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Woke up to boyfriend on the couch?

You can say that "actions speak louder than words", but you're not psychic, niether is he, and you can't read each other's minds. That's why you both need to use your words, and never in anger. Tal…

r/relationshipscomment3/26/2026
She wants to know things, but isnt actually interested

She wants to know things, but isnt actually interested — Really just using this post as a sounding board for some thoughts I’ve had recently. My mom and I’s relationship has always been strained and at the core, emotional disconnect was the biggest issue. I…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost3/20/2026
When is love not enough? Please help me understand

When is love not enough? Please help me understand — When we first got together she was up front with me about her emotional issues. I was OK with them, having dealt with my own demons for so long. But I didn't realize how severe her issues were. Two co…

r/BreakUpspost3/31/2026
How to break things off with a significant other? ‘F 21’ and ‘F 23’

How to break things off with a significant other? ‘F 21’ and ‘F 23’ — (Fake name Lana) This all started about 11 weeks ago, so a little less than 3 months ago. It started wonderfully, both of us getting and giving flowers, going out on little dates, not caring whether t…

r/BreakUpspost4/8/2026
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

It sounds like you are trying to make it logical when most often dysfunctional relationships are not logical at all. Whatever issues he has are his problem. What you can clearly see is that he is not …

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment9/17/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

I think you need to start focusing on how you are abandoning yourself in all this. Because you abandoned yourself before she ever did. Actions speak louder than words. You do not need her to explain…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment12/5/2025
How do you know what’s secure and what’s not in a partner?

Getting anxious like this means you are abandoning yourself in some way. It’s less about knowing if someone else is secure and more about being secure in yourself. You will never be able to just know …

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment12/18/2025
How do you know what’s secure and what’s not in a partner?

Maybe the old adage “actions speak louder than words” applies here. Often times, you may be sending words (texts) to illicit actions. But those, if they come at all, will only be your the effect of yo…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment12/27/2025
When does the relationship clock start?

That’s ok. Actions speak louder than words. Wait until you have clarity in his consistent actions …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/10/2026
Bf of 14 months hasn’t said I love you

This is what I'm dealing with in my relationship. I believe (personally) that love isn't something you exhaust or run out of. I love lots of things and people, and I like to tell the people that I car…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/12/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

He says because I know the area and the place, like I’d be picking up the phone and calling the same number off google like he would, I wonder if he’s anxious about it… but yeah I’m going to make it c…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/18/2026
Are pre-birthday discards the norm?

I don’t get the point of offering all that up, just leave me alone if you’re not interested? I can’t find a single good reason to always be around someone and introduce “more than friends” behavior ju…

r/attachment_theorycomment2/24/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 06, 2026

Things peaked the last weekend of January. Several days after that, there was a very noticeable shift in engagement. Same thing happened back in November. This time she stayed very responsive to texts…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/6/2026
i hate how i still care about someone who doesn’t care about me

It sucks knowing all the things you’ve done and would do for someone, they wouldn’t even consider doing for you. I know it hurts believe me I fell for the same words I love you I care about I think of…

r/ExNoContactcomment3/7/2026
I am fully convinced that one of the highest acts of self respect is choosing to walk away from a connection with someone who isn’t choosing you.

I'd be happy if it was genuine. Just because I left her doesn't mean I moved on months before as some seem to suggest here. It's not like I can just turn love off. If the woman I love reached out with…

r/BreakUpscomment3/10/2026
I am fully convinced that one of the highest acts of self respect is choosing to walk away from a connection with someone who isn’t choosing you.

I’ve often struggled with that idea you mention in the first part of your reply. As someone who has been the person being dumped in my only 2 relationships, I always think my ex has moved on quickly w…

r/BreakUpscomment3/10/2026
Block them. That's all I have to say.

This is the only way to remove the attachment. Intentions and actions speak louder than words. She was an amazing person and deserved to be with someone who could commit to her 100% but after 4 mont…

r/BreakUpscomment3/11/2026
My husband (29M) and I (29F) have a dead bedroom because he says I dont initiate

OP, as a married man who also has a free use but completely passive wife, I fully understand your husband’s position, and the fact that you went three months without asking him why he wasn’t initiatin…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/11/2026
Ladies: What makes you swipe RIGHT? (inspired by today's recent post)

Men who show authenticity, personal growth, self reflection, and emotional maturity. While that’s challenging on a profile, and actions speak louder than words, if that is conveyed through their write…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
Great guy, but after 4 months, there's just no physical touch

you have not even kissed? sorry, but this man does not find you attractive, is gay, or has some cognitive dissonance or mental block preventing him from making a move. if I meet & go on a date w…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
My boyfriend (31M) is upset I prioritize money and don’t want kids, even though I (24F) told him this from the start

You communicate it by leaving. Actions speak louder than words. If he's not willing to let go, you do it. He's not listening or hearing you. He doesn't want to. Marriage is more than just love. It…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/14/2026
Stop wanting a relationship with neglectful parents.

Thank you for this post. I started a low-contact relationship with my mom. She is self-centered and work obsessed. She answers to anything I say with that is good, for sure or that sucks and she goes …

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/14/2026
I am fully convinced that one of the highest acts of self respect is choosing to walk away from a connection with someone who isn’t choosing you.

Trust me, I KNOW. This is nothing new to me, unfortunately lol I’ve been in several long term relationships, good & bad. I’ve been in different types of therapy since I was 8 years old and I’m 32 year…

r/BreakUpscomment3/16/2026
My husband (34M) told his friends about my miscarriage as a “joke” and now says I’m overreacting (32F)

Believe the pattern, not the person. Actions speak louder than words. When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. The reason these sayings exist is because you aren't the only …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/19/2026
My ex-husband is engaged, 5 months after our divorce.

My ex did the same. Clutched his pearls when I left after 30 years, but never once asked me to stay. Never said he wanted me back. A couple months later he was actively dating. Eight months later, had…

r/Divorcecomment3/20/2026
It's truly over

You chose to buy the house, and to start building a life with someone you were unsure about. You're well spoken and convincing but actions speak louder than words. You've shown her you're inconsisten…

r/BreakUpscomment3/23/2026
If you were the dumper you need to be the one to reach out if you want a relationship with that person again.

I probably wouldn’t have said I hated him and then ended it, that’s the last memory he has of u since the breakup 😭 but yeah I get it, if he’s saying one thing and doing another thing then he’s not c…

r/BreakUpscomment3/25/2026
Woke up to boyfriend on the couch?

You've asked him a few times whether he's okay, happy, in love, etc. and he says yes. His actions clearly show you he isn't okay, he is rude to you, does weird shit, flies off the handle, etc. and yo…

r/relationshipscomment3/26/2026
Are we giving up on relationships too easily nowadays?

I'd say it case by case basis. I think there is still a lot of emotionally immature people out there who refuse to do the work on themselves and the relationship. I always say the best way to know if …

r/BreakUpscomment3/26/2026
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

What is the motivation behind the wanting to “speak up” about insecurities? Are you just trying to seek validation by doing such? Is it just another way to get that reassurance? If the answer is yes t…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment3/27/2026
Should I (29F) stop waiting and move on from my boyfriend (30M) of 5 years?

I agree, you've waited long enough but that 1%. Chance he's actually trying... I say enact the consequences and he will step up or not. Actions speak louder than words. Hope for the best prepare for t…

r/relationshipscomment3/28/2026
40M feeling stuck between self-improvement and loneliness — how do you actually find a partner at this stage?

Self-improvement should always come first. A woman can tell quickly if you are secure within yourself. It's ok to not be perfect but there's very little room for error in dating. Show up prepared, p…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/29/2026
Did you feel something was off when you first met the narc?

I kept telling myself before kicking her out of my life, that actions speak louder than words. When you tell yourself this, youll realize their actions do not line up with what they say. Mine would lo…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/29/2026
Read this!!! you need it.

She told me she was still in love with me but ghosted me the next day. She told me she misses all the things about me but then why cheat on me? She told me come over. I miss you so much let’s look at …

r/BreakUpscomment3/29/2026
I (m31) had my first real argument with my husband (m32) about children over the weekend and I dont know where it leaves us?

Actions speak louder than words. If someone who was constantly in debt and in over their heads with get-rich quick schemes asked him to loan them your joint life savings, with a promise of change - t…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
If They Wanted You, They Would've Chosen You.

He has to do it for him, he needs to beat his fears if he cant bring himself to it, maybe this is the lesson he needs as painful as it is to say that. I'm sure he loves you very much but actions speak…

r/BreakUpscomment3/30/2026
I (m31) had my first real argument with my husband (m32) about children over the weekend and I dont know where it leaves us?

When my partner and I have cousins over, the parenting part falls to me (like in your relationship). My partner didn't know how to change a diaper or anything child related. In addition, the nature of…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
My wife (f38) wants me (m42) to be okay with her going speed dating with friend?

OP, Your wife is looking for your replacement. Actions speak louder than words.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
I (m31) had my first real argument with my husband (m32) about children over the weekend and I dont know where it leaves us?

Nope. Actions speak louder than words. You can tell him that if you can go for a year where he does 50% or more of the actual work any time the nieces/nephews come over, then you'll be willing to exte…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/31/2026
Something I shouldve said, and now I cant go back.

I KNOW. That has been a painful realization for me. Actions speak louder than words, but words you can NEVER take back.

r/BreakUpscomment4/3/2026
My (F34) husband (M35) hasn't tried to learn what makes me orgasm in our seven years together. I don't want to leave the relationship but am beginning to feel like a predator. Any advice?

ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. The part that concerns me the most here is you saying “after awhile, it started making me feel insane.” Gaslighting is emotional abuse. You acknowledge that you are …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/4/2026
(25M) Bringing up my feelings led to being called controlling and wrong? By (24F)

Shitty part about dating people is that you find out where their priorities are, and her priorities are not for you. Sorry brother, but actions speak louder than words. She seems very immature.

r/relationshipscomment4/6/2026
You are replaceable

It is where the actions speak louder than words. True love will fight for you and will stay through the rough times. If not, I’d rather stay I single. My boyfriend wanted to marry me after I decided t…

r/BreakUpscomment4/7/2026
Just found out my (26M) fiance cheated on me this past weekend when I (23F) was visiting family in another state

A) yes Tell your parents... they'll have you back and help you through. B) you rock for getting under there and shield string up a muffler to get you home!! Your dad raised you right!! Plenty o…

r/relationshipscomment4/7/2026
What did you learn from your last relationship? What are the good things you want to carry forward with you and what are the things you won’t repeat?

1. Actions speak louder than words and someone can say they love you, but if you see no effort then it shows what their love is. 2. If something feels off DON'T hold it in, it won't get better on it…

r/BreakUpscomment4/7/2026
Getting my Ex back

Yes if the goal was to change yourself for the better and the betterment of the relationship then absolutely actions speak louder than words. Also if you feel like things are coming up for you and you…

r/BreakUpscomment4/8/2026
Sidelined by my (F34) fiancé’s (M38) groomswoman (F37)

Correct answer! Actions speak louder than words. He says you are his priority, but he acts differently and his actions are hurting you.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/8/2026
Feeling resentful, bitter, and jealous of my (28F) twin sister (28F)

Sorry that she's been immature like that. You don't have to mother her though. You can't control her but her actions don't dictate your behavior. You don't have to save her from the consequences of he…

r/relationshipscomment4/8/2026
What to do when my husband M24 now barely speaks to me f22 because of gaming?

Your partner should enjoy your company over anything else. I know it’s too late to change this, but you should have moved in together and lived with him for a while before marriage. You don’t know som…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/9/2026
How do I (F24) nip my boyfriend’s (M26) weaponized incompetence in the bud?

Everyone's jumping onto leave him straight away but you never know what's going on in a person's head. First thing is confront it every single time he pulls that "I don't know" card. Don't let it slid…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/9/2026
How do I (F24) nip my boyfriend’s (M26) weaponized incompetence in the bud?

I would suggest two things: 1. Have a serious chat with him. Tell him that you are not his mummy, and that in this shared household, if he is incapable of behaving like an adult member, he will be re…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/9/2026
I f34 want to feel desired again by my husband m34.

This is a classic problem thinking someone will change. Actions speak louder than words. He has shown you what you mean to him by cheating. Reality is YOU are the one that needs to change. Why do wom…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
Men, what is the kindest way a woman has noticed your interest in her but gracefully moved along?

One woman I knew as a student turned down my request for a date -- but counterproposed that we should go hiking together instead. We did, and spent that weekend together in a small tent up in the Norw…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/10/2026