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Investigators are professionals who are used to dealing with highly manipulative personalities. They see it every single day. You are going to have to confront your sister's behaviours, whether it …
Almost 1 year since I left... And I just started my own business!! I'm living in MY own apartment and I own everything I need — I decide how ALL of my days are gonna go now! FU! — I can't say it to my nex(because I am keeping absolute no-contact), but I'll say it here, hell I will scream it: #Fuck You!! Fuck you for every time you put me down Fuck you for every time you deci…
Can I sell the house with him in it? — I’m planning a divorce in stealth as I found out my husband sexually assaulted my sister several times. I can’t let him find out that I know this happened, so my plan is to get all my ducks in a row…
Although your story is different to an avoidant, doesn’t matter DA/FA, unless your constantly throwing up boundary walls at random and make them chase you they’ll stick to the avoidant (unofficial) ha…
Omg, I'm trying to work through serious issues with my FA partner and I had feared something like this if I stay. She will engage with me just enough to get her ducks in a row and then leave or withd…
We were long distance. The plan was for him to move to the state in moving too when he gets his ducks in a row. It would have been a few years for him. He also wanted to move there, not just because o…
I want to hold your hand and tell you this in a gentle, but matter of fact statement. He will not change. He will not marry you!!! Get your ducks in a row and leave him. You’ll have a huge weight lift…
So sorry. 1-DO NOT STAY WITH HER, 2-the kids will not be better off having a front row seat watching you guys battle it out. Take your evidence to an attorney asap so you can understand what custody o…
You are right. His comment honestly is just hurtful. Get your ducks in a row to leave him. You will lose a lot of weight that way.
OP, I’ve been where you are, and understand how this can shatter a person. The “baby” is at least 4 years old, correct? That’s a time when they’re becoming a bit more independent, pending any developm…
I was Daddy's girl until I was in my thirties. Then I really opened my eyes to just how fucking selfish he was. Literally yesterday I remembered having panic attacks trying to drive down to his place …
This right here. No one who is rooting for their own relationship floats the idea of breaking up, especially that hard. He’s expecting you to accommodate him in the short term while he gets his ducks …
OP do not get stuck in your mind and thoughts, you need to think on your kids but not in the way you are thinking. How in your mind think this would work even if you don't accept the divorce, do you …
Paternity test and make him agree that when it turns out to be his he's going to therapy. I know you said you don't feel like you can be a single mom, I get it. So don't divorce him right away. Start …
So she's been having an emotional affair (at least)... which is just an affair. Lied to you and gaslit you, turned it around to lay blame on you because of alcohol, and now is continuing the affair be…
OP keep. Eing sober, I know difficult time are to come but need to navigate those firm and with a clear mind. First thing first, go consult a lawyer, let them guide and advice you on how to proceed a…
Your options are as follows: 1. You secretly get your ducks in a row to leave. Start gathering evidence. Snoop. Save what you find in a password-protected folder in some kind of cloud-based storage. …
I can’t get over how that message was from a YEAR ago, and now all I keep thinking is how much more cheating he’s done within that one year time span that you don’t know about. How did you guys get …
Stay sober. Don’t confront her again - not yet. All you will get is more trickle truth, blame shifting, and gas lighting while she hides/deletes all the evidence. Take screen shots of everything a…
You went nuke. Good job! You can let the OBS know you’re there if she wants to talk and needs evidence. That pretty much will end the A because that POS probably never planned to leave his wife and wi…
To answer your question I think it can be worked through IF and the big IF is if the person comes to you and is honest about what happened and wants to change. That’s not what happened here. He is s…
Your husband is gunna keep cheating. You have a choice and im not judging. In life you cannot change other people. Most cheaters are chronic cheaters, from my experience. So accept this. But you can c…
If you decide to try to work out what you have get a postnup. You seem to have your ducks in a row but there could be more you can do. Get an attny and look at what divorce vs. Reconciliation looks li…
I have ADHD. This has nothing to do with ADHD. He doesn’t even have to do the work. He just has to sit down and eat (don’t get me wrong, that’s not ok either, but in this situation, he’s not even t…
It only gets worse from here if you stay. You want to be 24 and miserable with a newborn? Divorced by 30? That's where you're headed. Make plans for your new living situation. Do not have the breakup…
I’ve had to be induced early for all four of my pregnancies because of pre-eclampsia and it got worse with each pregnancy. By the third and fourth I couldn’t walk to the bathroom without spikes in my …
☝️ OP, you should say this to your hubby on your exit. And I definitely would exit him. After you've got all your ducks in a row, so to speak.
This shouldn’t even be a question. If you didn’t have a child and you wanted to stay, then that’s your business. You can put your body on the line, but you have a child need to put her first. Stop pu…
You're not overthinking. She hasn't even really dove deep into "why". The only "why" is basically, "you are garbage". Sorry but the "not much reasoning as to why she did it other than occasionally say…
You’re 100000000% correct. My ex fiancé became my enemy when I ended the engagement and wanted to leave. He’s a man but when the other party knows it’s up….WHOA. total meltdown. Be safe OP and mak…
WYDM he supports family? If this isn’t kids, I have questions. Overall it sounds like a parade of red flags, I’m sorry to say. You are not over analyzing. What’s the big rush to get engaged before …
Tell him you will and then don’t. You don’t owe him anything. Just don’t check the box on the divorce paperwork, tell him you want a year or smthg to get all your ducks in a row before you do it so yo…
>My wife is an attorney. I’m not. And when we argue, she doesn’t just argue, she lawyers me. She dissects everything I say, reframes it, twists it, and turns it into something else. It feels like I’m …
Everybody has their preferences about talking before meeting etc. But it is risky to talk for 3 hours, 4 hours and have all this excitement that the in-person meeting has to live up to. I find it bet…
I think I can understand what you are going through. My husband died 4 years ago. My new boyfriend died two years ago. Opening our hearts to love again after devastating loss can be terrifying. Af…
I was told multiple times by multiple attorneys that filing first just sets the venue and the timeline. I'm in a situation where filing first isn't possible for me, but I already have a lawyer I'm ret…
She didn’t “accidentally” get pregnant. You played your part. If you didn’t expressly discuss what happens in case of pregnancy before taking her back, that’s why you’re here. Having sex with a known …
Great response. OP, you do know he cheated. Trust the evidence and your gut. In no particular order ..all are vital; Get into therapy. Get tested and stop having unprotected sex, or any at all b…
You can't change who they are. They are dropping their mask now that you are trapped. It might be time to think about if your wife as she is now, is the person you want to spend the rest of your life …
First hire someone to come during the day so you can sleep. You need energy to pack your shit and leave. Go to your parents if you can. Better yet, have mom come stay a couple days and she can help yo…
You start by putting them both on public blast for anyone and everyone to hear. Do not even attempt to hold back, to and including the disclosure that your STBX has been stringing this false reconcil…
Why are you still with her? Why are you staying loyal and giving her a second chance? Why have you not told the other BS in this ?!?!? - she deserves the know !!! What are you trying to salvage…
More than likely she is already cheating and is trying to fabricate reasons why it isn’t ‘her’ fault. She treats you like this 2 months in, it will only get worse. Her outlook on your ex is either jea…
I think you are still living in denial about how bad of a guy your husband is. Even in your title, you “asked” him for a separation. In your post you “suggested” a separation. Why are you asking anyth…
You do not ever have to stay with anyone you do not want to. No matter what your reasons. I recommend you consult with a custody lawyer just to make sure you don't face any unexpected complications i…
I wouldn’t have said anything in the first place. Y’all have got to stop giving people chances to lie to you. Telling him you know gives him a chance to gaslight and hide things better. My advice: A…
So I can relate to your partner. I have PTSD and when I get up in the morning I literally need a half hour to an hour to reset. So I get up, take care of the animals going out/feed them all, and then …
I am very sorry this is happening. She doesn’t respect you because at some point you lost all respect for yourself. Time for consequences. If you still want R, I wouldn’t in a million years, then lay …
Get your ducks in a row and move out. Whatever is causing this isn't worth figuring out. If he is the violent type, leave with your important documents and pets if you have any and then go back with…
The fact that he is hiding things from you is pretty bad on its own you know. I hope you took pictures of the messages , like from your own phone or even a picture of his extra phone. That way you hav…
Get your ducks in a row, consult at least one lawyer (even if you don't end up hiring one) to be familiar with your local laws, and file. He might beg for you back and say he'll change once he might s…
Lawyer up before you do anything. Custody is going to be a battle and you'll need your ducks in a row.