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I've lived in China for many years and had some serious Chinese boyfriends and many friends of varying socioeconomic backgrounds. Honestly Id say 50% of parents there are pretty toxic and it everyone …

Local/regional prediction market app/site.i will not promote — The title is an open suggested startup idea Cater for particular country/region for MVP Best target country should be the highest gambling culture but at the same time had less regulated policies I …

How Would You Approach Digital Marketing for a Premium Food Product Expanding Internationally? — Hi everyone, I run digital efforts for my family’s pistachio butter business based in Gaziantep, Turkey — a region famous for producing world-class pistachios. We’ve been in business since 2007 and …

Plan to build the healthiest farm-to-table meal delivery service. Seeking advice. I will not promote. — I WILL NOT PROMOTE. Plan on building what I believe can be the cleanest and most transparent farm-to-table meal delivery service brand, and I’d love feedback from anyone who’s worked in DTC, food or j…

using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads — I recently led a Reddit content repurposing campaign that got over **4 million impressions** and **hundreds of new user signups** for my client. Here's exactly how I did it. # Why Reddit, and why use…

We Fired a Developer But Not Because He Was Bad, But Because He Wasn't Right. Only 2 Legit Reasons to Fire Anyone. (i will not promote) — After building a small team and running a startup for a while, We’ve come to a hard conclusion: There are only two legitimate reasons to fire someone. 1. They are not the right fit for the company.…

Manager vs. IC when recruiting soon? — Hi all! I have the opportunity and flexibility at my job right now to move up into a managerial role, and I get a lot of freedom in deciding what it looks like. E.g. I could oversee and manage designe…

Considering a move from big tech to a small company. Worth the risk? — I know this sub leans junior, but hoping to get some advice from senior folks. Especially people in Bay Area, NYC, or Seattle-type tech scenes. Tagging this as Job Search and not Senior Only because I…

Services which don't quite mesh with devops — Hey folks, Do you have stories about teams or products which don't quite fit into devops? - for any reason. How did your org or you approached these? - At my current org (midsized insurance enterpr…

I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …

We live in a culture that glorifies self-sufficiency and punishes inter-dependence and needs. That impacts what we start labelling as anxious attachment, and how we are encouraged to heal. — Disclaimer - anxious attachment style is real, it creates distress in those who have it, and causes real strain to relationships. That being said, we cannot ignore that cultural norms have *always* di…

Dating as someone between cultures — Hi, just a thought I had with regards to non locals living in a different country: what has been your experience trying to date someone local? I personally have found it incredibly difficult as some…

Did Saturn in Aries correlate with the “heroin chic” era of the late 90s? Wondering about parallels with today. — I had a random thought earlier today while watching some video on YouTube, and I’m curious if more experienced astrologers see anything in it. There’s a lot of discussion right now about the return o…

Book recommendations — Hi all, I facilitate meetings for our non profit in the Seattle area. I want to do a little book club on the side outside of our mental health meetings. Can I get a recommendation in a fantasy s…

What is even going on? — I (45f) have been single and dating for a a little over a year now, and there have been some frustrating patterns emerge that I just can’t make sense of. So I’m curious if anyone else out there has. A…

i dont know what to do (relationship) — Im 22 and my dating history is very sparse because i always suffered with rather low self esteem and mental issues. Over the past years ive been opening up and evolving personally, also trying out the…

Reflection on over friendly therapist? — Hi readers. This is something that has been on my mind for months and I don't know how to wrap my head around it. Some professional insight might be helpful. I left therapy a few months ago. I had …

Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected — Today marks my sixth month living in Europe. Looking back at the past half year and all the European girls I’ve interacted with, I thought it would be fun to do a little reflection—what I did well, wh…

Ky Lan - Asian Activewear & Lifestyle - Kỳ Lân - Asian Activewear — Check out this Asian founded athletics brand founded by Hai Bui a Vietnamese American who grew up in Hungary. Incorporates Asian aesthetics and culture into athletic wear. Proudly Asian!

Update: How can I(20F) tell my boyfriend (20M) about my sexual preferences when he has already expressed disgust over it? — Alright, so even though no one asked for it I’m back with an update. First of all, thank you to everyone that commented, I swear on everything that I read each and every single comment. Thank you for…

[Prove Me Wrong] Bruce Lee was the last English speaking Asian that represented us well — Bruce lee was: * Well Articulated (and spoke good english) * Confident * Smart * Masculine * Good in fighting I feel that the \- kpop/kdrama: more girly/pretty/gentle boys are famous \- china: …

Choosing myself feels like betraying my family, but staying feels like losing my life — I’m 21F, Bengali, and coming from a strict Muslim family who are very traditional where marrying outside the culture is almost unheard of. All of my siblings had arranged marriages, and my parents hav…

Who else was taught to people-please or be a pushover? — I was taught by my parents from early childhood to make others happy, and I often found myself last on the priority list. Perhaps the overemphasis on reputation in many Asian cultures contributed to m…

muslim girl trynna move out without family knowing — hi guys, i’m not gonna talk too much and ill try to make this as concise as possible. im 23 and i’ve been wanting to move out since my mom decided my big brother could become a father figure and tha…

parents found out about bf — i’m indian 22f and my parents found about my bf (same age) who is from a different race and culture (we live in the US). my mom seemed to be open to it but my dad lost his shit. told me to stop it imm…

I hate everything — I got threatened with marriage because I seemed like I gained weight through video call. And because I had the audacity to wake up late. And my brother is a piece of shit that sees nothing wrong ever …

How to seperate Asian parenting culture vs just straight up abuse? — For a long time, I’ve generalized Filipino/Asian parenting to be just very abusive overall. And I’ve thought that my parents were bad because they were Filipino, and that I know many other Filipinos w…

Asian erasure or something like that — This is a little vent post about this youtube short I just watched on the “viral no-water chicken soup”, which is like pretty obviously asian inspired based on the ingredients (if you search for this …

Blood is no longer thicker than water — Blood is no longer thicker than water. This toxic Filipino family culture where, if you’re poor, you’re looked down on, and treated like you don’t matter. Where money decides whose voice is heard and…

I (29F) have cancer and my estranged father (60M) is funding my treatment but forcing me to leave my boyfriend (24M) or marry him immediately. Do I have any way out? — Please be kind. I was unable to type so used audio to text converter and ai to fix the spelling mistakes. I m already in a terrible mental state so hope this sub can be a little gentle on me. Haven't …

Were things better for Asian men 20 years ago or now? — Curious to hear what this sub thinks. I remember there being way more negative Ken Jeong tier stereotypes about AM in not only the 80s/90s but even in the 2000s and early-mid 2010s. It's less common n…

I (36F) want to eat dinner together every night. Husband (37M) is resisting. — We’ve been together for 5 years, we plan to go to therapy. I just feel like I’m losing it. Is this asking too much? I would like to eat dinner together every night, sitting at the table together. We…

Yellow fever is a result of purity culture — Men with yellow fever tend to be far rightists who praise Asian people for being racist, ethnonationalist and "clean" of "degeneracy" and "inferior races" and therefore view Asian women as "clean" of …

Any predictions on music, film, entertainment for this following years and 2030s? — I have see a couple of posts talking about how certain saturn shifts create new musical trends and needs from artists. Of course, it's not just saturn alone most probably. I am curious how the general…

I (21M) have survived two decades of severe physical, emotional, and financial abuse from my Indian parents. I'm finally exhausted and need to tell my story. I am not free yet. — # TL;DR: I'm a 20-year-old only child in India who has endured severe physical, verbal, emotional, and financial abuse from my parents since toddlerhood. They have beaten me, medically neglected me, …

Cobblestones — I had an epiphany last night, listening to Reflections on the Law of One with Gabriel Lugo (thank you to whoever suggested it). You. Me. All of us here are crafting a road for others to tread though w…

dealing with weebs? lol — hi all, i hope everyone is doing well! i (22F) am a japanese-american who just got into a phd program and will be further studying the asian american diaspora. i love my community very very much and l…

I wanted to discuss letters 3 to 5 of Moral Letters. — I just finished letters 3 to 5 of Letters From a Stoic by Seneca.  I wanted to summarise what I got from them, and talk with y'all about the parts I didn’t fully understand. If I misrepresented or mis…

I just wanna be better — Hey reddit, I need some advise/guiding. I'm 18 turning 19, I'm with this beautiful who treats me so good, and that's pretty much all I got to myself, l had this courier job that paid me really fucking…

"Men Can't Be Men Anymore" — A week ago, I [posted about the Louis Theroux documentary on the “Manosphere,”](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/1rtveyg/the_manosphere/) noting my surprise at the scale of the phenomenon, u…

My abduction story. — I was abducted from my balcony when I was 16 years old. It was October 2018, around 8:00 PM, when my mother called me downstairs for dinner. I left my phone on my study table and stepped out to get my…

Only child (30F, Indian, US). Parents financially exploited me and my husband for years. Set boundaries. Now they’re trying to destroy my marriage. — **The financial fraud:** My father retired with 1 crore and started building a house. Behind my back, he took a loan using my husband’s documents — claimed 45 lakhs, was actually 80 lakhs (POA fraud)…

In Honor Of Women's History Month Almost Ending: Every Asian Member (That I Know Of) In Western Girl Groups — I'm a pop culture person and in honor of Women's History Month almost ending, here is every (I think?) Asian member of Western girl groups (because if I did K-pop as a whole this list would get VERY l…

San Gabriel Restaurant Removes Stinky Tofu from Menu due to Citations and Complaints — San Gabriel is one of the last places I‘d expect this to happen given it’s a Mecca for Asian food, restaurants, and culture. A restaurant in San Gabriel, CA called The Golden Leaf was forced to remov…

Gets mad at me for not being home just so I can be their crutch — I literally can’t stand my APs. I’m 23 years old working part time but I still pay for my bills at home. My dad is in his mid 50s and mom is approaching late 40s. Mind you my dad owns his business doi…

Has Asian parenting culture changed in the last 20 years? — How much has Asian parenting culture changed in recent decades? We hear all kinds of stories about Boomer or Gen X Asian parents from Millennial/Gen Z children. What about nowadays since Millennials a…

Chinese American restaurants question why Chinese cuisine can't get the chef's table treatment — ...  in an industry where diners rarely question high prices of French haute cuisine or Japanese omakase, Chinese restaurateurs often contend with resistance in getting customers to pay fine-dining t…

Anyone who grew up in China and then moved to US at a later age? — How did you adapt to the American culture? I’ve been struggling a lot with some of cultural conflicts between west and east. E.g. Collectivism vs. Individualism, being polite/reserved vs direct, etc. …

Cultures that never had contact with each other all described the same invisible life force energy — This is one of those things that gets more strange the more you think about it. In China, they called it qi. In India, prana. In Japan, ki. In Polynesia, mana. In ancient Greece, pneuma. Each of th…

Have any of your parents criticized you for adopting "western" habits? — Pretty broad question; however, as someone who has lived in America for a while now, some of the behaviors that I have adopted are that I no longer leave food out on the table after cooking, no longer…

How instilling pride in their cultural heritage helps Asian American men flourish — **Asian American men have long been marginalized by dominant white masculine ideals that portray them as outsiders, effeminate and inferior.** These negative stereotypes, perpetuated through the me…

Just a few questions Mr Moonbeam. If you are so against the “act/live as if” what do you have to say about Dr. Joe Dispenza, Gregg Braden and Dr. Bruce Liptons, Napoleon Hill, Jim Rohn, Eckhart Toll…

I want to Ap but as a kid I watched a lot of sci fi demonic movies and my mom would study Wiccan culture so I’m like ehhhhh what’s going to happen to me will I get stuck there will something else tak…

Azure DevOps is not DevOps. Is just a crappy web based CD tool that was/is being replaced by GitHub actions. You might be able to use it for ci. It’s the furthest fucking thing from DevOps and if I…

Congrats, my guy. i have a similar story. I can attest to grit and putting into he work to learn the technologies and terms. To learn the DSO isn't a single technical stack. It's a locus where culture…

My 5cents, as a person that’s been interviewing candidates for several years (almost 10 at same company, seen it grow from 100 employees to 2k+, interviewed QAs, SETs, Devs, DevOps and SREs). I’m sor…

If the existing culture and processes are working, then I’m not sure it makes sense to introduce change for the sake of change. 

You apply as much as it makes sense for the people and time. Making those decisions for now while maintaining a long view is an important part of DevOps. It's a process that introduces people into th…

Hey, [OpsLevel](https://www.opslevel.com) CTO here. We have a ton of respect for what the Backstage community has accomplished. It's impressive how they've expanded the IDP space and created a vibra…

What can we offer here? This is all dependent on your company culture and process. Are you their manager or a fellow team member? Make sure they are aware that they are not meeting expectations, offe…

Indian here. Can you give an example of what kind of culture facts you didn’t know and later found out? Indians can have vastly different cultures and even accents depending on the region.

I'll leave this here: [Indian management style](https://www.worldbusinessculture.com/country-profiles/india/business-management-style/) and [The conflict between foreign and Indian management styles](…

I've been in these scenarios a good few times in a good few ways. And I have some hostile opinions on it as well as some good ones. So scenarios. Indian CTO or VP is hired, and almost immediately, …

He's not wrong. I've started a business because of this. After various relationships with avoidant woman its become obvious that as a culture we have caused a mistrust within genders. This is fueled b…

I think a lot of people have a hard time being self aware with how much modern culture and friendships have skewed one gender over the other. Theres even films and whole industries which prey on this …

I totally get it, I’ve seen corrective experiences work wonders in the moment. My background is in building real-time frameworks for clients and practitioners who deal with collapse or shutdown, espec…

Youre right. That's one of the missing pieces. The reason a HUGE majority of people dont know what they want is the western culture. Its created that way by design.

You nailed it, western culture isn’t just “about freedom,” it’s engineered for hyper-independence and maximum consumption. That’s why divorce, loneliness, and relational burnout are the norm, not the …

Sorry, I meant general “you” as in people in general. Attachment theory & therapy can not be dispensed like candy from a machine. People need to interact with other humans to learn coping mechanisms. …

Most people are going to say that you sound FA, but I disagree. I think that we are very quick to slap the FA label on people the second they don't neatly and concretely fit into a box. The primary r…

It’s incredibly bound by culture. Also everything mental health is nuanced evening with a grain of salt. Especially with FAs it can depend on the situation. Even secure can be anxious or accident with…

Hi everyone, I’m 24F from Czechia and my boyfriend is 29M from Spain. I have an anxious attachment style and I’m aware of it. I’ve been working on it and I’ve improved significantly, but I know there’…

You are right to expect action from a life partner in situations like this. I think most people here are young and have a warped view on this from therapy culture making everyone only responsible for …

a lot of posts and comments that are similar to what (i think) you're discussing, OP, seem to me that they would be non-issues if people were less inclined to be texting about stuff like this.. it re…

Keep in mind that my answer in not necessarily informed by Stoic teachings. Doing a bit of exercise regularly is way better than doing nothing. For example get up each and every day and do ten push …

I feel like there are multiple things going on here. You may need to separate them out so as to help you know how to help yourself. 1 - Have you always struggled with attachment issues? Does it show…

Okay so what I am seeing is that your work culture has become toxic. And her changing the status of the friendship was a breaking point or maybe just when it all came to a head and was brought more pa…

I was just browsing here, saw this thread, and thought I'd chime in since no one with a military background has said anything. Coming from someone with a military background,  you have to understand- …

He used you for what he wanted and wasn't looking for commitment. Selfishly, instead of telling you outright that he wasn't interested in anything more, he gave a non-committal answer ("let's play it …

Good, I’m glad 😊 I’ll also add—and maybe you feel similarly—but I was always freaked out by using the Love word and I often fretted, “How am I going to know I love him? How is that supposed to feel? …

I think it's going to be really hard to say this *for sure* because how quickly or slowly a couple moves forward can vary wildly depending on individual preferences, circumstances, culture, etc. In th…

I think that hook up culture doesn't lead to anything good and I am sort of fed up that world is these days one massive hook up culture. I know few people who immediately after they go through break u…

I’ve always wondered about this because a major prerequisite of participation in hookup culture is the agreement of not loving the other person. So you are effectively disqualified from sexuality if y…

It depends on a lot of things to interpret a behavior. The social programming in childhood, current social environment, individual values For example, in Sweden or Norway, gender equality is ingraine…

I probably should have mentioned in my post that we're polyamorous. I think in poly culture, there's less of an expectation for a single person to have a duty to meet all these emotional needs. Ther…

Insecure attachment is something that usually takes root in childhood. And if they are FA they likely have some pretty severe trauma. None of that is a temporary state. It can easily take years and ye…

(Let me know if my replying is offensive to you and I'll delete it) I just want to say, I agree so bad and this is why I avoid topics on attachment on tiktok and some wounded subreddits as well as Yo…

Very fair points! >I also don’t assume or expect exclusivity on either side before talking about it While I definitely agree, I find the term "exclusivity" is personally ambiguous depending on the s…

I'm (31F) my parents' only daughter and also the youngest child. My dad is in his late 70s and luckily in good health. But I get anxious knowing that because of the horrible dating culture, he might k…

I started messaging this guy and I'm not sure about the vibe. We're texting only and will probably stay that way. He made it sound as though he were born in the US but his messages are REALLY formal w…

Going with what you feel is right and wrong is the best way to go about it. Knowledge of dating culture can help, but just because it seems to be normal to do one thing or another doesn’t mean you hav…

Either get used to it or don’t date them. I can’t ever fathom telling someone “hey you need to go by a different name because it doesn’t fit in with my life experience” What’s normal to you may also …

I think it’d be pretty rude if you asked to call them by something other than what they asked you to call them, to be very honest. You don’t get to decide what names are suitable and seems kinda disre…

If you're already this off put by her name imagine when you have to meet her family and get introduced to the culture. Just don't date them. 

Yeah, it comes off as mildly neurotic to me, but you never know until you meet them. I have to imagine the dude equivalent would be the hustle culture quotes. I went out with a chick who had "honest…

Okay so I agree with a lot of what was said here, and I have something additional to add.  I think part of this is the overculture. I grew up reading mags with articles about how "drive them crazy…

In my culture, Valentine’s Day is only from romantic partners so that would be definitely weird. But I know Americans for example do it differently

How often do you see each of them? It’s not what I would be able to do, but I am curious how it works. Maybe you don’t see them often enough? Or maybe you don’t like any of them strongly enough? Or ma…

Good luck!! Have fun! My ex-husband is Greek, I love Greek people and Greek culture... they are open, friendly people. Passionate (too passionate haha!), impulsive, reactive, but also kind-hearted and…

I would rather send the message and clarify things than waiting needlessly. I hate the current culture of ghosting. If you don't want anything anymore, just be enough of a person to say so.

Text of original post by u/pineconewashington: Disclaimer - anxious attachment style is real, it creates distress in those who have it, and causes real strain to relationships. That being said, we can…