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Attached by Amir Levine

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Books that helped me understand my avoidant patterns

Attached by Amir Levine changed everything for me. Also recommend 'Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner' by Jeb Kinnison.

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment11/14/2023
Books that helped me understand my avoidant patterns

Books that helped me understand my avoidant patterns — After years of struggling with intimacy, I finally found some resources that clicked. Attached by Amir Levine was a game changer for me.

r/AvoidantAttachmentpost11/14/2023
Trading book recommendation! For those trying to fix attachment issues.

Not much for reading anymore lol. But I have listened to and recommend- Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller and for mindfulness meditation theme - Peace is Every Step by Thinh Nhat Hanh. Thank…

r/attachment_theorycomment1/27/2026
Trading book recommendation! For those trying to fix attachment issues.

Hi!! I highly recommend these: For core wounds and relationships : 📚Mathew Micheletti and 3 more The Inner Work of Relationships: An Invitation to Heal Your Inner Child and Create a Conscious R…

r/attachment_theorycomment1/27/2026
Looking for advice on how to stop being an avoidant

Read Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller if you haven’t already. It’s a very informative book, and will give you tools to understand yourself and why you behave the way you do.

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/16/2026
Trading book recommendation! For those trying to fix attachment issues.

Hi I previously recommended these to someone so will copy and paste it here Book on understanding and healing trauma : 📚The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/2/2026
how do I stop being codependent with my bestfriend?

Here are a few tools I use to overcome anxious attachment: 1. Examine your motive. If you are sending a text message or calling your best friend as a check-in to prompt a response, then your anxiou…

r/Codependencycomment3/12/2026
Why it's just 1 person but feel like 2 completely different people.

She's always been the monster you saw at the end. The nice person is the fake person, the person you saw at the end is the real person. It's quite a shock when it happens. The reason it hurts so bad i…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/31/2026
The moment when everything clicked after the discard. Does this pattern strongly point to NPD?

A book that helped me a lot, which was recommended by my therapist, you might want to give a read. Attached by Amir levine

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/31/2026
Need to write out what I've been dealing with for 3 months now

Damn, I'm sorry that's a lot to go through. I'm going to go out on a limb here and say you might be codependent. I didn't know I was codependent until shit hit the fan. But it opened my eyes a lot. If…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment4/1/2026
Part of me wants answers and part of me wants her gone forever

First I'm sorry you are going through this. Narcissists don't love like we do if you can even call it love. It's transactional - conditional. They have stages that they follow. Once you're at the di…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment4/3/2026
My story of confusion - need advice

I did not read your hold comment, but I read what was important . First, I feel sorry for your pain. I've been there and done that. She was projecting on to you cheating because she was doing it all n…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment4/3/2026
Why is healing from a discard taking longer than the relationship itself? It was only 2 months

A good book is Attached by Amir Levine. The book was recommended to me by my therapist, who is specialized in narcissistic abuse and does EMDR therapy. Without her, I was spiraling down. I learned I …

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment4/4/2026
I called him out

A good book is Attached by Amir Levine. Look into the narcissistic abuse cycle, codependency, and the trauma Bond. It will help you understand what happened. It took me far too long to understand why…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment4/4/2026
Discarded on Easter

" God often removes people to protect you from harm you can not see or from influences that would lead you away from your intended path." A good book to read is Attached by Amir Levine

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment4/5/2026
I want to know if my ex was a narcissist or not - examples

I only read it halfway through that was enough for me. He's a narcissist. A good book to read Attached by Amir Levine. It helped me understand why I used to put up with abuse and disrespect. Learning …

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment4/5/2026
IVF and my beautiful child and my sexually charged (not with me) wife.

Wow, I'm so sorry you're going through that. She's definitely a narcissist. I can't tell you how to deal with any of that. A good book to read Attached by Amir Levine. I'm glad you're getting your fr…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment4/5/2026
I became a flying monkey

You're welcome, bear with , this is a little long. I still don't think you're a fool. You were manipulated, People like us can't fathom how evil other people can truly be. Once I started going to the…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment4/6/2026