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I will offer a counterpoint from a man's perspective. Women have nesting instincts that men don't, and want more controlled environments because of this. Men have the natural urge to present themselve…
Sick of Spam? Use the Report Button! — Annoyed by AI-written posts full of stealth promotion? We are, too. Whenever you see it, hit that report button! The majority of spam that makes it through our ever-evolving filters is never reported …
What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …
Should I redirect the sales? — This is not a rant/rave about my e-commerce journey as I expected a lot of turmoil and for e-commerce to not be all it was cracked up to be. This is actually witnessed by the shhear number of people …
Am I the only one that dislikes Wireframe CC? — I'm new to web design, so take this with a grain of salt. I've been browsing around for good, easy wireframe websites so I can finally stop using PowerPoint to do them. I tried the 7 day free trial fo…
Why do people in LOA communities ALWAYS go to Reddit for their problems when JM advised against that? — Hello everyone. I've been into JM's (and NG's) teaching for quite some time. I enjoy it thoroughly and dipped my toes into the subreddits, so hence why I'm here instead of the NG subreddit since I wo…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
Founders, Seriously, Please Don't Quit your Day Job (I will not promote) — I say this as a lifelong Founder who spends all his time trying to make other people lifelong Founders - **"Please don't quit day job" ... at least not yet.** Seriously, hold on to that steady incom…
What Projects Should I Build That Actually Matter?New to the community plz help 😊 — Hey everyone, I’m relatively new to Reddit and just starting to get more involved in the dev community. I’ve been learning and working with the MERN stack, and now I want to move beyond tutorials and …
Why almost all of libraries are free? — Like in the title. I am geniunly baffled why most of libraries are free to use. Things like react, angular, react query, redux, zustand etc... they all probably took loads of time to develop and stil…
How to remove Fraudulent Orders from Shop account? — So the question is as above. Back in March, I got fraudulently charged by a 'Elite Chimney LLC' for about $6100+. These were not placed by me or by any one I know, it just showed up one day. I manage…
Americans working in majority Indian workplaces. What do you need to know to succeed? — I’ve been working at my company for a year or so and it’s been great. I’ve learned a lot of new tech as well as practice old tech (Django). My team is also quite strong and I can’t really complain. I…
Spent 1 year solving a problem users “loved” but wouldn’t pay for: my learnings [I will not promote] — We are 2 years into building our SaaS, but spent 1 year building something people “loved”, “were excited about”... yet did not pay for. Since then, we have slightly pivoted and gained traction, but I …
This Jetpack bug is so frustrating — Exactly what the title says. I have been with Wordpress for about a year and a half. Great platform for blogging. It's not perfect but I really have nothing major to complain about when it comes to t…
🛑STOP HIJACKING POSTS🛑 — 📣Saying it loudly for the people in the back. I know this post is going to have a “vibe” but being warm and fuzzy has never worked so I’m trying to be crystal clear and firm here: Recently there h…
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For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? — For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? I began therapy 4 months into our situationship because of how strong he came on,…
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I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …
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READ THIS if you want to POST here — This is a new thread with the SAME GUIDELINES as the previous post which is now archived. THIS THREAD IS ONLY FOR APPROVAL TO POST. You don’t have to be an approved user to comment or lurk. ONLY som…
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What did you notice changed when you began leaning secure? — I'm pretty happy with my progress. I notice I have a much lower tolerance for unaware dysregulation (no matter what kind it is whether it's someone push-pulling or an anxious type dumping on me). I d…
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The pain of being unmet... — I'm never sure whether to consider myself anxiously attached, or mostly secure, because I generally do fine if I feel really loved in my relationship. But where I fall apart easily is when I don't. I …
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I(F28) have to have a tough conversation with my bf(M30), but I’m scared. — We’ve been together 8 years this July. Not married. It’s been a point of contention. We’ve been in a pretty rough spot since last year, and honestly, it’s only gotten worse this year. I’ve realized o…
My (28f) boyfriend (37m) drinks to excess nearly every weekend, am I selfish for wanting it to stop? — Throwaway account. Please tell me if I am crazy for feeling this way. My boyfriend (37m) and I (28f) have what I consider to be a generally good relationship. We’ve had some issues in the past that we…
If you’re already doing well in the US, would you still leave? — I (26M) wouldn’t say I am doing well but I have a job that pays alright relative to the CoL (Portland, OR). I am healthy and have no debts apart from credit card bills. Thing is I am not satisfied an…
Leo with both Moon and Ascendant in Cancer with a Taurus signature - why do i feel weird, stubborn and kinda emo? — A Leo but with mostly Earth/Water fixed influences ( Virgo, Capricorn, Cancer). Barely any Air elements and maybe thats why I suck at communicating and I feel kinda slow. Not much Fire either. Peopl…
My (26/M) Girlfriend (26/F) Of 6.5 Years Emotionally Cheated and I Don’t Know What To Do — My (26/M) girlfriend (26/F) and I met our first year of college and started dating shortly after. We went through Covid together, graduated together, and started living together about 2 years ago. We…
Imposter syndrome? — I went to the therapist last Tuesday, and I have another session tomorrow. When I went, she asked me to tell her about myself and my family from ages 0 to 5 up until I turned 24. When I first started …
Would you stay in a relationship with someone like this? — I’m in my first relationship post-divorce after 20 years of marriage. We’ve dated for a year and I love and care deeply for this man, but I’m struggling with whether I’m ignoring red flags. The good:…
Effective ways to get lucid dreams 80% — A way that you might think is contrary to the ways on the internet, but this is actually the most effective way according to me, how? This is the way. The first way, this method often allows you to h…
Does anyone else feel they can tend to be unsympathetic to those who grew up without emotional neglect? — I feel this often. When I see online posts of someone with a familial problem (I judge as) banal. And pretty often in the PHP group I used to go to. It makes me feel awful and like I’m being unfair to…
Opened up to my wife about how I feel about our relationship and she just said "That's your problem" - am I crazy? — We're both in our mid 40s, been together for 20+ years and we have two kids who are both teenagers and I've been thinking about divorce for quite a while now as I feel like I just don't get anything b…
Anyone else's parents never encouraged their hobbies? — I love to sing. I haven't used my voice in over a decade and thinking about it makes me want to cry. For years I've been waiting for permission to use it. My body still fights me to sing above a whi…
Getting married soon help me pls — We met in high school and I have spent my entire adult life loving her. I’ve (30m) moved across the country for her (28f) career 4 times, leaving all my friends and family behind. I’ve worked 60-70 ho…
UPDATE: My (32f) fiancé (28m) repeatedly does not clean the house — Hello lovely reddit. First relevant links. My first post I deleted (so you can peruse the comments if you are interested): [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/18yjl0g/my\_32f\_fianc%C3%…
Is my relationship doomed? I love him, but I’m so alone. — Hey everyone, I’m Lucy (F, late 20s) and I’ve been with my husband, Rick (M, late 20s) for about 8 years, married for 2. I know he cares about me and our family, and I see that he loves us. But latel…
“Asian Men Only Like White Women” Is So Baffling to Me — Preface: This post is about *women's perception* that "Asian men only like White women," not about who you should be in a relationship with . Of course, we shouldn't stop/discourage/vilify AMWF relati…
I Won’t Stop Sharing This — I’m sharing this because people deserve to know how broken the mental health system in Utah can be. I saw a therapist for two years. During that time she had me coming up to three times per week doin…
Ok- I dunno how to approach this. My parents did *not* talk about feelings. Still don't-- small town German-Irish silence. I never once witnessed conflict resolution-- just behind the back bottling an…
I have not been public-facing but generally when people come to me with issues I take care of them. This was due to complaints about a certain comment that made people feel unsafe. It's important a co…
So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…
I don't understand why porn and masturbation addiction has a blanket ban just because people have complained about it. Why wouldn't people trying to improve in that aspect of their lives be allowed to…
I did not make these changes because of one member’s complains or disapproval. I made these changes over months of observation and after countless posts from members on the sub calling for mods to tak…
Because they were taking over the sub. If everybody who made a masturbation post had read earlier threads about it and would only post not covered issues we would have only 1% of the posts and nobody …
Ummm cause you keep call us losers? And all you’re doing is bitching? lol you don’t listen or take advice or even argue with forethought and reasoning. Why the fuck would we have a discussion on your …
LOL I’m blocked from that sub but they miss the fact that manifestation is not working for them simply because they don’t believe it does. That proves it plenty. Why the incessant complaining-
You guys always say this😅😅. Didn’t I point out that there are many instances where your “assumptions” are not reflected in your reality? I don’t think manifestation is real whatsoever. I’m not compl…
Oh yes, I mean, why are people on reddit being "victims" and complaining. I just realized I didn't add my comments to someone's comment so it seems out of context lol
For sure, but we can still complain about shitty exes, and it’s still totally within our right to be upset that someone doesn’t want to have any intimacy when that’s all we want. I’ve done the work on…
This is largely because people would rather avoid the discomfort of being honest about how someone's behavior impacts them, and let somebody else continue to struggle forever, than let themselves be u…
I know I'm going to get downvoted to hell, but all this talk of "erosion of trust" is such utter BS unless you were a cloud provider. For all related to this, it's all about the predatory cloud provid…
I think all these time‐tracking systems in IT are absolutely useless and only justify the work of those who implement them. No offense to efficient managers. If the company were like a factory produc…
My company is ready to pay reasonable price for the software we use and that provides value over FOSS ones. Unfortunately many companies go for crazy unrealistic pricing models and then complain that …
The demonization of avoidant people really annoys me. I'm fearful avoidant so I see all perspectives in this and yeah avoidance is hurtful, neglect is painful, creating space through fights is toxic a…
30F, I am DA in platonic relationships but FA in romantic relationships. What remains the same is I don’t tell anyone I need space, I just stop talking (ghost). A few days ago, my best guy friend of 1…
>Low effort comments like, “You sound just like my ex” are equally unhelpful and selfish. Why would anyone care about your ex who we don’t know?! ... >Look up what a rant and vent is. By definition i…
>Avoidants should swear off dating forever and leave us who are actually capable of love alone!! 😡 What gets me is there are plenty of avoidant attachers who aren’t dating at all. Better yet, many a…
> Better yet, many are up front and say they don’t want anything serious/don’t want a relationship. This isn't even an AT comment specifically, but imo ignoring people when they say this is just a re…
One of my biggest and longstanding issues is that I do not/did not involve anyone. It’s not even like I lay something at their feet and then rip it away suddenly and blame them. I simply never asked. …
>Better yet, many are up front and say they don’t want anything serious/don’t want a relationship. I lost count of how many times others will be like, “Avoidants use that as an excuse to hurt you late…
I'm the same but also with the avoidant tendencies. So i pull away dramatically for what looks like no reason. I spiral, I get in my head, I misread signs, I misunderstand, im shit at boundaries, I …
This is kind of the right forum for OP to post this though. Theyre asking for advice or thoughts. If you dont want to see posts complaining and seeking advice about attachments I would steer away from…
that certainly would also work, it is worth exploring different paths, which overall what I wanted person complaining to me to try to do something instead of just give up
You’re right. First, I want to say the mods here can be toxic, rude, arrogant, and biased. Anyway, back to your question. Most people who believe in the LOA only learned it from The Secret or some mod…
Amen! I'm a 59F dealing with parents 84 and 85. I'm an ambivert/othrovert. My dad keeps thinking he's "the man" of the family. He was when I was a kid, but as soon as alI moved out on my own, I became…
Yeah, your last paragraph really sums up with what is really going on – you don't trust that he could actually take care of you if you were in a serious crisis. And that is a legitimate and valid fear…
When do I ask for help and when should I be self-reliant? I feel like I hold on and try to make it through each day. Then after a few months of this, I have a breakdown. After the breakdown, people a…
I can relate. I think for me it wasn't about feeling like they couldn't care for me, but my own overviligant need to prevent preventable things paired with being in an overfunctioning role with someon…
Do you find you hold your genuine complaints in to yourself and then explode after it has built up and something triggers it? Or do you think you find things to justify feeling how you feel that might…
So… I have dated someone with DID before. Dissociative Identity Disorder. In these individuals, when anything even remotely stressful happens; they will quite literally turn into a different person. L…
I’ll second what the other person has commented- that you gotta stick to your boundaries. Though I’m picking up on things that may be concerning here. I am not accusing anyone of anything, but are y…
I would hold in genuine complaints, let them build up then eventually get tired of everything then purge and dump. Not long after I would feel bad for not communicating my complaints and apologize.
Sure, here is a portion that resonated with me a lot and made sense on what attracts me to the avoidants or unavailable or troubled people. Shall share more if you are interested: The need to be need…
I’m also struggling to give my partner space. I feel like if I don’t talk to him every single hour just through a text or something, I get anxious a little, and most of the times I have nothing actual…
I (19M) have recently found out about this whole attachment style thing, and realized that I definitely have an anxious attachment style. Me and my boyfriend (18M) have been dating (long distance) for…
An acquaintance came back into my life after months and he was so sincere in what he wrote and everything but it has been making me feel nauseous because it feels too intimate. I feel sick and so gros…
Wow, this really resonated! Especially the parts about your tolerance for complaining going away! I never connected this
For real, it's like a never ending doctor's exam. Constant poking, prodding, and analysis that doesn't go anywhere and yet they think you're the odd one if you get irritated lmfao. >It feels like a c…
I think there is often a gulf between people who have had serious struggles with relationships in their family of origin and people who have not, and between people who have had to deal with mental he…
Text of original post by u/Kyuuki_Kitsune: I'm never sure whether to consider myself anxiously attached, or mostly secure, because I generally do fine if I feel really loved in my relationship. But wh…
My mom is FINALLY learning that she isn't required to give a guy a chance if she has no interest. Right in time for this "ap" guy to start their in app convos by talking about his attachment and how h…
I’m pretty secure, occasionally slightly anxious. I haven’t had the experience of someone complaining about my response time, but I typically respond within an hour or 2. I think the only thing you ca…
Downloaded Tinder again today. Matched with a cute guy, pretty good conversation so far, and he asked me out for drinks this weekend. Okayyyyy. Definitely not going to complain!
Would love some opinions.... Been seeing this guy very casually for the past few months (we're both guys). I do genuinely enjoy spending time with him, and he's VERY spontaneous. I'm just not 100% su…
Of course. My current partner is anxious. Sometimes during conflict he argues from emotion, exaggerates, and his characterization of me is awful. I tend to be careful not to escalate issues and try…
Okay, story time. Made a trip to visit someone I know from a hobby who was pretty insistent that I should visit their city and they'd show me around. We spent a really lovely day on Friday and by the…
So I was in a relationship for over a decade with a guy who called himself an introvert and someone who needed a lot of alone time. Our entire relationship, my consist complaint was that we didn't spe…
>Doesn't help that I live in a city where the assumption is that girls don't really want to date and are in it for the free dinners. This just made me audibly groan. This mindset, even dismissive j…