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You can say that "actions speak louder than words", but you're not psychic, niether is he, and you can't read each other's minds. That's why you both need to use your words, and never in anger. Tal…
New to SEO and Trying to save my local business — Hi Everyone! I run a local companion care service for seniors and I’m staring down what feels like an impossible mountain with SEO. I’ve watched countless YouTube tutorials, learned a bit about on-si…
Law of Belief - Relationships — I have read the POSM by Joseph Murphy and gone through the index, but one thing that keeps coming up and seems to be rather controversial within the JM community is how law of belief affects other peo…
How do I cope with a constant fear of dying?? — And I mean constant, as in “every few minutes I’m thinking ‘what if I drop dead in two minutes??” For some reason, I’ve started thinking of my intrusive thoughts as “premonitions,” and my mind is insi…
Considering divorce from my husband. I need perspective. — Hey everyone, I've been lurking, but it's my first time posting, so sorry if this is inappropriate. For starters, I'm not asking for advice, as in "what to do", but more like perspective in case I'm …
I'm fourteen and I've been in a really weird situation my entire life. I don't know what to do. — trigger warning for sensitive content such as abuse (only financial abuse is really explicitly stated), alcoholism, s icidality (in the past, censoring in case it gets the post removed or something)?…
Saw my wife's phone from an over-the-shoulder POV, saw the word puzzle she was doing, suggested what she was currently typing as if it was my own answer — Title, basically, but I'll give more background. (I know it's April 1st but this is not an april fool or anything like that.) My wife and I were on the sofa. It was shortly after dinner and I was pl…
Praised as "gifted" — TL;DR: Did you recieve praise as a "gifted" child? Did your family never encourage effort and only praised results? As an adult, because of this, do you now find doing the things you were praised for …
How did you go NC - quietly or with a big bang? — For those of you that went minimal or no contact, how did you do it? Did you do it "quietly", as in just stopped proactively reaching out and letting it fade away? or was there a big arguement? what …
Having a hard time morphing into a new identity — i hope this question is not too general to post. long story short; I manifested my first bf by scripting when i was in middle school, but i dont know how to do it again in my letter, I even wrote t…
I feel like a lot of healing is "passive", as in progress happens even when we aren't actively trying. — Obviously healing is hard, grueling work. But I think I've noticed that a lot of healing, at least for me, is pretty passive - not always coming from journaling or trying hard at any specific thing, b…
How do I break the loop? — Hi all, I know this isn't the place for actual medical help but I've been on the waiting list for support for 15 months and I'm at the end of my tether. background: U.K. based Male in my late 20's. I…
People here tend to overestimate the importance of looks and underestimate the importance of friends, in meeting women — I’ve seen a few dating-related threads here where a guy will post a picture of themselves and people will focus on weight loss, dressing better, etc. These are important but I think that \*the quality…
Engaged in the middle circle activity and hid it from the partner — I'm 26M gay, sex addict. 4 months sober from the actual acting out. Yesterday I had a bad day. I woke up and felt very triggered. I opened my phone (where I have all the filters installed and can’t l…
How do I (24F) get back the romance with my boyfriend (21M)? — My boyfriend (21M) and I (24F) met working on an island where we are currently living now and hit it off from the first day he got here; we’ve now been together almost 6 months. I like him a lot but a…
Paradoxical Nature of The Law & Instant Change — Good afternoon. I want to share some experiences and see if we can narrow down two aspects of The Law. If you want to skip straight to the discussion points, go to paragraphs 4-to-5 and read on from t…
Co-parent boundaries new relationship — I'm wondering what you consider boundaries and normal co-parenting when in a new relationship. My partner of 2 years has an 11 year old son with his ex, who he was with for 10 years and split up in 2…
Me [23M] and my GF [23F] are having a disagreement and we need your thoughts. — Me \[23M\] and my GF \[23F\] have been together for about 2 years now. Ever since we have been together, she has asked me on at least 50 occassions if I would be up to try having sex with a man, somet…
alright, a few people asked me for the methods i used to manifest my SPs, here it is — for more context, check my last post. i only started this journey a month or two ago. im still experimenting, i am by no means well learned in this particular topic. i havent even gone in depth in a …
i had the same dreams when i was a child until today, that i am 33 years old, like i was drowning in a broad daylight or evening in a isolated ocean, as in! no people around me and i was fall into the…
Quite common not being able to control it, when having no experience. I know it's related to keeping up with expectations to how things work, as in real life. I know it's possible to summon a dream gu…
As I said above, it's for people who has tons of disbelief, to start small and BUILD up. You, as in most people need faith to be built. Well.. My first moneymission I had 80k out of the blue, it's one…
I feel you First of all yes it’s SO hard to not act on it but in my opinion really well done for that. In my opinion it seems we get triggered by the “change of behaviour”, as in: - we texted oft…
I feel you. That thought of being used is terrifying, I know this might not be what you want to hear but you might be projecting past partners behaviour or fears on to him, as in, if others treat you …
With more of those specifics I would say that part of what you are suffering from is the fear around how things have changed and will look different naturally. However you are personalizing it, as in…
Very astute observation with IFS: It happens infrequently, but it can actually encourage psychosis and dissociative conditions due to think of oneself as a multiple rather than integrated whole, so it…
Shame, as in toxic shame, is very common and no amount of grounding/ coping techniques will dissolve it. We need therapy. Have you ever looked into Ideal Parent Figure protocol?
We, as in us the avoidants are not vilanizing avoidants or atleast I hope not. It's everyone else who refuses to see life from a different lens that's not theirs.
That's the standard assumption in American culture You don't have to be part of it though. I personally would not multi date past 2 dates, as in the past, it has led to me feeling disingenuous, or I…
I'm also in VA, but I never ask for a phone call before the first date. Personally, I just hate talking on the phone, especially when it's a stranger. Endless texting is also not ideal. I'd rather mee…
Consciousness created the whole set up in the first place so I would say yes. Personally biggest thing I got from astrology is to differentiate which part of me is my Higher Self, totally unaffected b…
I also don't identify as average lol. I'm saying my average self, as in who I am on a typical day. I'm not putting on a show for a date.
I'm happy you've found some measure of peace and health, especially if you're a contact experiencer, which is often inherently stressful. But I'm not here to just say niceties, I'm on a mission. The m…
I don't know who the specific guy you're referring is to you, as in platonic vs romantic, but that's the kind of care and awareness you want. Look for that and don't settle for someone who makes you f…
Ideally he have himself assessed for some kind of mental problem. This will be important because verbal tics, as in a condition like Tourettes, are pretty harmless but some other situations may not be…
Wh n people demand trust, as in literally using the sentence “Trust me …. (fill in the dots). It’s like they need you to set aside your gut feeling to serve whatever agenda they have. Trustworthy peop…
My partner is a teacher in an elementary school. Hearing about how one kid was able to say “I feel joy, as in happy” after having a good day made me crumble. 🥲 after years of abuse and denial it make…
It's her body, but it's "your" money, as in joint funds. Neither of you should make unilateral decisions regarding joint funds.
Similar kinks along with some others here. Wife isn’t into them, but she will read the fuck out of them in her books too lol. Nothing to be ashamed of first of all.. he needs to understand that at t…
I think so many people focus on supporting the avoidant person and being a healthy secure base that they forget to check in with themselves and ask, am I even ok with a relationship that looks like th…
I used to have a monthly massage, as in paid therapeutic massage. Do a contact sport???? Joking For me feeling touch starved in not conducive to being in a healthy headspace.
Meditation is about focusing and letting things come, be and go. It is an action and perhaps a belief. Meditation can very much be about having many thoughts, as in vipassana. The common belief is tha…
One thing that nearly everyone in meditation circles will agree is NOT meditation, is sitting lost in your own thoughts or daydreaming. I would disagree that "concentration" style practices are the on…
I had “the talk” with my partner and ended up finding out, the hard way, that I still wasn’t really ready to date over a year after his death. So, here’s my story (for whatever it’s worth): I’m a wom…
Ok, I've lived in a bunch of places, but as a child I was in NY state. I'm not really going to write a whole story here, but as mentioned above, I went through some life threatening stuff as a kid, a…
In nonduality circles, it's generally called a 'glimpse', as in, a glimpse into the infinite nature of reality, unconditional love. Some seekers spend years trying to get back to it.
I dunno if this applies, but we were together for around 9 months. During the relationship we had lots of external issues, our parents really do not like each other (neither of us were or are l in a p…
I can share all of them if you like, the process started about 1 year before the nex discard: \- My psych did a assessment of core childhood wounds (schemas) with me and then started on the ones that…
Things that I got "taught": "Don't talk too much about you, or people won't like you. If you keep picking at your skin, nobody will ever want you. Don't get impregnated. You need to study, but somethi…
🚩🚩🚩 This behavior is usually one of two things - neither of which he has the power to change. Dismissive avoidance or narcissism. Eventually, every time you have an opinion one of two scenarios w…
Everyone wants their ex back! The version of their ex that they thought they were, as in minus all the flaws, deficiencies, shortcomings and misrepresentations that were made or were discovered with t…
Listen to your nurse about the medication. Have your vacation, hopefully without the fool you’ve been seeing. Based on his reaction to everything he’s either guilty or just horrible. I personally woul…
As a person who has struggled with weight my entire life (I'm 60), and reading the post and comments, this thought comes to mind. The people in our lives "now" do not know the version of our selves "…
I have often felt like the threat of involuntary holds, particularly calling 911 and cops showing up feels like it drives people more to want to not share how they are feeling and the whole system bei…
You don’t need to feel sorry for his partners. What he’s saying is that many women actually love to be woken up that way. He’s not lying, as I’ve been in a few relationships where the woman gives cons…
That sucks, sorry you are dealing with this. Sounds like your nervous system could use a break…a nice relaxing bath, smelling some lavender essential oil…whatever makes you feel comforted and grounded…
I had something similar a few days ago, though I had no fear. The orbs appeared rather than raining down disaster. Having had orb experiences in the past, I reached out for the orb hovering near me. I…
I would say the 'cost' varies accordingly with the frequency, and is a function of the prevailing mental zeitgeist. This is a low-vibrational world, so it's high cost/ friction: resources are percei…
I didnt mean label her, as in telling her that she is a narc. I meant that if I understand what she is I understand the relationship better. I will never talk to her again. You are right the only thi…
I'm a published short story writer, i know the difference between an em dash and a hyphen. What you used is a hyphen, a totally unrelated piece of punctuation that has nothing to do with rhythm. Hyph…
wow where do i start? it's really disheartening to see more effort to still play victim then to look at your behavior and how it impacted/contributed to the demise of the relationship, is all i was as…
Can you pinpoint any time in your life where you have enjoyed sex? Where a partner did put in the effort and maybe think why, did you talk to them or did they just naturally know? But seriously if y…
had this kind of shit happened to me also. we are married for 6 years and with a kid , but before this 14 years of relationship...years and years she showed love for me being there all the time, putti…
meditation didnt make you itch. your mind wanted to get back to the waking state as a sort of defense mechanism. The itch wakes you and distracts you. The solution is to learn to relax and the itch w…
Yes, it is true. Although I don’t believe this is as common as some make it seem, as in - every night you sleep you astral project. I don’t agree with this. Every night you sleep, your awareness beco…
The edges of the metal are curved upward and together to form a hollow bar, as indicated by the curved arrows I drew. The interior is hollow - you can literally see it. See the shiny/bright spot the s…
I dont know how he treats you otherwise, as in like during the daytime etc. But, I have two other past relationships where the man acted similar if I snored even a little. My ex husband one time rolle…
That attitude to ageing is new and it's weird. I'm 50 and when I was young, getting older was never seen that way. There was a fair bit of ageism against very elderly people, but other than that, the …