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I found out what my girlfriend is talking about behind my back with ChatGPT M24, F27 — I'm a 24-year-old guy. My girlfriend is 27, and we've been dating for two years. I moved to the city to be with I'm a 24-year-old guy. My girlfriend is 27, and we've been dating for two years. I moved…
This is a support sub. Be kind to each other. — Almost everyone who comes here is here because they are going through a very painful and difficult time. We're not all at our best. If you go into someone's topic, remember that they came here askin…
Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …
Multiple dreams/goal at the time — Hi everyone, im new here. I work the book Psycho-cybernetics for almost 2 years and last week i bought POSM and i LOVE it, i almost finished it and will start re-reading it. My question is, since i h…
Different Businesses Need Different Content Formats – Here's Why (i will not promote) — Hey everyone! One thing I see often overlooked is the fact that **not all businesses need the same type of content formats**. Depending on your target audience and the type of business you run, the …
using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads — I recently led a Reddit content repurposing campaign that got over **4 million impressions** and **hundreds of new user signups** for my client. Here's exactly how I did it. # Why Reddit, and why use…
Thank you — I'm in one of the healthiest relationships I've ever been in, and this subreddit—along with my therapist—has helped me in a big way. I still get triggered, but I'm better at self-soothing and have lea…
Will my ex FA ever stop resenting me? — I was with my ex (FA) for 2 years, amazing connection and relationship. She broke up after a rough period (lots of changes + frequent arguments, not too intense) saying she was overwhelmed. Later she …
Friendships — Hey, super random, but a while back, my friend and I had this conversation. I was just sort of thinking about romantic relationships as friendships. It occurred to me that I was no anxious when it cam…
Honestly? I enjoy lucid nightmares. — Is anybody else like this? We've all had out fair share of absurd random chaotic dreams, but I actually prefer nightmares to those. While I'm having them, they suck, but when I wake up I love thinking…
Update: How can I(20F) tell my boyfriend (20M) about my sexual preferences when he has already expressed disgust over it? — Alright, so even though no one asked for it I’m back with an update. First of all, thank you to everyone that commented, I swear on everything that I read each and every single comment. Thank you for…
Block them. That's all I have to say. — So, in July last year I went through this HORRIBLE heartbreak. And when I say it was a really awful breakup, trust me, it was. Almost four years of a strong relationship ended in a 5-minute call. My e…
hello, everyone. How's it going? i am sure your are doing your best. — what is the best game for the mind and for mental health? Because I think in personal development, the most important thing starts from the brain. Every battle starts from the brain. Just a casual que…
OKAY LISTEN Y'ALL. — I don't know which tag this would come under but I just have to say this because the amount of 'im gonna give up' , 'its not working' ' what am I doing wrong' posts am seeing is insaneee. First of all…
Related advice from Alan Watts — In this short talk, I learned a lot. Mainly regarding one of my frustrations with trying to " achieve focus 12" he discusses how meditation is not meant to be goal driven. He relates it to music when …
Finally sober, but I bedrot every day and can't do anything... need help — Hey all, 31F with ADHD and struggling to get out of bed lately. It takes so much energy just to survive. To eat. To go to work. I used to be a drunk, and I drank all of my 20s away. I was an ugly drun…
Which hairstyle and haircut would you recommend ? — [20]M, I would go to a hair saloon soon enough for a haircut but I am quite unsure on which style I should ask. I saw many Asian rocking with a wolf cut or a mullet but I don't know if this would be g…
I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…
I’m scared I’m the kind of mom people talk about here, even though I’m trying so hard not to be… — I found this group after typing into google “how can I get strength to parent after being so tired from work” on a Friday afternoon. I’ve been reading through this forum and it’s honestly been sit…
I Changed Myself and Got it All — Hello, I’ve been wanting to write this post for a very long time. Grab a snack and come along for the ride! **The Beginning: April - October 2022** I discovered Neville 4 years ago; after a year of …
Ive decided — Ive decided i’m gonna get over him now. Im gonna lock in on not stalking and genuinely trying to heal. He made his decision on going back to the girl he told me not to worry about. So why should i be …
“ he never harmed me” good to know my suffering meant so little to you — My ex husband left me for the mistress 6 years ago. It was hell. I am still to this day dealing with the trauma of having the person you trusted and loved so much just pull the rug from under your li…
Should I stop meditating? — I’m a 22 year old male I have been meditating since I was 15 but recently I’ve been thinking about stopping it all together. Now I feel like I use meditation as an escape when I have a lot of energy a…
My ex destroyed his life after we broke up — I don’t even know why I’m writing this, but everything has escalated so much that I just need to get this off my chest. I (33F) was in a relationship for more than 14 years with my ex, let’s call him…
I’m a 3 x National Champion in my sport and struggling — Hi, Not quite sure where to post so I thought here would be best. Happy to post in any other places if I have the wrong place and open to recommendations :) I’m my country’s current National champ…
My ex broke up with me 4 months ago. I sent a message breaking no contact. Her response destroyed me. — International relationship — she's Brazilian, I'm Arab. We truly loved each other, but the distance, cultural differences, and wanting different things ended it all. It was the right decision, but the…
Why don’t i want to improve myself — A late night thought ik. But i realised I never had a specific goal in life. I was mentally bullied by my one of my seniors during high school but i continued putting up with her because i had “nowher…
"We can see each other, but i cant give you what you're looking for" — Someone said this to me, and i was so so confused ..... felt like a cop out so i just said "thanks for your honesty, i respect what you're saying and wanna wish you all the best. I hope you find the p…
Just trying to gain closure on my own... — This is something I wrote in my journal, trying to process emotions and gain closure. Lori, Since you would not give me the opportunity for closure, I'm going to do what I can to get it here. This…
Long distance breakup — My partner (29F) and I (24M) are now separated and in no contact for about 4 weeks now. We ended on good terms but she said she thinks the relationship ran its course and we did our best. I've been th…
Getting a story about an ex from 20 years ago off my chest — TLDR: Had a weird break up. Reached out after 20 years. Got a response that made me feel bad. Learned a lesson about not trusting what people say during a break up, instead listen to what they do. I …
I have wasted my potential and success — Hello, I'm from an Asian country, and I'm 27 years old. I studied English language and teaching for 5 years. After I graduated I worked for 1.5 years. I did not work for 2 years, and I stayed at famil…
Wasted my years and potential success — Hello, I'm from an Asian country, and I'm 27 years old. I studied English language and teaching for 5 years. After I graduated I worked for 1.5 years. I did not work for 2 years, and I stayed at famil…
Should I ask the mistress — My husband and I have been married for 11 years and he had an emotional affair with another woman he met online. The healing process has been strained at best. For months there was resentment and blam…
Being an adrenaline junkie in my DR — ​ I’ll be completely honest with you guys: I originally only got into shifting because I wanted to get boned. I have a terrible time connecting with people in this CR, so that was my main moti…
Partner started therapy — Therapy for our relationship but more so for how he thinks/feels. We both know this is a wonderful relationship, and we love each other very very much! I truly can say there’s nothing bad or has be…
UPDATE: I found out my fiancé slept with his ex a year into our relationship 3 years ago — [Here is a link to my original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/s/2ArIlwSYpf) A while back I posted about a relationship filled with betrayal- sexual, financial, and emotional. We t…
29F 35M Bf giving me an ultimatum for not wanting a dog after 4yrs of being together — My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years and have been living together for 3 years. He had a dog before living together and although I don’t like dogs it was something I accepted becau…
Letting go of someone early due to practical reasons, but it hurts. — TL;DR - Decided to end things due to practical reasons, but it doesn't feel okay. Around three months ago, I (28/m) met this woman (43/f) at a local pub. During this time, I was spending my days in …
i hate missing him — a rant, i assume we broke up on the 19th, and went no contact on the 22nd. i have been trying to stay busy, distract myself. i found his hoodie and shorts he left at my house, i’ve been sleeping in t…
Breakup with fearful avoidant — So I just want to tell my story of how the breakup is and how I assume that the person who broke up with me is fearful avoidant after analysing what happened and what was going on. I want to get some …
Feeling conflicted after he confessed — My boyfriend and I were together for a little less than a year and a half. I thought we had a really healthy relationship. I never felt jealous or insecure and genuinely trusted him completely. I love…
If I am going to heal, I need to stop looking at this sub — I love you guys and I want to help give people advice when I can, but I think I need to stop going on this sub. Its been two months now, and I'm out of the initial shock phase and I'm starting to pick…
The importance of Asian male role models — I'm a long time lurker and I'd like to share my perspective as a half Asian millennial guy in the US. Having strong Asian male role models has been key to my development as a person. My dad was Chine…
Fiance cheated on me, gave her a chance, then dumped me. — It's been almost a month since I found out. She didn't confess; I caught her by seeing the pictures her co-worker sent to her phone. We're Christians. She works in a big congregation here in our count…
Manifesting a change in behavior. — Hello! I wished to share a perspective about manifesting change in behavior of yourself or maybe your partner or a family member... Break up with them. That's it. So before you perceived that pers…
Day 6 — 6 days since. Today was another pretty good day. Still think about her/us all the time. I try to listen to music as much as I can to drown out those thoughts but they still come in. If you are reading…
My mom reported my partner who is a medical professional of sexual misconduct — Trauma dump incoming lol. Trigger warning for sexual assault. My mom reported my partner who is a medical professional of sexual misconduct claiming I was her patient. Now that I have had some space…
I broke no contact with my ex this week. Here's some things that have helped me — After being with my now ex-boyfriend for nearly 2 years and getting ghosted last week, I broke no contact with him last night. I did get a response, but I didn't read much into it. It was just that he…
Thank you to this community. — After posting yesterday, I received a lot of support and feedback from kind redditors. I just wanted to say thank you. Every comment helped me reflect deeper and I have been able to let go of wanting …
So my husband turned me on to the idea that my weird dreams are something called lucid dreaming and showed me this sub. Pumped to be here! So periodically I will experience DILD and take control of …
This is a great read, thank you for the effort put into it. As someone who sort of knew they were emotionally neglected but never really understood it was a real thing before I discovered this sub, t…
I hear you buddy. I loved my ex so much, and still love her, even though I could never take her back. But what really hurts is as you described - she blind-sided me and could not care less. I, on the …
That’s fair. My partner isn’t totally absent during those periods, just a little less present or social than usual when I do notice it. So it’s not like I’m going from hot to cold, more like warm and …
>I have had conversations with my partner over time about attachment styles, and they eventually determined that the descriptions of Avoidant Attachment sounds awfully familiar to them. They have star…
Fearful-avoidants lovebomb you and then drop you when you're getting too close. They seem secure in the beginning. Watch videos of Heidi Priebe on YouTube, they're helpful. All the best.
That's good to hear. Glad you're doing better. Wish you the best.
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Congrats buddy and all the best. It's hard but worth it.
Though this wasn't for me, this was so beautiful and moving to read. I'm pleased for your growth and journey. It also shows that you possess emotional intelligence, which seems like a rare gem 💎. All…
>The no contact has been brutal. As if none of it meant anything. Especially when all you hear is so much “if they wanted to they would” and “they always come back” rhetoric. For me it was confusing a…
Thank’s bro trying my best.
Keep that guard up. You losing interest is your healing, so make sure you don't undo it. She is not out of the woods yet - if work makes her so stressed out she is unable to communicate, I'd watch out…
Thank him for the apology, tell him you've moved on (don't elaborate. He'll think you have someone new). Wish him the best.
Been there you’ll go back into the cycle let him go u deserve the best. Someone who always wants u around but not when things get tough. I’m going through it right now been tough but not gonna let him…
The reason it's not working is because it's not fixable. Forcibly applying secure behavior does nothing, it's not who you are, you're like an actor at best. My advice is to stay in transactional relat…
As someone who is a few days on the other side of the “I need space” deactivation, withdrawal whatever you want to call it. This will only end with an ugly break up (past week) I wish I had been stro…
So true. I was a secure and became anxious after being with an avoidant for 24 years. I became secure again and after 14 years of being broke up, he love bombed me, we got back together. It was great …
I see you're posting again. No blame here- I am commending you for posting here instead of reaching out to your friend. Give her space. She is clearly nonverbally communicating that she needs it. T…
Judge all you I don't care I'm trying my best.
I wanna apologize to you and all avodants. I've been hurt in the past and actively participated in demonizing Avodants. It’s easier to view avodants as monster than hurt people trying their best. It’s…
Thanks for being understanding. My home environment wasn’t safe my dad once threaten to “spilt my head open” while he was drunk and I’m pretty sure my mom never loved me in a real sense, but no one sh…
Thank you for your wisdom. Gonna give it my best.
It might not even be intentional but it might be something like that… indecision at best. No need to entertain it at OP’s expense though. It’s unfortunate but when people tell you where you stand you …
I gotcha. I asked because I was just curious. Your boyfriend sounds a lot like how I used to be. I never realized I had DA until a couple years ago. Most of what I attributed to depression and anxie…
You're welcome, glad it could help. We actually broke up today, unfortunately, but I guess it was for the best. I know it's going to be a painful grieving process and I still love him very much but …
The same ‘fight’ keeps getting picked as I’m trying to educate the world about how psychiatry is questionable medicine at best. The problem here is the world believes that it is real medicine, thus …
I'm an FA and I agree with my friend here. You kind of can't. It would be a little codependent of you to try to navigate it for her. All you can do is be consistent in your behavior according to your …
Though as I can guess from any other attachment style (or even mental health issue/relational pattern in general) every person is different, I imagine clarity and communication are key here. I would o…
I used to struggle with this and at times I still do. I was very honest with my partner from early days about my issues and he is so supportive and kind. I think honestly is important! I also try to …
Hello yall maybe I can find some support in here, I'll try to simplify as much as I can. So me and ex partner/best friend reconnected about 2 months ago and we both said we're gonna do our best. No la…
I know it can be expensive but you mentioned in your original post you have a good career. You also, in your own words, are desperate to date someone. Are you really not able to come up with ~$100 dol…
Hey man, I just want to say I'm very sorry for what you're going through. I wish you the courage to get over this. I'm going through a rough time after a breakup with someone I believe to be FA (but h…
Text of original post by u/DaniT0n: Hey, super random, but a while back, my friend and I had this conversation. I was just sort of thinking about romantic relationships as friendships. It occurred to …
Here’s some perspective. You barely know this person - it’s only been a month. He is still a stranger. People have lives and communication while overseas is tricky at best. Your expectations seem a …
Yeah, we’ve both had talks how the long distance is likely putting a strain on things - especially as we both move into more full-time jobs and are showing up to our somewhat nightly calls tired from …
I've been dating this woman for 3 months, fantastic, love her. The honeymoon period ended pretty abruptly when she suddenly "stopped feeling it". A couple days, therapy sessions, and some very long co…
If you can access therapy I think that would be best. Try do things to increase your self esteem and self confidence. I also like to talk to my inner child and give her the care she didn’t get as a ch…
So, I heard a saying once when I was going through a really bad OCD flair, I think this will help. ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway’. Anxiety comes at us in waves. We have to feel the wave wash over us…
I appreciate how much time you put into this. It’s well written and you’ve got some genuinely interesting ideas here. That said, it’s important to add some context so people don’t mistake this for set…
I was hoping he would, but I know I need to be able to manage myself right now as I might just get angry at him this time if he acts helpless around me like last night. I don't want to get mad at him …
That's ok if he's sad about it. It sounds harsh, but people get dumped and have to move out every day. Pain after a breakup is normal and natural, not something to be prevented. He's allowed to be dis…
I can relate. I think for me it wasn't about feeling like they couldn't care for me, but my own overviligant need to prevent preventable things paired with being in an overfunctioning role with someon…
Yeah the anxious spiral can be brutal. Treat this like a breakup almost. There's grieving involved in a chapter of your friendship ending and another one beginning. Allow yourself and make space for…
I'm (23f) currently a few days post broke up and naturally it has been devastating. I broke up with my boyfriend (23m) because after 7 months ultimately because he didn't love me. He said he was …
Wow I am sorry. I have felt similarly before and it is such a terrible thing to experience. There was a time, even, where I was paranoid that I was NPD (despite being, if anything, the complete opposi…
Have you tried taking an SSRI? Or have you tried using Chatgbt to talk about things? If you ask CGBT to use science and psychology, it can ground all answers in empirical knowledge and this can be re…
I'm not the person you responded to, but in my opinion, insecure attachment patterns (like trauma dumping early on, keeping score, or obsessively seeking out your partner's time) create "faux-closenes…