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Wow. I read this and found it kind of shocking that this wasn't a far right op, because it almost reads like one. I had to look the author up to see where they were coming from, and that was pretty sh…
Awaken Your Freedom — Forget long lectures - in just minutes, you'll get a fast breakdown, raw ideas, real-world examples, and powerful insights from the greatest books on personal growth and financial freedom https://ope…
Attachment Theory & Free Will? — Dear all, I'm very intrigued by the relationship between attachment theory (&, I supposed, any psychological theory) & free-will. They seem to me to slightly conflict. Certainly, it is a difficult p…
March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…
The Cheat Code to the Universe — After 5 years of meditating and studying this, I have been unable to disprove that there is a Cheat Code to the Universe and that is to Relax & Be Nice in all situations. I would like to discuss this …
Book Recommendations — I came across this sub and think I may be codependent. I am looking for book recommendations so I can learn more, better understand myself, and for personal growth. For additions context, my wife and …
It took me till 31, but I’m so glad I’m finally awake. — Two weeks into being 31, I was s\*\*\*\*dal again, which has come around every once in a while since I was 19. This time though, something in me FINALLY snapped, and I realised that I was shrinking in…
Can You Change a Toxic Relationship? - Is this the right place to post this? — Hello, I am a long-time lurker of this sub first time poster. I’m not sure how to even start this post all I can say is I am completely at a loss. I am so afraid to be alone. Actually, I am horrified.…
How to deal with resentment about past behavior that is no longer present? — My ex (30f) broke up with me (30m) about 2 years ago after a boundary violation on my part. The distress I experienced after the breakup is what first led to me to read about codependency and to under…
Anyone here checked SRMD reviews? Worth considering? — I’ve been recently exploring more about SRMD and came across several reviews online. From what I’ve seen so far, a lot of people seem to have had really positive and meaningful experiences, especially…
How to stop letting toxic and negative people affect and control my whole life? — I want to be a better person—a better woman.in every aspect of life. I really, truly do.👀 After months of self-isolation and struggling with depression, I’ve been trying to socialize again, both o…
54m and 48f at an impasse — My wife 48/F and I 54/M have been together on and off for the better part of the past 20 years. Last time we went our separate ways, it took about 5 years to come back because I moved out of state. …
Breaking the "TUG": The Real Reason You Procrastinate — watch this to learn more: [https://youtu.be/DpO7e5gQqFU](https://youtu.be/DpO7e5gQqFU) Have you ever desperately wanted to achieve a goal, but found yourself doing the exact opposite? Welcome to the …
You can do no contact for years and still not heal. Here’s why — Something a lot of people overlook when doing no contact is that no longer reaching out to an ex is only one step in the healing process. That’s because silence and distance alone don’t facilitate em…
Nfamily hates me because I'm not corrupt & am intelligent — So, I've thought about how everyone in my nfamily engages in all sorts of corrupt behavior (lying, stealing, manipulation, generally abusive behavior, etc.) & are also not very intelligent (which IK i…
Exactly, I'm having the exact same struggle. The kind of personal growth that I need to make now is exactly the kind that I need my best friend/partner/cheerleader to help me through, but he's the one…
No one else is responsible for your personal growth, not ever. Not if you’ve been married to them for 60 years. The only person you need to help you learn and grow is you. Be your own rock.
Hey, love the initiative! I work with a lot of entrepreneurs (I help ADHD founders scale their businesses) and having an accountability partner is genuinely one of the most underrated success hacks. …
Before I say anything else, I want to say that there's no excuse for abuse, including emotional abuse. Ever. I'm sorry to hear you've experienced that. I also don't think an anxious person should sac…
Well said. OP talks eloquently about using a painful experience as a catalyst for personal growth instead of using it to justify bitterness or to focus on blaming and shaming. That's a huge sign of p…
Yep - totally toxic caregiving, self abandonment, but... honestly, I don't regret it. It made it - way worse for me, but I came out with some honest personal growth for me and my kid. And the text mes…
Do you have health insurance? A lot of therapists accept health insurance. Mine was only $15 a visit with mine. There's also income based/sliding scale community clinics that offer affordable or even …
How do I survive getting broken up with when I’m so much in love? Hi! My bf (25M) just sort of ended things with me (22F). For back ground we have lived together for about a year and a half but have…
I am earned secure. When I found attachment-styles, I was already on the healing journey, so I cannot say with accuracy what my untreated and unconscious attachment style was; probably FA leaning DA. …
All of the above. Whenever i feel triggered by something (The latest one is an approaching movein with a partner) it’s a lot easier for me to step back and look at it and think to myself, why do i fee…
**My (28F) girlfriend (25F) and I have been dating for 6 months. I have an anxious attachment style, and she has an avoidant one.** I knew from the beginning that she was avoidant, but only about 2 m…
I see what you mean. I guess the issue I am having is less with infatuation and more of about feeling overwhelmed with the idea multiple people even though I do think it would good room for personal …
I think it's one of those things that sounds better to people in theory, until they're actually caught in the limbo of being with someone who is "obsessed" with them. Those who are "obsessed" with ano…
Deleted all apps since around 10 days now and everything feels strange. There is nothing to do in my idle time like swiping left/right so it feels like its a good detox because I was heavily reliant o…
Firstly, I appreciate the very well formatted post. So many instances felt like I was teleported back the past At various points in the relationship you've communicated your needs, triggers, boundari…
I was always that person who said I’d never date someone who is separated/not officially divorced or even someone who is less than 6 months out of the divorce being finalized. Welp… I somehow ended …
For any of them men in here I highly suggest this book/audio book called: Beyond Anger: A Guide for Men: How to Free Yourself from the Grip of Anger and Get More Out of Life AUTHOR: Thomas J. Harbin…
Agreed, I need to work on being less hostile. I won't delete because it's evidence of my own personal growth, which might be good for myself to look back on and others to read.
You won‘t learn if you preach lessons to others and refuse to be taught yourselves. A violent person attacking you with a knife is a single situation where Relax & Be Nice both don‘t work. Look beyo…
I'm 41F and I have definitely had a lot of thoughts lately about "how my life turned out" and how things are so far from how I ever wanted them to be. Not like 41 is ancient, but a couple of years ago…
I understand where you’re coming from, and I agree that it’s a bit concerning that he spends hours talking to AI. Of course he’s going to become defensive, since he probably feels like it’s the only t…
Honestly you are definitely not overthinking this, that is actually exactly how one month patterning usually plays out. When you drop into focus 12, your brain is in a state of extreme neuroplasticity…
As most people know, more than half of marriages end in divorce, and the rate is even higher for second marriages. The legal system around divorce doesn’t really help either. In many cases, the higher…
Honestly yes it really is a lifestyle. I realized this the hard way. Earlier I used to treat things like learning new skills building online income or improving habits as something temporary. Like a …
It's fair to question the 'what' and 'why' when personal growth feels tied to someone else's to-do list.
That's great, stick with it. Honestly the most attractive thing a man can offer is consistency and it sounds like that's something you struggled with previously if she doesn't feel like she can trust …
Men who show authenticity, personal growth, self reflection, and emotional maturity. While that’s challenging on a profile, and actions speak louder than words, if that is conveyed through their write…
This isn't healthy for you. Why do you know all these details? Redirect your energy to your life. Your personal growth will benefit.
As I began reading your post, it occurred to me that you had to learn this by experiencing it first hand. You probably wouldn’t have been ready and listened to someone if they shared their experience …
TL:DR I've been on the other side of this exact scenario, and acted almost exactly like your boyfriend did, and even *I* would advise you to walk away for both your sakes. I say this as someone who *…
I hope they’re able to match the offer so you don’t have to change up locations, but also think of it like this. Even if they do/are able to match the offer, can they also match the opportunity the ne…
I think its not an either or thing. I love to read and I use gen AI almost every day. Like the internet in general, AI is a tool, and you can use it to improve yourself or destroy yourself. In terms …
>What part do you disagree with? Everything. AI is not smart. It does not know if something is correct. It will generate what word is more likely to come after the other and promote engagement over t…
>the person who borrowed it gets into an accident you would expect some measure of recognition and amends. Irrelevant >If they bring it back with lots of trash inside you'd want them to clean it up.…
Unfortunately, dealing with narcissists create no wins during healing either. You can say that being free from them is a win, or personal growth, but the reality is quite dark, healing is lo…
I have Sa(r) + ke in 12H piesces. I've learnt to hold 2 different truths at the same time in myself - 1. wanting a lot of expansion (9H Sagg Jup, Jup MD) and 2. being completely content with all tha…
Never knew that about codependency. Makes sense looking at my 24 years as a coda. I would guess, under the surface, I didn't like my reality but didn't do anything about it. Was never bad enough to ma…
You’re not overreacting. You’re right, and this is awful. What he did was cruel and humiliating, but what stands out to me even more is what came after: instead of taking responsibility, he immediatel…
My condolences to you. I know what you're going through. I've had 2 miscarriages and I also had a daughter died days before her 19th birthday. So, I do know. As for your husband, it speaks loudly ab…
Congratulations!! My dad did the exact same things to me when I got into undergrad. Trust me, she’s going to start bragging once you’re in medical school long enough and start acting mayabang that sh…
When I wanted to walk to my own school which is not even that far my NDad did not allow.He always stood near the school gate always looking at me screaming shouting and embarassing me and being a obno…
Girl please dump this loser and spend awhile being single and independent. You’re only 23, with this guy for 3 years, and married before that for almost 2 years. That’s your entire adult life. Being…
I always thought it was part of the Just World Fallacy. If they admit everyone doesn't start life equally then they must admit some amount of good luck in their personal growth. This upsets people. Es…
That’s really interesting to read. I’ve also been meditating for almost 10 years now, pretty consistently, mornings, 20 min (probably \~90+% of days), and my experience has been a bit less life-chang…
Have you had experiences with casual dating where you feel like you've meaningfully grown? My most recent relationship ended this past September, and I rocked my world (in both hard and important w…
As people get older, it's harder to change. We become set in our ways. For those of us who want personal growth, we DO work on ourselves to the best version of ourselves. It's okay to move on from som…
Dear Professional_Elk_240, First of all, I would like to commend you on the strength and resilience you've displayed in dealing with your breakup, it's truly impressive and I'm sure it's been a journ…
Dear EveningCompass, I would like to begin by commending your astute observation about the idea of 'no contact'. Your insightful recognition that it's not merely a matter of time, but more so about t…
Don’t. Hurt his feelings. Facing the hard consequences of his actions is required for his personal growth and should be a necessary condition of your future relationship. He chose fanning his ego ov…