of all sorts, was struggling with major depression and being extremely suicidal in my teens, have been through a…

I find this insane they don't love their children — I know that they have a mental disease, some have been deeply or horrifyingly traumatized some didn't need a lot to turn this way. And yet I can't help thinking I just can't wrap my mind around it, no…

I have a question. My mom has told me various stories of when she was a child, that she would just dream that she was floating outside her body, going through the window, etc. She is a very spiritual …

I am new to this. I often can control my dreams. It’s so strange- I dream within a dream or two and within that dream I have to check myself that I am not in reality by floating. I am well educated, m…

I had a really concerning dream just now and fear of my boyfriend didn't wake me up something bad was going to happen to me.. It started off in a house I've never seen before the kitchen was upstairs…

Sometimes i have this strange profound feeling that i am dreaming. How do i know that i am in fact, not dreaming right now?

Kind of solid advise. When you ask strangers for advise who dont know you they can only advise based on what info you give and its very hard for them, for us, not to connect those sittuations to simil…

There is no hard yes and hard no. You can't trust strangers on the internet for good advice or conversely to be wrong. If you're reading comments or posts and wondering if a person is also here and wr…

I’ve been lucid dreaming for a long time, unfortunately a lot in night terrors not a fun time. Also has anyone ever had strange encounters when they realize they’re dreaming and then decide to ask abo…

When I entered this sub it was not like that. People used to post about useful things and make useful quests. Anxiety and depression are not "deciding to be better", they're straight up medical issues…

Yeah, and if any of you from this sub are on Year 3 with nothing to show for it but some stranger on Reddit screaming at you about how you're doing it wrong (when they themselves haven't manifested an…

I am in a similar position to you OP. I've been seeing my fiancée for over 2 years. We live separately due to circumstances at her end, and we see each other roughly once a week, usually at weekends…

Avoidants might seem less irritating, but they have far less chance of ever being happy. They don’t want to change. They think their partner having basic needs is “needy.” They blame the anxious partn…

You’re being very condescending and essentially, trying to one-up a complete stranger. If you feel better that’s great, but you don’t actually know me, and you’re not proving anything here.

I've been experiencing something similar, broke up in December. In my mind, it's almost as if the person I knew and loved severed (like from the show Severance) themselves and returned from a trip as …

he is not a complete stranger, you already met. did you dance with him? I think mostly you have this solved, just stop introducing doubt.

I was dismissive avoidant for more than 20 years of marriage. A few months ago, some things changed in my life, including a strange dream, and almost since the day after that enlightening dream, I ha…

I don’t know, everyone is saying “you’re imaging it” but this has happened to me. Only once, but it has happened, and I would say im secure. Someone definitely flipped to “hating” me and refused to di…

My guess is that he has hooked up with someone, or maybe gone back to an ex, and he doesn’t know how to tell you. Since you don’t know each other very well and have barely spent time together in perso…

ok so i typed up a hypothetical example haha let's say i have a coworker/acquaintance who seems like they'd have a lot in common with me, but we don't know each other well. i want to become closer to…

Yeah, you know me so well internet stranger. xD

*”It shifts your worldview to think that some people can love and care about you, but still feel nothing about hurting you. It’s a type of coldness that feels evil and makes it hard to navigate the w…

[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strange\_situation](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strange_situation) You can have a look hear, especially regarding Disorganized. "Ainsworth put in print her blessing…

I believe most people don’t even read these books and just get the teachings from strangers on the internet so they’re not aware of what just tell

The first question is, why does the drugs trigger you? What are you imagining or feeling when they talk about it. Logically, it's just part of their past. If it was something that could happen again o…

Thank you so much for your answer! So, so much good advice. ''it's really strange, but I can actually feel when I flip from anxious to avoidant.''-- I just wanted to share with you: I too can tell …

I’m not a DA but I do need space. Fortunately, my friends have always understood that, and I haven’t had to communicate it. I feel like they are kind of the same and everything just feels super natura…

Secure here. I still do learn and learn to accept that a lot of people cant express themself and selfreflect. Long distance friend of mine and, probably DA, got into arguments with me via whatsapp. …

It’s astonishing how you think you know me to try and acknowledge anything about a stranger online 😭 thank you, I know that I’m avoidant and also fluctuate between FA and DA. I know about my behaviou…

It's happened to me and a friend of mine as well. Once that is done to a DA, we never forgive and we never forget. That person may as well be dead to us for anything other than a polite interaction …

I think you should market this... I probably would have used this. I had a situationship I was desperate to hang onto. I gave so much space, barely pestered, got on his same wavelength of taking the s…

Wouldn't this fall under the blanket I mentioned of expressing emotional intimacy? Except for the 4th question, these are relatively emotionally intimate questions you dont normally ask strangers, acq…

You are also not going to have children with strangers, acquaintances, or even friends, and let those people potentially hurt you deeply + take half of your things when those relationship ends. You a…

This one is loaded, and I really feel it. As someone who's actively working through avoidant tendencies, I’ll say this: therapy *was* a must for me. I get the hesitation—there’s stigma, fear of being …

heard a good quote once "the one you feed is the one who eats." perfectly normal to have these thoughts, but it's your decision to continue to ruminate on them, and continuing to do so will only f…

Also you lie to them and expect them to except it.when I notice some one is just saying something that isn’t real ,it bothers me. Often my wife needs space,so she stacks her calendar with appointments…

The irony is they are obsessed with whether or not avoidant attachers are doing the work but only exhibit that they ARE NOT by constantly sticking their nose in and/or lashing out at complete stranger…

1. Drawn not drown. 2. You're the AP. Bc no one brings up wanting kids to a stranger like you're on a 1:1 date. As an FA, I find that very weird and off putting.

You've received a lot of feedback on this post that should have prompted some self-reflection. I'm curious: do you genuinely not see how telling a stranger about your expectations for a relationship…

Getting to know each other before brining up more serious matters isn't playing cool. So what if she wants kids too if she won't like for example how you dress or your lack of tact. There's time and p…

Absolutely. This, and the wider context that she was crying about her past relationships. If I was crying about another guy, and the stranger who was listening started telling me about his expectatio…

This picture was taken in Marseille, where my ex and I had our first (unforgettable) date a couple of months ago. We were walking around the city at night, so in love. It felt like we were perfect for…

I just want to thank the mods for making this the only safe space for avoidants on Reddit. Everytime I try to vent and ask for advice on other subs I get a ton of downvotes and people bullying me in t…

As others have mentioned this is called, "Hoovering". In attachment theory, particularly with someone who is dismissive avoidant, they may feel threatened by too much intimacy and push you away (brea…

I understand your point, however what I really don't understand about all this is besides this weird thing she is otherwise pretty positive abou reconnecting with me, so I guess that's what's strange.…

The first example is so hard. I feel like there’s no kind way to be like “I’m not interested in that [getting together]”. I don’t usually ignore people if they reach out, but I’ve definitely forgettin…

Gave me what I wanted? Lol I didn’t ask you for anything, I merely stated my different view. Whether u agree with me or not is irrelevant. It’s Reddit and ur a stranger. Ur desire to “give me what I w…

I think there’s some good advice in this thread, but just adding this bc I didn’t see it mentioned in your post or other comments—work on platonic relationships! I know it can be difficult to make fri…

Its ironic. You say that but you have no idea how hard it is for me to lay myself bare in front of strangers. Its whatever stay on your high horse it doesn't matter in the end.

ah amazing, so I’m not the only one! 😅 i honestly didn’t even realise when I was in it that I was being blunted like that, it’s really strange

Yes, I edited, and yes, my comment contains some judgement (besides mostly description and perception, ie. judgement-free language). Non-violent, 100% judgemental-free Rosenberg communication, to me…

It’s honestly uncanny, how accurately you have described my own situation - except that it has been a week now and we (me: f34, AP - him: m30, DA) were together for 10, married for 8 years. We were ea…