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When are people going to understand that saying "just give up" is not advice. They are both 18 and you read a passage about someone you don't know, people slip up here and there and sometimes just n…
I’m starting to panic 😨 — Ok I’ve ran an online boutique for about 5 years now but it has never been this slow. Then, I talked to my vendors and they basically said in order to avoid the tariffs, they will first ship to anothe…
Is there sometimes no hope? — Good afternoon, DevOps people of Reddit. I want to know if anyone else is feeling this. I have been brought on a project to help this company achieve DevOps practices. My main issue is that I am getti…
Should I find a business partner? Sell Or just give up? My business has potential but I don't have to energy to make it happen. — I started a business about two and a half years ago. It is quite niche and has potential but I haven't been able to get over the tipping point of making it really work. We have great processes and a…
Perimenopause and dating — For the ladies. I'm 40F. I'm oh so very lucky that I'm going through perimenopause early. 😑 TBH, I feel ugly these days. My face has changed in the last year and I'm gaining a little bit of weight,…
I am ruining my life and I feel like i cant stop it — Hello everyone and let me say thank you for taking the time to read and/or respond. Our time is valuable and I want you to know thst I genuinely appreciate you giving your time to a stranger... This …
fiancee of 3 years just broke up — im just whining, its all my fault but I can't live with it. i helped him escape from his murderous transphobic mother and we started living together. shortly after he let his military father take him …
He is finally moving out — And I am a mess. Why do I feel like this? I don’t want to be with him. I know he is bad for me. I know he will never change. I have a 15-years long list of abuse and shit he has put me through and y…
Y’all were right about manifesting… — Y’all were right about not caring about the 3d. Y’all were right about persisting. Y’all were right about the importance of self concept. After so long, I finally got my manifestation. When I menta…
They texted me on my birthday — I posted this previously to this subreddit and posted it to r/whatdoIdo where it gained some traction. This wasn't actually a relationship ex but a friendship ex I was close with. We were very close f…
My ex broke up with me over text 4 months ago [VENT] — hello, so idk who to tell this too, so im just gonna say it on here. My ex (16M) broke up with me (16F) around 4 months ago via text. This relationship almost lasted 2 years, and it was both our firs…
My ex broke up with me over text 4 months ago [VENT] — ​ hello, so idk who to tell this too, so im just gonna say it on here. My ex (16M) broke up with me (16F) around 4 months ago via text. This relationship almost lasted 2 years, and it was bot…
Is 20 too late for a relationship — turning 20 next month and I've pretty much never experienced any sort of romantic interaction. I've never kissed, held hands, lol I've never even had someone look at me with love. I've been in a coupl…
Me, 24m, and my gf, 24f has been thinking if we should fix our 8-year relationship or just breakup. what should we do? — For context, me, 24M, am a college student in his last year of college, I also need 1 more year to prepare for board exams. My gf, 24F, are in an 8-year relationship and its safe to say we have handle…
Anyone else been execution disfunctional/ frozen for months — Honestly had it for years but these last few months is actually hell, i dont know what to do anymore. Its like i literally cant do anything other than rot except if i drink or drink a fucktom of caffe…
I don’t even know — Growing up my dad was almost always emotionally very distant. He worked a lot and still does and I feel like that is the thing he cares about most in his life. He has always been glued to his work and…
How to get rid of the hope that there ever coming back to you? — So without going into too much detail, because it's a long complicated story, It's been about 5 months since The breakup happened and I'm still not doing great. It was my first really great relationsh…
So if it’s not possible to heal without practicing what we learn in therapy every day within a relationship, should we just give up? I just want to be a bit more reasonable with avoidants who expres…
Ah I see that now sorry. My response remains the same though because I literally agree with you and didn’t claim otherwise. But the person I was responding to said we shouldn’t be dating at all bec…
that certainly would also work, it is worth exploring different paths, which overall what I wanted person complaining to me to try to do something instead of just give up
Ugh I hate comments like that. I had a friend in a group chat once say “if my friends aren’t married by 40 then it’s never happening for them.” I was like damn okay, guess I’ll just give up then!
Should I just give up and get my first cat? Like I go onto these apps and get no matches and men don't respond when I message. I get that I'm ugly but... you know what, fuck it, I'm getting a cat.
disenfranchised grief? [https://www.fhpcc.com/disenfranchised-grief](https://www.fhpcc.com/disenfranchised-grief) it's one thing to accept that something won't happen and move on, another when it's c…
I find it easy to approach new people tbh if I am just looking to have a conversation or comment on something that we have in common etc; I am a very sociable/gregarious person so its not hard to make…
Honestly, I get pretty disappointed. Last person I had a dinner date with showed up in shorts and toe shoes whereas I showed up in a little black dress, heels, makeup on point, and nails done. It was …
Im trying my best to be positive and put myself out there, put in effort and everything but its getting frustrating and depressing. The only men who approach me or seem really interested in me I'm not…
I posted this in the other thread from yesterday but it got locked before I could respond to comments so I'm reposting here with my original post and follow up response: Im trying my best to be posit…
Lmao one of my hinge prompts at some point was something like “all I ask is that… you don’t judge me when I try to parallel park 4 times then just give up instead”. It was mostly silly and gave guys a…
I met this guy from work training last week (we work in different departments) and was attracted to him. Asked for his number last week, started texting him. Well his responses weren’t dry but I don’t…
Do men appreciate women approaching them, getting their number, text them throughout the week without being too overbearing? It feels like the guy I’m interested in is not interested at all, I always …
Original copy of post by u/SkullsAndDragonflies: For the ladies. I'm 40F. I'm oh so very lucky and that I'm going through perimenopause early. 😑 TBH, I feel ugly these days. My face has changed in…
You don’t. If you knew he wanted kids and that you would never change your mind, you should have been the adult and said no. That the relationship will not happen. But ok, you didn’t. Then when he me…
L where AMWF at? I live in NYC and if I see any Asian guy with any non-Asian women . I look. Cause Asian men with non-Asian girls is still not common. WMAF is almost everywhere. It's meme and other…
47m. I’m in a metro area of about 300k within 40 miles and it’s been decent. It’s always a chore filtering and then attempting to build connections. Most often those attempts fizzle early and they sto…
It’s so weird when I meet one of these guys because initially I see their eyes light up - I can tell they’re attracted to me - but then I literally see them just give up. And here I was wondering why …
I understand how hard this is from your side. I had a divorce for this very reason. My ex was essentially warning me multiple times that the caregiver role was weighing him down over time. Eventually …
There is truth in what you said, but it isn’t the only truth and your response completely ignores the family bond OP shares. It’s not so simple that can just give up your siblings.
I stg my gut is never wrong. Just got the "can't give you the time you deserve but I'm open to being casual or friends" text from the guy I've been seeing for a couple of months. Really appreciate his…
If she lost feelings due your actions, I think you should send the text, but don’t tell her you want to get back together. If she just lost randomly, then I don’t think you should send anything. If …
Omg this is exactly the kind of idea I had after forgetting to lift my head for the past week. I didn't know if it was possible though so after missing the 30 second window I'd just give up. Gonna try…
Honestly I have to agree, while a lot of people have disagreed with you and that's their prerogative, I think you are mostly right. Look there is some nuance, not all breakups are the same. But there…
Look you might as well just give up on women because we're all waiting patiently for our turn with this guy.
Bro just give up you’re not winning this
I just commented but I'm going to comment one more time to make sure this is seen. The part of your post that says, "how do I not just give up and give in to my thoughts at times like this when you're…
I relate so much. My parents did nothing but sit around watching TV (then later, on their ipads). If beg them to watch me or play a game or help me ride my bike or read or *study* even anything but no…
I have the same problem with girl I'm talking over Long Distance, 3rd shutdown and distance, I just give up now I'm no longer interested in this dynamic, my one sided effort was never met... I tried m…
Before healing, I avoided conflict hard. Whenever my wife brought anything up that bothered her, I used to get very defensive. I believed I was always right, even though I was usually wrong. This resu…
I also gave a longer reply to your other comment. I'll explain here that I met my ex at a run club. I agree that apps are an entirely lost cause. While I was lucky enough to escape the matrix, also ke…
Yes. Sometimes it prevents me from opening up. Even when I try to make a post or a reply I realize I have to give so much context that I end up with a long wall and then I just give up. I keep thinkin…
Every time I go out I seem to be ignored in favor of taller, better-looking, more charming guys. Is there anything I can really do about it? Or should I just give up and settle for trying to go after …
I was VERY imaginative, especially ages 2-5. Snatches of music would grab my attention and I'd build on them. I'd have a dream about someone with an unusual name, or who spoke some alien language, and…
Oh my god and the amount of ENERGY it expends. It’s like im constantly running software during exchanges to reveal exactly the right information, to respond well, to be engaged, to ask meaningful ques…
Self image, self esteem. Your beliefs, your perceptions as a human. It’s not that you have to work on it. It’s that you have to be aware of what those beliefs are in you and if there’s something that …
three year is a long time to be with someone, and for him to just give up that easily is crazy. he'll def come back it might just take some time.
Genuinely. My partner has been super open to having those conversations, and she actually pushes me to talk about anything that could be bothering me, which I’ve usually been reserved in doing because…
Hey, I can find myself in your issues. I'm 20 years old now. When I was 17 I had the exact same things, porn addiction, daydreaming, no will to study. Just stay on the track of self improvement. But…
i’m also indian, and my parents have been trying to set me up with random proposals for a few years now. even if you are 5% unsure that you want to get married rn, you need to push back. i know it’s s…
Was married for 17 years and the divorce was final in 2023. I still feel like a failure. Weird because I was talked down to and called names but yet I still tend to miss her and I don’t know why. I …
usually replies with “well stop fucking up the blanket then” and I just give up at that point, tonight I told him once again how much it bothers me and how I’m too anxious to move throughout the night…
Here's the thing FOMO is real Your now ex allowed herself to believe she was missing out on life experiences by being in a long term relationship And it wasn't until after she indulged in this fant…
Just waiting for the timer to run out. I have no motivation, barely any desire to do anything. I wish to be fit, and happy, alive inside. But it’s like I don’t have access to that part of me anymore. …
Being cornered and bullied by to the point i cried to my pillow at night, being ignored, being not talked to in public because my sperm donor was ashamed to be associated with me, being told passive a…
hey but i’m so desperate for some advice ill just reach out in this thread hoping atleast one of you will help me out I (19F) and him (20M) is it with it to keep going? what if we try and fill the v…
Yes!! Like literal psychosis. But she’s been using only prescribed glp-1s. Now that’s she’s lost the weight, it has subsided to a certain extent. But there is some developing research around negative …
Wow, tysm!! That’s good to know 🥹 I will try the robotic affirming. I’m so bad with consistency so if I don’t notice results after a couple days I tend to just give up 😭 do you notice how long it ta…
From what I see the major problem is: words vs actions. It's easy and pretty to say you love someone but many people don't match their words to their actions and that also involves how they navigate t…