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I had my husband read this because its so outrageous. There's no way he can't "feel you" that doesn't even make sense. I'm 200 lbs at the moment but have been as big as 260 and my husband has never sa…
Why you should always schedule your job interviews in the early morning. — I got reminded today of a very important tip when you're setting up interviews. \>> Do not set up job interviews at the end of the work day. In short, there have been studies done on judges that sho…
Founders, Seriously, Please Don't Quit your Day Job (I will not promote) — I say this as a lifelong Founder who spends all his time trying to make other people lifelong Founders - **"Please don't quit day job" ... at least not yet.** Seriously, hold on to that steady incom…
New Rule. No grifting — To protect the community from scammers and grifters we have modified rule 1. To the “coaches”: 1. No posting from new accounts (little/no history or accounts created recently). 2. No talking about…
Do fearful avoidants "split" or "idealise" and then "devalue" when triggered? Or is it more likely to be a sign of something else? (Eg BPD/NPD?) — I am curious about whether "splitting" is something that is an FA behaviour or if it's a separate issue associated with other mental health disorders. As an FA, do you feel yourself "idealising" or p…
The Shift at Age 30: Did you feel a stronger connection to your Ascendant or your Sun sign as you got older? — There is a common belief in astrology that we grow into our Ascendant sign as we get older, especially after our Saturn Return. Over the years of studying and observing birth charts, I've seen so many…
Alysa Liu on Eileen Gu “Y’all would have told her to go back to China. Now that they’re back in China, you’re mad.” — >What was it like to find yourself in the center of all this political discourse? >Ooh, am I? >I don’t know if you feel you are, but there is all of this discourse around you and Eileen Gu. China an…
It does get better (dumped by an avoidant) (personal advice that helped me) — Too anyone who deems themselves as a hopeless romantic, anxiously attached, etc, this may relate to you. After three months of what I thought was the worst time of my life, it truly gets better. T…
Met up with ex after no contact for over 10 months.It went pleasantly. — For anybody wondering whether they should reach out, it went well for me. I was also uncertain how it would go. The relationship ended very badly, we did therapy and it didnt help. I thought id never…
What you want need to be in your body/subconscious — What you want need to be in your body/subconscious You need to feel you deserve it and be comfortable with accepting it into your life You need to feel ready and that it's 'normal' for you now in yo…
All is now. Be Here Now. — One of the biggest misunderstandings about manifestation is the idea that you are trying to create something in the future. Neville’s teachings point to something deeper. Creation is finished. Every…
“EASIEST AP TECHNIQUE IN HISTORY!” (Update) — “History’s simplest projection technique” (Tweaked and updated for better results!) I posted the 30 second head lift technique a few months back and I wanted to update it hopefully to add to y…
The Double Body Technique : A Great astral projection method. — # The Double Body Technique: What is The Double Body? **The double body** is a visualized form resembling yourself, created through imagination. This construct can be inhabited and used for astral pr…
You're not allowed to be angry. You're not allowed to feel your emotions. — Does this fall under reactive abuse or something else? When the narcissist/s have done you wrong so you just step away and become distant, because speaking with them wouldn't work. So when they see t…
Easiest way to Lucid Dream — I’ll keep this short and simple. Stay awake all day. No naps. Do whatever you normally do all day. Do not think about sleep until you are at the point where you’re struggling to keep your eyes open, …
Blue Therapy Mike and Yasmin — Wow. Literally. This man is unbelievable. He’s a lazy, liar. Sitting around all day expecting his partner to not only work her arse off but deal with EVERYTHING alone, kids, home, financially. H…
Life Happens — Recognize patterns of being controlling and possessive: You’re not allowed to visit family, or friends. Because they restrict you from going. They cling onto you and always accompanying you in everyth…
Don't go Outward — I don't usually make these posts, however, I felt compelled to talk about something I've noticed from lurking on this community and a community that criticizes Neville and his work. Now, as many of …
Reconnected with an old friend after ten months and a freak out — Hello Goddardians! I want to share my recent success story about reconnecting with a dear friend of mine after ten months, and me blocking him. I started off by deciding if I really wanted to conne…
Your future is shaped by who you are being NOW — Who we are being now is what creates our future. Want to know what will happen in the future? Simple. Look at who you are being now. What are you doing now? What are you feeling now? That's going to s…
The Power Of Meditation — Meditation itself sounds like a simple concept on surface but, once experienced, can be absolutely transformative. So, what is meditation? Awareness. Meditation is all about the awareness. You can hav…
April 03, 2026 - Weekly FAQ and Beginner Q&A Thread | If you are new to Neville, please post your questions here! How do I manifest X? What does Y mean? — Feel free to ask any type of question on this thread. More importantly, feel free to answer questions that have been asked! Additionally, please refrain from posting multiple questions in the subredd…
My wish — We are souls i felt tethered from another life. I experienced it after our first kiss and even in our last. The passionate connection we shared will forever be engraved in my memory and my heart! I fe…
Do narcissists know what they're doing - an answer. — A question victims of narcissistic abuse often ask is, "does the narcissist know what they're doing?" This is a completely reasonable and understandable question. From my own lived experience with a …
What does it mean when you feel your body change positions? — So basically when I get into what I presume to be a deep meditative state (?) there’s been a few times where I’ve felt my body change positions but I’m not physically doing it. What does that mean? An…
I can feel (and see) my heartbeat in my fingertips when I do this Mudra. Is this normal? — I’ve been meditating on and off for a couple of years, but recently something just clicked. It’s like a switch flipped inside me. I’ve started meditating every single day, and I even suddenly gave up …
I’ve put down my thoughts as to the reasons why I (m53) want to ask my wife (f52) for a divorce. — We’ve been married for 23 years. We’ve got 3 kids: 22, 19 and 12. We own our home, halfway through a 30 yr mortgage, with a low apr. Wife was majority earner, but recently lost her job. I’m inte…
For those who suffer from breakup — Five months ago, my ex left me. I’ve had a lot of time to think since then, and I wanted to share a few things I learned. I think this applies to both men and women. The biggest lesson for me is this…
What are your favorite ways to meditate? — Have a blessed day everyone. I'm no expert ,just been into meditation for about 4-5 months. My method is 60 minutes daily that I must do before the day ends. I usually space them in chunks of 10 or…
The Way Time Moves After You — It’s been one month now, and I still can’t exactly tell you how I got here. If you asked me to trace it back, each week, each day, each hour… each minute, I wouldn’t be able to. It all feels like it’s…
Jewelz, you can't push my love for you away...you need it as much as me! — I need you safe, free to be yourself without threats of being your vulnerable self exploited ... people tell me now to let go, maybe if you were anybody else ..Juls baby....you are part of me ...pleas…
I figured it out — I've known about emotional neglect for a while now, but despite knowing this I've been stuck in this deep dark pit for a decade. I've been living at home with my parents ever since I dropped out of co…
Just found out my (26M) fiance cheated on me this past weekend when I (23F) was visiting family in another state — I went to visit my family in my home state that's 7 hours away. I drove my car because he needed his car for his tools instead of switching them over to my car so I can take his car and he can take mi…
Just found out my (26M) fiance cheated on me this past weekend when I (23F) was visiting family in another state. How do I even get past this? — I went to visit my family in my home state that's 7 hours away. I drove my car because he needed his car for his tools instead of switching them over to my car so I can take his car and he can take mi…
Carrying this heartbreak until it gets small enough to hold gently — Everyone here seems to have their own personal version of heartbreak, and I feel you. They're all different but all legitimate, no better or worse, no more or less valid than anyone else. Just true.…
You’re thinking “if only they would do/say X” — Year 1 / wife / 20 years / 2 teens / coworker / 4 months Thus far, I’ve encountered so many people in various support groups who really wish their betraying partner would say/do X… show empathy, own…
help with my gf — Alright so I M (29) have been dating F(32) for approximately 8 months. I went through a terrible divorce about a little more than a year ago. I was married for 7 years and she cheated. it is what it i…
Mutual Breakup. No contact. Not toxic relationship. — Hi! So my ex boyfriend and I recently broke up around three weeks ago via chat. We were supposed to see each other the same day, but the timing was not on our side. It was a mutual break up. We didn…
Fuck you fuck you — you irresponsible pieces of shit you cowards never even tried truly for your own "you dont respect" ahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahahaha fucj YOUBS YOU PIECE OF SHIT WHO THE FUCK SEES A CHILD AND WA…
"Does this count as a shift?" - STOP. INVALIDATING. YOUR. EXPERIENCES. 𓏲 ๋࣭ ࣪ ˖ — Hello beautiful souls! I’m sure many of you have noticed that when you are scrolling on the reality shifting subreddit, you come across posts of somebody asking “Did I shift? Does this count as a sh…
Venting — just wanted to vent as my brain has been keeping me awake so it's been near 4 months since we Broke up, we talked 2 months said our goodbyes, I said it didn't mean anything to me despite this relati…
The guide that will help you to change your perception in heartbreak — I lurk here often, as once upon a time I did go through something like this. I never exited the community and it breaks my heart how so many of you are burning in the same pain I once was. What a join…
Parental Enmeshment Rant & Book Recommendation — Hey all. Has anybody ever read Silently Seduced by Kenneth Adam’s? I really recommend it if you feel you take on your parents responsibilities, walk on eggshells to keep the peace, inhibit yourself, t…
April 10, 2026 - Weekly FAQ and Beginner Q&A Thread | If you are new to Neville, please post your questions here! How do I manifest X? What does Y mean? — Feel free to ask any type of question on this thread. More importantly, feel free to answer questions that have been asked! Additionally, please refrain from posting multiple questions in the subredd…
attraction isn’t about wishing… it’s about who you believe you are—and what you feel you deserve
How I Astral project — How to Astral project (Casper/Egragor) : I want to prepare you first, so before you try out my method, make sure that you are capable of sensing spiritual energy and has some understanding of what is…
It hurts a past would fight more than a present... — I keep asking myself the same question, and it doesn’t ever really go away… Why didn’t you fight for us? I wasn’t asking for perfect. I wasn’t asking for everything to magically be okay. I just w…
How to recover from coming on too strong with a new friend? — I (29M) made a new friend (29M) through a dodgeball league. I haven’t made a new friend since I moved to this city yet and this is my first new friend. We have a ton in common like video games, card g…
Ah I c haha, sorry. Well honestly might be better off apart than together it sounds like. I have never done AP following a guide but I've meditated a lot for the past 12 years (almost every night bef…
Hey try to imagine your body going down and down every time your breath out that should help you get into a trance state. Like feel you body moving thru your bed and down and down
I’ve had this pulling sensation happen to me before. It feels really scary tbh. So scary that you feel yourself gripping your bed so “it doesn’t take you.” “It” being this invisible force trying to li…
Tysm for posting this compendium and summary. I can feel your sense of kindness and willingness to share with others when so many might gatekeep or be hostile. ❤️
I haven't been single since 25. I feel you.
Ive had female friends who can dettach and drop a guy as easy as theyre changing clothes and would always tell me to be like them so I dont get hurt, but the thing is I would rather be hurt than hurt …
God damnitttt I feel you on this so hard, fuck my ex gf 😭
I feel you. I’ll give you my experience as a FA then suggestions. - I also transitioned from anxious to avoidant our the years. I was never full on AA but more anxious leaning FA as a child. Now I l…
As a man who has been on both sides of the coin… bear with me cause this is a long read but it has relevance I promise. I’ve been the anxious wreck begging and pleading. Saying stuff like “you don’t…
Ha, I agree, I had the exact same thought! Also, to a lesser degree, 'Somebody's Crying' by Chris Isaac. But really, I feel you. I listened to it recently and was like yup.. he's me, AP, and 'she' sou…
An entrepreneur is not just someone that’s wants to do their own thing eventually. Neither is the entrepreneurial spirit good intentions, a desire to break the chains, or a desire to own your own thin…
Hey there, first off, I really feel your burnout. I've been in that same spot where you have something with potential, but just don't have the energy tank to push it forward. It's brutal. A few thoug…
I totally feel you. It hurts a lot and we feel trampled on by their harsh words. At least I knew that he was not trying to hurt me on purpose. Emotional immaturity is not easy to deal with.
I'm am an exceptionally cynical person but that's by nature, and what I have noticed is that most cynical people are embittered and jaded romantics who have been let down too often and proceed to then…
Honestly, a good therapist could be super helpful. They have been for me. A couple of questions that may be useful for personal clarity. 1. Where is your boundary for avoidant behavior? (Where do you …
Yeah, I feel you my friend. That hypervigilance that's always sort of "on" under the surface. And what makes it harder to overcome is the fact that we can point to all these instances where that hyp…
Aww I feel you op. I think you’re trying and learning a lot! I hope things work out with this friend but I even if they don’t it sounds like your a great friend and I hope you have plenty of other fri…
I noticed another FA I’ve been “seeing” for about a year does this, I don’t do it myself though. It was very confusing at first and I’m kind of glad to hear of someone else doing it lol. I always kno…
I'm the same but also with the avoidant tendencies. So i pull away dramatically for what looks like no reason. I spiral, I get in my head, I misread signs, I misunderstand, im shit at boundaries, I …
This is difficult for me to grasp, because if I’m into someone there’s no question about it. I’m either in or I’m out, and I know pretty immediately if I’m into someone, I don’t have to make certain. …
I feel you completely but that’s because the guy I was dating was genuinely not very good looking. We had so much in common, could talk for hours, but I genuinely couldn’t utter the words “you look go…
thank you so much for sharing your story, im very sorry you went through this. I feel you, im on the same boat. Exactly as you described. do you know what is the most difficult part? i can hate him …
Hi OP. You sound like you're being really mature about this. Feel your feelings. It's okay to feel sad, disappointed, betrayed, and scared. Explore those feelings and journal about why you're feeling …
My ex is an avoidant. We're friends. However, when we were flirting he said to me, "I can feel you being needy. Stop it. I'm in control here." So.... I took that advice and I've decided to only talk t…
I've always tested out as secure. But here's the thing. Everyone feels the full range of human emotions. The fact you felt humiliated doesn't make you a broken person that needs fixing. It just makes …
Hahaha i feel you! I'm a different man when I'm hungry. Edit HAPPY CAKE DAY!!!
I feel you First of all yes it’s SO hard to not act on it but in my opinion really well done for that. In my opinion it seems we get triggered by the “change of behaviour”, as in: - we texted oft…
I can certainly identify with this sort of feeling, and unfortunately in my case, the realities of what was happening when my partner at the time wasn't responding were exactly the worst thing. That …
I feel you. That thought of being used is terrifying, I know this might not be what you want to hear but you might be projecting past partners behaviour or fears on to him, as in, if others treat you …
He might be regretting it? [Disclaimer: I’m not at all an expert this is all just my opinion and experience as a former anxious] In my experience, avoidants work in the formula of “feelings minus fe…
Why not find that fulfilled+wanted feeling through other means—a hobby, travel, other relationships such as family or friends, a job…some passion that is yours and leads to some kind of connection. Wh…
I want to tell you as a female, I feel you. But I also want to point out to feel the void of the ex is a statement where maybe the problem is from. Also how do you approach women? I think some people…
I feel you so so much. “I just want out and to find peace.” That’s exactly what you should do. Just leave no need to make a production. Just go do what’s best for you. Just take solace in the fact…
Allowing him to continue to act like that (which by taking him back is what you're doing, you're showing you accept that kind of behaviour) just makes it so that he never feels the need to change. Bre…
First of all, I just want to say, I really feel your pain in this. Healing isn’t linear, and even when you’ve made so much progress, nights like this can hit hard. The fact that you’ve gone almost a y…
Oh gosh, I can feel your pain through the screen. What you are going through is a normal modern human experience, so please don't place all the blame on yourself. It's amazing that you are trying to b…
I shared this with my therapist eons ago. I don't remember what she said. I concluded that it's because friendship has flexible rules and have stood the test of time. For instance, friendship is a man…
I don't think it's unreasonable to want people in your life to initiate, but the problem is the attachment it has to your value/self worth. As you get to know someone, you figure out what you are or a…
Being anxiously attached is like a chronic addiction. I’m sorry you’re feeling this way, and feel you have no control over it, you deserve to feel safe and loved in your body. Are you on any medicatio…
When you notice yourself being hypervigilant about signs they may no longer be interested, ask yourself "so what?" So what if they really are pulling away and are losing interest? That's ok, you'll de…
Honestly I feel the exact same way as you do. The number of times when I’ve been getting to know a guy and couldn’t care less if they lost interest or not, then once I start liking them I become obses…
I believe I have anxious attachment & feel stuck in my over 2 year relationship. I think he may be a narcissist & I’m trying to now make a plan to leave, he makes that very difficult. I feel your pain
I feel you :(( that feeling of tiptoeing around someone you like, even when they’ve already reassured you, is so exhausting. It’s like your brain is still running the old anxious-ambivalent scripts, e…
Don't send it, you don't know where they're at in their life or what they're doing and it could be disruptive or painful. I've had bad relationships and I don't think I would want a random unexpect…
I feel you, the person I'm seeing at the moment I sometimes feel anxious when we're apart but for the most part I'm just enjoying my space and my time, hoping he's enjoying his too and that I can look…
I feel like there are multiple things going on here. You may need to separate them out so as to help you know how to help yourself. 1 - Have you always struggled with attachment issues? Does it show…
Dismissive avoidants also have a fear of abandonment and rejection. That's why they often preemptively breakup with you when they feel you getting fed up with them. Common misconception.
I understand where you are coming from and I can understand your anxious behaviour coming about because of this. However, in order to help you feel more secure in yourself, trust yourself to let go. …
@samworkinonit Nope, this is all me. ❤️ Check out my LinkedIn. I’m a seasoned and highly credentialed coach, author, organizational development specialist, and human resource specialist pursuing a doc…
I've had no contact with my DA ex since June. It was a difficult period in my life because of various reasons unrelated to the breakup. But one thing I started to realize, is that I'm old. Suddenly. A…