Get Out

From what I've read about this movie from reviewers and people on the Internet, it's a timid diaspora movie that doesn't say anything different. > ...Alas, it’s the stinky lunchbox moment, that dread…

Marketing for startups (I will not promote) — (I will not promote) Proven strategies to take a startup from zero to scale ($10M+ ARR). As a 3X startup CMO, I have experienced tremendous success and a ton of failure.  I have been involved in th…

CKA? Or EKS project? — Here's a bit of context as to why I feel like I need to get out of dodge ASAP... IT Management: "We need **more automation**! Nobody should be using User Data scripts." Me: \*Writes several Ansible…

My impressions of Lovable 2.0 — # My impressions of Lovable 2.0 with key features and upgrades I always had mixed feelings about Lovable. But given the amount of attention Lovable 2.0 has received over the past few weeks, I decided…

A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic. — We are seeing an increase of activity from people outside of experiencer circles in threads as time has moved on and more and more people are starting to understand there really is a "there there" and…

Having trouble differentiating between anxious attachment / normal needs, feeling lost and alone — First Reddit post here! (It's a long one, I just really need a place to put it all down and get some support, so thank you). I (19F) got out of my first long term relationship about 3 months ago. It l…

For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…

I want love but can't push past knowing that I would be a burden in all of my relationships — Hi, I am a 26F and want to seek some advice from this subreddit because I truly do not know who else I can talk about this with, and writing has always been easier than talking out loud. Sidenote: I …

I'm deactivated right now and not sure it's worth trying to save my marriage — I'm DA (40M), my wife FA (41F), 3 children. Together 17 years, married 13 years, very distant 11 years (due to my earlier long-term deactivation) with no affection or intimacy at all, working on recon…

My father is sabotaging my career and medical treatments through "smear campaigns" and monitoring. I feel like I'm living in a Truman Show nightmare. — ​I (25F) am an Indian doctor currently preparing for NEET PG, and I am living with a family led by a malignant narcissistic father. My mother and brother are complete enablers. I’m writing this becaus…

I astral projected last night.. — I astral projected last night... What was your first experience? Here's mine: We arrived in Tunisia yesterday, had some sleep, woke up, yawned, and my nose started bleeding, only mentioning this bec…

A friend fell for me, even though he knew I'm happily married. After trying to distance himself for a while, he's now back but acting hostile towards me. I don't know what I've done to deserve his anger, nor how to fix the situation. Any thoughts or advices? — Me (31F) and my husband (32M) have a friend group we often hang out with. We used to be pretty close with this one friend there (30M), who would hang out with us often even outside the group. He came …

Job hunt anxiety — I have had a very, very challenging job hunt over the last year. I have developed some pretty intense anxiety as a result. These are the things helping me to get through it. I'm wondering what has wor…

I think I might have extreme codependency and I don’t know how to break the cycle — I’ve been realizing something about myself that’s honestly kind of scary, and I’m wondering if anyone here has experienced something similar or managed to get out of it. I feel like I’m at a really e…

Update to my previous post. Tis not a good one. — [https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1q4sw3v/before\_i\_43m\_delete\_her\_44f\_number\_and\_move/](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1q4sw3v/before_i_43m_delete_her_44f_n…

I'm sorry, I just want to get out of this mental hell — I'm sorry if I keep making these extreme venting/screaming posts.... i'm just tired of all the bad news in the world I'm a graduated artist and animator looking for a job and goes to therapy, but I c…

One of the loneliest things about being single is no significant human touch. — I'm trying to get out of a long term situationship with someone. He's (38m) not right for me (38f) and I'm not right for him​. That has been clear and well known. We're looking to just be friends. He…

Struggling really hard to get out of bed and wake up quickly. — I eat healthy and go to the gym and sleep well, but I struggle really hard to leave the bed because it's so stupidly comfy! Any tips? I am not sure how to word this to be taken seriously but the strug…

OKAY LISTEN Y'ALL. — I don't know which tag this would come under but I just have to say this because the amount of 'im gonna give up' , 'its not working' ' what am I doing wrong' posts am seeing is insaneee. First of all…

Quick bit of sadness I need to get out... — My cell phone needed a good cleaning. It's been a while. Definitely longer than six months ago when my wife left me after three years of marriage. I took the phone case off and realized I still had …

17 months post being discarded by my husband for the other woman. — On 03/20/2026, I will be 17 months out from the night that my husband left me forever and went to his affair partner of a few weeks. I was shattered. On the verge of losing my excellent job because …

Caught myself falling asleep and slipped into another OBE/AP (details + what helped) — So last night (11/3/2026) I had another experience. I can't say for sure whether it was AP or an OBE — I'm not sure if they are classed as the same thing or not. I’ll be looking into that later. Befo…

THE PHOENIX LIGHTS 29th ANNIVERSARY This is what I saw that night March 13, 1997. It was a totally solid piece of machinery not just lights. I could see the bottom of the UFO clearly by two light sources illuminating the bottom of the craft as it flew over my head — I posted this also in UFO sub. March 13, 1997 I was working in East Mesa, Arizona in a 10 bed Hospice inpatient unit as the Charge RN. We worked 12 hour shifts getting off at 7:30 PM but that night t…

Finally sober, but I bedrot every day and can't do anything... need help — Hey all, 31F with ADHD and struggling to get out of bed lately. It takes so much energy just to survive. To eat. To go to work. I used to be a drunk, and I drank all of my 20s away. I was an ugly drun…

More insight into my Gemini Saturn in the 12th. How can I balance it? 23F — I’ve recently gotten some good advice regarding my chart and 12h stellium. I’m someone who has struggled with isolation, stagnation, and substance abuse (heavily, but easing up recently) and I’m tryin…

Is my relationship doomed? I love him, but I’m so alone. — Hey everyone, I’m Lucy (F, late 20s) and I’ve been with my husband, Rick (M, late 20s) for about 8 years, married for 2. I know he cares about me and our family, and I see that he loves us. But latel…

I am 18F and I’m exhausted dealing with my Indian mom who practically worships her narcissistic, manipulative younger brother and lets him control my life while treating me like garbage. — My mom (44F) has two younger brothers. The one I’m talking about is the middle child. He’s married and has a 10-year-old daughter. In my opinion he is one of the most narcissistic, selfish, and arroga…

I’m 19 and left with a 4yo autistic sister. I feel extremely hopeless. — I’m 19f, my mom passed away November 2025 and Im left with a 5year old neurotypical sister and 4 year old sister diagnosed with autism, ocd, and adhd. My sisters and I have different fathers, their fa…

I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…

I don't know the difference between what's real or not anymore — I don't really know where to start other than this experience was over the weekend, and it made me see things in a different way. On Saturday night, I took a gummy, I dabble in it to help with my anxi…

My mother is super affectionate now that I'm an adult and she has dementia. It disgusts me. — My mother doesn't remember the screaming, my mother doesn't remember her calling me stupid everyday, she doesn't remember her telling me to get out of her house. She talks to me now in a baby voice, s…

Using Stoic learnings to get back on track — What Should I do? I’m a 17-year-old student in Turkey preparing for the YKS exam—the exam that will decide which university and major I get into, so it carries a lot of weight for me. I’ve always be…

Decided to stop blaming things on my breakup, the world, and my mental health — Ever since my break up last year i’ve turned to alcohol, gambling, lots of random hookups with girls i would never make my wife. I’ve come to realize that she was one of the most important lessons in …

“EASIEST AP TECHNIQUE IN HISTORY!” (Update) — “History’s simplest projection technique” (Tweaked and updated for better results!)  I posted the 30 second head lift technique a few months back and I wanted to update it hopefully to add to y…

Those who were depressed, how did you get out of it? — To sum it up, my life sucks and I’m finally doing something about it. Anyone who was depressed or persevered through a hard time in your life, how did you do it? I just feel like if I see someone else…

Has anyone ever changed their entire selves/view on life? — I (40f) have been struggling with selfishness my whole life. My husband left me and asked for a divorce but more recently agreed to a trial separation. One thing he brought up today was that I never s…

Does my chart suggest or explain my commitment issues? — I do pretty alright in friendships, however in romantic relationships I have a tendency of breaking up around month 3. This is almost always due to me becoming ‘bored’ of my partner, feeling that we d…

I got into medical school but my mother is still ashamed. — I (24f, Filipino) recently got accepted to medical school away from home. For context, I had a conditional acceptance for my local medical school that did not work out in the end. After 3 cycles and 4…

I (31M) seeing someone (33F) but I never got the gut feeling that they're my person. How important is the gut feeling? Does it develop over time? We have been dating for a month and a half — TBH I never felt the spark even on the first date. But we got intimate on the second date and that added a new layer to the relationship. I also have anxieties of my own when the relationships get "re…

I burned out so badly I couldn't get out of bed for two weeks and the recovery taught me everything about my limits — Last year I hit a wall that I didn't see coming. I thought I was fine. I was working sixty hour weeks, maintaining an active social life, going to the gym, keeping up with everything. I felt like I wa…

AP this morning. — This morning I woke up a whole hour before the alarm was set to go off, so I focused on trying to AP and I managed to do it. It was 2/3 times, as I kept waking up. Nothing much happened however, I d…

My mother won't stop grabbing my crotch — Not sure exactly how to flair this. Marked it NSFW just in case. Sorry if that's not right. I'm a 22y/o living between my divorced parents (don't have the means to get out on my own right now). Thing…

Literally Crying Right Now — I have been going through so much and struggling to stay positive. This morning I decided fuck this..I have the power to change this. I’m shifting my mindset and I’m not going to feel stressed or depr…

I’m scared I’m the kind of mom people talk about here, even though I’m trying so hard not to be… — I found this group after typing into google “how can I get strength to parent after being so tired from work” on a Friday afternoon. I’ve been reading through this forum and it’s honestly been sit…

Dealing with bf — My bf(26) and I(f25) have been together for over 2.5 years. He has always had a drinking problem, however he’d usually drink 12-18 packs on weekends, and an occasional 6 packs 1-2 weekdays. Lately, th…

I (21M) have survived two decades of severe physical, emotional, and financial abuse from my Indian parents. I'm finally exhausted and need to tell my story. I am not free yet. — # TL;DR: I'm a 20-year-old only child in India who has endured severe physical, verbal, emotional, and financial abuse from my parents since toddlerhood. They have beaten me, medically neglected me, …

The 'technique' that helped me manifest in 1 week what I have been trying for months — I decided to make this a more general post since it's extremely helpful for any manifestation. Like everyone, I was trying to manifest something for a few months with common techniques like visualizi…

Robert Monroe — I was listening to a video of Robert Monroe yesterday and these are his exact words: Knowledge to me doesn't even have to be a belief but a consideration of yours, and that is that - that more than …

Dealing with an energy vampire parent? — I'm pretty sure my dad's an energy vampire, anytime i'm around him i get sick, ALL the time. Which never happens on the months he's gone for work. I feel down, lazy, i don't want to get out of bed, ev…

Why procrastination advice will never work for me — Let’s say I really don’t want to get out of bed. The next small step would be to remove the covers, but there’s still huge resistance because my mind knows there’s a purpose behind the small step, so …

Help me please — Created this account just to talk about this I don’t know if it would reach a lot of people but I don’t feel like it’s appropriate to post on main I feel so empty right after I just felt alive I don’…

Hello I just had the weirdest dream and I don't know how to look up my specific type of dream and was so shocked I decided to come here and write. I remember going to sleep around 12:30pm after wakin…

yes , it took me like 2 months to master it , all i did was lay on the back look up and close my eyes , i would invision seeing myself fly around my neighborhood while doing this practice , , this ga…

Guys i have a question,so when u get out of body expirience can u see your body and things around u,or do u just get in another realm..If you can see your body and u see things around you could u see…

Is it possible that a lucid dream can become so real, its extremely difficult to get out?

I started a yoga class last night, this is a real win after not really being able to get out of bed for the last 7 months. Somehow I've managed to keep my job and barely kept it together for the kids …

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

Shut up ew that's so loser energy. He needs to get over his loser ex, idc if he's a man, he needs to get out there, because his pathetic ex loves playing head games with him. Stop discouraging ppl fro…

Hello, I'm Kale, and Im 34. I was just married 3 months ago after being in a loving 8+ year relationship with the kindest person I've ever met. Three days ago she told me she had developed a relation…

I'm new and I came here first!! I'm new and I came here first!! I want a get out of ban free card.

I did notice there are occasional “I am an abuser/racist/sexist” posts nowadays, although more time will be needed to observe and decide whether a rule about that will be necessary because as of now, …

I didn’t like the book attached bc he basically denigrates avoidants & says the only way forward is to be jn relationships w secure people- which js statistically not possible & ignores the vast treas…

I am in the same boat. Had my FA (maybe DA? I never knew about attachment theory until her. She was extremely committed and IN. LOVE. for 2 years and was much more anxious and attached. Then she was j…

Yes, you can develop the habit of Prayer to strenghten your faith, ask for little things first with conviction that it’s done and when you’ll see it work, your faith will grow :) That’s what I did, y…

I didn't even really address your situation. I think you should probably remember to give what you get out of relationships. Reciprocity matters. They're continuing to make space you should too. I kno…

Get out of that environment anti pattern. Imo codebase should be the same for all environments use different workspace variables for different environments. Then you can have story branches or develop…

Thank you for your kind, comprehensive comment. I don't know, I feel I'm in such an odd place. I am legitimately intelligent, extremely emotionally open, & reflective. But, I just cannot get close to…

I am AA. I think you do not really need to overcompensate, as that just makes more contrast in hold/cold dynamic. But open communication here is more important. "Hey, I feel like soon I might need a b…

Practicing not doing avoidant behavior is the way to get out of being an FA, at least that has worked for me and now I'm mostly secure. Overcompensating can stifle that process because you're suppress…

I also get very anxious. I try to act secure but my brain is going insane. Always overanalyzing, preoccupied, I genuinely cannot tell when I am overreacting and when I am right, so I always override m…

Thank you, that's solid advice, and plz take you’re pretty little self to a city! You’ll have so much more fun and your pick of men! Get out asap.

It’s honestly uncanny, how accurately you have described my own situation - except that it has been a week now and we (me: f34, AP - him: m30, DA) were together for 10, married for 8 years. We were ea…

Girl you. need . to . move . On. This is said with love. He is an adult and he needs to do the work, you cannot do it for him. You have your very own life left to live it..live it to the fullest. You …

He broke up with me but I had broken up with him a few times the previous months I went no contact and then we talked once or twice before I blocked him so I couldn’t see him on anything and we’ve ne…

I didn't mean to sound harsh, sorry! I really hope that you'll feel better soon. Isn't it a very strange situation to still live in your shared apartment? When I was dumped, I could hardly breathe, ea…

Right, and then if you do say “it’s fine, that’s not true, we can work it out” and then every time you ask for anything in a relationship they do heinous stuff or pull away and then pull out the “well…

>There's a good chance she might have a kickback dismissive avoidant response when things get real and she has to "choose you". That'll start off a progression of fault-finding. You're not going to th…

I am sorry op. I did have smth similar, once with my colleague who was my work best friend, and we hung out outside a lot. But when he told me he is in love with me I told him no, I was really upset t…

I experience exactly the same thing. I recommend looking into cognitive distortion to help name what’s going on in your head & cognitive defusion techniques to try and stop the thoughts. I find that r…

thank you for this post. this is exactly the use i get out of this community. my awakening was very destabilizing and being convinced myself was psychologically and spiritually exhausting -- i do not …

Wow, you have done a significant amount of research. I am just now learning about these Avoidant Attachment Styles. I'm not real sure what my SO has, and I'm also not sure which attachment style I hav…

Bruh. Stop throwing around "I'm gonna kill myself" just because you aren't hearing what you wanna hear. I understand the desire to be in a relationship but for the love of god, if you have literally n…

Keep in mind there are PLENTY of people IN RELATIONSHIPS that feel completely alone also. A warm body doesnt mean a fulfilling relationship. I have AA , Im a 44 year old man . Im learning to be more s…

Buddy nobody wants to be with somebody that needs them. Lots of us anxious people, get into a relationship with somebody that is more anxious than us and believe it or not, swing avoidant, but unlike…

You are dating a DA. Don’t CHASE, don’t text, don’t call. If it is too triggering, get out now

I used to go to SLAA as I identified as a love addict. My situation was pretty bad at the time. I was repeatedly dating avoidants and a total mess. Very desperate. I had a friend at work-a married guy…

Even if you ended on a good note, you should never entertain the idea of having a person who hurt you back in your life. It’s okay that you reached out probably because you told yourself you eventuall…

He sounds like he is not emotionally available for a real relationship. What are you hoping to get out of this relationship?

After my Bipolar ex broke up with me, I can’t stop worrying about her. She broke up with me a month ago. Everything was seeming wonderful, and on top of the world. We were going to get married. I bou…

Slow down with people if you're moving fast. Hormones and infatuation cloud judgement and make it harder to make calls on incompatibility when they should be made. Secure people make these calls for g…

I’m kind of embarrassed to admit this, but after many years of cbt therapy that didn’t help, lots of journals that had prompts and other attempts, I use copilot (chat gpt) I say “ act like you are a J…

Thank you! Yes my current therapist does IFS! I struggle with it because it feels like I'm "faking it" when I'm speaking as one of my parts. Like I can't get out of my head and really let the part tak…

Start with a smaller obstacle. Is there something smaller, like being on your phone too much or not making your bed right when you get out of it? If you practice those smaller things then you’ll b…

I feel like there are multiple things going on here. You may need to separate them out so as to help you know how to help yourself. 1 - Have you always struggled with attachment issues? Does it show…

So… I have dated someone with DID before. Dissociative Identity Disorder. In these individuals, when anything even remotely stressful happens; they will quite literally turn into a different person. L…

Wow I am sorry. I have felt similarly before and it is such a terrible thing to experience. There was a time, even, where I was paranoid that I was NPD (despite being, if anything, the complete opposi…

I am struggling in my relationship and I feel extremely unheard, triggered, and hurt by him. I have in the past has been cheated on and my ex kept me a secret (or refuse to include me with his frien…

Hi everyone. I’m a woman in my mid-30s and recently I’ve been feeling completely overwhelmed and ashamed about how dating affects my mental health. I’ve had depressive episodes before, and it feels li…

As someone who is currently quitting smoking and has had partners worry/stress about it in the past, the biggest place that I see this go wrong is that partners focus on the *act* of smoking and mista…

I dont think youre ever truly ready, i think you just need to get out there, get that exposure therapy and work on self regulating yourself when those triggers occur, you can prepare and get better wi…

In an anxious avoidant cycle with my fiance, we've been dating for 7 years. Some times we are better at navigating the ebbs and flows and sometimes all hell breaks loose . In general I've stepped int…