the only reason

I disagree that it comes across that way to any reasonable perspn who isnt looking to grind their axe. I dont know where you got "the only reason" from, I was never exclusionary to other possibilities…

To-do lists in text form don’t fit our way of thinking, they are slow and unproductive. To-Do Models is the way to go. — I’ve found Projects modeled visually instead of written in flat lists to be wayy more productive and successful. Traditional to-do lists are linear—one-dimensional. You follow a fixed path: top to bot…

Did anyone elses parents correct your reality growing up? — I just realised that whenever i would be upset and overwhelmed because of my parents pressuring me constnatly they would instead tell me that i am feelig overwhlemed because i am just too overwhelmed …

Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…

My boyfriend and I had an argument over his marriage demands, and now he claims he means none of it... — Tl:dr: My boyfriend of two years has a list of requirements from me after we get married, and after our argument over it, which lead us to break up-- he said he didn't mean any of it and wants to go …

Wife cheated on me with multiple men over the course of 3 months. — Me (31m) found out this past December that my wife (27f) had been talking to as many as 20+ people on Snapchat (non nude but inappropriate photos, sexting, ect.). I confronted before new years by tell…

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

Met up with ex after no contact for over 10 months.It went pleasantly. — For anybody wondering whether they should reach out, it went well for me. I was also uncertain how it would go. The relationship ended very badly, we did therapy and it didnt help. I thought id never…

Divorce really messes with your head. — You spend years thinking you know someone, building a life, raising a kid together, and then one day they blindside you. What’s even crazier is when they act like you weren’t blindsided. I’ve literall…

Manifestation technique that I came up with that helped me sm!! — I made a post on here a couple week ago about how I manifested full health and I realized that I left out a very important technique that I thought about and experimented with. I previously couldn’t m…

My ex-wife tried to kill me a few years ago. She just moved in three houses down from me. — I’m struggling with how to even process this. A few years back, things with my ex-wife reached a breaking point. She was struggling with substance abuse, alcohol and pills, and I had discovered she’d …

I (26F) told my boyfriend (26M) I sometimes miss the freedom of being single and he broke up with me on my birthday — I (26F) have been with my boyfriend (26M) for about 2.5 years. A couple nights ago we were lying down together and having a really open conversation about different things going on in our lives. The …

I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough! — I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough I just came back from a 4 week long vacation in Turks and Caicos in the Caribbean. This was the 10th year in a row I have don…

Leaving them unblocked only hurts you — Though I started to see my narc ex for what he was and began detaching a few month ago, I still left him unblocked. I hoped he would message me either to apologize or give me 'proof' he was a narc. I …

BF stayed in contact with an old hookup. Should I be worried? — Dating a wonderful man for almost two years. We both are divorced and were cheated on. So we’ve both come into this acknowledging that trust is hard for us but we’ve consistently communicated well. I …

Just say this — Guys! Life is too short to argue with your limiting beliefs, doubt, fears and 3D's impulsive dance in front of your human eyes. So... Just say ***I AM ALREADY IN BARBADOS*** *and* ***enjoying my happ…

“ he never harmed me” good to know my suffering meant so little to you — My ex husband left me for the mistress 6 years ago. It was hell. I am still to this day dealing with the trauma of having the person you trusted and loved so much just pull the rug from under your li…

Spent money on clothes, grooming, and a Miami photoshoot for dating apps. Still getting weak matches. What am I missing? — I’m frustrated because I actually put real effort into this. I didn’t just throw up random selfies and then complain. I bought better clothes, changed my hair, spent money on grooming, flew to Miami,…

Partner (27F) wants to separate (26F) following her cancer diagnosis. — My girlfriend of almost two years was diagnosed with cancer last week and she texted me yesterday that because she "doesn't want to weigh (me) down" with her treatments ahead. She asked for space for …

Come Rant/Tell me about your Drs! — Repost : since my first successful shift less than a two weeks ago (still so crazy to me) I have hopped around 4 drs. The Odyssey, Poppy playtime, Death note and my current fav Madoka magic. To be fai…

Are my mom and sister codependent? — ​ I really need some outside perspective because this situation is driving me crazy. I moved closer to my family recently, and ever since then, my relationship with my sister has gone downhil…

Was anyone else chronically misunderstood as a child? — I know that a lot of teenagers go through a phase when they feel misunderstood, but honestly, a lot of them are right. Between the ages of 14 and 17, my parents would treat me like I was the devil r…

Would you forgive this ? — (Ex’s name) I know we aren’t together anymore but since there are still feelings there and we are still present in each others lives I feel like you should know. Last night at the party I got really …

Rebound? — Recently, I have become closer to one of my friends. He's cute, and I think he's into me, but I suspect that he is using me as a rebound for his ex. I think he broke up with his gf of a year (maybe …

3 months — 3 months and 1 day in. It has not gotten better, in many ways it's gotten worse. My coworkers were arguing about some stupid bullshit again today, knowing that i could tell her all about it at the e…

Need to write out what I've been dealing with for 3 months now — I cannot believe how much has happened in such a short amount of time. I met this guy back in mid-December and we had both recently gotten out of relationships in which we were both burned. At first…

Struggling — I’m going through it all. Been almost a month now since the breakup and I’ve had great days and horrible days. Some advice i seem to hear constantly is “You should be happy that you were able to love …

am i overreacting or is she trying to drive me into suicide? — posting this feels a bit embarrassing and i feel like i might be overreacting. im 16, turning 17 this october and im afraid i wont make it till then. my mother’s a covert malignant narcissist. i’ve be…

My first and biggest success story - the story of my life — Hello everyone, I wanted to share my first ever success story with you all. It’s a really big one! I was VERY, VERY young (like a toddler lol) during this story so I wasn’t even aware I was using the …

The fact that someone as terrible and disgusting as me has been allowed to live this long is the world's worst joke. — **(This is a repost of a post I made a while ago, which I am reposting because I'm back in a slump again. There aren't any major changes other than the ending bit.)** 20M. This might be the longest p…

My Nmom claims her "therapist" told her to stop giving me love, since it was "enabling" me to "abuse" her. (I think her "therapist" is an AI.) — I haven't visited my mom in private in almost five years. I have seen her at a couple of necessary public outings. The reason being... she effectively held me captive for three years in my 20s. *That'…

My implant experience. — My abduction story: https://www.reddit.com/r/Experiencers/s/xQyjzIRjiQ This is one of several experiences I’ve had after my abduction. For context, the abduction itself happened in 2018, and this pa…

How can I make people actually like me? — I feel like the only reason people actually talk to me and don't think I'm a loser is because I go to the gym and have a slightly above average physique compared to the rest of my school. I dont do an…

Should i give up on shifting? Is it possible that I'm just not meant to do it? — I know this question must sound super annoying by now, so I expect a lot of people will just skip over this post and that's okay, I don't want anyone to feel like they "need to help me", not at all. H…

I cheated and want to change — Hey, just going to be blunt. I was actively cheating on my girlfriend, honestly the literal best and most perfect person in my life…multiple times with the same person. Long story short, they both fou…

My friend and neighbor (39F) assaulted my husband (34m) and I am livid. How would you handle the situation? — My best friend and neighbor had a bad year. She has been in treatment for breast cancer and finally finished her tree so we were celebrating. We were out I dinner with other friend and she drank too m…

Saw my narc mom for the first time in 2 years. The night ended in tears. I feel like I messed up? — I'm 28, married and have a 4 year old. I cut my narc mom off 2 years ago because she is verbally, emotionally, and financially abusive. She was/is an addict, a habitual liar, and someone who has made …

Are you happy now? — I've been completely alone ever since I moved out 7 years ago. I had to distance myself from my friends and extended family because my mother was using them to keep tabs on me and I didn't find out un…

How about parents who were just ignorant or mentally unwell — Alot of posts here talk about very narcisstic and actively horrible parents. But what about parent who just weren't mentally well. My dad is like that. He's emotionally neglectful, but he's not acti…

I (20M) broke up with my (20F) girlfriend and now regret it. How can I rebuild trust and potentially fix things? — So for context, me and my now ex (we'll call her Jessica) had been together for 10 months prior to the breakup. The relationship was going great until about 5 months in, when Jessica and her family mo…

When/How do I tell my parents that I don’t want to be in the medical field? — I’m 17, turning 18 in a couple of months getting ready for college. My parents think I’m going into biochemistry to become a doctor, but in reality I’m majoring in theatre with an education emphasis. …

Is this movement or am I being delusional? Need advice on manifesting SP — Hi everyone, I could really use some guidance (and maybe a reality check) on my situation. I was casually seeing this guy for a while, but it turned into something much deeper. We both fell in love. …

Doing EMDR made me realize how much shame I internalized and how messed up my mom was. — I've been doing EMDR for a while mostly working on other stuff and trauma from my adult romantic relationships. We are finally getting into my relationship with my mom which I knew would be difficult.…

New fear unlocked — I 23f am feeling really anxious and honestly kind of scared about something that just hit me recently. In about 3 months, I’ll be finishing school and starting work. And I realized that school has ba…

My roommate (NB18) is evil or I'm (FTM18) insane? Advice please — So, my roommate (NB18) is very autistic and has a problem with people being in the room while they're there. I've (FTM18) been very respectful about it up until I got a boyfriend (M18). I have done my…

She said “I don’t feel the same anymore” and that was it — We were together for years. No major fights. No big issues. Everything felt normal… until one day she said she doesn’t feel the same anymore. That was the only reason. No explanation. No closure. J…

I dont want to live like this (but I will keep living) — long vent just typing to keep myself focused on this instead of hurting myself. i am the most safe and lucky and happy ive been in my whole life and i still just dont want to be here. ive worked thr…

URGENT: Is this movement or am I being delusional? Need advice on manifesting SP — (posting again cuz I didn't get any responses last time) Hi everyone, I could really use some guidance (and maybe a reality check) on my situation. I was casually seeing this guy for a while, but it …

I think my mum is a narcissist? — I was fostered by my foster mum at age of 9. She was incredibly controlling and strict all my life and I always accepted it as she's trying to protect/look after me. Now at 24 I've come to realise th…

I am a genuine disgusting, horrible piece of shit, and I don't know what to do about it. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD (I'm not officially diagnosed) and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years…

my mom has not helped my first year of University... — hey there. I am a first year at uni and my mom is a single mom of me and my 2 half siblings (5 & 6). I am 18 and just finishing my first year. Originally she told me not to apply out of province becau…

Just because its on [thesaurus.com](http://thesaurus.com) and just because uneducated englishmen have been using it wrongly over the years, doesn't mean it is correct. A little critical thinking would…

I understand. Glad you are working through those feelings. I hope I did not come off judgemental. I definitely don't think that your feelings are irrational (I might agree with the inappropriate part …

No, my statement has nothing to do with validation. I find when someone says 'that's invalidating', they haven't sat down and thought about what they're saying. And why would I need to constantly vali…

I hear you and I can see that your comment is grounded in past experiences. Fair enough. The only reason I chose to pursue this was because I had new found knowledge. This was the first time I've date…

To be clear I’m stating all this because I had this happen with my wonderful FA bf, and I waited first, got very stressed and after two months told him I couldn’t anymore. We got back together within …

Well like I said before the only reason the closeness would make them push the other person away is not because of the closeness itself, but it's because they would start to feel that they have more t…

That's a lot. Getting a list with all the things someone doesn't like about you is already really hard to swallow, even harder when it's given by a person you loved and trusted very dearly. Not only d…

\> Honestly, I would legitimately rather die than be single for another 3, 4, 5 years. I'm over it. Thats really problematic and would drive most sane persons away if they get the feeling that they a…

You are unconsciously putting distance between yourself and others and it's tricking your brain into thinking love isn't possible. You probably need therapy to learn to be vulnerable, as avoidance sys…

>You are unconsciously putting distance between yourself and others and it's tricking your brain into thinking love isn't possible. You probably need therapy to learn to be vulnerable, as avoidance sy…

Because I don't feel that way towards 95% of guys I've gone out with, and I've gone out with a lot. It's just when my anxiety has been triggered it's been after at least a month. The ex I felt in lov…

I agree with you there and I thought the same thing when I read her post. The only reason I thought that though is because my current partner has done similar things, almost being thoughtless or not c…

As someone who is currently quitting smoking and has had partners worry/stress about it in the past, the biggest place that I see this go wrong is that partners focus on the *act* of smoking and mista…

I 19M have an anxious attachment that most likely arise from previous long distance relationships, my partner 18F has an avoidant attachment and we just started our relationship. I’m just wondering i…

Completely untrue for me. If your only source for this is chatgpt, please dont believe that. Ive never seen an avoidant including Dismissive Avoidant people describe their relationships this way. What…

I’m glad someone said it! Haha This guy couldn’t feel less enthused about the whole thing. There’s nothing here. The only reason he’s seemingly not sending the rejection text is because he said he’s…

Based on your responses, the only reason *not* to reject her is because you'd feel bad about it. Just send a text that says you didn't feel a romantic connection/spark/etc. I promise, people send and …

The only reason I disagree with this is because it takes ALOT of courage to break up with someone you love and it usually is always so easy to find excuses like it’s not a good day for any one of a mi…

It doesn't matter how amicable it is, it's still a breaking of the only reason you spent anytime interacting with each other. Every woman during one of my breakups has said she still wants to be frie…

Survivorship bias The only reason it's a cute story, is because they're still together. If you sat them down and made them explain every other time they felt that exact feeling, but it didn't work, i…

you broke up for a reason. you're both just lonely and single and that's the only reason this seems like something worth entertaining.

I think you're right in assuming he wants to date. Anecdotally the only reason I can think of where I'd say I wasn't really looking to date at the moment was getting overwhelmed by the assumed bagga…

>I don’t know whether I need to leave it, it’s not important or irreplaceable but at this point I’m so mad at how disrespectful he’s been that it’s the principle as much as anything. Life lesson: Don…

I guess nothing would happen if I clarify, unless he senses that I am interested in him & that makes him uncomfortable? Yes I have terrible anxiety, of course I know it's disproprotionate, but that…

Finally getting cracked tonight. I’ve been abstinent trying to wait on someone who wants to get to know me and take me on a date. I’ve talked to 20+ guys and can’t find one that remains interested.…

Right!? I constantly get told "NO WAY!" When people find out my age. My response is always to chuckle and say "these eyebags would not look right on a 20 year old." It doesn't matter how old I look…

Yeah that's the only reason someone is told to date younger

That’s the only reasonable explanation.

Is this a friend? Someone you're dating? A friend you want to date? I love getting flowers, and the only reason I'd be bothered if it was from a creepy stalker or someone who was persisting in showin…

In terms of the filling for divorce it depends on where you live and that can dictate when you file. We have a family friend who’s legally still married to her husband even though they have agreed to…

I was always that person who said I’d never date someone who is separated/not officially divorced or even someone who is less than 6 months out of the divorce being finalized. Welp… I somehow ended …

The only reason they seem like they’re good at talking their way out of shit is that it doesn’t take much for other yt people to agree with them. So even half assed shit willl get the rest of them to …

You should take the opportunity and break up with her and when she asks why you say something along the lines of “I want to be with someone that respects our relationship and confident in being togeth…

What are you talking about? Everything in that list still has to be marital, i.e. “splitting what you built together,” in order to be considered equitable assets. **Hiding** marital assets doesn’t som…

Two more phone chats today then finished with this round. 15 matches, I swipe with pretty much everyone as I only know from interacting if we'll get along. 5 unmatched me when I asked early on if they…

Similar shit happened to me with someone I thought was a close friend. They had recently become hyper religious (like gabby hanna type) and when I decided to report a sexual assault that happened year…

My money is on: he's having an affair and the affair partner is sending the messages. Most people, if presented with this from a partner, would react with initial confusion, but if they truly were n…

Probably wasn’t the only reason. Good chance he branded you as crazy and she believed him over you. He may have proposed to her during an idealization phase but those never last with his personality t…

I've been separated for about 1.5 years (not my choice) and the only reason we aren't divorced is because she needs my health insurance for cancer treatment. We have a child and coparent well, still g…

I’m gonna be honest here brother - you are young, no kids. Leave this woman, keep going to therapy, and become the man that attracts women who value you. The only reason she even told you is because…

Unfortunately, this was me when I ended my marriage. He was not a good husband and I tried for way too long to make it work… on my own. I was miserable and absolutely resentful when I ended it, and …

Hi. I am 27 (F), got married 6 months back. Dated the guy for 1.5 yrs before we got married. The sex before the marriage was great, as he knew it is a concern for me as sexual incompatibility is a dea…

I am reading your post and the thread below, and I just want to validate your exhaustion. When you feel like the world is collapsing and your safest memories are locked 12 years in the past, being tol…

The only reason I have any contact with my father is because my mother lives with him. 

Let me try to bring you back to reality because I felt the same as you once. For one your narcissistic ex cheated on you. That in itself is betrayal and disrespect. They don’t respect you and they mos…

How often do you split the bill on first dates? I went on a first date yesterday, and she offered to split so we split it. The date was 50-50, would need a second date to see if there is a connection…

See, economics are the only reason I would live with another person. I’m living w my 80 year old mom now. It’s not great and if she or my dad dies, I’m homeless. But even with a good job, I can’t affo…

not trying to say its a psyop, just saying in history it was used in this matter, if you don't think thats relevant today thats fiar. however like i said i don't think its exclusive, and i would love …

Differences are as much about technology as they are about culture. His whole complaint against shaving etc. is that it was motivated by wanting to look good. But, this was at a time when shaving, hai…

Well, I understand that continuing to be hypomanic isn't the best thing. There are risks, and the only reason to try to stop hypomania isn't to want the person to be as sad as they were before, lol. O…