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The Gottman Institute has a list of 4 "horsemen" ie 4 traits they've identified from their research as the greatest predictors of relationship breakdown. Contempt, what your BF is displaying towards …
The 4 ways couples fight, and only one of them actually works — So I went down a rabbit hole reading Gottman's research a while back (the guy who can watch a couple argue for 15 minutes and predict divorce with like 93% accuracy) and the thing that stuck with me w…
Arrogance usually is. And the emotional openness in anxious attachment is (generally) just emotional *unavailability* masquerading as honesty. So being proud of that points to a lack of self-awarenes…
Op, WHYYY would you put up with a boyfriend who mocks you? Just want to leave this here. The Four Horsemen are four negative communication patterns identified by John Gottman that predict relation…
Married for 20 years and together as a couple for 25 years. She represents an identity I held for close to half my life, and I couldn’t imagine a life without her. When she asked for a divorce, the wh…
It’s over. He ignored you when you were happiest on that date - this is a classic symptom of a bad relationship. See « gottmans four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse » - ditch him. Find someon…
Ugh.. I hear ya. I won't even considered someone who's not a fully licensed informed trauma therapist. My wife and I went to a few associates when searching for couples councilors and it was either a)…
It’s one of those 4 horsemen of the end of a relationship or something I think it’s called.
"contempt" is one of the 4 horsemen of the apocalypse for a marriage and dropping the "cunt" word = contempt its already over... doesn't matter if she leaves now or leaves later... in fact, doesn't …
you know of the 4 horsemen (contempt is one of them)
Look up the Gottman’s four horsemen, and have a little read. I think it will resonate with you.
I reiterate that you seem very unhappy in this marriage and you don’t need anyone else’s permission to leave. It’s hard for me to understand why you want to stay married to someone who you describe t…
I think the general understanding within the poly community is that it is difficult to transition from a closed relationship to an open relationship normally. I edited my last post, this topic is a…