heartbreak

Funny how the "heartbreak" and "manning up" only ever works unilaterally, isn't it? Sorry. Reading that pissed me off because I have experienced things that have a very similar dynamic. I hope you m…

The song “I love you, I’m sorry” by Gracie Abrams makes me think of the POV of a DA — I'm DA, and I just listened to this song. It feels like a DA talking about how they sabotaged a good relationship, and they regret it. This line particularly hits: "I like to slam doors closed, trust…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…

i feel safe with being almost loved | disorganized attachment style anthem | i want love but i'm scared | (cathartic release) — Lyrics: Love, for me, is just a hallway, Soft light, shadows drifting slow. I see a silhouette approaching Then I turn before my heart can get too close. Sometimes I feel a brush of something ten…

Trying to navigate a "casual" relationship — Hi everyone, I (30F, trans) have been talking to/seeing a woman (24F, cis) for about 5 months. The chemistry is legitimately the strongest I’ve ever experienced - emotional, intellectual, creative, s…

54M – Going through a separation and just looking for people who understand — I’m a 54 year old guy currently going through a separation and I’m having a harder time with it than I expected. Some moments I feel okay, other moments it hits pretty hard. I’m not looking for anyth…

Break up + no contact update (post 4 months) — I thought I’d give an update into my healing progress since my breakup, in hopes to shed a little light on the small positives that can come from heartbreak. For context, my ex and I broke up in Octob…

Rant about Asian American access to education in NYC — This is specifically about NYC schooling so YMMV and may not be applicable anywhere. But for context, NYC has these "elite" specialized high schools were Asian Americans disproportionately make up the…

Where to go from here — Just to warn you, this is a long one... For context, my partner (F39) and I (M40) have been together for 17 years, have two kids together. This all started in early January but seems to have been goi…

Block them. That's all I have to say. — So, in July last year I went through this HORRIBLE heartbreak. And when I say it was a really awful breakup, trust me, it was. Almost four years of a strong relationship ended in a 5-minute call. My e…

Heart Chakra opened, and I feel very very calm — Last night I laid down to meditate. After a while, my thoughts began to drift away again. They felt strangely random almost like they didn’t belong to me. I saw a woman and her child. She looked noth…

Ex reaching out after 10 years — Hi everyone, my ex reached out to me after 10 years. This was a tumultuous high school relationship that gave me the blueprint for the life I’m living now. The heartbreak was so intense I went on a so…

Being the dumper — People often talk about being the dumpee but hardly about being the dumper. I was seeing a guy who seemed really into me and vice versa but he made it clear he wasn’t going to respect my boundaries an…

I’m jealous of you — Jealous of the people whose ex’s are also in mutual pain after the break up. Jealous of the people whose ex’s are clearly affected. Jealous of the people whose ex’s even give breadcrumbs. Jealous of t…

Finding out about an unknown child from an affair 28 years ago — I’ve found out I have been deceived for 28 years by 50M after DNA test I F47 and husband 50M. 29 years together, was contacted by my BIL 3 days ago , had spoken to a F27 who had take a dna test tryi…

Catastrophic incident — It's been a while, and again I'm here with a heartbreaking story. Three years ago a little girl (4 year) in my country got the horribele news that she has neuroblastoma stage 4. She fought this il…

What’s the worst thing you’ve ever done to a spouse while or after going through divorce? — Honestly I still love my husband (currently separated) dearly, but in moments of heartbreak and crisis, I said some things and did some things I deeply regret. Anyone please relate? 💔

What's a statement from your parents that sounded good back then but has aged like milk once you realized your emotional neglect? — As in something your parents often said about you that at first sounded good but you look at differently now that you are aware of the emotional neglect you experienced. I have one. And it's pretty h…

After 9 years together she cheated, moved on fast, and dropped the bomb during 'final goodbye' – advice needed to survive this — Hello Reddit, new user here using a throwaway account. I've heard this community gives solid advice, so I'm finally posting. My ex-girlfriend and I were together for 9 years. We broke up in May 2025 …

I successfully manifested my SP after 6 months NC and a high paying part time job — For context so you can understand my situation pre- manifestation. I Had an amazing boyfriend, great self concept and I was absolutely happy, looked amazing, and had a lot of friends, I was loved from…

Saw them together — D-day was Feb 7th. He’s shown no remorse, in fact according to him it’s actually all my fault our marriage is over, so I’ve moved our divorce along quickly. We should be divorced next week. I’m tryin…

For people who begged their exes — I begged crazily for months and days, broke down crying in airport over call, in public, effed up my higher education interviews, went so far as to say that I would be at their feet if it meant they w…

i'm feeling so fucking lost and alone i don't know what to do — It's been +4months since my bf of 3.5 years broke up with me back in November 2025. It was really heartbreaking for both of us bc we had an amazing, truly healthy relationship but hewas going through …

I broke up with him and I still can't move on. — Hey, so I dated a guy for four months, he was my first adult boyfriend. It's been three months now since the breakup, and still am struggling to come to terms with what happened and idk I just want an…

Tell me your most devastating heartbreak love story — I don’t mean like “we loved each other and broke up” or a “we weren’t compatible” I mean like a gut wrenching situation that broke your heart and left you traumatised. Share and read each others sto…

When I Let the Devil Back In — I feel like I can't speak this to anyone in my life so I will try here. What people don’t understand is that this didn’t just happen in some clean, simple way where I got hurt and then walked away. I …

30 year old son has just been admitted to psych hospital — My son has been treated for depression with for the past year. It seems to be helping, other than the fact that he changes jobs frequently due to conflict with coworkers. He often believes people are…

Trying to help friend who can’t stop drinking and can’t get past MH issues — Hello, so my best friend has had serious mental health issues that have led her to having serious physical health issues in her life and idk where to even start… She has messed up her liver and pancr…

If They Wanted You, They Would've Chosen You. — They pulled the trigger. They didn't believe or see the value anymore. They love you but no longer feel in love with you. But let this be a lesson to let it die. What was is gone. If they cared th…

if you’re going through a recent heartbreak — some of us are breaking quietly rn i know how empty it feels please don’t forget to take care of ur body i just hope you’re eating and taking care of yourself ❤️‍🩹 we’ll get through this, slowly but…

Would you choose the same situation again, knowing everything you know now? — If you could go back to the day you said "I do," but you had a crystal ball that showed you exactly where you are today, the arguments, the silence, the lawyers, the heartbreak, would you still choose…

It’s Been A Year… So Here’s My Last Post — Well, tonight makes it official. It has been a full year since I was dumped. Whoever said you lose track of time when you’re having fun is a liar. You REALLY lose track of time when you’re miserable a…

For everyone on this subreddit going through heartbreak, never give up on yourself — It’s been 8 months of depression now. I miss her more than ever even though I don’t want to date her. I just miss my best friend. There is an immense amount of heartbreak on here. We’re all together …

Do you have to go to break up song? — Every time I go through a break up I always find myself listening to one particular song that sort of makes me sad but gives me hope (or delusions) at the same time. But also, it’s just an absolute bo…

Letter to Self before Meeting her — Figured it helped a few on other subs so I would add here. I've also been told to warn it may be a trigger to some. Hey dumbass, I don’t really know how to start this without it feeling unreal, beca…

Have I 22F have destroyed my boyfriend 24M and I's sex life? — EDIT: I was not expecting to receive this many comments and am sorry for the lack of response. I’ve been very busy with work the last 12 hours and will try my best to respond as soon as possible. (I…

What’s something about your heartbreak that no one else fully understands? — What part of your heartbreak do people misunderstand, dismiss, or assume you should already be over?

astral projectors denying shifting — it’s so heartbreaking to see experienced projectors say that shifting isn’t real, they have the power to shift so easily and when someone’s been messing around with OBES for this long and hasn’t shift…

NYC to Buenos Aires long distance heartbreak — For the past four years, I've been spending winters in BA. On my second year, I met a lovely woman there and had dated her--spending winters there and then she would visit me twice in the year. The wh…

dumped by bf — I’m (22F) processing three traumatic relationships. First, an 8-year friendship turned 1.5-year situationship left me feeling so so unlovable, ugly and rejected after he became distant and was breadcr…

My ex-girlfriend is engaged — Four months after our breakup, she started dating someone else. In the third month of their relationship, we met up and she cheated on her current fiancé with me. Now, with less than a year of dating,…

How many of you are still affected/thinking of them years later? — Just curious how many people here suffered a real heartbreak that deeply affected them, and still has some hold on them years later? It's been nearly 2.5 years for me, and I still am affected. Anyone …

My story of confusion - need advice — In early 2024, I met a woman from another country, and we embarked on a long-distance relationship that initially felt like a rare, once-in-a-lifetime connection. For the first two months, we were in …

How do you guys go with drug or booz relapses during breakup? — Im 9 months clean and just broke things off with relationship. I havent had cravings yet but a voice in my head is telling me I will get cravings because heartbreak. I went to stay with my mum …

I had my breakup with a perfect closure yesterday. Still I feel terrible — After many weeks (maybe months) of trying to stay together even if as friends, yesterday the only thing I never wanted, happened. Both of us accepted that we can’t be friends, because she said, “we a…

how do you “heal” from a breakup? — im going through my first heartbreak at the ripe age of 22, and i dont know what “healing” looks like. i ended up quitting a job that i hated because it genuinely felt like it was mentally breaking me…

When will the nausea and stomach pain go away after a breakup? I feel like i am going to die from a heartbreak.

Is Love worth the pain that follows it ? — I am going through my first heartbreak , and i am feeling like is all this relationship and marriage stuff , are they worth the pain they cause , and how abrupt and out of the blue shit can go down, a…

My mom reported my partner who is a medical professional of sexual misconduct — Trauma dump incoming lol. Trigger warning for sexual assault. My mom reported my partner who is a medical professional of sexual misconduct claiming I was her patient. Now that I have had some space…

sad that I’m losing friends who sided with the narc — After I got discarded, I still maintained my friendship with our mutuals as they’re people I cherish and enjoy spending time with. However, they didn’t know what happened between me and him and I neve…

I agree. And a perspective from someone who’s sort of finally on the other side of heartbreak recently - it might not. I have no evidence that my ex even misses me. We just don’t talk anymore. Hones…

This is so hard to do for me. It’s only been a week or so now but I would end my life if not for my 3 little kids. I can’t believe the woman I’m still in love with thinks so poorly of me she wanted to…

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

>The baby immediately notices and first tries to laugh or shriek or point, or do anything that has illicited a reaction from its mom in the past. The mom does not react. The baby quickly escalates to …

We’re all ultimately here due to heartbreak. Touch some grass and google “empathy”.

For sure, but we can still complain about shitty exes, and it’s still totally within our right to be upset that someone doesn’t want to have any intimacy when that’s all we want. I’ve done the work on…

I totally felt the same, like he loved me but had contempt anytime I had a need or comment that somehow threatened him. Like “yeah, so” turns completely cold::: and just sooo many easy ways out, shots…

Its really heartbreaking when you view it this way, but suddenly all the puzzle pieces fall into place. Theres even scientific studies that back this up. When parents don't touch their kids enough a…

Thank you, and I'm truly sorry to hear you had to experience this. It's unfair... but these are the cards we've been dealt, I guess. I remember thinking, "I'm so lucky, I wish everyone could experienc…

He broke up with me but I had broken up with him a few times the previous months I went no contact and then we talked once or twice before I blocked him so I couldn’t see him on anything and we’ve ne…

I can see your point with a lot of this. As someone who's worked a lot on myself emotionally, it feels like if I see someone else hasn't quite done the work or isn't emotionally and mentally there, th…

The fact that she brought it up so early, to me, is a green flag. Those who have been repeatedly hurt by FAs would say it’s a green flag in a sea of red, but IMO to be able to openly have discussions …

Iv been on the end of this and it was most heartbreaking situ to go through.

We are not meant to be all alone. But that doesn't mean we need romantic relationships. Loneliness often stems from a disconnect with community, family, friends etc. You could try volunteering somewhe…

I completely understand this. What if it is possible to experience these simply as junk thoughts that are running on an error from past conditioning? For me, for a while, I thought the thoughts migh…

I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way heartbreak after your first real relationship can hit so much harder than people expect. It makes sense that you’re longing to fill that gap; you finally exper…

Unfortunately for me, I had to learn the hard way that my relationship was one-sided. I was too into them than they were into me. Which ended up with me getting broken over text after a year into the …

Surprisingly, it took a long time for me to realize that people will always love themselves more than they love you. And that should be the norm. I learnt I should do the same. I felt it was selfish o…

This sounds so similar to my relationship with my ex. I’m female FA (leaning AP) and he’s male FA (leaning avoidant). It’s been three months and so heartbreaking and most of all so confusing trying to…

I don't know. Heartbreaks make me not want to date. I actually delete apps. I would say what helped a lot was therapy. My therapist refocused me back to myself. She showed me you can't outsource self …

My ex and I broke up 7 months ago.. we never fought and his reasoning was he felt we were too different (we were together for 2 years).  I was crushed... he stated he felt he needed to end it so that …

I have this thought spiral frequently. I am also very susceptible to gaslighting so after my last relationship, I had no ability to trust my own thoughts. I am still dealing with this but something th…

I've (41F) been in an on and off relationship with my boyfriend for about three years. We have the classic push pull of an anxious avoidant dynamic. When he's warm hes lovely and we spend almosteveryn…

Text of original post by u/BornEducation4428: I am quite curious to hear if there are those who are still in their own "wound care " (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of…

"*Quiet does not equal danger.*" Oh gosh. Yes. I understand this. This is how my partner now reminds me to be assured of space, and with myself. What also helps is, both of our quirky nature and humo…

I can’t help myself if I have a new connection I will see it through. I don’t really get over heartbreak I just date new people and find distractions in the meantime. I usually make friends with a…

Oh my god, I totally relate to this! One of the saddest aspects of my own avoidant tendencies is that, in some ways, I’m even more uncomfortable with intense positive emotions than negative ones. It’s…

Please please look into Stephanie Riggs courses. I did the one "Healing Anxious Attachment " and it was phenomenal. She also has one called "Higher Love" - I haven't done this one but it targets heart…

Good to hear that poly seems to have given you a good support system! Honestly, I don't argue that you should drop poly if you feel like it's good for you, however I would argue that a lot of the lon…

I think I have romanticised this even to the degree where the heartbreak has been romanticised for me a lot - I’m trying to break that but not sure where to start. 🥲

One thing that helped me in the past especially when it became disorienting (like getting lost in town because I didn’t recognize places I’d been to) was to start with my immediate circle, in this cas…

Date 3 tomorrow. I’m so excited. He made a lot of effort to plan a nice night for us - nice dinner, activity after, no set end time and backups to all of the plans. I don’t want to get ahead of myself…

You’re being avoidant by staying with this guy that you know isn’t right for you and that you have plenty of justified reasons to break up with. By staying with someone you suspect it won’t work out w…

Yeah I feel you on that. I have a couple of male friends I have a closer connection with than I think a lot of potential partners would be comfortable with. We don't have sex but we do have sleepovers…

I spend a lot of time feeling sorry for myself, especially around heartbreak and how hard my life is because romantic things always feel through. On the weekend just been, a girl from my highschool wa…

Still in the sad gal trenches after a surprise (to me) break up text. Taking myself solo camping this weekend- gonna burn his bday card and all our photo booth pics to keep warm 😆  what are some tip…

Recently took the advice here to delete the apps for a while, I felt like I was trying to force something and failing. I have felt good, in a way its a weight off my shoulders that paradoxically has m…

You too! Im hoping we can work it out, but also it's gonna be what it is. We're trying to figure out if we have the capacity to get back to giving each other what we need but it's kind of that uncomfo…

My therapist recently told me to reframe my anxiety as butterflies regarding a new challenge I am excited to overcome or growth my soul is anticipating. The fear that my body feels is actually simply …

I dunno. Speaking from experience, it can be VERY difficult to emotionally metabolize what you intellectually know ("this is not a viable long-term prospect") when you have an intimate relationship wi…

It was pretty heartbreaking ngl

My very serious advice to you: stop trying to talk to him. Just stop. He's doing both of you a favor right now by not responding or engaging with you. This is truly the kindest thing he can do. The an…

I kinda wanna hear stories of other peoples longest bouts of heartbreak and grieving. I'm not that interested in the relationship or breakup itself, just the confusing and lonely road ahead. It's be…

His best friend eventually did after he found a way to contact me, but I never met his family or friends. Yeah, chaotic and intense are fucking addicting but the lows feel debilitating. Was your heart…

I'd say we're similar, or maybe i'm at the beginning of what you're feeling and you're towards the end. I can recognise the futility of trying again. Sometimes if I find myself wanting to reach out, o…

That's kinda how I feel about it too. There's this really good quote/piece by Jim Carrey about grief. Kinda makes it a nice thing. But my main take away from it is theres no right way to grieve, and w…

Heartbreak usually consumes me and I count the days until one day I wake up and I've basically forgotten about it. Usually around three months (I haven't had a long relationship in almost a decade). I…

I stand on the precipice of a major romantic life decision. I'd been dating this person for 3 months...we met through shared dance scenes. By the end of that 3 months, she had fallen for me totally, b…

It’s always fascinating and heartbreaking that everybody around me got a chance to have a dating life. Yet I’ve never had a dating life and it certainly wasn’t due to not trying. These people have eit…

Oh God, I am so sorry, this is so heartbreaking. Why they just don't say directly to our face that they lost interest or whatever the reason is for the change in their behavior... He didn't deserve yo…