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Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means) — I last posted a variation of this a little over 5 years ago. We're a little overdue for a repost. --- You know how every Uber rating is right on the verge of 5 stars unless something's particularly …
My Experience Being an Avoidant Woman — I 27(f) am a lesbian who has a fearful avoidant attachment style. I have almost no control over my attraction; I can be really into/attracted to and excited about someone but then something happens/th…
Manifesting a change in behavior. — Hello! I wished to share a perspective about manifesting change in behavior of yourself or maybe your partner or a family member... Break up with them. That's it. So before you perceived that pers…
How do I (18M) stop feeling afraid of my partner (19NB)? — Hey all, I need some advice/guidance. !!!Cw for brief mentions of SA!!! Long story short, my ex (partner at the time) and I got into a relationship with a new person together. Two days in, they sta…
Stuck on Abusive relationship — Hello there. Firstly, let me start with this: I know I acted terribly and was not a good person in this situation. This is genuinely the worst thing I've ever done, and I suffer for it every day. I do…
Toxic relationship — Hello there. Firstly, let me start with this: I know I acted terribly and was not a good person in this situation. This is genuinely the worst thing I've ever done, and I suffer for it every day. I do…
My partner and I mirror each other's emotions, and it's starting to hurt — TRIGGER WARNING: MENTIONS OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE, SEXUAL ABUSE I'm not sure if this is 100% a vent or a rant, but I def need to say this *somewhere*, and maybe get some advice or tips ? For some context…
How can I be more motivated in my everyday life with my fixed grand cross? How can I use my chart as a strength? — I don’t know anyone with a similar chart to myself to ask for advice or follow the example of and online resources have been a bit hard to navigate because I feel like I get a lot of mixed messages be…
Buddy nobody wants to be with somebody that needs them. Lots of us anxious people, get into a relationship with somebody that is more anxious than us and believe it or not, swing avoidant, but unlike…
Since like teenage years I’ve only had like 3 serious relationships but I’ve dated a number of people. Prior to my first serious (teens) I would date someone I “liked” and then break up with them li…
For me as an avoidant, I can start off attracted to someone but then they do something/something happens (and it can be something super minor) and I get the "ick." I have absolutely no control over it…
what made you think that you had to break up with them so that they wouldn’t have a much lesser version of the relationship or be in an uncomfortable position?
I mean I’ve had to walk away from a relationship where I loved him so much it hurt, but I knew deep down that the lives we wanted for ourselves were incompatible with each other. He pulled a slick mov…
You don't really have a choice here, you need to break up with them. Managing their abandonment issues is not your responsibility. I would break up with them as kindly and gently as possible, but ther…
As a rule, once you decide to break up with someone, just break up with them. It doesn’t do anyone any good to drag it out further. There’s never a “right” time.
This is the kind of thing someone says and does when they want their partner to break up with them so they don’t have to do it themselves. It took two months for her to work up the courage to admit th…
Yeah I think that is what she is saying. It’s basically a way of getting you to break up with them. You act kind of distant or busy to keep the option available until they ultimately are so fed up the…
Many, many times. Very early in the relationship (maybe about six months in), we were hit head-on by a drunk driver. In the ambulance--that was totally unnecessary, but Mistake was wired to say his n…
I also had a major weight loss and if I showed a man a picture of me pre-weight loss and they reacted that way, I’d break up with them.
Fuck that noise. You cannot **make** another person do anything or change their body or their behaviours for you. But fuck yes you can discuss it and be honest about how it affects you and how you int…
Yes and no lol. My last ex I NEEDED to break up with them and although I missed some things for the most part it was a huge relief. Another ex I was sooooooo sad about for months but I was thinking of…
I love this post! I'm actually thinking about how to do this with my current SP: in the beginning of our relationship I didn't know them at all and I imagined them to be loving, caring, affectionate…
I'm more curious why you spent 9 years with a person who has a completely different view point than you. Not even remotely close. You knew he hated the idea that women use sex toys for extra pleasur…
For real this seems like so much drama. It’s a word. You’ve already agreed that he’s gonna move to you in 2 to 3 years and yet you won’t call him your boyfriend? That seems ridiculous. You’re not int…
no bc by the time I break up with them I've given them WAY too many chances and conversations to fix their bullshit and they do nothing with it.
The standard things is complicated. Some people are truly out of touch with reality. I have a very old friend who has let himself go. He is 60 pounds or so overweight, his hair is thinning, and he has…
speaking from personal experience: the only time it is acceptable (aside from the obvious safety reason) is if you are long distance. plz do not make ur partner travel to you just to break up with the…
you sound just like me, i dumped my partner recently and it hurt greatly. all i could think of were the small good things, any reason at all i could make up to not break up with them. but deep down we…
Your partner doesn't care about you, your comfort, or your experience. Realizing that doesn't mean you're too "sensitive." I'd break up with them.
You do not ever need permission from the other person to break up with them. It is your right to choose what relationships you want to have in your life.
Jesus christ if you are bringing stop watches to a conversation just break up with them what is wrong with you?
Are you living together and is he preventing you from leaving the house? If so, that’s illegal and you should contact the police instead of posting on Reddit. If you aren’t living together there is no…
Well, as long as you didn’t break up with them right after a miscarriage, raised their eyebrow by being on your phone texting someone you wouldn't reveal then abandon them by moving out of a shared ap…
i want my partner to notice this exact thing right NOW before i break up with them
I wouldn’t care as much. I could appreciate what I DO like. Or realize what I don’t like is too much and break up with them.
Layoffs and the job market in general are no joke right now so tbh I could empathize with not having a job, but two years together and they've only worked three months, and in that three months they m…
If your actual question is how to break up with someone, the answer is, just break up with them. “Hey, we need to talk. I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and I have come to the conclusion that this re…