personal space

If the safari app on your iPad is a "personal space" then I don't think that I should really value your opinion on what a violation of privacy means, since that's all he was going to use it for until …

Can a FA-DA relationship work? — My partners have been dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant, so I have always leaned anxious ig. In my last relationship, I felt secure at the start, it was nice, we set boundaries.. till it happene…

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Y'all ever realize how narcissists create unconditional amounts of chaos and then blame everyone else for it? — Like I can't be the only one. They're literally come in disrupt your entire day leave you in the aftermath of a tornadoes chaos and then look at you with this genuine look of concern and confusion as …

My (21F) girlfriend had a complete meltdown when I (23M) tried to use her phone — Last night my girlfriend of two years and I were just chilling after about 4 days of not seeing each other while I had a close friend visiting. Initially, I asked to use her iPad (which I bought for C…

GOD IM SO FUCKING PISSED I'VE TOLD MY MOM MULTIPLE TIMES TO STOP "CLEANING" MY ROOM BUT SHE STILL FUCKING DOES IT !!!!! — Hello, I (21F) cannot physically fucking deal with this anymore. My mom is always going throug my room and trying to "clean" but she ends up just messing up the exact order and placement of things s…

How do I F21 fix my relationship with my F21 twin sister after her M22 fiancée SA’d me? — I don’t really know how to do this I apologize in advance. A bit of back ground. I am a F21. My twin sister obviously the same age. We both live with our parents. She has been seeing this guy M22 for …

3 months of no contact and I still can’t let go. What should I do? — I’m Mia (20 y.o) and I have clinical depression. My ex Daniel (19 y.o.) and has the same diagnosis. English is my second language, so sorry if something is hard to read, an also sorry for such a huge…

Roommate (50m) purchased a new leather couch for the living room and complains about how I (38f) sit on it. He recently moved the coffee table so I can't use it for drinks anymore. — I've been renting a room from him for the past 3 years. he's a long time family friend. I work hours from 10:00 to 8:00 while he works from 7:30 to 6:00, so generally the dynamic and personal space is…

What do you miss? — I have been divorced for years now. No serious relationships, mostly just some physical ones and a few random dates. I have been content with that because I need a lot of personal space and tend to ke…

How Do I Help My Girlfriend With Her Codependency? — Okay, my girlfriend (19F) and I (18F) have been dating for 8 months. We spend every day together and we love each other very much. There's just a problem that we've been having. Now I must note, I hav…

I don’t know what to do — So I hate confronting people, to me it feels like I’ve hurt their feelings or impacted their self esteem/respect that’s why I end up bubbling it all up inside and then I feel shitty because I let some…

This disorder is shit but the worst thing is that it was caused by the most repulsive POS to breathe.. not letting me add more than one flair so this is a vent/rant — I'm diagnosed and everything but hesitant to try any medication/proper therapy. I'm scared constantly and it's been manifesting as hallucinations and constant paranoia. I'm starting to think i need to…

DAE feel like they miss skin layers? — I have learned the skin has 3 layers. But everytime I dare to relax my muscle tone, there are always white christian men who think they can walk right through and take the opportunity to kiss me out o…

My (24m) Partner(23m) Sent Suggestive Snaps to a Past Hookup, and now I Don't Know if I Can Trust Him? — Throwaway, bc my bf knows my main account, sorry for the lengthy post. Me (24m) and my bf (23m) have been dating for a little over two years now. He has always been a bit "protective" of his phone, t…

Why do they always think we're on drugs?? — Whats your most iconic "You're on drugs!" story? I, F27, have severe sleep problems mostly due to nmom that would burst into my room and tear the covers off me in the middle of the night throughout m…

I wish I didn’t crew up with abusive family members. — I set it to NSFW just in case, cuz I’m gonna go through my experience of growing up with my moms side of the family and how it has affected me to this day and trying hard to deal/ cope with it better.…

Starting to hate my family — I am starting to hate everyone in this family, my mom asks too many questions and sometimes even avoids taking responsibility when it comes to asking a staff member during shopping or even asking hosp…

What does feeling the emotion look like? — I live far away from the family for college, and recently moved out of campus housing to get my own place. It's very small and not a lot of sunlight comes in, but it provided a level of security and p…

Single&unhappy — I’ll describe myself a bit. I have an anxious attachment style, I’m 30 years old, and since I was 16 I’ve moved from one unsatisfying relationship to another (three in total). This is currently the…

Why am I the scape goat in my family — So I have family from my mom’s side coming over from out of state. As much as I love them, I honestly dread their visits because I always feel like I get walked over and taunted. It feels like I’ve ne…

It really was my moms fault — Exactly as the title says, it was all my mom's fault, and im tired of people(especially other moms)constantly giving her the benefit of the doubt just because she's "traumatized" or "had a hard life" …

Sounds pretty avoidant. That sucks - I’m sorry. Does she actually understand how important this is to you? If so, I might try having the conversation one more time, being clear that it’s a dealbreaker…

I do understand and I can agree it’s not a behavior that can cultivate a long standing relationship with someone who is secure or anxious. But the same can be said about other attachments aswell (no…

'Anxious attachment people can and often do cross boundaries to soothe their anxiety, disregarding their partners very real very understandable need for personal space (regardless of if they are avoid…

You are more than welcome champ. My advice here is don't have a talk while she is deactivated as that is more than likely going to push her further away. Emotional deregulation is a behaviour caused…

I am, Im not sure on their end. There seems to be flickers of romance but its too soon to truly know. But this is perhaps the struggle, I dont know what to make of their actions. Sometimes they reply …

Hey everyone, I’d love some outside perspective. I have been seeing this guy for a while. We’re close, he’s said I’m the person he feels closest to, and we stay in touch every day through TikToks, sm…

One thing that helped me in the past especially when it became disorienting (like getting lost in town because I didn’t recognize places I’d been to) was to start with my immediate circle, in this cas…

Most cafes or bars usually have us sitting across from each other and not so much next to each other. So you think it's better to sit next to my date instead of across from them? Wouldn't it be an inv…

> Wouldn't it be an invasion of their personal space if those bars or cafes aren't set up in such a way? Ask your date instead of us. I've straight up said "Are you comfortable with me sitting next t…

There's a certain level of emotional independence two parties need to reach before they can form a healthy relationship with each other. Avoidants tend to have too much emotional independence to the…

Ok for me there are a few things. I am not necessarily slow about physical contact. But it needs to move through the proper sequencing. I find a lot of men try to jump to kissing way too fast. We h…

Shower thoughts inspired by a post yesterday. I have been thinking a bit about how daters feel like there is not sexual chemistry if kissing hasn’t happened soon enough. I have kissed on first da…

I think you'll only be seen as creepy if you invade her personal space straight away and say something too sexual. If you just sit next to her at the bar and say hi you can just make small talk as you…

Past couple of weeks have been tough. I've been seeing a guy since mid Jan. Saw him a total of 8 times in the first four weeks. He's sweet and respectful, good communicator, good cook, we generally …

Aww I’m with you! What helps somewhat is that I try to stop taking on the world’s problems when I know I just have enough of my own micro-transactions to deal with. But YES, it’s always one thing afte…

she'll reach out to check in somehow at some point. my guy, literally do nothing and focus on staying and keeping yourself in motion. my domestic ex of 3 years didn't reach out until a year later. i j…

After two marriages, I'm content living alone, and when I choose to date again, I do not want to cohabitate. Also AuDHD, with a toddler, and have no interest in another adult in my personal space full…

I think as long as both partners are happy with the living arrangement, whether that is cohabitation or LAT, then that is all the matters. I can see benefits and drawbacks to both arrangements. There …

I also often think about it. When people try to tame feral cats or cats that have been psychologically traumatized, they never try to pull the animal out from under the bed, hold it down by force, pet…

it’s *exhausting* how people will encourage intimacy, try to bring you closer, tell you they want complete transparency, and just absolutely rush closeness to the point that it makes you uncomfortable…

1. There’s passion in the relationship, Mars prominently sits in 5th in aries. And joins Venus in D9, however with Jupiter there in the 7th in tough signs of gemini and Capricorn navamsha with sun doe…

It is all about embracing the change and accepting it. More importantly how willing are you to share your personal space with your partner. This is the question you should ask yourself first. Other is…

You need to think about what you want from life. Maybe say you don't nesessarily see yourself mooving in with someone, you are after all looking after your mother for the forseeable future. If and wh…

I’ve been with my husband for 13 years it’s normal to want personal space and we do our best to give eachother that. But he is my safe space. He is the person i can let my authentic self shine thro…

Life has too many variables. There are a lot of Asians who don't feel like they fit in their own countries as well. On a fundamental level it's not about shared ethnicity or even culture necessarily.…

Much less tolerant to lies or manipulation, from everyone. (Had a blowout at work cause my manager lied to me. XD) Fiercely protective of my own needs. More confrontational and comfortable with co…

So ok, maybe his standards regarding "comfort being in someone's personal space" is different to yours, OP? Nothing wrong with a difference of preference, it just needs to be explained. "Meeting in …

What you described actually happens to a lot of people when their nervous system has been under pressure for a long time. Living in a crowded environment, carrying financial responsibility, and takin…

TBH if you don’t have enough respect and decency to stay out of someone’s personal space then this relationship isn’t for you. You aren’t comfortable with her boundaries. That’s fine, move on, but i…

>**For me, that’s a red flag, I understand personal space, and boundaries even within your relationship, but I had no intentions of looking through her personal things.** I've had my phone hijacke…

Girlie, can you get a lock for your door/room :c suck you have to deal with that, asian parent have zero concept of personal space or privacy.

Without therapy and the tools it provides, a relationship like that can become self reinforcing. But therapy, including couples therapy, can help both people understand themselves and each other, and …

It’s rough out here… I wasn’t really looking to get into anything exclusive with anyone. I was kind of just dating around after being single for a very long time. But I’m met someone a couple of years…

I get putting up with behaviours for a long time because of lack of self-esteem and so on. Bringing this up to look for solutions is a good step, and I hope it begins to bring clarity for you. I don…

There is NO WAY she will ever off herself because narcissists love themselves more than any other person on earth. Text back and tell your father you hope he makes a better choice for his next wife.…

ur right, it just sounded to me like having the second apartment was a viable option from the post. So maybe put her in a hotel for a couple weeks or on an as-needed basis and go from there. Doesn'…

I started panicking at work when I heard the sound of a coworker walking briskly towards me in heels. I never knew I was so traumatised by a lack of personal space and boundaries being broken until th…

It's because they are violating your personal space, something we were never allowed to have.

I’d say moving out just to seek validation and “respect” from women and other men is a compromise. If she doesn’t respect you when you’d rather stay close with your parents, is she really the one for …

My NM talks with her mouth full. Disgusting. She also spits when she talks. Even worse, she's a close talker and has no understanding of personal space.

Totally get that, and figured that might be a possibility (protecting personal space) but the rest of the date just pushed the alignment further and further away. So yea, def not a match.

Is she supporting you financially in any way? If not, be blunt and honest with her. Tell her that you no longer feel comfortable around her being in your personal space. Tell her that her drin…

You’re not alone. And I’m so sorry you have to deal with this. My mom is also a narcissist and she did this my entire childhood. She would even clean the house while naked. It was beyond just being pr…

Original copy of post by u/Danger_Muffin28: I have been divorced for years now. No serious relationships, mostly just some physical ones and a few random dates. I have been content with that because …

I feel so much of what you’re feeling. The optimism you feel when you meet someone you click with. A potential friend to go and do fun things with. Then all of the sudden everything inside feels all w…

First of all no matter ketu is in any nakshatra rahu-ketu dasha always go bad for social life you’ll face isolation and go more towards sprituality you’ll learn astrology and deep topics its the best …

It wasn't a question, it was a decision. If I refused, I would feel like I wasn't respecting personal space

My mom loves to try to hug me or put her arm on me in photos when she knows I don't like her touching me, loves to stand in my personal space. Nobody else's 'affection' makes me reel like her, no issu…

Hello there, Pretty_External9641, Firstly, I'd like to applaud your strength for sharing your experience and the way you've handled this emotionally challenging scenario. It requires a strong heart t…