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Dude from the bottom of my heart... This deeply saddens me. I can literally feel the pain in your writing, the headspace your in, the chaos in your head you deal with on a day to day, you having grown…
Mom is being kicked out — Parentified eldest daughter here. haven’t spoken to my recovering alcoholic mother in years. Doing so always sends me into a spiral. She puts herself in awful, high-risk situations, never chooses her …
Update to my previous post. Tis not a good one. — [https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1q4sw3v/before\_i\_43m\_delete\_her\_44f\_number\_and\_move/](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1q4sw3v/before_i_43m_delete_her_44f_n…
My [30F] husband [34M] may be a functioning alcoholic — Buckle in because this is a long post. Tl;dr my husband drinks and I am sick of it. (TW: mention of miscarriage) Throwaway account because I need advice and I am at my wits end. I have been with my h…
Got an insane flying monkey voicemail this morning — So long story short: My dad is an abusive piece of shit narc in a family of narcs. 7 years ago was the last straw when he beat up my little sister who was 19 at the time. Rather than harm him, I went …
How do I restore my dignity after getting played and lowering myself too much for someone? — Someone persued me and as soon as I reciprocated they abandoned me. I ended up chasing them and they acted in really horrible mean ways and Im afraid I lowered myself in the moment but I wasn't aware …
3 months of no contact and I still can’t let go. What should I do? — I’m Mia (20 y.o) and I have clinical depression. My ex Daniel (19 y.o.) and has the same diagnosis. English is my second language, so sorry if something is hard to read, an also sorry for such a huge…
We both made mistakes why won’t he reach out… — I broke up with my bf of 3 years because I felt like he grew distant that last few months of our relationship. I communicated my feelings and he’d say it was because we’ve been together for a while an…
I can't stop thinking about what I did to deserve this. I've been cheated on so many times in my life. What's wrong with me??? — (I changed some details and names for privacy reasons,) My ex-fiancé and I were together for just over three and a half years. We got together in 2020 when I was 19 and he was 20. I’m 25 now, a trans…
Asian Men Low Testosterone — [https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/testosterone-levels-by-country](https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/testosterone-levels-by-country) I've been edging to make this po…
Facebook Cheating Compulsion — Last month, I \[M36\] caught my wife\[F38\] planning an affair on Facebook messenger. She has lost a bunch of weight recently and was being more active. Hanging out with friends, planning trips, and g…
Parents are divorcing (?) — My parents are getting divorced. Maybe. I’ve always been closer to my mom than my dad so I’ve only seen th perspective through her eyes. They’ve fought in the past before about tribal matters but my m…
He told me "Happy Birthday," but... — it was his ex- wife's birthday today. Mine was March 6th, and of course, he ignored me that day, just like he did last year. Last night he messaged me how much he missed me and wanted me to come to hi…
How to move forward after a traumatic relationship? — TW: SA, emotional abuse I know this might be a long post, but this has been weighing on my mind for the past year and a half and I just found this community and thought someone may have some advice. …
did I manifest my SP back and it "backfired"? — hello people. i need some advice or opinions. this is a lot to explain. i am not a native english speaker, so my english might not be the best. i’d really appreciate advice and not hate or anything li…
“How things went when dad cheated” :( — I’m sorry for any grammatical error or punctuations, i just wanted to express myself. 🤍sorry if it’s long i hope you can help me. this might be a sensitive topic☝️ It was December when everything …
I (19M) think I'm in love with my best friend (20NB) — I've known this person for nearly two years and we're already the bestest friends towards each other. We make jokes all the time, hangout a whole bunch, just be in the same room and do our own thing, …
My sibling was killed last week — my brother was killed by a car last week and my parents are being unbearable. I was extremely LC with both of them before he was killed. he was LC with them as well and on even worse terms with them…
My wife turn into another person after the break up. — First of all, I want you to know that before the breakup this woman was the kindest, most compassionate, and sweetest person I have ever known. Yes, I know this might sound like something typical tha…
NC since christmas. got ambushed at easter. abuser parent showed her colors infront of family(socially), first time ever. need emotional support. (struggling to come to terms with MBP,/captivity /starvation abuse and abusers complete refusal to acknowledge) — to preface , id like to say some of my story/past (although, for those of u who are regular here im sure u have seen some of my olde rposts from 2 years ago) the easter incident will be at the bottom…
Is reconnecting and getting back together a possibility? — 5 years ago, my ex and I broke up. We were fresh out of college. I was 25(F) he was 24(M). We had been together 2 years. 2019-2021 so all through Covid. We had our last quarters of school together and…
Is reconnecting and getting back together possible? — 5 years ago, my ex and I broke up. We were fresh out of college. I was 25(F) he was 24(M). We had been together 2 years. 2019-2021 so all through Covid. We had our last quarters of school together and…
My mom told me to be gone- i want to run away tonight — I feel so fucking drained, i want to sleep and never wake up again. I hate everything that is fucking happening in my life right now, i just want to die. I simply took a nap because its been a really …
is there a way that i (29f) could have trained myself to react differently under stress in life situations to not stress him (29m) out? — Day 4 of break up and it hurts so bad. he says we are incompatible because we argue about the small stuff all the time. but it wasn't my intention to argue with him at all. i want to change myself for…
Is there a way that i (29f) could have trained myself to react differently under stress in life situations to not stress him (29m) out? — It's me again... pls help me out of this nightmare... Day 4 of break up and it hurts so bad. he says we are incompatible because we argue about the small stuff all the time. but it wasn't my intention…
For those who went no contact with narcissistic family, what was your last straw? — What made you finally snap?
Those that went through the glow up- Are you approached more now? — 42m. Nashville. You went through the last straw and decided to end things and moved towards making yourself better. I did that and found the gym, lost a few lbs and noticed a little more interaction i…
need support, im stuck with my mother — hello, made a throwaway account today cause im at my last straw and dont really have anyone else to reach out to for emotional support— ive tried to talk to family and friends but it's always felt lik…
need support im not sure what to title this other than my mother being insane — hello, made a throwaway account today cause im at my last straw and dont really have anyone else to reach out to for emotional support— ive tried to talk to family and friends but it's always felt lik…
My mother (56F) berates me (24F) for going low contact — \[context is a little long, sorry\] I'm a daughter of a vulnerable narcissistic mother and a grandiose narcissistic father who was also diagnosed with BD. My father became physically abusive in the p…
I got told I am a weak man — last night in an argument about our struggling business and money the wife called me a few names but the one that stuck was your weak. I want to divorce her but the thought of destroying our adult kid…
I've lost any semblance of respect I've had for my AM. — Just a quick little vent because I'm so tired of this. I don't need this fucking bullshit during my exams season. My sibling and I are going through enough as is. We don't need our egg donor to be scr…
What was the last straw that made you finally realize you deserve better and leave? — Nothing major happened with my husband and I. We’ve been married 6 years and had differences since the beginning. I feel like I get no help from him and on top of that he always sounds annoyed/bothere…
Did you try and address the concerns or did you just "forgive them" until you decided there's one last straw that you may or may not tell them about and bail? If so then that's toxic and unhealthy; I …
This is really interesting. I’m (DA) on an SNRI, and I have no plans to come off it because I can’t risk becoming depressed again. I was always very DA, even as a toddler. I felt nothing way before I…
I'm making really stupid immoral decisions lately, and it's completely unlike me. The person I was a year ago (even a few weeks ago) wouldn't recognize me. I tried really hard, but I'm so burnt out…
My last straw was him canceling after 5 weeks. I wrote it somewhere in my comments. Can you find it? Otherwise I send it to you in DM. It was the disappointment that hit me too hard. He canceled a f…
After a lifetime of being ignored, ghosted and breadcrumbed the sudden disappearance of a woman I was meant to be going on a date with this weekend was the last straw for me in the dating game. It's …
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My husband passed away at 37 (a month after our wedding) because of liver failure. He fainted, his red blood cell count was at like 2, no clotting factors, among other things, because your liver helps…
This is so similar to what I went thru. I was in a 6-month relationship and we broke up 2 months ago. When we were together in person everything was amazing. I put in so much effort and she reciprocat…
1000%. They wouldnt have been fired if this was the first incident. There were probably more complaints and this was the last straw. Good on you, OP for standing up for yourself!
Yeah, me (35M) lol. Never say never. Sometimes we are so fed up, stressed, tired, exhausted that we lash out and break up because it's the last straw and the person is pushing our buttons taking us to…
I hate to say this but I am never going to date a recently divorced guy again. He asked me on a date and kept pursuing me yet he kept revealing more and more that he got divorced less than a year ago…
I will not, not. This was the last straw. I had previously told her that if she continued to destroy my house, I'd give her a date to move out. That's what I'm going to do, because I can't heal all th…
I think my recent ex might be like this to an extent, and also with the anxious attachment. She doesn't know what's wrong until it explodes and she breaks down.... We've been having off and on struggl…
I'm really sorry to hear about your miscarriage... Happened to me last week. I don't want to be insensitive at all but please divorce him. If there have been other instances, then take this one as the…
I do relate a lot. Its been about 5 months since I broke up with her and almost 2 months since I initiated no contact. I dumped her, well the last straw was her accusing me of cheating with 0 evid…
I think you have to move on and left him to waking up, if you keep doing all this things for him he’ll never learn what life is .. it sounds hard but at the same time you can not sacrifice yourself fo…
> Why couldn’t we work it out before it got bad and the damage done? Sorry, man. I’m seeing this go down with my BFF and her soon-to-be-ex husband, as well as some friend’s breakups. In each case, th…
Im in a similar boat, 34F with my soon to be ex 38M fiance. Weve been engaged for 1.5yrs. Rented a huge house with my daughter for about 8months. We were settling down, we had our own share of respons…
"Hey, asshole. Stop moving my stuff. This is your last warning before I take all of it and leave your sorry sack of worthless excuses. Don't think I am joking, this is the last straw. I am sick of…
So I was an A to a B depending on weight. The last straw for me was someone who turned out to be a ped0 interested in me for my flat chest. Prior it was how may men said to me they thought I was young…
Actually we are seeing a couples therapist (she agreed to, as a "last straw for the kids") and that's where she told her story of her trauma for the first time in session 1. But she says that this is …
Covert narcs are the worst of them all imo. That’s what my mom is. No one plays the victimized martyr better than a covert narc. They believe their own delusions & revisionist history. I never under…
As someone who has been severely ill with multiple things for pretty much my whole life, I'm not even going to be gentle about this: Your husband is an ableist asshole, as well as just a regular fatp…
My ex fiancée left me two weeks ago for fifteen minutes at the grocery store while he went to the liquor store. He thought it wasn’t that bad because he almost went to the gas station too. We were bot…
Me personally, no. She said she couldn't choose between me, who was going to move out of state but ultimately didn't, or her emotionally abusive ex who talked to other ppl while he was with her at the…
Yeah, I hadn’t read the comments about her suggesting swinging before and getting fit and checking out of the marriage. For me this would be the last straw. It’s only a matter of time.
Honestly, I went NC after the 2016 elections (waited too long until 2018 to do it). My Nmom calling me a communist (she doesn’t know what communism is), was sort of the last straw. I couldn’t believ…
We probably do have the same mother, although my sister is a golden child narc so you’re probably not her lol. The only thing worse is my dad voted for Trump but his favorite candidate was Ted Cruz ☠…
Triangulation is why my husband and I have a rule for each of us to never spend time alone with his nmom. We decided that we have to be together to see her. Otherwise she'll try to manipulate us, if w…
Listen, of course I can't speak to your exact situation but I was married to a workaholic. I repeatedly asked for him to spend more time with me. For our 10 year wedding anniversary I wanted to take…
A bit niche but I had a boyfriend very similar when I was younger, we lived together. He lost his job in 2016 and I supported us both. Then he lost the next job, and the next, and the next. This went …
Yes, my last girlfriend of eight months. Had a really loving, close relationship but apart from one thing. My erectile dysfunction. Over the months, I didn't receive any support from her. It was a '…
hey but i’m so desperate for some advice ill just reach out in this thread hoping atleast one of you will help me out I (19F) and him (20M) is it with it to keep going? what if we try and fill the v…
I told him he was an enabler! That his accepting behaviours made him as guilty as my mother. That he should have protected me and failed as a parent. That all the abuse, even thought he was scared, wa…
It doesn't matter that these things make her upset. It's the way she acts when she's upset that is a huge problem. Personally, the video would be the last straw of what I could tolerate.
First of all, thank you for everything you wrote. I live in Europe, and it's been three years since I've been legally able to drink alcohol. This idea of "freedom"... how should I put it... is a bit…
"The version I knew died" - think you put it perfectly for me man, I'm sorry, it really sucks... I feel the same way. But in all honesty her rebound is chopped ngl and that made things a lot easier fo…
After my mother passed and the way my dad behaved during her dying days, that was the last straw. It was confirmation that he is the most selfish person and not even his "beloved wife's" last moments …
Not quite no warning. He texted me something that was my last straw and I informed him I was making the no contact official, blocking him on all platforms, and making sure he knew to take me off all t…
My ex husband and I have 2 children, and *the* moment (there were many little moments, but this was the last straw) came when he was getting after our 7 year old about doing her first grade homeschool…
Haha, wow… sometimes it really is the little things that break the last straw. Sounds like your feelings just shifted over time.
Oh wow. How did it feel becoming atheist knowing what type of household you grew up in? What was the last straw that made you change?
I cut her off. She called me a racial slur, for having a crush on a black guy at work- and for whatever reason, *THAT* was the last straw. I sent her a Facebook message longer than my arm telling her …
Oh yeah. It made me feel so small and unworthy from this woman who was my everything. As I got older, I noticed the uncomfortable looks between adults. Finally, my confidence grew to the point where h…
Mine are the same too and I just can’t understand it. I told them life changing news I had and they didn’t say a thing. I had to check with my husband to see if I actually had said it out loud. It was…
My relationship of two years has felt like it’s been circling the drain these last few weeks. we’re both in our mid-thirties and he is so brilliant, funny, adventurous, and good. I was just thinking t…
I don't think offline is much better. I've encountered numerous partnered men hit on me IRL too. Others have issues like pining after a married woman, or still being hung up on someone for 8 years, an…
Honestly, if You told him about how uncomfortable you are going to her place for Easter, and he STILL went alone? That would have been the last straw for me, and I'd cancel the wedding, and dumb him. …
No no I understood, I just did not say it correctly. My pets were treated better than me. But they were abused too. I can’t even write it down here what he did to them. From burying puppy litters ali…