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When I read stories like this, I just want to grab the person (victim) and say, "I'm your mother now." Which sounds weird but I promise I'd support anything you want as long as it makes you happy and …
I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …
You’re Allowed to Forgive Yourself — That’s it. You aren’t the same person anymore and that’s huge. It’s amazing that you want to change (and already have!). I love you :) I’m with you on this journey.
the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…
A message I won't send — Hello, I just wanted you to know that I miss you deeply. We never gave ourselves a proper chance. We let our fears, and our past traumas, dictate our behaviour, and this poisoned our resolution. But…
How to forgive myself and stop ruminating over lost sentimental items? — I've struggled for years with ADHD and OCD. I like material items because they each hold a memory that I might otherwise forget, not because the memory doesn't matter, but because my brain is chaos an…
How to forgive yourself for the break up reaction?(rant lol) — I kinda had a break down when my ex boyfriend of 16 months dumped me over text, I didn’t call him names or anything or treat him badly when he did leave me but I feel very dumb still texting him like …
Divorce because of suspected or admitted infidelity after trying to work it out — When whomever found out they were being cheated on, was there a sense of relief (from either the cheater or the cheated on) that the relationship was coming to an end, guilt, or confusion? How did you…
Struggling to move on from my ex and feeling a lot of regret — I’m really struggling to move on from my ex and could use some perspective. It was a messy toxic breakup and I’m ashamed… (32m 30f) It’s been about 6 months since we broke up a 2 year relationship, a…
Do you ever “get over it”? — How long was it for you to forgive your spouse completely after an affair? My partner cheated on me with a long distance affair (2 years)with someone that I had met at the beginning of our relationsh…
me 23M and my ex bf 24M. is past matters this much? mistakes committed in the past matter this much? — we broke up today, and yes there were arguements and fights happening like fews days went well then an arguement come. in feb so i told my ex about the relationship i had before him and how i got betr…
how to forgive yourself for past mistakes as a teen? — hi, 23F here. i grew up in a hypersexual, mentally and physically abusive household. in middle school and highschool school, i had a phase where id make fake accounts, bother people then swoop in as t…
I hate you. — You're an awful human being. I'll never forgive you
How do I deal with the guilt? — 25M, A few days ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 7-ish months. She is a genuinely fantastic person and always treated me so well, but there were some incompatibilities that I had been feeling for …
My last pebble from a broken penguin — I am not sure if you will ever read this but if you do I’d want you to know I forgive you. when we first met everything was perfect. We connected like if we had knew each other in a past life. You wer…
Fuck you fuck you — you irresponsible pieces of shit you cowards never even tried truly for your own "you dont respect" ahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahahaha fucj YOUBS YOU PIECE OF SHIT WHO THE FUCK SEES A CHILD AND WA…
Are You Supposed to Forgive Yourself for Legitimate Guilt? — I don't want to specify, but I did something bad 6-7 years ago that I shit on myself for and have minor panic attacks about almost every day. It's legitimatly bad, both the event and daily emotional r…
I make my life worst — Im 17. I am dumb, no early childhood achievements, no achievements at all that are important, probably not any at all. Im a complete idiot, I can’t reason, analyze, follow instructions, common sense a…
We broke up December 2025 — We started dating in my (17M) 8th grade year and his (M17) freshman year. we lasted for 3 years and 3 months, and it ended December 2025 he broke up with me. I'm finally letting him go with one las…
Tiny useful epiphany/phrase — my friend and I were talking about what "getting over it" or "healing" actually means in the context of cptsd. we said a little of things but out little gem we came up with was: you could forgive yo…
Advice, Tips, Anything? — My first time ever posting - I am at a loss and going through it. I was with someone for going on year 4, the past year and a half was VERY on and off again. This person is avoidant in nature. Has…
Narcissist mother/son enmeshment (long story) — My husband has always been enmeshed with his mother. There were so many red flags and “what the f\*\*\* ?” moments from the beginning. I’d like to hear others experiences about this dysfunctional enme…
What’s your deepest regret and how can you forgive yourself or make amends? — What’s ***your deepest regret*** and how can you ***forgive yourself*** or ***make amends***?
9 Year relationship ended. Days are getting harder — My relationship ended and my partner I've known and loved for 9 years left to a different state with family. We met in middle school and had one break over the 9 years we were together. I was very swe…
how to forgive yourself when you are still actively making the same mistakes — (yes i have ocd) im in therapy right now and the whole thing im supposed to be doing is being kinder to myself. right now it is borderline impossible because all i feel is this deep deep anger. i hat…
All because of a happy birthday message — So if you look back at my profile. I sent my mother a happy birthday message. Since I’m no contact, I did it two weeks ago, as a way to stop her from harassing my siblings. I blocked her everywhere ex…
Forgive yourself. Forgive her. Treat yourself and your 6 y/o to therapy. You deserve happiness.
"I do declare, I hath fucked up! Because, you see, needs that did not align with my sense of self or respect for your own were, to me, as hemlock to Socrates. And ye for I am avoidant, 'twas all your …
IMHO, the anger might be directed to yourself. You were the fool who fell for it again knowing full well that you shouldn't. Forgive yourself and keep doing the work, we were all fools at some point.…
I had a pretty similar experience and landed in a similar spot that you did, even down to the same number of dates and spiraling when I would run into her afterwards (we work in the same building so i…
I am working on these things the same as you are and I am 8 years older than you so I think it’s amazing you’re this aware at 26. Some things that have helped me in my journey: -keeping myself busy w…
Even if you ended on a good note, you should never entertain the idea of having a person who hurt you back in your life. It’s okay that you reached out probably because you told yourself you eventuall…
Don't send it, you don't know where they're at in their life or what they're doing and it could be disruptive or painful. I've had bad relationships and I don't think I would want a random unexpect…
What exactly do you hope to get out of it? Are you only doing that to make yourself feel better? I think you are free to forgive yourself for prior actions and let it go. For all you know it is in the…
If she didn’t respect your boundaries then why keep pursuing her? You didn’t respect your own boundaries. It doesn’t matter what she was doing or if she was jealous, etc. Seriously so much of what you…
don't send her anything. forgive yourself and get rid of the guilt and become a better person. but please - leave her alone.
Figuring out a bit of what led you to that- forgive yourself - make room for you to embrace yourself in this new form of “secure-ness” - do stuff you like…. I used to do stuff I liked as a kid to reco…
But … I can’t help but to think he’s the one that could have possibly given it to you. You are young! Forgive yourself and don’t ever do it again!!!
You are young with a full life ahead of you. What are the chances that if you get back together with your husband your needs will be met? I would say close to zero. You will be in the same situation a…
That's the right mindset to have. I have an abusive brother who is now in jail and I refuse that anyone takes away my joy about it or ask me to forgive him just because he's suffering jail conditions …
Forgive yourself for having the urge to run. It is just one of the four F's/ Fight, flight, freeze, fawn. They are survival mechanisms. Write out on paper: I feel like running Write out: what wi…
Well, friend, lying isn’t good. We all know that. But shit happens. I don’t really know what to tell you about the situation that you’re not already doing. But you do have to forgive yourself because …
"You forgive yourself, ok? Do not disturb me again" And what happened is just a misunderstanding and one of my topics I brought up in a sensitive time, and then she blocked me.
You’ve already said and done what you can. Show some compassion toward yourself. If it is truly meant to be he will forgive you. Forgiveness is one of the most important factors of any relationship. I…
You did all you could. If he’s into that much wanting to marry you he will forgive you might not forget what you did but we all make mistakes. I would forgive someone for that. Forgiveness is a big pa…
He will forgive you. I promise
God may forgive you but I won’t. Jesus may love you but I don’t.
Haha, I forgive youuu. We/I pronounce it more like "WERNT". Do y'all (hehe) pronounce it more like "were-ent"? Oh man, hoarders makes me anxious and my skin crawl but it's so satisfying to see the aft…
His ultimatum is promising you nothing. He's stated that he's having doubts about the relationship lasting even if you give up the birds and you've said that you couldn't forgive yourself if you did t…
I’m giving you a standing ovation. 👏 Keep it up! Forgive yourself. That’s all that matters. So that inner critic gets put in a corner for a time out until it has nicer things to say.
It can be extremely hard to forgive yourself if you've done something bad or unforgivable. Some can do it, others never get over it. You won't know if you can do it until it happens, so the best th…
No you don't. However, you must forgive yourself.
Mine gets very angry when I try to explain what he's done to me and simply cannot see this side of things. It's like he cannot comprehend that it wasn't "oh, I'm so glad you ended that. Ok, I'm just a…
Reactive abuse is THEM pushing you to the edge. The abuse is on their end. You’re just being a normal human being, they’re being a predator and you’re reacting as anyone would after a long build up. F…
As someone currently struggling with the same issue as OP, this is what I’ve done. There are also plenty of podcasts with DBT and exercises for you to try. I would also suggest using journalling as …
Your parents make my parents look good. I'm glad you understand how bad they are, they really messed up the siblings who stayed in contact. She must be delusional to think she is in the position to …
I completely empathize with people who have been kicked out for being gay. I am not gay myself however the moment I turned 18 my nmom told me to either get a job or go to school but she was going to c…
She’s willing to forgive you for being gay? That would be funny if it wasn’t so gross!
Forgive yourself that’s what a green flag would do
Another point I learnt - forgive yourself, only then you can truly move on. I strived to seek who is the good and the bad , but realized there is no point of doing so.
That is really a good one. I kinda started writing some on this but backed off a bit thinking about others situations. But yeah you have to be able to see your failures, accept them, and forgive yours…
I have a whole thing I do to get over breakups but this one was different for me, it was 10 years so there is more complications and nuances. To forgive yourself begin to see the you that is hurting …
Well first, you're human, so forgive yourself for that. Having urges and cravings doesn't make you bad, even acting on those doesn't make you bad. There's lots of research going on now that basicay sa…
Ready to forgive you? That’s cute. How pathetic and desperate to try to sell it that way to avoid having to take accountability for their behavior and choices. It’s your family you do what you want. J…
Oh no I’m sorry to hear this. I’ve been trying to make sense of this blaming myself because we were not communicating much and not intimate due to his health, but I had no idea this was going on. I’m …
Oh wow, these men have no shame. I’m sorry your mom felt ashamed to confide in anyone, I guess I’m the opposite. I will speak about it till it doesn’t bother me anymore. My children are young adults a…
I have done revision before on a painful memory and revising very painful memories are more difficult so I will try to help from my experience, first of all yes forgive yourself, I found that doing fo…
I have real event and scrupulosity OCD and I am working on building self esteem and the best advice I got is the second you recognize something as wrong and apologize with a plan to improve yourself, …
Oh I cannot tell you how much I understand what you're experiencing right now. I found myself in this exact situation a few years ago. It sucks, both for you and for him. But I hope maybe I can offe…
Your husband is trying to show you that it's OK for you to forgive yourself and love yourself. I'm going to ask you a very important question: why can't you accept being loved? The key to behaving…
Accountability will allow self-forgiveness. You can’t forgive yourself when you are still abusing someone. No matter how you feel about yourself, it is possible to not take it out on someone else. Wor…
You don't have to forgive yourself, but you also don't need to keep punishing yourself.
Wow. Could have written this. I run…to and from my problems - ha ha ha. I kid, but I try to do some type of movement practice that gets the tension out and releases the valve of everyday annoyance…
Big Mood, Friend. You're going to get through this, and we're going to help. Other people have already talked about emotional regulation and therapy and stuff, so I'm going to give you another, dif…