narcissistic.

Dude from the bottom of my heart... This deeply saddens me. I can literally feel the pain in your writing, the headspace your in, the chaos in your head you deal with on a day to day, you having grown…

DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…

My ex destroyed his life after we broke up — I don’t even know why I’m writing this, but everything has escalated so much that I just need to get this off my chest. I (33F) was in a relationship for more than 14 years with my ex, let’s call him…

Breakup help — I’ve recently split from a 7 year relationship with someone I thought I was going to go all the way with. We had a house together that was in my name and I am conflicted on what to do with it. It was …

STBXWife spreading false accusations? — M28, together with my wife F28 for 10 years, married 4. My wife has been telling all of her friends and family that I was emotionally abusive, controlling and narcissistic. I can honestly admit th…

I had to put my dog down an hour and a half ago. It just made things worse — I relied on my dog for cuddles, to get me through this. Ive gotten better, I left her on read during a hoover, but now a big piece of my life is gone forever. You grieve one thing then another thing …

I want to know if my ex was a narcissist or not - examples — He was divorced with kids at 33yo. He told me in the beginning that he would marry again and would be open to having another kid, he knew early on that I wouldn’t be interested in a relationship with …

I’m scared to be vulnerable, but if I don’t allow myself to be, am I just going to end up even worse? — I’ve been feeling this way for a long time, maybe since I was a child. It’s like no one ever truly loved me unless I was “nice” in a way that made them comfortable. For the past few years, I’ve been t…

I Finally Did It. — I think now I can finally say that I am proud of who I am. Just a few years ago I was pretty racist, homophobic, and VERY Narcissistic. My family was always very conservative and passed that right …

Ndad has gone half-silent and will only reply if I take the initiative. I am worried and I am done. — Hello everyone, I need to vent a bit and some advice is needed. For the last year my relationship with my Ndad has gone very badly. Everything went wrong since I was trying to help him think about hi…

burnout gifted kid guilt, from resurfaced trauma — I used to be a really smart kid. In my childhood, I was in many gifted programs, and I even got into a very nice high school for a biomedical science scholarship. I had a 4.0, I constantly did extra c…

Need to get this off my chest — I’m a 23-year-old woman living with my family(my parents and my 29-year-old brother). Things at home have always been tense, but lately it’s become unbearable. I’ve always felt like the “last kid” to …

My best friend just had a baby with a man who I think is a narcissist pervert. — Hi everyone. Sorry in advance for the lengthy post but I'm not sure who to turn to. I don't want to ask you guys to do any diagnostic over the internet, but I'm curious is any of this rings a bell w…

My Dad Cancelled My Prom Because He Thinks I Don’t Deserve It — I’m 16, and in the Philippines. my mom just spent like 6,000 on my prom. Around 3k - 4k to pay the prom, 2.5k for the dress. Just a few hours ago, my dad made me choose. Prom or Junior High School gra…

ramble about community — what is up with the mental health community and thinking that “narcissistic abuse” is a thing. NPD is a serious mental health condition that doesn’t “automatically make you abusive” that is such an in…

Ah thank you for clarifying- according to what I’ve read on a few forum about people experiencing relationships with anxious attachment styles like mine- the neediness and the dependency, as well want…

Only in the sense that people these days use "narcissist" to mean "anything I don't like". A lot of people jump into new relationships because they're panicked and hurting. Some of those new relatio…

I’m with you. My husband’s AP knew all about me and our kids and pursued him hard anyway. She’s very narcissistic. I would have fought tooth and nail to keep my kids from spending any time under the s…

Your dating partner sounds narcissistic. She is poly, tries to downplay it and not take responsibility for the emotional complication towards you. Don’t get into the intellectual rationale (possession…

I was like this for most if my 20s... I can tell you that the attraction doesn't go away really, but you can learn to resist it. Eventually you look back at the people that made you suffer in relation…

i strongly disagree with saying that she can't have rules because she can't process them. first, children process rules. she's not an infant. second, rules actually work amazingly with emotionally imm…

Maybe your husband is a bit narcissistic. Think how he shows and when he shows affection. Is it only conditional? Like when you behave like he wants you to, then he showers you with love and care. But…

Exactly. I personally think that the Leo sun is supposed to be regal, not really narcissistic. Like strangers have told me many times they've seen paintings of women in museums or palaces who look lik…

>Somehow even that gets misconstrued and a person will say that I talk too much or think everything is about me for genuinely trying to share similar experiences a few times. If I complement someone t…

My ex admitted to be he was a diagnosed narcissist during our breakup. He kept it from me the entire relationship. For years. See how self serving and deceptive they are even to the last minute, even …

He comes from an enmeshed family. He hates his mother because she's a psychopath. He has an an enmeshed relationship with his dad who is very narcissistic.

First of all, please try not to shoulder any "blame" here. It's hard to not allow emotion to steer things, especially in a case like this one, but your mother will always be your mother and your fathe…

It's Asian parenting but the stripping naked and the knife thing was "a bit" much...I'm so sorry you had to go through that. My punishment was more psychological in my household, lots of guilt trippi…

I'll copy a comment below that I've made on a different post about someone who had a NPD diagnosis. I certainly cannot say (and no one can) anything concrete about your personality from this post, and…

Download your text history with him and upload it to chatgpt. Enable thinking mode, and ask it if you are a narcissist. Ask it to identify the pattern between you that strain your relationship. And as…

Similar experience here. Mum gave me some random crazy Chinese meds for heavy bleeds. In order to postpone visit to gyn. Won’t let me follow diet advice of said gyn after being diagnosed with PCOS (no…

I am 46 and I have same feelings as you do. And I moved out young. But now it mostly shows up with work, my career. Because companies are inherently narcissistic. I am always measured, always optimize…

Due to my mom not being a good parent I was taken in by my grandmother. They both could classify as narcissistic. I did my best to be a good kid. Never cause trouble. I always felt like a burden and w…

Cheaters like to triangulate the new supply by getting into drama with the “old supply” (you). This makes her feel validated that she’s “special.” She’s not special, she’s defective. You’ve moved on…

He's a psychopath and narcissistic. To hurt you by saying that to you is just plain awful. You deserve so much better. :(

Also to add feeling ashamed (as in how he is feeling ashamed) is inherently narcissistic. Guilt is where change happens.

This is a traumabond. She sounds like a dismissive avoiding and a bit narcissistic. I recognize it from my past relationship that ended 3 months ago on our anniversary (court ordered no contact)…

I was similarly confused with my short relationship with a suspected covert narcissist. After the discard, I was trying to analyze all their behaviors and thought they were an avoidant attachment styl…

Her MIL sounds like mine who is massively narcissistic. We are NC with my MIL. If my husband was anything like her, we wouldn't be married. 😬

One of the reasons I stopped going to a mental health clinic was because of the gas lighting and the pill throwing. I feel like the medication was just too much for my system and I have learned to dea…

He does. He actually was diagnosed as a sociopath and he is narcissistic. I think that’s why I’m so patient is because I know he’s been through a lot and I wish to give the benefit of the doubt. But I…

I agree with This_Queen-1962. You tell her the proposal plan and tell her it is on hold until she gets therapy for her manipulative and abusive behavior. It’s borderline narcissistic. She does the ab…

My brother was the scapegoat. When I was in college and exposed to many psychology classes I recognized my family for both of my parents are narcissistic. I realized the pattern of how my parents ende…

Sorry see my other posts but she is cheating on you already, it happened to me also I know, she is at the bare minimum confiding her marriage problems to another man which is emotional cheating , at t…

Wow. And you lasted a year with her?  She is so insanely immature and narcissistic. You dodged a bullet there! Sorry that you wasted your time and money on her. There are much better women out there, …

You're welcome, bear with , this is a little long. I still don't think you're a fool. You were manipulated, People like us can't fathom how evil other people can truly be. Once I started going to the…

No offense but this just all seems really immature. Not narcissistic. You did the push pull too. You got so jealous that you didn't talk to him for 2 days. Maybe after a year of having a crush, you …

Block him and do not reply. He either has an avoidant attachment style, just has wounds, or is narcissistic. The only reason he should be texting you is to apologize and make amends not a basic text “…

I was 28 years sober and thought I had done all the things, working with others, doing the 12 steps, going to meetings, calling a sponsor. I couldn’t understand why I was still having the same problem…

I'm going to hold your hands while I say this- This dynamic is abusive. It's 100% about control for him. Everything he's accusing you of are things that he himself is actually guilty of. He sounds…

But, what you described is narcissistic. You weren't *JUST* not allowed to date. She beat you. She also implied that the way she loves you should take the place of* romantic love.* That is weird, …

I really just want to send you a virtual hug right now, because this sounds exhausting and crazy-making and disheartening. I also have very much experienced this dynamic. It’s awful, and no, you’re no…

Yo you provided some great details. I have had a struggle very similar to yours. In the teen years (which I didn't think about until later), I had no girls and had tons of internet curiosity. So when …

I’m so sorry to read this. No wonder you’re still processing what happened 🫂. Sounds a complete narc. I have a PhD too and had similar words said to me… the hot/cold with the other behaviours sounds …

Therapist here. He is upsetting you and making you feel stupid for his enjoyment. This is emotional abuse. The time and "tonight" and all of that is completely irrelevant. He understands what you me…

Everyone is narcissistic. Everyone is on the scale somewhere, including you. You have to have five of the nine for it to be Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

I can’t speak for everyone and everyone’s “trauma” is different. However, just shooting from the hip, if a person knows they are inconsistent and inconsiderate and get mad, they may be narcissistic. I…