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I (20M) haven't slept in my own bed in almost 2 months because of my (19F) girlfriend

You are undereacting.  She is emotionally abusing you.  Women can be abusers too, and men can ne abused.  Nothing she is doing is remotely okay. You start by setting boundaries about your time and w…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/28/2026
My Fiancé kicked me out with only a few hours notice

My Fiancé kicked me out with only a few hours notice — This is the situation I am in. About a week ago my fiancé (25 M) brought up how he has some problems with me (25 F). We have been together for almost three years. He said he cant bring up sensitive to…

r/relationshipspost3/10/2026
She cheated after 14 years

She cheated after 14 years — This is my first ever post on Reddit and it’s a long one so apologies in advance for any formatting errors. I have been with my fiancé for 14 years, we have been engaged for the last 4. Our relations…

r/survivinginfidelitypost3/21/2026
Would you consider this a break up?

Would you consider this a break up? — Yesterday my partner calls me tells me we need to talk, ok I’ll call you when I can. On the phone: Him: I don’t think I can do this anymore, I can’t handle your kids and I just don’t need that in my…

r/BreakUpspost3/31/2026
7 weeks later

7 weeks later — I've been lurking this sub for about 7 weeks.. as the title may suggest.. My (30m) 3 year relationship ended rather unexpectedly about 7 weeks ago, with a we need to talk talk, then 3 weeks of heavy t…

r/BreakUpspost4/1/2026
Curious if this has happened to anyone else post affair?

Curious if this has happened to anyone else post affair? — Hi all, I posted awhile back about my husband contemplating leaving me for a girl he met in an online porn site. She was based in Colombia.. if you go to my profile you can read the whole thing. Lots …

r/survivinginfidelitypost4/2/2026
I told my wife, 26F, that our baby is mine and that I 25F, did not consider her the other parent. But I don't know if that was a good call?

I told my wife, 26F, that our baby is mine and that I 25F, did not consider her the other parent. But I don't know if that was a good call? — Hi! This is my first post here. I'm here to talk about an issue I do not know how to navigate. I want to start off by saying that my wife and I are WLW, and have been married for 4 years, together for…

r/relationship_advicepost4/5/2026
What does a good relationship looks like right after honeymoon phase?

What does a good relationship looks like right after honeymoon phase? — I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (36M) for around seven months now. This is the first time I'm in a relationship with an emotionally mature and available person. But we're at a phase of relation…

r/relationshipspost4/6/2026
My girlfriend [19F] told me [18M] she is still in love with her ex.

My girlfriend [19F] told me [18M] she is still in love with her ex. — My girlfriend \[19F\] told me \[18M\] she is still in love with her ex. Me '18M' and my girlfriend '19F', have been dating for around 6 months now. We began dating in December after she had broken up…

r/relationshipspost4/6/2026
Some of the things she says... Roulette

Some of the things she says... Roulette — "I worry about him, I don't worry about you. He's a new soul, you're an old soul" (talking about my twin) "I love you but I don't like you" "You are dead to me" "If I had my time again I wouldn't…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/10/2026
Is this an example of being raised by narcissists or am i exaggerating?

Is this an example of being raised by narcissists or am i exaggerating? — So sorry this is long but here’s my story. Please advise on how to follow up. For some background: back in December, I had my wedding. It was supposed to be one of the happiest times of my life, but…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/11/2026
Ghosted after 5 months

Ghosted after 5 months — I was talking to a guy for 5 months. he told me he liked me. we started meeting in Feb, made out a couple of times. he was very nice, took care of me, was communicative, emotionally mature. I thought …

r/BreakUpspost4/12/2026
Ghosted after 5 months

Ghosted after 5 months — I was talking to a guy for 5 months. he told me he liked me. we started meeting in Feb, made out a couple of times. he was very nice, took care of me, was communicative, emotionally mature. I thought …

r/relationshipspost4/12/2026
First fight (28F, 28M, nearly 2 years, long distance)

First fight (28F, 28M, nearly 2 years, long distance) — My significant other (28M) and I (28F) have been in a long distance relationship since August 2024. We mostly have dates on teleparty twice a week, write letters to each other and occasionally text. R…

r/relationship_advicepost4/13/2026
A little look into how fearful avoidants operate (aka, how one of my relationships ended - twice - because I was unaware of my patterns)

Hey, I'm in a similar situation, do you have some suggestion on what to do when those shut downs happen? We end up arguing on super stupid stuff, because of her, she doesn't want to recognize it and…

r/attachment_theorycomment9/24/2025
Why is casual sex so hard?

Same. That’s how I felt with mine. Like a fleshlight. And look I can be for that kinda thing but we need to TALK about it. No communication with intimate partners is so dehumanizing and it’s why I k…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/12/2026
"Never Go to Bed Angry" is bad bias advice

I feel the healthiest thing for both when this happens is to go, "This conflict has obviously occurred, and we need to talk about it and reconcile it. Since we are both too dysregulated to handle it n…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment3/13/2026
Did you constantly ask them what was wrong?

I tried to communicate with her like a normal human. I tried to work through our problems I so wanted this to work. I fell so deeply for her. But every time I tried to talk to her my words were twiste…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/13/2026
32 years of marriage, but I'm still unsettled by an affair from 2006. Is it too late to ask for the truth?

28 years for me. She says that she understands that we need to talk about it, but when I bring it up, she brings up the ways I failed as a husband then then an argument ensues. Lately, she had been b…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/14/2026
My wife got pregnant and immediately turned into a completely different person. It’s like she’s trying to destroy me.

When she starts in,  can you descretly record it on an app? She, and others,  would be way more likely to believe your story if you had proof.  And when you present the proof, it may be wise to appr…

r/Divorcecomment3/14/2026
The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker

We do not have to talk about the few cases of men being victimized when talking about systemic male violence and oppression of women. We don’t. It’s completely irrelevant. No one is “dismissing male v…

r/CPTSDcomment3/20/2026
Dumpers who were emotionally overwhelmed.

Please, I will not force you into anything. We will just talk if you really felt that way. We need to talk, I'm begging you, Paul. And not like I used to beg, i've grown up a lot a lot more than, you …

r/BreakUpscomment3/21/2026
I BROKE NO CONTACT

What I wrote was "Hi, I think we need to talk. Can we make time to talk in the next week or so? If that doesn't work can you propose another time that works for you?"

r/ExNoContactcomment3/24/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 24, 2026

Thanks. We are going to have a difficult conversation tonight. I let him know we need to talk… I’ve been feeling this way for a while now. I was going to wait for my therapist appointment but this fee…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/24/2026
Woke up to boyfriend on the couch?

That's fair. Apologies for the throwaway comment 😅 Sounds like something is definitely weighing on him, potentially the intimacy thing you talked about. Maybe drop him a message saying something li…

r/relationshipscomment3/26/2026
r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/29/2026
What is a trigger you have that originated from your parents’ treatment of you?

" We're going to have a talk later" or We need to talk when I'm done " etc. Mother*$@#-:, we are talking now! I'm not being held hostage so that you can have fun watching me panic all day. I used to p…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/29/2026
Please don’t say it takes time

Dude, I cannot tell you how deeply this resonates. I love myself. I am happy. I am doing all the things. I just freaking miss them like I have never missed anybody. This isn’t like other break ups I’v…

r/BreakUpscomment3/30/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 31, 2026

I've (33F) been with my bf (34M) for almost a year now. This is the longest dating relationship I've had in six years. Typically they would fizzle out by the 3 month mark. I'm so in love with him and …

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/31/2026
Just separated from my wife of 15 years? Looking for moral support? What next?

We had a stupid argument about something this morning before she left for work. Really really petty, but it was the straw that broke the camels back for me. There’s just no love there anymore. We don’…

r/Divorcecomment3/31/2026
I need help with a sensitive conversation of the NSFW variety (late 20F) (mid 30M)

You just need to make a decision: do you want to teach this man how to pleasure you or not? There’s no guarantees it will work out, but what is certain is that if you do nothing you will get nothing…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/1/2026
I need help with a sensitive conversation of the NSFW variety (late 20F) (mid 30M)

This isn't gonna be the magical answer you're looking for as no one here knows you nor him, however I do suggest doing the full sit down, "We need to talk about this" , "This is serious" conversation.…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/1/2026
My (27M) partner (30F) are having issues with disagreements around spending money in our relationship

Sounds controlling. And that you need ground rules. In my house, we need to talk if we are going to spend more than $150 on an item. You could also arrange it that each person puts everything in joint…

r/relationshipscomment4/4/2026
My boyfrien 'M28' and I 'F28'of almost 3 years still hasn’t started his divorce and I feel hurt.

You are the issue here. Either you care about him still being married, or you don't. Decide. Once you have decided, ACT. Don't stay with him and keep nagging him about it. Just decide if you are willi…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - April 04, 2026

yes, i guess you are right, we need to talk about it, because yes, i don’t think we really know each other, and today, i’ve been reading stuff about lovebombing, and i became a little worried. One thi…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/5/2026
I told my wife, 26F, that our baby is mine and that I 25F, did not consider her the other parent. But I don't know if that was a good call?

Well by the update, it looks like things have been settled, but what I’ll add is that you have to learn how to be annoying. This happens a lot in all types of relationships, where one side has an issu…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
Dealing with loyalty doubts from me F22 about M24 bf

Coming from a place of a lot of personal experience on this subject, I agree that you don't want to take past trauma into a new relationship, and it is great that you are in therapy. But, if your boyf…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/7/2026
A question for the dumpees

2 years, everything felt perfect until the very last moment when i heard those “we need to talk” words, got lead on for a week afterwards. shit sucks but i’m starting to force myself to realize i dese…

r/BreakUpscomment4/9/2026
I waved

Yeah. I was bitter and angry for a long time; she was emotionally abusive, self absorbed, she initiated the separation and started dating other people straight away, then complained that I wasn't help…

r/Divorcecomment4/10/2026
Sticky Thread Until Reddit Fixes Their Shit - April-ish

I thought things were going very well and was really excited. Woke up to the “we need to talk text” and am feeling a bit blindsided. We are talking later tonight. It was so hard to get back out there,…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/10/2026
Sticky Thread Until Reddit Fixes Their Shit - April-ish

We need to talk is kinda vague to be fair! And even then, things not working out is just how dating is. Like the odds are always gonna be a 5 to 1 dates to relationship if not worse odds. Just keep at…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/10/2026
Sticky Thread Until Reddit Fixes Their Shit - April-ish

The specific wording was “I hate to do this to you but I think we need to talk” with a frowning face lol. I’m getting ready to lick my wounds. It’s a good reminder, though.

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/10/2026
What is the best way for I (21F) to go about breaking up with (20M) because I am tired of arguing about the possibility of future kids?

If your actual question is how to break up with someone, the answer is, just break up with them. “Hey, we need to talk. I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and I have come to the conclusion that this re…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/12/2026
What is the best way for I (21F) to go about breaking up with (20M) because I am tired of arguing about the possibility of future kids?

You dont need his permission or approval. You don't have to prove youre right or justified. Relationships at 21 are not to meant to last forever, and this is not the 1950's, you definitely should not …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/12/2026