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Of course you are welcome!! If it helps rekindle other peoples relationship then glad to be here for you. Back to this: Hmmm interesting so you both have talked about it multiple times but he does…
New to SEO and Trying to save my local business — Hi Everyone! I run a local companion care service for seniors and I’m staring down what feels like an impossible mountain with SEO. I’ve watched countless YouTube tutorials, learned a bit about on-si…
To all the scrum masters/PMs: Would you use an AI that joins meetings, takes notes, and assigns tasks to the right teammate automatically? I will not promote — Hi! I’ve been thinking about a recurring pain I see in most teams — meetings generate lots of discussion and action items, but someone still has to take notes, track tasks, and figure out who shoul…
Is AI Applicable Everywhere? — Currently working in the tech space for the mining industry. Core product I work on focuses on workflows and tasks for ground and office staff to complete. Such as verifying CAD drawing, sign offs and…
4+ Months of LOB Practice — What's up people. Discovered this sub around the start of april 2025, and didn't actually navigate trough the index until about 15-16th of April, and after reading the index, starting 20th April I st…
8+ Months of LOB practice ( Update from my 1st post ) — Hi everyone, Some of you may remember me from my last post where I did an update of my situation at 4 months in, practicing LOB. After that post, I decided as was recommended to lower the progress g…
Energy Exchange: How We Give, Take, and Protect Our Vital Force — Energy exchange is, essentially, communication. The energy a person generates is given outward. But, in accordance with the laws of conservation of energy, a person must receive energy from outside. …
40(m) w/ADHD needing to be reliable/dependable at home — I am 40(m) and separated from my (39f) wife. We live together still but I am just trying to be dependable and reliable from a co-parenting and human standpoint. We have 3 boys and I have ADHD and a…
Faster task completion with revision — I had a task to do yesterday and the deadline was arriving and it is a boring task and I was less motivated to do it. I just applied revision yesterday, like imagined I have already completed the task…
Extreme pain during Fermi phase? — Hi! I'm very new to learning about lucid dreaming so forgive me if I get the terminology wrong, but I've attempted to lucid dream every night for the last week. I'll usually make it to the point whe…
How to handle tense home environment due to my (26F) sister (34F) sister feeling overwhelmed? — My home dynamic has drastically shifted since my mom (67F) had to suddenly leave for 6 months to help out my sister living in another continent deal with a devastating situation. We didn’t have time t…
What actually makes you follow through on something instead of just thinking about it? — I’ve noticed I can get really motivated about a goal, plan it out in my head, even get excited about it… and still not do anything. But every once in a while, something just clicks and I actually tak…
Lost — we understand where we are and where we must go, but we're just lost. we feel isolated, yet we are surrounded by people. the constant distractions don't help anymore. it lost its purpose of being a…
My girlfriend (20F) stood me up after a tragic week (19M). What to do next? — This might be a little bit of a longer post. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2.5 years, and things have been ok for the most part. It usually ends up with me doing a majority of the tasks of …
My body is doing things I've never experienced before — I've had anxiety for a long time but it was always the kind I could manage. Mild stuff, nothing that really got in the way of my life. I'd almost describe it as silly anxiety looking back just backgro…
Meditating while working — Is it even possible? I mean, sometimes I'm in my job (a physically demanding job) and to try to calm my mind down I focus on my breath (of course, in tasks that don't put me in risk), so I try to put …
Am I wrong for wanting to leave my parents house? — I need an unbiased and outsiders point of view. I've been working on creating a plan for independent living with an organization because I'm really beginning to reach my limit. I'm stressed all the t…
Advice on how to proceed in this situation — I, 40F, am in a relationship with my bf, 31M for 1 year and 2 months now. We met online, but coincidentally, we've met before on two other occasions and only found out while getting to know each other…
Am I asking for too much, or am I just tired of carrying my relationship? — Am I asking for too much in my relationship, or is it time to leave? I (20F) have been with my boyfriend (24M) for about 2 years, and I feel like I need outside perspective because I’m too deep in th…
Strategies to overcome freeze response — I’m diagnosed with CPTSD, ADHD and narcolepsy. I’m medicated and currently on waitlists for psychotherapy. I struggle with chronic procrastination due to debilitating perfectionism, fear of failure an…
I usually know what would help me, but I still don’t do it in the moment — Most of the time I already know the obvious things that would probably help a bad day a little. Sleep earlier, get off my phone, go on a walk, start the task, eat something better, stop spiraling, wha…
Hi everyone, I am new here.. i got the link of this group through the NG sub.. i am glad i found it.. i have been reading the posts and the content in the index.. i have started reading the POSM.. w…
>Hi everyone, > >I am new here.. i got the link of this group through the NG sub.. i am glad i found it.. i have been reading the posts and the content in the index.. i have started reading the P…
Not a good metric. It's used by middle managers to justify their existence (my opinion), as it's as useful as counting github commit lines. Or bugs found and squashed. Additional process limits pro…
I was diagnosed three years ago with ADHD. My wife, who is a psychotherapist, speculated for a long time and then gave me an assessment, which was then confirmed with a psychiatrist. But I've been run…
More interesting would be how to correctly set it up in a (K8s) cluster, especially given that it's recommended to have exclusive usage of the node with the MinIO workers. Not trying to slander your …
Hey, no I have not manifested anything deliberately yet and that's why this sub made more sense to me, because of how it's laid out and how you need to build faith one step at a time because I still f…
>Yeah I can relate. When I first was doing that manifestation, it was hard for me also because I am very analytical, skeptical, and come from a scientific background basing everything on verified fact…
Here's my thoughts after being on this subreddit for a while, and I am someone who has been daily practicing for the past 8+ months with no physical results. 1. Maladaptive daydreaming proves that ma…
Honestly it’s a similar thing for me too!! In the shower my mind just starts racing at 100 thoughts per minute of every relationships that’s ever entered my lifetime 😭. What I’ve learned in those mom…
To all of u on here...... The hurt from the lost is undeniable but my greatest advice that Id like to share with all my heart and hope, that you will understand what is happening in your life at thi…
I succeeded in accomplishing my wildest dream that I never thought possible. It took years and years of hard work. Reaching that peak was the beginning of the end for me. I thought I would feel relie…
To me this sounds like an issue with him purposefully not noticing what needs to get done or noticing and not choosing to do it, which is why cooking and cleaning together sounds so awful to you (beca…
I feel you. To me it's unhelpful because like you said A) the choice was between being strong and dying B) I don't want to have to be strong anymore C) being strong might cheer you up if you have a sm…
I often have this same thought - like I must be nowhere as smart as I think I am if it took me THIS LONG to work this out. I'm 49 and only identified it last year as I'm digging deeper on parenting my…
You are not your thoughts. Think of a scenario of what you have to do for the day. If you have a brief understanding of the tasks needed, you do it sort of on autopilot. But if you think about it con…
Acting with virtue is its own reward. Are you talking about this? "Take the case of one whose task it is to shoot a spear or arrow straight at some target. One’s ultimate aim is to do all in one’s…
Procrastination that feels life-ruining usually isn't a willpower problem. At least it wasn't for me. It was a regulation problem. My brain couldn't start because the task felt too big, too vague, or …
The one small saving grace is that you know which way the river is running. You were smart enough to realise that things are not what you had hoped, going forwards. Many would continue to fight for …
this is betrayal. this is oddly identical to my situation I experienced these past few months so i wish i could hug you tight. we were together for years on and off. we were living together when i fou…
'Accepted' being alone? My dudette/dude, being alone is awesome. Being able to follow your own whims and dictates without having to compromise with the needs or dislikes of someone else is, for my vas…
Hard, hard, hard disagree. This is like how people say "sure advertising is effective, but it doesn't affect *me".* The reality is people are being taught by most authority figures in life to intens…
Wild. I’ve been in very similar situations. The other thing with the mental load is if you try to take the mental load off them then they complain about how you executed the task. They have a lot of m…
It works because it occupies the part of your brain that wanders. People with ADHD usually have multiple things going on inside their brain at all times. Like if you're focusing on a task, a different…
I have the Todoist app with some of the tasks setup for repeating once a day. They are different from tasks meant for reaching specific goal in health, finances, family and social affairs.
And the things women are better suited for and the things men are better suited for invariably put the bulk of the tasks these men don’t want to take care of on women and also keep men on top when it …
I think one commonality I notice about emotionally immature parents is that they do not even seem to register that they are parents. They don't register their responsibility to their kids. My parents …
I want to preface this by saying, your husband was wrong for what he did and his reaction afterwards. It sounds like he "throws in the kitchen sink" during arguments so maybe some structured communica…
Damn. I’m a HUGE dog lover. Sounds like his dog has some serious anxiety and they are feeding into that. Do they exercise the dog? That breed is extremely high energy and needs daily walks/runs. Plus …
That is thinking. When you sit down lots of thoughts typically bubble up from the void. It is very easy to get caught in a thought and go from one thought to another. There are forms of meditation w…
Ideally you could distribute chores so he does more of the tasks that he’s better at (eg cleaning instead of cooking). Otherwise you could try to teach him what you prefer
Depends on the object of meditation. If your meditation object is the breath, then the sound is just backdrop. The task is not to focus on the sound. It can be there if it helps you. If your meditat…
Lots of good answers here. The way I learned this and think about it is by starting with the first principles of - planets as the WHO - signs as the WHERE, or the environment. - houses as the WH…
it's easy to think "i'm gonna do SOOO much work on this!" when you don't actually have to do it. also i do think the fantasizing about transforming our lives, like you say feeling like you've got th…
If you are experiencing genuine contact, it is likely confusing and, in many ways, difficult to define. Most people who undergo contact remember very little of it. Often, years may pass after a screen…
I would agree with this. I have a Capricorn moon conjunct my MC and squaring my ascendant and natal Saturn. It is deeply painful at times, but I can see what it’s building within me. I can see why thi…
Usually the solution to that is to reduce it to an amount of time that you don't feel like is difficult, like say 5 minutes. The important part is that you do it, it doesn't matter how little or how …
We can all need a hand every now and again. You aren't weak or wrong for needing help. You have been through something insanely hurtful and stressful. If you weren't bothered by that, it wouldn't hav…
There’s a neuroscience explanation. When you’re ruminating on what others are thinking/ saying about you, you’re operating from the Default Mode Network of the brain. When you’re meditating, or doing …
My friend, to be totally candid, I think you're in a dangerous place, and I sincerely hope that you can find your purpose. It might well be something other than having a family, however disappointing …
Calmer. I drink coffee in bed. I’m not awaken and criticised about all the ways I ruined his sleep (I moved to the guest bedroom). I find that I have more time even when I have the kids (we split 50/…
I average roughly a lucid a dream a night. I am not guaranteed to always lucid dream but some nights I have multiple lucid dreams. Remembering what I intended to do in a lucid dream or even basic de…
If I can’t stand being around myself I withdraw so I hear myself in you. I live alone so I have the luxury of privacy as we all do our best to process overwhelming current events and manage daily life…
Overexplaining if something didn't get done. Say I was supposed to get 3 things accomplished at work, and I got 2, but then it got busy and I couldn't complete the third. I get asked if I got the task…
You say you did almost everything. But in your everything I'm hearing a bunch of 'once in a while' tasks (maybe except for laundry). My question would be, who was doing the day to day tidying and clea…
I did not write or anything, but went to sleep and imagined that the task is already completed efficiently. That is the basic I know about revision. There is some way or other way it will help to mani…
I’m really sorry you’re carrying this. What you wrote does not sound like laziness or weakness at all — it sounds like you’ve been overwhelmed for a while, and now your body and mind are both waving a…
i feel this question deeply, and thank you for sharing it. i have been thinking about my own experiences in similar situations lately, and this gives me a nice, neat little container to put some langu…
I can sympathise with this, too. I've worked in client-facing roles where, the moment they give me a vague brief, I send it straight back and tell them to make it specific and measurable otherwise it'…
and just as an added perspective to consider that might be more actionable than my previous one: people do not experience action as neutral. that’s the thing to you, the task is simple: write one h…