childfree

Because prior to you adding your edit, all we could really read was that you didn't want to be pregnant in the first place. The statement comes off a little "childfree". A "yet" could've at least help…

Why don't I relate to the classic Cancer trait of being nurturing? I'm on the spectrum so I've been on the receiving end of a lot of nurturing from my very caring mother, as well as an older sister and my two grandmas. But I'm not a nurturer myself (more an artistic nerd) and I'm lifelong childfree.

Am I expecting too much after the worst time of my life? — Asking for advice in a situation that is a bit of a shitshow. I’ll try to make it succinct. I live in the UK but am from a different European country. I, F42, started seeing M44, “S”, just over t…

Anyone also childfree because you havent had a childhood, or you have gone through too much stuff....and just want a different / more healing and peaceful second half to life? — I am childfree for many reasons, but one of the big ones has been i was made to be the parentified caretaker child for my much younger siblings, but also our home was just chaos, lots of abuse, neglec…

Am I 30F ruining my relationship with my bf 31M over not having kids? — I 30F and my boyfriend 31M have been together for six years, living together for five. Before that we were friends for two years. We are still incredibly in love, best friends, and I want to spend th…

LDR struggles — I've been dating a 40-y/o guy exclusively for more than a year. We see each other every 2-4weeks & I really like him. We did our STD/HIV test April last year so we can have unprotected s\\\*x. We both…

Hooked up with a friend—should I tell him he has room for improvement? — I [29F] hooked up with my good friend [38M] and it left a little bit of a bad taste in my mouth, not between us or for our friendship, but for the other women who have sexual encounters with him. Ba…

Married 6 months ago after 18 years together. He wants a divorce and I’m losing everything. — throwaway account\* I feel like my entire life has been ripped away from me overnight. My husband and I have been together for 18 years — since we were teenagers. He is my only relationship. We bui…

Childfree due to how I was raised — I won’t be having any children but how do I break this to my Asian parents? How can I deal with all the pestering and comments that will come after I’m married (which is very soon)?

Recently went no contact with abusive parents! Has anyone had similar experience? What’s your story? — I am 36, live in the US. Right now I am going through a big transition phase where I went no contact with extremely abusive toxic parents who have been that way all my life and abused my love and care…

Some of these comments are saying silly (and heteronormative) things like "weird around children" or "checks out other women when they think you're not looking". Obvious reminder that being uncomforta…

I also get very anxious. I try to act secure but my brain is going insane. Always overanalyzing, preoccupied, I genuinely cannot tell when I am overreacting and when I am right, so I always override m…

I've been on the fence for a long time in the past. For a while I've felt like I was not ready emotionally for children being afraid that I might not fully understand the commitment it takes. Partly a…

As someone who is also childfree in a large-ish metro area, that doesn't surprise me at all. I think a lot of dudes are afraid of putting "Don't Want Children," as it could potentially lessen their li…

A *five year* limit in your 30s is so wild to me. For a million reasons. I've met people between the ages of 25 and 39, I don't think anyone would easily clock their ages accurately. If it's a matter…

10 years in a relationship, 4 years back in the game. Now 32, I’m navigating the dating scene ( currently in India and moving to Europe soon) as a Pansexual, Heteroromantic, and Childfree (CF) guy. Wh…

I tend to be more particular with who I swipe on these days (partially because I'm childfree and so many people want kids or are "open to kids".

Haha. I posted about this recently. I'm a childfree, agnostic, and liberal woman. My most compatible guy was Christian, Conservative, and wanted kids. 😑

Man, the bio clock this is weird even when you dont want kids, like being childfree I dont really want to date folks with kids already and then having to factor in about folks who have want kids on th…

Yeah. And childfree at that

I haven't had that happen. I'm childfree and try to confirm that they don't want kids by the second date. Most of my dates don't go past the second or third date anyway, though.

I'm in the not sure camp and it's a bit weird. I get a sense that people do not pay attention to it at all. I've had guys start talking about "when I have kids" and not even ask me where I stand on th…

It’s 100% worth having a conversation about it early on, that’s for sure. I’ve heard from female friends who are hardline childfree and from others who want kids that they’ve run into situations where…

I'm almost 40, never married, no children, and childfree.

I've recently learned that that me never attending any wedding in my late 30s is weird. So yes, never married, no kids, strongly leaning into childfree concept.

I really should know better by now... I had a first date scheduled for today, and as I was getting ready, I took a gander at his profile once more and realized he didn't indicate whether he has kids.…

I had to break up with someone, again, because they're supporting their ex financially.  I just feel so used. I'm used to dating guys that make less money than I do and picking up the slack on vacat…

It's me. I broke up with him for being financially enmeshed with his ex (childfree, never married). Today he tried to fix it by telling me that they talk all the time and he still talks to her mom. Bl…

Childfree men exist! Don't filter out all the youngwr guys

I think this is actually not too meaningful as I believe these apps intentionally limit the pool that they show at a time. You might see some unusual results now, actually. I remember swiping a bit to…

I’m a bit confused by men in their late 30s or in their 40s who put “don’t know” for the _Want kids?_ question on the apps… I understand the “open to kids”, but I feel like at this point in life, you …

It would most likely be a dealbreaker for childfree women, like myself.

I’m childfree by choice. I wouldn’t really care if it was a casual thing. For a relationship, hmmm… depends on how much time you have for dating, and, thinking long term, how much do you want your par…

It would tank your match rate with childfree men, yes, but that's kinda the point. 😊

I'll tell you this: it gets exponentially harder to find a partner if you want to share common ground in something that's rare. It's already hard to find someone you're genuinely attracted to out of…

Switched to Tinder from FB dating. I like all the features on FB and that everything is free, but it just doesn't have a big enough user base in my area so I kept getting likes from California and Ore…

Im childfree and have to actively mask and turn on my expressions for pregnant people cause i dont actually care. I mean i care about the person but babies dont excite me. Theyre messy and loud and al…

Compatibility! I want a sense of who they are and that they're looking for someone that could be me. So for me that's: childfree, intellectually curious (reading? diverse range of interests?), a bit …

You dont. You are not compatible. It is very very very manipulative to TRAP a childfree person in a long term relationship, thinking they will one day majically change their mind about kids. DO NOT HA…

You have told him what your goals are and what kind of life you want. If he doesn't like those goals, he can leave, or you can leave him. I wonder if he's one of those guys who have this fantasy of …

>He’s been upset, saying that marriage should only be about love Regardless of how focused on financial stability people are the questions you're raising about married are things that anyone would ne…

If you truly do not want children, go over to the subreddit r/childfree in their sidebar is a list of Doctors broken down by state, that will medically sterilize you. Then you never have to worry abo…

I was at a family dinner with my fiance's family, and the topic of maiden names came up. His mom is a famous researcher and has her maiden name on all her research, but legally took her husband's last…

I wrote I was childfree and listed I didn't want children when I used OLD and I got plenty of men who had or wanted kids matching with me. I wouldn't assume anything

i’m childfree so I totally get it. solidarity!

If you still want the procedure, check out the list of doctors in the childfree sub. That’s how I found my provider.

Im childfree but she told my sister exactly the same thing. She shouldn't pay too much attention to them because that would spoil them.. So let them cry their lungs out, and never play with them, basi…

My mom told me I was difficult because I had adhd. I didn’t. She made me do my cousins work who was in th third grade while I was in second grade. So of course I acted up when I got to third grade bec…

My favorite response to this was "I'm not having kids. What else you got?" I've known since I was 14 that I didn't want kids, and my parents didn't believe me for the longest time, so I was happy to …

Yes I'm definitely happier when there's less people around. And no, childfree for life.

As a poly person, I don't know how others do it with kids. All the other poly/enm folks in my social circle are all childfree (including me). You simply don't have the time. Plus with the lifestyle st…

Original copy of post by u/rubys_arms: Asking for advice in a situation that is a bit of a shitshow. I’ll try to make it succinct. I live in the UK but am from a different European country. I, F…

Friends first. You can’t have a partner be your entire social and support system. That would scare me off more than the kid in this case. And I’m childfree seeking same, so that’s saying something.

My gf is 39, childfree and told me she would make a great stepmom. Maybe try that? A woman a bit younger with a kid around the same age? But I would focus more on building your village. Where doe…

OP, the only thing I have in common with you is I’m dating over 40. 41F childfree by choice. I’m here to say no one could ever replace your amazing wife and mother to your son. You could very well fin…

43F, great career, great friends, full life, childfree, and I want to be a stepmom. I want some kids to love. Hope isn’t lost!

Similar here! 44 with a 10yo. The majority of single dads (even though they won’t admit it) are chasing much younger, childfree girls and/or physically unable to commit.

I’m surprised this perspective hasn’t come up earlier. One option is he lied to her, another is that he changed his mind. Another is that what he said and what she heard is two different things - I ha…

Oh I totally agree of course all men are different. If anything it speaks more to me being jaded. However, that comes more from problematic accumulation post divorce. I am maybe the female version…