who we were

As a person who has struggled with weight my entire life (I'm 60), and reading the post and comments, this thought comes to mind. The people in our lives "now" do not know the version of our selves "…

Feeling smothered by an AP friend… — This is part reflection/observation, and part question at the bottom. It’s interesting and a bit funny to me, I rarely feel avoidant in my attachments. The test I took for this sub, showed all secur…

9 years. I'll never recover. — This has been the longest week of the longest year of life. My ex an I met when I was 21 and now I'm 30 and have to start over. I moved states for them after after the most amazing 8 years of my lif…

I miss him, but — we dated for almost a year. we were perfect for six months, loved, safe, then everything changed towards the seventh month. our relationship went downhill, more dry and hostile. then one day he finall…

Need advice for how to navigate my parents — My mom sent this nasty text totally unprompted the day before my dad underwent cancer treatment for tha first time. It had been a rough week leading up to that and I set a strong boundary w my mom of…

I've had this happen. And on the one hand, I get it, you know? Your priorities shift when you are with someone and things get serious. But on the other hand, oof. Someone is important to you and you r…

No, they don’t feel regret. They hate us, they torture us into a former shell of who we were. Then they feel satisfaction.

Other people are saying cheating. I don't know, but that sounds like a LOT of potential other options. If there's cheating it's a symptom not a cause. Mental health is the big one on my mind. So thi…

My ex amd I put in almost 19 years. For those 19 years the fights were always the same. We loved each other, still do, but now we are friends/coparents not a couple. We could just not give what th…

Youngest of four girls here, 52 now. Our dad was never emotionally involved in our lives and could not have cared less. Would just watch TV every night after work and not spend time with us, except to…

So much CPTSD occurs from childhood abuse because we cannot escape or leave the situation (not all CPSTD just many cases) - that means our brains are developing as we are being abused. And then people…

I agree. As the wind blows, its direction no longer matters as much as how we choose to face tomorrow. Maturity and growth ask something difficult from us: to let go of who we were, take responsibilit…

I made a good choice at the time considering who we were as young adults but I wouldn't do this if I knew it would turn out like this. Back then I was convinced we'd be married for life but its ok, s…

Yes. I love her. I love that she challenged me and wanted the best out of me (even if I wasn't good at accepting it at times). I love that she's disciplined about taking care of herself and has a l…

Thank you for this. It was beautifully written, and your "imperfect" journey gives me hope. I am only three weeks post breakup and I particularly resonate with the part about losing identity, who we w…

Yes I realized this and it’s changed a lot about how I viewed our fraught relationships and how I want to move forward with things. As I work to better support my own neurodivergence, I am also engagi…

Yep, that's also how it looked like for me in the beginning. But the thing is, it's not the manifestation part which is causing all of this. It's the refusal to believe that what you desire is already…

I reached oit to my childhood bestfriend and ex who we were together of 12 years and lemme say they did not think my message was from hurt and even after I wrote back after she ignored my first 2 befo…