practical things

This might be an out there suggestion, but can you afford a storage unit until you're ready to move out? I'd say ship it to a friend you trust if you can keep them in storage. Otherwise you might have…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

I M/27 care about my girlfriend 21/F, but I’m struggling with how I see her past — I’m 27 and my girlfriend is 21. We met on a random chat app. At first we only talked for a few nights, then I removed her because I was going through a bad time mentally and also had an upcoming surge…

[36M] struggling with emotional burnout vs incompatibility in a 10–11 month relationship with [33F] after repeated small conflicts — I’m writing this because I genuinely need outside perspective. I’ve been going in circles in my own head for a long time and I don’t trust my own judgment anymore. I’m 36M, she’s 33F. We’ve been toge…

Did anyone else feel completely blindsided when they realised how parentified they were? — I always thought I was “mature for my age,” but now I’m realising it wasn’t maturity, it was survival. I was managing everyone’s emotions, fixing things, being the “good” and capable one in a family t…

Exhausted by my asian parents — \*Wall of text that goes off on a tangent\* I'm a grown ass fucking adult that still feels so infantilised by my interactions with my APs. I'm 25 but when I'm dealing with them, I still feel like a c…

Is there any chance she will come back one day? — We were together for about a year, and friends for \~5 months before that. Things were genuinely great between us, but I messed it up. I developed an addiction to 7OH kratom and repeatedly used her mo…

Mixed Feelings — I’m trying to make sense of a relationship dynamic (and research has consistently came up with covert narc tendencies in her) and would really value outside perspective. I’ve been with my partner for …

I’m done , rejected by Sp and leaving the manifestation community — I break up with sp on January , and we started to talk again in February and stuff till now, he often starts the Convo and helped me with lots of practical things . Today I invited him to home if he w…

DBT helped me a lot. You can see if your therapist knows about it or check some free resources like https://dbt.tools/ It has practical things you can actually do when you're feeling anxious. I like…

\+1 on therapy that is geared toward building self-compassion. It's very difficult and feels weird and angering, but works with time. Other practical things: \- Corrective experiences. What helped m…

I’m pregnant with my first and have been thinking along the same lines. My fiancé has kids already and his 7 year old frequently does energy work on me - any time I complain about anything at all, he …

Thanks for your response. You're right that if our relationship continues to progress and deepen emotionally, it might not feel as "stuck" as I'm imagining it will when holding off on practical things…

My ex is keeping a lot of the stuff (I'm focusing more on my personal items and some practical things). You think she would be thrilled, but she's hurt I don't want some of the sentimental things (lik…

I live about a mile from my nex and have had the same issues, also, there is no way I would move home. This is what worked for me- I don’t personally feel like the passive passage of time did a great …

No, it doesn’t get better. I just went through this. I dated this lovely guy for 3 months - he was so kind and thoughtful. But truly not intellectually curious. He was very fact oriented, answered in …

I'm gonna guess he was 'fine' right up until your health complications in this third pregnancy meant you could no longer do everything yourself, and now that he actually needs to do practical things y…

I have heard of it, but I’ve always been good at avoiding men like that anyway. I don’t think I’m on their radar. However, following my breakup, I set a number of rules….. like a checklist, and I’m …

You are not a dumb attention-seeker. You sound like someone whose nervous system learned to spill everything once a little safety appears. That is different. People who grow up feeling watched, isol…

Yeah, there is truth in that. I can’t really remember what I thought was so great about her other than some practical things like: she was organized; she was a hard worker; she was a good mother. The …

First: yes, people absolutely do get dependent on weed, and no, you are not weak or broken for finding this hard. What you wrote does not sound like ‘I just need more willpower.’ It sounds like your …

I’m having similar issues with my partner where he says he wont be able to call even for 5 minutes everyday especially when he is busy. I feel emotionally distant at times cause while he replies my te…

I think there are like practical things to actively do with DBT when you are feeling dysregualted, isnt there? I am not as familiar with it as i used to be. If you dont think more therapy might help, …

I think intent and motivation go a long way with parenting. It sounds like you care, want what’s best for the children, and really want to do a good job. Those qualities usually translate to effort, p…

So i was in this loop for a long time. The practical things i did when i wanted to reach out 1. I video noted myself instead of messaging him. I did it as though i was talking to him 2. I journelled a…

Very true. Very good points. I guess I think about practical things like retirement, etc. fears of ending up a broke woman in a basement suite all alone, my boys having taken my husband’s side, not a…

Sorry to read this. My ex blindsided me after 8 years together. While I was about to lose my job. It came from nowhere at the time and I had never experianced heartbreak my world resolved around them …

I don’t know, if a child had money they’d want to spend it. Probably not on practical things but they would spend the money

As someone with anxiety, I would find the things you've tried exacerbating, not helpful. What she needs is a psychiatrist who will support her figuring out a more helpful med routine and consistent th…