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For everyone that's saying not to be too quick to judge this work: I would tend to agree that some people here are flaunting that they're literally judging a book by its cover and that's not a good ha…

What is even going on? — I (45f) have been single and dating for a a little over a year now, and there have been some frustrating patterns emerge that I just can’t make sense of. So I’m curious if anyone else out there has. A…

I don’t know how to identify my boundaries — I don’t really know if this is the right place for this, as I’m kind of just lost and distraught at the moment. My brother and I have been self described as codependent for years. It used to be more…

My nervous system is ruining my life. — I'm 28. I live in a constant state of fight or flight (and sometimes fawn/freeze). I also carry a large amount of shame, which manifests in different ways. My nervous system is incredibly sensitive a…

Could unresolved anger be keeping me sick? — I’ve had a sinus infection for a month already. It doesn’t seem to get better, even though I’ve tried so many things. I’m starting to wonder if there might be a deeper cause. For a few months now bu…

I'm also a recovering FA and I recently realized a few REALLY important things that are actually really simple. Figure out your boundaries and enforce them from a calm place. Our anxiety builds in our…

i think you're getting triggered by these times when your primary attachment figure is hurt/not caring for themselves more for a couple reasons. for 1, it is genuinely concerning, and can be a red fl…

Yes. The term Lovebombing is being thrown around a lot and often used incorrectly online. The real definition is when someone does it with malicious intent as a manipulation tactic. I also think anxio…

Irl I am repulsed by people who are obsessed with me because it's like cool cool so you don't actually see me at all you're just projecting whatever you want to see onto me and I'll be discarded and d…

Original copy of post by u/dreamyraccoons: I (45f) have been single and dating for a a little over a year now, and there have been some frustrating patterns emerge that I just can’t make sense of. So…

the grass greener where it is watered…. my advice start watering…💕 how do you water….gratitude, respect, curiosity, dreams, sharing info, taking risks…emotionally… kindness, conversation, time, being…

It is absolutely important, but there is a problem with it as well. In my 57m experience, as someone that is authentic, low key, and emotionally regulated, and safe, We come across as boring. I have b…

I find 90s content is more lighthearted and wholesome. I love Anne of Green Gables, Little House on the Prairie, The Babysitter's Club Movie, etc. I love watching the Goldbergs and I imagine living in…

Yup. I really appreciate them also. Very authentic about wanting to help people, make real manifesting accessible, and get the truth out about manifesting without misinformation or gatekeeping content…

i hear you. i wrote the suggestions from my own experience - the morning phone thing especially was a real shift for me. whether or not it reads as authentic, i hope something in there was useful. i'm…

If whatever you had going on were truly as deep, authentic, real and loving as you thought, you wouldn't struggle so hard with understanding him and where he is coming from. You wouldn't be left wond…

I share his views and get him. He likes you for you. Once you get plastic surgery you have permanently changed something about yourself that makes you inauthentic, plastic, and the surgery cheapens th…

I was very good at masking, so often people enjoyed having me around when I was in performance mode. But whenever I was authentic, whether because I was too tired or overstimulated to keep up the mas…

I wish I even received an apology from mine. I know how it can feel painful when they contact you while drinking because it feels less authentic, all I received from mine was “I miss you” then being g…

In my case I know he chose her because she was "easier" than me. I am authentic, I have higher standards, and she's a phony who mirrors whatever he shows interest in. That said, I still miss him and h…

Eliminate the info about your dad. No one needs to know that. Also don't say how often you check the app. Overall, your profile needs to be enticing while revealing some info about what kind of pers…

Manifesting is about improving your emotional intelligence and understanding how to control your emotions, not circumstances and other people. And manifesting is about being authentic, not delusional.…

I feel like the first step to self-validation and also self-confidence is to find what you like. Find what feels good - as yoga teacher Adriene on yt says:). Go after things that spark a lil joy, that…

I am probably telling you something you already know but I will point it out because maybe it will help you focus on it. I think there is a real danger in seeing relationships as a competition. I un…

Yeah, I've definitely considered this, and my friends have pointed this out to me too. It sucks, but that's on her and whether or not she convinced herself the marriage was terrible, or whether it was…

Man, reading this brought back so many feelings from when my marriage almost didn't happen because we went through rough patch before wedding. The way you describe missing those little things - the jo…

There’s something really freeing about the idea of exploring places, taking time to see what feels right and just enjoying life without pressure. I like that you pointed out how dates don’t have to me…

👍 I hope the original poster realizes that the difficulty they are having has brought together some very kind and experienced folks who truly honestly want to help healing begin. What a beautiful thi…

Congrats. I think people fear sharing a fuckup or admitting to failure or sharing hard reality to someone will worsen their own image. The core stupid assumption / toxic behavior is that people are so…

>If bro does not like working out, dieting, or whatever and get's with a girl, then he's gonna need to keep that up forever to be accepted by that girl.  The same can be said for a myriad of other tr…

When a therapist has lived experience, it translates into every microexpression, and the empathy is innate. If a therapist doesn't have lived experience, I think it's harder to relate to others becaus…

If someone broke up with you, or you broke up with them without trying to fix things first or talk through stuff.. Do that. Give things a chance. If you already did that tried and it still a no go. Th…

If you allow me another perspective: the first thing that comes to my mind when reading you is : isn’t it supposed to be about the journey rather than the goal ? Isn’t a relationship about enjoying so…

My dad was on the spectrum and eventually got sick, he was a good provider for years but ended up disabled because of his diabetes. When he did provide he wasn’t exactly emotionally supportive. I’m su…

Best decision of my life! I am so happy to be away from those miserable cruel people. Took me a long time to come to realization. Being away from them has been the best thing for my healing. Reall…