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He's just not that into you

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I (23F) was too nervous to finish a threesome and now my boyfriend (27M) seems to hate me

DON'T be sorry, not in the slightest! Also, stop thinking about being a wife again any time soon - you're only 23! - and *certainly* not to this abusive dickwad. Dump him today, and let us know how it…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/22/2026
Someone elaborate on this please

When a guy wants to be with a woman, he will move mountains to make that happen. If you want me to translate his behaviour for you, it goes something like "he's just not that into you". Judging by y…

r/JosephMurphycomment11/10/2024
What do secure bids for connection and co-regulation look like?

\- You can absolutely fully break down in front of someone. Yes, people are fully breaking down in front of the people close to them - just not, like, all the time. Most people cry a little bit regula…

r/attachment_theorycomment1/15/2026
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> and I can feel them pity me. It's interested to me how you can feel them projecting pity onto you (which implies you're able to pick up subtle unspoken cues), yet you're not picking up that this g…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/5/2026
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Long tangent: I only recently started using this sub and I gotta say the first and foremost lesson is that I'm not as neurotic as I once thought, especially about texting lol.  I have to reign in my…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/6/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 24, 2026

Should I make the next move? For context: I'm a 35 yo, cis het woman living in nyc. I recently (about 1.5 weeks ago) went out with a guy (also 35, cis het male) I met on bumble. The date took a bit …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/24/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 05, 2026

if he was the one to break things off, then you shouldn't be the one to reach out later down the line - he should. he broke things off for a reason, so it's kind of on him to change his own mind about…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/6/2026
Why is casual sex so hard?

He's just not that into you or he could maybe be dismissive avoidant (granted the avoidant thing gets thrown around a lot and in many cases it is cope. Many times he's just not that into you). I have …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/12/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 25, 2026

Update on my [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/1rqw716/comment/o9vupi5/?context=3) asking about how to tell the difference between a slow burn and "she's just not that into you…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/25/2026
I [28M] am afraid woman I'm dating [26F] is about to back out of relationship after reluctantly agreeing to exclusivity.

Sorry but she's not that into you. If she was crazy about you, she wouldn't be sleeping with another guy. I would read the room and realize she's just not that into you.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/2/2026
My (M25) girlfriend (F25) works too much and it’s taking a toll on our relationship

It's not her work schedule that is the issue with sex. It sounds like she doesn't really value time with you very much and isn't that into sex with you. Probably time to call it a day. It doesn'…

r/relationshipscomment4/5/2026
BF (42M) never calls me (32F)

Maybe he's just not that into you but keeping you around for convenience - 6 months and still treating you like casual workout buddy is pretty telling

r/relationshipscomment4/9/2026
r/Psychonautcomment4/12/2026