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My mom who disowned my for being gay is ready to forgive me, oh and for me to financially support her and my dad after he retires of course.

When I read stories like this, I just want to grab the person (victim) and say, "I'm your mother now." Which sounds weird but I promise I'd support anything you want as long as it makes you happy and …

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/15/2026
I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure

I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …

r/attachment_theorypost10/4/2025
You’re Allowed to Forgive Yourself

You’re Allowed to Forgive Yourself — That’s it. You aren’t the same person anymore and that’s huge. It’s amazing that you want to change (and already have!). I love you :) I’m with you on this journey.

r/DecidingToBeBetterpost3/12/2026
the narcissist catchphrase bingo list

the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost3/24/2026
A message I won't send

A message I won't send — Hello, I just wanted you to know that I miss you deeply. We never gave ourselves a proper chance. We let our fears, and our past traumas, dictate our behaviour, and this poisoned our resolution. But…

r/ExNoContactpost4/1/2026
How to forgive myself and stop ruminating over lost sentimental items?

How to forgive myself and stop ruminating over lost sentimental items? — I've struggled for years with ADHD and OCD. I like material items because they each hold a memory that I might otherwise forget, not because the memory doesn't matter, but because my brain is chaos an…

r/Stoicismpost4/4/2026
How to forgive yourself for the break up reaction?(rant lol)

How to forgive yourself for the break up reaction?(rant lol) — I kinda had a break down when my ex boyfriend of 16 months dumped me over text, I didn’t call him names or anything or treat him badly when he did leave me but I feel very dumb still texting him like …

r/BreakUpspost4/5/2026
Divorce because of suspected or admitted infidelity after trying to work it out

Divorce because of suspected or admitted infidelity after trying to work it out — When whomever found out they were being cheated on, was there a sense of relief (from either the cheater or the cheated on) that the relationship was coming to an end, guilt, or confusion? How did you…

r/Divorcepost4/5/2026
Struggling to move on from my ex and feeling a lot of regret

Struggling to move on from my ex and feeling a lot of regret — I’m really struggling to move on from my ex and could use some perspective. It was a messy toxic breakup and I’m ashamed… (32m 30f) It’s been about 6 months since we broke up a 2 year relationship, a…

r/BreakUpspost4/6/2026
Do you ever “get over it”?

Do you ever “get over it”? — How long was it for you to forgive your spouse completely after an affair? My partner cheated on me with a long distance affair (2 years)with someone that I had met at the beginning of our relationsh…

r/survivinginfidelitypost4/6/2026
me 23M and my ex bf 24M. is past matters this much? mistakes committed in the past matter this much?

me 23M and my ex bf 24M. is past matters this much? mistakes committed in the past matter this much? — we broke up today, and yes there were arguements and fights happening like fews days went well then an arguement come. in feb so i told my ex about the relationship i had before him and how i got betr…

r/ExNoContactpost4/6/2026
how to forgive yourself for past mistakes as a teen?

how to forgive yourself for past mistakes as a teen? — hi, 23F here. i grew up in a hypersexual, mentally and physically abusive household. in middle school and highschool school, i had a phase where id make fake accounts, bother people then swoop in as t…

r/DecidingToBeBetterpost4/6/2026
I hate you.

I hate you. — You're an awful human being. I'll never forgive you

r/BreakUpspost4/6/2026
How do I deal with the guilt?

How do I deal with the guilt? — 25M, A few days ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 7-ish months. She is a genuinely fantastic person and always treated me so well, but there were some incompatibilities that I had been feeling for …

r/BreakUpspost4/7/2026
My last pebble from a broken penguin

My last pebble from a broken penguin — I am not sure if you will ever read this but if you do I’d want you to know I forgive you. when we first met everything was perfect. We connected like if we had knew each other in a past life. You wer…

r/BreakUpspost4/8/2026
Fuck you fuck you

Fuck you fuck you — you irresponsible pieces of shit you cowards never even tried truly for your own "you dont respect" ahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahahaha fucj YOUBS YOU PIECE OF SHIT WHO THE FUCK SEES A CHILD AND WA…

r/CPTSDpost4/8/2026
Are You Supposed to Forgive Yourself for Legitimate Guilt?

Are You Supposed to Forgive Yourself for Legitimate Guilt? — I don't want to specify, but I did something bad 6-7 years ago that I shit on myself for and have minor panic attacks about almost every day. It's legitimatly bad, both the event and daily emotional r…

r/therapypost4/8/2026
I make my life worst

I make my life worst — Im 17. I am dumb, no early childhood achievements, no achievements at all that are important, probably not any at all. Im a complete idiot, I can’t reason, analyze, follow instructions, common sense a…

r/selfhelppost4/9/2026
We broke up December 2025

We broke up December 2025 — We started dating in my (17M) 8th grade year and his (M17) freshman year. we lasted for 3 years and 3 months, and it ended December 2025 he broke up with me. I'm finally letting him go with one las…

r/BreakUpspost4/10/2026
Tiny useful epiphany/phrase

Tiny useful epiphany/phrase — my friend and I were talking about what "getting over it" or "healing" actually means in the context of cptsd. we said a little of things but out little gem we came up with was: you could forgive yo…

r/CPTSDpost4/10/2026
Advice, Tips, Anything?

Advice, Tips, Anything? — My first time ever posting - I am at a loss and going through it. I was with someone for going on year 4, the past year and a half was VERY on and off again. This person is avoidant in nature. Has…

r/BreakUpspost4/12/2026
Narcissist mother/son enmeshment (long story)

Narcissist mother/son enmeshment (long story) — My husband has always been enmeshed with his mother. There were so many red flags and “what the f\*\*\* ?” moments from the beginning. I’d like to hear others experiences about this dysfunctional enme…

r/NarcissisticAbusepost4/12/2026
What’s your deepest regret and how can you forgive yourself or make amends?

What’s your deepest regret and how can you forgive yourself or make amends? — What’s ***your deepest regret*** and how can you ***forgive yourself*** or ***make amends***?

r/DecidingToBeBetterpost4/12/2026
9 Year relationship ended. Days are getting harder

9 Year relationship ended. Days are getting harder — My relationship ended and my partner I've known and loved for 9 years left to a different state with family. We met in middle school and had one break over the 9 years we were together. I was very swe…

r/BreakUpspost4/12/2026
how to forgive yourself when you are still actively making the same mistakes

how to forgive yourself when you are still actively making the same mistakes — (yes i have ocd) im in therapy right now and the whole thing im supposed to be doing is being kinder to myself. right now it is borderline impossible because all i feel is this deep deep anger. i hat…

r/DecidingToBeBetterpost4/13/2026
All because of a happy birthday message

All because of a happy birthday message — So if you look back at my profile. I sent my mother a happy birthday message. Since I’m no contact, I did it two weeks ago, as a way to stop her from harassing my siblings. I blocked her everywhere ex…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/13/2026
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

Forgive yourself. Forgive her. Treat yourself and your 6 y/o to therapy. You deserve happiness.

r/ExNoContactcomment6/18/2022
A Metaphorical Description of An Avoidant Reaching Out

"I do declare, I hath fucked up! Because, you see, needs that did not align with my sense of self or respect for your own were, to me, as hemlock to Socrates. And ye for I am avoidant, 'twas all your …

r/attachment_theorycomment8/11/2025
Seeking self-closure

IMHO, the anger might be directed to yourself. You were the fool who fell for it again knowing full well that you shouldn't. Forgive yourself and keep doing the work, we were all fools at some point.…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/25/2025
Seeking self-closure

I had a pretty similar experience and landed in a similar spot that you did, even down to the same number of dates and spiraling when I would run into her afterwards (we work in the same building so i…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/25/2025
Anxiety only triggered in romantic relationship, how to manage it?

I am working on these things the same as you are and I am 8 years older than you so I think it’s amazing you’re this aware at 26. Some things that have helped me in my journey: -keeping myself busy w…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment9/3/2025
I broke no contact

Even if you ended on a good note, you should never entertain the idea of having a person who hurt you back in your life. It’s okay that you reached out probably because you told yourself you eventuall…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment10/16/2025
Unsent letter to a prior ex, in the midst of a current breakup.

Don't send it, you don't know where they're at in their life or what they're doing and it could be disruptive or painful.  I've had bad relationships and I don't think I would want a random unexpect…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment11/7/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

What exactly do you hope to get out of it? Are you only doing that to make yourself feel better? I think you are free to forgive yourself for prior actions and let it go. For all you know it is in the…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment12/25/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

If she didn’t respect your boundaries then why keep pursuing her? You didn’t respect your own boundaries. It doesn’t matter what she was doing or if she was jealous, etc. Seriously so much of what you…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment2/6/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

don't send her anything. forgive yourself and get rid of the guilt and become a better person. but please - leave her alone.

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/13/2026
Looking for advice on how to stop being an avoidant

Figuring out a bit of what led you to that- forgive yourself - make room for you to embrace yourself in this new form of “secure-ness” - do stuff you like…. I used to do stuff I liked as a kid to reco…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/16/2026
I (28F) gave my boyfriend (29M) an STD and I can’t stop feeling so ashamed and guilty

But … I can’t help but to think he’s the one that could have possibly given it to you. You are young! Forgive yourself and don’t ever do it again!!!

r/relationship_advicecomment3/9/2026
I (28F) had an affair and don’t know what I’m doing. Please help.

You are young with a full life ahead of you. What are the chances that if you get back together with your husband your needs will be met? I would say close to zero. You will be in the same situation a…

r/Divorcecomment3/9/2026
„Did you forgive them yet?“ — I stood my ground and said NO.

That's the right mindset to have. I have an abusive brother who is now in jail and I refuse that anyone takes away my joy about it or ask me to forgive him just because he's suffering jail conditions …

r/CPTSDcomment3/10/2026
How do you stay present even when you are feeling the pressure to run?

Forgive yourself for having the urge to run. It is just one of the four F's/ Fight, flight, freeze, fawn. They are survival mechanisms. Write out on paper: I feel like running Write out: what wi…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylecomment3/10/2026
I made the worst mistake ever

Well, friend, lying isn’t good. We all know that. But shit happens. I don’t really know what to tell you about the situation that you’re not already doing. But you do have to forgive yourself because …

r/relationshipscomment3/11/2026
What are the most infuriating sentences your ex has said to you during or after the breakup?

"You forgive yourself, ok? Do not disturb me again" And what happened is just a misunderstanding and one of my topics I brought up in a sensitive time, and then she blocked me.

r/BreakUpscomment3/11/2026
I made the worst mistake ever

You’ve already said and done what you can. Show some compassion toward yourself. If it is truly meant to be he will forgive you. Forgiveness is one of the most important factors of any relationship. I…

r/relationshipscomment3/11/2026
I made the worst mistake ever

You did all you could. If he’s into that much wanting to marry you he will forgive you might not forget what you did but we all make mistakes. I would forgive someone for that. Forgiveness is a big pa…

r/relationshipscomment3/11/2026
I miss you

He will forgive you. I promise

r/BreakUpscomment3/12/2026
Jesus loves a homewrecker...

God may forgive you but I won’t.  Jesus may love you but I don’t.  

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/12/2026
Those who don't work- how do you answer "what do you do?"

Haha, I forgive youuu. We/I pronounce it more like "WERNT". Do y'all (hehe) pronounce it more like "were-ent"? Oh man, hoarders makes me anxious and my skin crawl but it's so satisfying to see the aft…

r/CPTSDcomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

His ultimatum is promising you nothing. He's stated that he's having doubts about the relationship lasting even if you give up the birds and you've said that you couldn't forgive yourself if you did t…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
„Did you forgive them yet?“ — I stood my ground and said NO.

I’m giving you a standing ovation. 👏 Keep it up! Forgive yourself. That’s all that matters. So that inner critic gets put in a corner for a time out until it has nicer things to say.

r/CPTSDcomment3/14/2026
How can I forgive myself for the abuse I committed towards my father?

It can be extremely hard to forgive yourself if you've done something bad or unforgivable. Some can do it, others never get over it. You won't know if you can do it until it happens, so the best th…

r/selfhelpcomment3/14/2026
I hate narcissists!

No you don't. However, you must forgive yourself.

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/14/2026
Can you still think of your WS as a ‘good person’?

Mine gets very angry when I try to explain what he's done to me and simply cannot see this side of things. It's like he cannot comprehend that it wasn't "oh, I'm so glad you ended that. Ok, I'm just a…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/14/2026
Reactive Abuse is the Worst

Reactive abuse is THEM pushing you to the edge. The abuse is on their end. You’re just being a normal human being, they’re being a predator and you’re reacting as anyone would after a long build up. F…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/14/2026
My ex called me a “walking green flag” when we first started dating, and then I ruined it all

As someone currently struggling with the same issue as OP, this is what I’ve done. There are also plenty of podcasts with DBT and exercises for you to try. I would also suggest using journalling as …

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment3/15/2026
My mom who disowned my for being gay is ready to forgive me, oh and for me to financially support her and my dad after he retires of course.

Your parents make my parents look good. I'm glad you understand how bad they are, they really messed up the siblings who stayed in contact. She must be delusional to think she is in the position to …

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/15/2026
My mom who disowned my for being gay is ready to forgive me, oh and for me to financially support her and my dad after he retires of course.

I completely empathize with people who have been kicked out for being gay. I am not gay myself however the moment I turned 18 my nmom told me to either get a job or go to school but she was going to c…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/15/2026
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r/DecidingToBeBettercomment3/15/2026
My Divorce Journey - Hope it Helps someone

Another point I learnt - forgive yourself, only then you can truly move on. I strived to seek who is the good and the bad , but realized there is no point of doing so.

r/Divorcecomment3/16/2026
My Divorce Journey - Hope it Helps someone

That is really a good one. I kinda started writing some on this but backed off a bit thinking about others situations. But yeah you have to be able to see your failures, accept them, and forgive yours…

r/Divorcecomment3/16/2026
I am fully convinced that one of the highest acts of self respect is choosing to walk away from a connection with someone who isn’t choosing you.

I have a whole thing I do to get over breakups but this one was different for me, it was 10 years so there is more complications and nuances. To forgive yourself begin to see the you that is hurting …

r/BreakUpscomment3/16/2026
Lust & Letting go

Well first, you're human, so forgive yourself for that. Having urges and cravings doesn't make you bad, even acting on those doesn't make you bad. There's lots of research going on now that basicay sa…

r/Meditationcomment3/16/2026
My mom who disowned my for being gay is ready to forgive me, oh and for me to financially support her and my dad after he retires of course.

Ready to forgive you? That’s cute. How pathetic and desperate to try to sell it that way to avoid having to take accountability for their behavior and choices. It’s your family you do what you want. J…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/16/2026
Infidelity after hospitalization

Oh no I’m sorry to hear this. I’ve been trying to make sense of this blaming myself because we were not communicating much and not intimate due to his health, but I had no idea this was going on. I’m …

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/16/2026
Infidelity after hospitalization

Oh wow, these men have no shame. I’m sorry your mom felt ashamed to confide in anyone, I guess I’m the opposite. I will speak about it till it doesn’t bother me anymore. My children are young adults a…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/17/2026
A couple great tips for easier Revision.

I have done revision before on a painful memory and revising very painful memories are more difficult so I will try to help from my experience, first of all yes forgive yourself, I found that doing fo…

r/nevillegoddardcomment3/17/2026
I'm a rotten abuser and I can't forgive myself for it and I don't feel that I should.

I have real event and scrupulosity OCD and I am working on building self esteem and the best advice I got is the second you recognize something as wrong and apologize with a plan to improve yourself, …

r/CPTSDcomment3/17/2026
I'm a rotten abuser and I can't forgive myself for it and I don't feel that I should.

Oh I cannot tell you how much I understand what you're experiencing right now. I found myself in this exact situation a few years ago. It sucks, both for you and for him. But I hope maybe I can offe…

r/CPTSDcomment3/17/2026
I'm a rotten abuser and I can't forgive myself for it and I don't feel that I should.

Your husband is trying to show you that it's OK for you to forgive yourself and love yourself. I'm going to ask you a very important question: why can't you accept being loved? The key to behaving…

r/CPTSDcomment3/17/2026
I'm a rotten abuser and I can't forgive myself for it and I don't feel that I should.

Accountability will allow self-forgiveness. You can’t forgive yourself when you are still abusing someone. No matter how you feel about yourself, it is possible to not take it out on someone else. Wor…

r/CPTSDcomment3/17/2026
I'm a rotten abuser and I can't forgive myself for it and I don't feel that I should.

You don't have to forgive yourself, but you also don't need to keep punishing yourself.

r/CPTSDcomment3/18/2026
How do you deal with resentment toward a parent who “did their best”?

Wow. Could have written this.  I run…to and from my problems - ha ha ha.  I kid, but I try to do some type of movement practice that gets the tension out and releases the valve of everyday annoyance…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/19/2026
I'm a rotten abuser and I can't forgive myself for it and I don't feel that I should.

Big Mood, Friend. You're going to get through this, and we're going to help.  Other people have already talked about emotional regulation and therapy and stuff, so I'm going to give you another, dif…

r/CPTSDcomment3/19/2026